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Adoption Webinar on the Pressure to be the Perfect Adoptive Parent

Adoption webinar on the pressure to be the perfect adoptive parentJoin us next week for a special adoption webinar with our Founder Mardie Caldwell. She’ll discuss adoptive parenting in a LIVE webinar next Monday night!

Everyone is invited to this free webinar, no matter what stage you’re at in your adoption journey. You’ll find this webinar valuable if you’re just starting to think about adoption, are waiting to adopt, or are a new parent through adoption! We’ll start 7:00 pm Eastern time on Monday, July 10th.

After couples bring home their baby through adoption, brand-new adoptive parents face a variety of emotions as they adapt to life with a baby or new child. On top of this is a new relationship with their child’s birth mother. Many adoptive parents share that they feel relieved during this time, but others feel a sort of let-down.

For many adoptive moms, they feel intense pressure to be the perfect parent who knows all and has everything in her control. In Monday’s webinar, we’ll get an insider’s look “beyond the blessing” from author and adoptive mom Mardie Caldwell. Mardie is going to share secrets and stories from her first days as a new adoptive mom.

In this webinar, Mardie will speak about:

  • Post-adoption depression
  • Keeping the promises made to your child’s birth mother
  • Bonding with your new child during this emotional time
  • and more!

SIGN UP USING THIS LINK! We suggest you set a reminder for yourself so you don’t miss this important event.

We’ll start the webinar at 7:00 pm Eastern time (that’s 6:00 Central time, 5:00 Mountain time, and 4:00 pm Pacific time). Meet up with us for time well spent learning all you can on what you may experience as a new adoptive parent!

Sign up using this link or by visiting AdoptionWebinar.com. Once you register, you’ll be emailed instructions on how to tune into the live broadcast.

We hope you can make it! If you have questions about how to join this webinar, just call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

Can a Single Woman Adopt a Baby?

can a single woman adopt a baby?Question: “I’ve always dreamt of the day when I’d become a mommy! The problem is, I’ve just never met ‘Mr. Right.’ Is it possible for a single woman to adopt?”

Answer: Yes, definitely! However, you may need to show that you have family who can be an active part of your child’s life. And, you’ll need to have plans for childcare. It’s important that you think of questions that will be asked of you during your home study interview and often by the birth parents themselves. You can find out more about the adoption home study here: AdoptionAgencyFlorida.com/home-studies.

Single parents may not be chosen by a birth mother as quickly as a married couple. We want to be sure (as do most birth mothers) that their child will get all the resources and attention that they would receive in a two-parent home.

It’s wise to search for support groups and others in similar situations for information and advice that can help you become a parent. As a single adoptive mother, it is important that you work with an adoption professional who has successfully worked with other single parents. At Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida, we’ve helped many single women adopt.

If you truly feel in your heart that you can provide a child with a well-balanced life, the devoted attention needed for a growing child, and the influence of both male and female friends and family, then you should pursue adoption. You might want to consider taking a parenting class if this is not offered with your home study. Lisa, a single adoptive mother, shared that it helped her chances of adopting when she took parenting classes and CPR. This was an important factor to her birth mother, and she was chosen over married couples who hadn’t taken these types of classes. She shared with us, “Taking these classes shows a birth parent that you are serious about adoption and that you have taken the time to learn how to parent. It shows her you’re ready for the challenge of motherhood.”

Are you a single woman dreaming of becoming a mother?

Let Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida help you! Contact us today by calling 1-800-923-6784.

What NOT to Say to Adoptive Families

how to handle rude adoption remarks and questionsWhen people ask rude questions and make remarks to adoptive families, they may be oblivious as to how they’re coming off. Maybe, they are just uninformed about how open adoption looks today. But that doesn’t mean their comments don’t sting. Today, we’re sharing witty answers to a few of the most shocking questions that adoptive families face:

“How could his ‘real parents’ give him up?”

For most birth parents, the reasons why they chose adoption are complex, from extreme poverty to a personal tragedy. And even if we know why our child’s birth family decided on adoption, we’re not going to just share with any random stranger out there. It’s a private and personal story, between my child’s birth family and my child. AND, my child has two sets of “real parents.” Calling their birth parents “real parents” implies that we’re something less.

“How much did she cost?”
The fact is, no baby joins a family for free. Just think about those big hospital bills! When we adopted, we also paid for services provided, except our “midwives” were adoption professionals, social workers, and adoption attorneys. So that was where all those adoption fees were for: for services provided, not for our baby.

“I’m sorry you weren’t able to have one ‘of your own’.”
Saying this assumes that adoption is a last-resort means of creating a family. This definitely isn’t the case! Our child is as much “our own” as any biological child.

Have you ever gotten a rude question like this? If so, how did you handle it? Share with our audience by leaving a comment below, please!

Are You Ready to Grow Your Family Through Adoption?

Is it time to grow your family through adoption?Have you been thinking about welcoming a second (or third) child into your home? For many, adoption is one of the biggest and most rewarding decisions of their lives. If you’re already a parent and would like to grow your family through adoption, there are questions to ask yourselves and factors to weigh in. Keep scrolling to discover how you can realize your dream and grow your family through adoption!

Here are some questions and concerns to keep in mind as you contemplate domestic infant adoption:

  • How will adoption affect our lives?
    Think about the areas of your lives that would be affected by a new addition. Factors to consider include time, finances, housing, scheduled commitments, and values.
  • Why do we want to adopt another child?
    There are lots of reasons why people want to parent again; some valid and some a bit questionable. Is it because you have a strong wish to parent another child? Maybe you have experience with parenting and feel confident about it. Does it feel as if there’s a missing piece in your family “puzzle”? These are all examples of good reasons to expand your family through adoption.

    However, you may wish to stop and think a little more if you want to adopt because your child wants a sibling, you want to make a difference to a “child in need,” or you believe that another child will fix your marriage.

We hope the questions and concerns we shared here are helpful as you think about whether or not to grow your family through adoption. Another child will definitely change your current family dynamic, so it’s wonderful you’re pondering your reasons for adopting.

As you think about this decision, we encourage you to seek out adoption books, blogs, and professionals that may be helpful. Recognize that the decision to adopt is ultimately a personal one. Take as much time as you need to make the best choice for you, your spouse, and your current child(ren).

Once you’re ready to start your adoption journey, you can message us or call us at 1-800-923-6784. We’ll help you begin the path towards domestic infant adoption!

6 Smart Moves to Get Your Finances in Line for a Baby

get your money in line before you adopt!There’s no doubt that welcoming a baby into your home will affect your finances. There’s buying all the needed supplies, clothing, and bedding for a nursery, and then there’s the diapers, formula, toys, and child care. Add to that some costs that aren’t directly linked to the baby, but come into play such as increased life and disability insurance coverage.

Getting a hold of your finances right now, while you’re in the adoption wait, can help you enjoy your newborn without stressing out about money issues. Here are 6 smart moves to take before your baby arrives:

1. Check With Your Employer About Benefits

Ask your employer now which benefits are available to you, so you have an idea of how to budget. Parental leave is a necessary benefit, no matter if it’s paid or unpaid. There may be additional benefits you can take advantage of, like a health flexible spending account (FSA). Your employer may offer adoption-related benefits, so make sure to ask! Finally, you’ll want to research the life and disability insurance coverage your employer offers. Ask about the deadlines for buying increased coverage so you can plan ahead.

2. Pay Off Your Debt

Get out of any high-interest debt you’ve incurred, such as unpaid credit card balances. Once you start your family, finding money to dig yourselves out of debt might not be as easy as it was before.


3. Take a Look at Your Health Insurance

The costs for pregnancy and delivery vary a lot nationwide, depending on which doctor and hospital your birth mother will be seen at. Your insurance coverage will determine what your out-of-pocket medical costs for the birth mother’s pregnancy-related expenses will be. It’s smart to review the pregnancy and childbirth coverage included in your insurance now.

4. Start a “Rainy Day” Fund

Try to prepare now for the unexpected by routing 5% of your take-home pay into an emergency, “rainy day” fund. A good goal is to try and save the amount equal to three months’ of expenses into this fund. If you reach that target, continue to save 5% of your pay to cover unexpected costs like a car repair.

5. Consider Bonding Time

Per the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA), you’re able to take up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave after the adoption. Both you and your spouse can take time off of work to bond with your baby. But you want to start thinking now about how you’ll afford living three months (or more) without a second paycheck.

6. Learn Child Care Costs

Child care costs may take up a large portion of your monthly budget. If both you and your spouse work outside the home, talk about how that may change. Maybe one parent will stay home. If you do need child care, your employer and the IRS may offer some assistance. Ask your employer if they offer a flexible spending account for child care. On your taxes, you might be able to claim your child and child care in a tax credit. And let’s not forget about the Adoption Tax Credit! Use these tax savings on big expenses such as formula and diapers.

Reviews of Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida

reviews of Lifetime Adoption are written by adoptive moms like DonnaIf you’ve begun researching adoption as a possibility for building or starting your family, you’ve probably been searching for reviews of adoption agencies online. Being able to see what an agency’s past clients have had to say helps you decide which agency to work with. Reviews of Lifetime Adoption can be found at places like the Better Business Bureau, Facebook, Google, and Yelp.

Lifetime Adoption in Florida’s Yelp page has a four-star rating! A recent reviewer on our Yelp page, adoptive mother Donna, shares:

“Lifetime adoption has been there for us from the very beginning! They are true to their word.

They were encouraging and always listened. It was stressful during our wait but the staff showed great support to us.

When we finally got the call that our son was born, they were more than thrilled for us. We are home now, adjusting to our new life and the staff continues to check in on us. They even provided counseling to our birth mother free of charge.

If we should choose to adopt again, we will only use lifetime adoption. If you are considering placing your child for adoption or are considering adoption, I highly recommend Lifetime adoption!!!”
 
 

Are you interested in discovering how Lifetime Adoption Agency can help you begin your family?
 
Please take the first step today by filling out our online application. The application is free of charge and is quick to fill out.

4 Terrific Tips on Listening to Birth Mothers

learn tips on listening to birth mothersListening is so important in any relationship, and especially when first meeting a birth mother. Many adoptive parents are so nervous during that first phone call that they chatter on and on. As a result, they never get to know the person on the other end of the phone. Today, we’re sharing simple tips on listening to birth mothers!

Humans can think about lots of things at once, and many of us do just that. This is a real issue if it’s done while speaking with a birth mother. It may feel natural to plan what you’ll say next when someone is speaking to you. But if you’re focused on what you’ll say next, then you’re not concentrating on a birth mother and her needs.

If you don’t truly listen to a birth mother, it may cost you the opportunity to adopt her child. Our Founder Mardie Caldwell shares, “I’ve seen several adoptive couples lose the opportunity in their first conversation by talking too much about themselves or drilling the birth mother with questions.”

Here are our 4 simple tips on how to effectively listen to birth mothers:

1. Really listen, and don’t interrupt her. Let the birth mother finish her sentence before you jump in. You can instead jot down a note that says what you wanted to say, and ask once she’s done talking.

2. Ask questions about the birth mother and her life, and be interested. Never judge her or preach to her. Ask if she’d like to know more about you, and then go ahead.

3. Give her a sign that you acknowledge, understand, and hear what she is saying.

5. Repeat or “mirror” what you heard her saying, in her words. Doing so makes sure she knows you got it.

Developing a healthy relationship with a birth mother isn’t a chess game. Plotting your next move while she’s talking is counterproductive.

Practice these tips the next time you have a conversation at work or with a friend. It might feel weird and uncomfortable at first. However, you’ll see that people respond well to you. When you talk to a birth mother, you’ll have listening experience and will increase your chances of a match!

Surviving the Adoption Home Study

adoption home study visitWe recommend that you use your adoption home study as a way to learn even more about adoption. You’ll need to get a home study no matter where you live, or where you plan to adopt. An adoption home study is a document that shares the story of your life: your health, your family and marital history, and your finances. It also contains a description of your house and neighborhood, references, and info about any criminal record or health concerns.

For many hopeful adoptive couples, the idea of opening up their homes and lives to a stranger puts them on edge. A common worry about the home study is that it’ll find you ineligible to adopt. The truth is, it’s uncommon for a home study to end with a negative judgment. Even though you might feel that the process is invasive, remember its goal is to ensure children are placed into loving homes.

So what exactly is an adoption home study? It’s social worker’s written evaluation, based upon interviews they’ve had with you during at least one in-person visit to your home. Your home doesn’t have to be child-proofed, contain a finished nursery, or a separate bedroom for the baby before the social worker’s visit. They will want to know, however, how you plan to accommodate your precious arrival.

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida provides home studies. Learn how we can help you with this aspect of your domestic adoption!

Just give us a call at 1-800-9-ADOPT-4 or learn more about our home study service here.

In the video below, our Founder and President Mardie Caldwell shares about the adoption home study service we provide to adopting families:

How to Simplify the Complicated World of Adoption

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A baby boy who was adopted through Adoption Agency Florida

Adoption is a very rewarding option for couples who cannot conceive a child. But the journey to the baby meant for your family can be complex. Today, we share tips on how to streamline the adoption process.

1. Learn from Others Who’ve Adopted
Don’t take advice from those who haven’t experienced adoption for themselves. A great place to hear from successful adoptive families is by tuning into webinars on AdoptionWebinar.com. Often, people who haven’t adopted recently will give advice about the methods and laws of adoption that have since changed.

Many are just ignorant about adoption and learn what they know from the media instead of real life. Most adoptions go well and without problems. Since the media knows that drama sells, they only portray a small portion of the adoption experience.


2. Get the Help of a Professional

Along with the people who sincerely want to help you adopt, there are also many out there who want to scam you. A good rule of thumb is to avoid spending a penny until you sign on with your adoption agency. There are a lot of dishonest people who say they want to help you, but they just want your money. An example of an adoption scam is an advertiser who says they’ll help you find a birth mother. A reputable agency is there to identify scams for you; they field inquiries from women who call in saying they want to choose adoption for their baby.

Many times, higher priced, experienced adoption professionals with a record of success will give you much value than someone less expensive. Compare adoption companies and don’t rush yourself when you do your research. Just a few weeks of research can pay off tremendously. Check out the professional with the Better Business Bureau and ask for referrals of past clients.

3. Don’t Be a Perfectionist

With adoption, you just can’t wait for the perfect time to get started. Realize that you don’t have to learn everything all at once. Start by researching adoption terms. If you have questions, write them down, then research and ask others. Don’t obsess: take it one step (or topic) at a time. Consider devoting one hour a day to learning about adoption. You can do this by reading, speaking to others who have adopted, and seeking out adoption professionals.

4. Consider Open Adoption
In an open adoption, the birth mother chooses the adoptive family for her baby. They meet each other in person and have ongoing contact as the child grows up. There are many benefits to open adoption, including that you’ll have knowledge of your child’s medical history in the future if needed. And, your child will grow up knowing that they were adopted, so when they ask you where they came from you’ll be able to answer.

Domestic Adoption Requirements

david deanna newly adoptedQuestion: What requirements must we meet in order to adopt a child in the US?

Answer: Since the birth parents choose the adopted family for their baby, prospective adoptive parents must meet what they’re looking for. The birth mother will determine what type of adoptive family she is looking for. She might be looking to place her baby with a married couple who don’t have any children yet. Or, she might be seeking a family with other children in the home.

When adoptive parents create their adoption profile, some initially feel that there’s something in it that may make them unacceptable to birth mothers. This typically is not the case.

Adoption Agency Florida works with adoptive parents to make sure they’re bringing out their best selves. It’s important to show them as the really are, in their true light. The profile isn’t a place for you to pretend to be something you’re not, just because you think it’ll make you more appealing to birth mothers. Our belief is that there is a birth mother out there for every adoptive family and a family for every child.

So that birth mothers have plenty of adoptive couples to choose from, Adoption Agency Florida represents adoptive families from a variety of backgrounds and races, nationwide.

Discover how we can help make your dreams of adoption come true. Take the first step today and fill out Adoption Agency Florida’s free online application. Completing the application is risk-free and obligation-free. It will allow us to learn if we’re a good fit for your domestic adoption.