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Is It Positive Adoption Language to Call Her a “Birth Mother”?

is it positive adoption language to call her a birth mother?We wanted to share a question that our Florida adoption agency received recently about positive adoption language:

“I’ve noticed a few people saying online that the term ‘birth mother’ shouldn’t be used until after a woman places her child for adoption. So, I’m wondering if we should stop using the term ‘birth mother’? Is that negative adoption language?”

Let’s start with an easy definition…”birth mother” simply means a biological mother. So actually, a birth mother is any woman who gives birth.

In adoption language, we use the term ‘birth mother’ for a woman who’s considering adoption, or who is deciding to place her child. To identify the individuals involved in adoption, it makes things more accurate and simple to refer to adoptive parents (those adopting the child) and birth mothers (who will or have given birth). You’ll see that the legal paperwork required for adoption will use this adoption language to designate those involved in one child’s adoption.

Many adoption agencies and other adoption professionals prefer to use the term “birth mother.” It’s warmer than “biological mother,” which has a bit of a clinical ring to it.

We’ve seen terms like “expectant parent” or “expectant mother” used, but these aren’t always correct, since not every woman choosing adoption is pregnant. A mother can make an adoption plan weeks, months or years after her child is born; it’s never too late for adoption. Since many refer to adoptive parents as ‘expectantly’ waiting, using a term like “expectant parent” gets confusing. It starts to get very complicated, especially for people new to adoption and unfamiliar with positive adoption language.

Here at Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida, we don’t assume a woman is going to place her child when she’s in contact with us. We educate and provide support to every woman who calls us, regardless of whether she’s sure about adoption. In Lifetime’s social media accounts and informational materials, we use the term “birth mother” to protect her privacy. Of course, when we communicate with her one-on-one, she’s referred to by her name. Each woman who contacts Lifetime is listened to. We’re here provide her with help on her own terms, and as it applies to her unique situation.

It’s so important to be sensitive to a woman’s feelings when she’s deciding about her unplanned pregnancy and her baby’s future. Women typically see the term “birth mother” as positive adoption language when they were given the choice to lovingly and willingly choose adoption for her child. Using the term “birth mother” reminds us that she has an important role in creating her child’s custom adoption plan. Our hearts break for women who felt coerced into adoption, which was, unfortunately, the norm decades ago.

In open adoption, a woman who creates a plan for her baby or child can create and develop an on-going connection with her child and the adoptive parents. Whatever questions and thoughts she has are recognized, before, during, and after the adoption takes place. Even if she decides that adoption isn’t right for her, she’ll be able to help another woman who does choose adoption. So as you can see, the term “birth mother” is actually positive adoption language.

The Top 10 Blog Posts of 2017!

Lifetime adoptive couple Eric and Amanda with their daughter Mariella

Lifetime adoptive couple Eric and Amanda with their daughter Mariella

In 2017, Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida’s blog covered so many adoption topics, ranging from tips on how to handle the wait and guidance for getting ready to adopt to info about what modern adoption means and how to choose adoptive parents for your baby.

Here are the top 10 posts of 2017:

#10: We Reveal the Truth About 5 Adoption Myths
We shed light on five of the most widely believed myths surrounding the choice of adoption for your baby. Two of these five myths include that adoption is selfish, and that it means giving your baby away to strangers. Nothing could be farther from the truth: adoption is the most loving decision a woman can make. Also, with modern adoption today, you’re able to hand-pick the adoptive parents for your baby.

#9: 6 Smart Moves to Get Your Finances in Line for a Baby
We recommend that you get a hold of your finances during the adoption wait. That way, you’ll be able to enjoy the newborn days without worrying about money issues. This post shares 6 smart financial moves to make before your baby arrives.

#8: Why Choose Adoption?
This post seeks to answer the question: “why would I choose adoption for my baby?” In it, we provided a list of things to keep in mind if you’re thinking about adoption. We’re definitely not here to give you “reasons why you should choose adoption,” because only you know what’s best.

#7: 4 Terrific Tips on Listening to Birth Mothers
Many adoptive parents have said they were so nervous during the first phone call with a birth mother, that they ended up chattering on and on. This blog post shares a few easy tips on how to effectively listen to a birth mother, and begin to build a relationship!

#6: Wondering What It’s Like to Be Adopted?
If you’re thinking about adoption for your baby, you might be wondering what it’s like to be adopted. We interviewed Alexa, an 18-year-old adoptee for this blog post. She was excited to share her story because she’s so grateful to her birth mother for choosing adoption!

#5: How to Research Adoption Benefits
Sadly, the number one reason many don’t adopt is because they feel like they can’t afford it. There are so many of adoption benefits available if you know where to look! This blog post gives you info on how to learn about the adoption benefits your employer, insurance, or church offers.

#4: “My Baby’s Adoptive Mom is So Awesome!”
Lifetime is blessed to be able to share this birth mother’s Facebook post: “My baby’s adoptive mom is so awesome! [The adoptive parents] are the most amazing people I have ever had the pleasure of saying that I know…I could not feel more blessed to have found them!”

#3: Coping With Your Adoption Wait
Have you been wondering what you can do to get through your adoption wait? In this post, we shared action steps you can take in order to stay productive during your wait!

#2: How To Get The Counseling You Need During Your Adoption Planning
Choosing adoption for your baby is an emotional event, and every birth mother is going to experience the stages of grief in a different way. This posts shares how Lifetime is able to get you the counseling you need. We can refer you to a licensed third-party counselor or to a peer counselor, for free.

#1: How Long Does It Take to Adopt Twins?
This is a question that we get asked a lot here at Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida! Discover the answer to the question “On average, how long does it take to adopt twins through Lifetime Adoption Agency?”

What was your favorite blog post of the year? Are there any specific topics you’d like to see covered on Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida’s blog in 2018?

Sale on Adoption Jewelry for Cyber Monday

Cyber Monday deals on adoption jewelry!

Today is Cyber Monday! This shopping event occurs each year on the Monday after Thanksgiving. Are you doing some gift shopping online to take advantage of Cyber Monday deals and sales?

Right now, Adoption Prayer Bracelet is having a sweet Cyber Monday deal! Visit and receive $5 off ANY bracelet style by using the coupon code HIFIVE!

Adoption Prayer Bracelets are a wonderful Christmas gift for someone who’s been blessed by adoption. And, each purchase of this adoption jewelry goes to support an adoption non-profit organization, the Lifetime Adoption Foundation. This organization helps women who are considering adoption, by providing resources and needed essentials. The Lifetime Adoption Foundation also provides adoption grants and birth mother scholarships.

Get $5 off any of the three bracelet styles available by using the code HIFIVE. This coupon code expires on Thursday, so don’t delay! The Adoption Prayer Bracelet comes in three different styles: classic, European, and bangle. The original and European styles are available in a variety of colors, as seen in the photo below. There’s a dainty engraved charm attached to each bracelet. It reads “My Adoption Prayer” on the front and “Pray without ceasing” from 1 Thessalonians 5:17 on the reverse.

These bracelets were created by Lifetime’s founder (and adoptive mother), Mardie Caldwell. An Adoption Prayer Bracelet will be cherished by anyone whose prayers are about adoption. Just use the code HIFIVE at checkout when you purchase her favorite style on

Her Adoption Prayer Bracelet will arrive in a small travel bag, and a free prayer card is included. Just visit to shop. This bracelet will be treasured by any woman touched by adoption!

Adoption Prayer Bracelets come in 3 styles

Thanksgiving Prayer for All Blessed by Adoption

Happy Thanksgiving from Lifetime Adoption Agency!

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petitions, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”
-Philippians 4:6

As we gather to celebrate Thanksgiving, we pray that the Lord will keep and watch over those waiting to adopt, as well as those blessed by adoption. We pray God will keep a particular watch over the babies, children, and birth families that we work with at Lifetime Adoption Agency.

Please join us in prayer:

Dear Lord,
Protect everyone we know, love, and come in contact with from sadness and harm today.

Let us realize the true blessings in our lives, the blessings that you have given us at this moment in time. Encourage us as we pause to reflect on our blessings with a thankful heart. May there be a promise of continued blessing in the coming holiday season.

If any of us hurt, please restore our hearts.

If any of us are anxious, grant us patience.

If any of us are around patronizing people, fill them with compassion.

If any of us feel like our lives are lacking, show us how to give to those with even less.

You know the hearts of birth mothers, adoptive families, and the precious children united in adoption. Grant each of them peace for today and hope for tomorrow as we pause during our Thanksgiving observances.

Thank you for your blessings today and all year long,

Lifetime prays that you’ll have a happy Thanksgiving with your loved ones! May blessings and joy will pour to you all.

November is Adoption Month – Get 30 Days’ Worth of Prayer Ideas

praying for adoptoinIn recognition of National Adoption Awareness Month, Lifetime encourages you to pray for those touched by adoption! We want to lift birth parents and adoptive families up with prayer so that they might meet in open adoption.

Sometimes it’s difficult for people to know exactly WHAT to pray for regarding adoption. So, Lifetime has put together a FREE download, packed with prayer ideas. This sweet download has 30 days’ worth of prayer inspiration and related Bible verses.

Just visit to request your free download. Or you can just click the image below:

click to get 30 days of prayer ideas!

We’ll just need your name and email address, and then the free download of 30 Days to Pray for Adoption is yours! We encourage you to share this adoption prayer download with your church group, Bible study, or with friends and family.

Here’s a sneak preview of some notable passages from 30 Days to Pray for Adoption:

For a pure heart and the right motivations as I pray for adoption in my life, or in the lives of others.
(Psalm 51:10)

For a content attitude, in every phase and through any circumstance that may come up through adoption.
(Philippians 4:11-13)

Give thanks for adoption this National Adoption Awareness Month! We hope that you’ll join Lifetime as we honor adoption through prayer. We celebrate birth mothers who make adoption possible, and adoptive parents who are blessed every day by adoption.

Get Creative Ideas on How to Celebrate Adoption Month

Did you know that November is National Adoption Awareness Month? This national holiday began in 1984 when President Reagan introduced a national adoption week. Then, President Clinton expanded the week to include the entire month of November in 1995. Lifetime hopes that you’ll join us in celebrating National Adoption Month!

We’ve designed a charming calendar for the month of November 2017, and it’s full of ideas on how you can celebrate adoption. There’s an idea for each of the 30 days in the month! Read on to discover how you can download this calendar for free.

Celebrating National Adoption Month

We’re offering an adorable download to our blog audience, to celebrate National Adoption Awareness Month! Our sweet National Adoption Awareness Month 2017 calendar has an action plan for every day of the month. Simply give us your name and email address on this short form to download your calendar today!

Our adoption month calendar includes important adoption websites and social media pages. It also has holidays like Thanksgiving, World Adoption Day, and National Adoption Day. Download our calendar to get ideas on how you can recognize adoption this National Adoption Awareness Month.

It’s completely hassle-free to download our National Adoption Awareness Month calendar! You can download the cute calendar and print it out to hang at your desk or on your fridge. Or, pull up the calendar on your smartphone to access on-the-go! Access your free download by visiting

What NOT to Say to Adoptive Families

how to handle rude adoption remarks and questionsWhen people ask rude questions and make remarks to adoptive families, they may be oblivious as to how they’re coming off. Maybe, they are just uninformed about how open adoption looks today. But that doesn’t mean their comments don’t sting. Today, we’re sharing witty answers to a few of the most shocking questions that adoptive families face:

“How could his ‘real parents’ give him up?”

For most birth parents, the reasons why they chose adoption are complex, from extreme poverty to a personal tragedy. And even if we know why our child’s birth family decided on adoption, we’re not going to just share with any random stranger out there. It’s a private and personal story, between my child’s birth family and my child. AND, my child has two sets of “real parents.” Calling their birth parents “real parents” implies that we’re something less.

“How much did she cost?”
The fact is, no baby joins a family for free. Just think about those big hospital bills! When we adopted, we also paid for services provided, except our “midwives” were adoption professionals, social workers, and adoption attorneys. So that was where all those adoption fees were for: for services provided, not for our baby.

“I’m sorry you weren’t able to have one ‘of your own’.”
Saying this assumes that adoption is a last-resort means of creating a family. This definitely isn’t the case! Our child is as much “our own” as any biological child.

Have you ever gotten a rude question like this? If so, how did you handle it? Share with our audience by leaving a comment below, please!

Adoption, Abortion, or Parenting…What’s Right for You?

Is Adoption, Abortion, or Parenting right for you?Every day, millions of women discover they’re pregnant. Some women are happy and excited to be pregnant, but others will not be. These women face a life-changing and important decision. Will adoption, abortion, or parenting be the right choice?

Every woman has pregnancy choices, whether they became pregnant on purpose or not. Know that no matter what your situation is, the options are still there: adoption, abortion, or parenting. The reality is this: the only person who can decide what’s best for you and your child is YOU.

Choosing abortion may create feelings of guilt or shame. Also, abortion is pretty expensive: according to Planned Parenthood, it costs up to $1,500 in the first trimester. The costs usually depend upon how far along you are and the insurance you have. It’s a decision that can’t be reversed.

Another option for you is to become a parent and to raise your baby. Of all of the three pregnancy choices, this the most expensive one. You’ll have the financial responsibility of a child placed on you. You’ll have a child relying on you for everything that they need until adulthood. Parenting does come with many positives, such as the opportunity to care for and love a child of your own, and to help him or her to grow into a positive member of society. You’ll be a major part of your child’s life. Parenting isn’t an irreversible decision. You might decide to parent right away, but discover it’s not working and choose adoption.

Adoption is one of the most flexible choices for your unplanned pregnancy. With adoption, you’ll be making a personal sacrifice by placing your child in the care of another family. There are many types of adoption, some which will allow you to be a part of the child’s life and some which will allow you to continue your life without that child. It’s up to you which type of adoption is best for you and your child. Adoption doesn’t come with any costs; you’re able to get help with pregnancy-related expenses. Plus, your life as you know it doesn’t have to stop since you won’t be the primary caregiver for a child. The biggest benefit of all is that your child will be given the best life possible by a family that loves him or her unconditionally.

To find out more about adoption as an option, just call or text us at 1-877-383-6847 at any time!

Adoption Jewelry Makes a Fabulous Christmas Gift!

adoption jewelryJust in time for your Christmas gift shopping, Adoption Prayer Bracelet is offering FREE Priority shipping on any purchase of their adoption jewelry!

Remember your prayer partners too! Save when you buy two or more bracelets at a time.

Adoption Prayer Bracelets make a beautiful keepsake. Each purchase gives back to women who have lovingly chosen adoption for a child. Proceeds benefit the Lifetime Adoption Foundation, which helps adoptive families with adoption grants and provides support to birth mothers during and after the adoption process.

To get FREE Priority shipping, just enter the promo code HOLIDAY when you check out! Shop now to get your bracelets in time for Christmas!

Happy 4th of July

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We hope that you have a safe and happy 4th of July!

Lifetime Adoption’s staff remains available 24/7 through the 4th for women who are considering adoption or moving through an adoption match.

Lifetime is also here to help adoptive parents who are matched and have an important update that can’t wait until we return to the office on Tuesday.