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How to Talk to Your Children About Their Adoption Story

talking with your children about adoptionThe experts at our adoption agency in Florida recommend that hopeful adoptive parents start thinking now about how they will talk about your family’s adoption story. When a child grows up hearing about their adoption, it makes life less confusing and mysterious.

You might be wondering, “How do I talk about my child’s adoption?” or “How can I help them understand their adoption story?” Lifetime’s latest adoption webinar talks about this exact topic, providing practical tips on how you talk with your child about their adoption story.

In this webinar, we heard from two Lifetime adoptive mothers. They shared about their struggles and successes of raising an adopted child. Watch the recording of our webinar, “Talking About Adoption With Your Child” to get their tips on talking with your child about adoption, from the very beginning. Each adoptive mom has their own unique adoption story, so you’ll benefit from hearing their years of experience so far.

Our Florida adoption agency knows that talking about adoption with your child doesn’t need to be complicated. Nor does it need to be a major life event. It’s highly recommended to talk to them about adoption from infancy. But how do you start? How do you talk about adoption in such a way that leaves it open for future discussion as your child gets older? How do you adjust your conversation as your child grows up and becomes more mature?

Head over to to watch the recording of our webinar, “Talking About Adoption With Your Child.”

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Is It Positive Adoption Language to Call Her a “Birth Mother”?

is it positive adoption language to call her a birth mother?We wanted to share a question that our Florida adoption agency received recently about positive adoption language:

“I’ve noticed a few people saying online that the term ‘birth mother’ shouldn’t be used until after a woman places her child for adoption. So, I’m wondering if we should stop using the term ‘birth mother’? Is that negative adoption language?”

Let’s start with an easy definition…”birth mother” simply means a biological mother. So actually, a birth mother is any woman who gives birth.

In adoption language, we use the term ‘birth mother’ for a woman who’s considering adoption, or who is deciding to place her child. To identify the individuals involved in adoption, it makes things more accurate and simple to refer to adoptive parents (those adopting the child) and birth mothers (who will or have given birth). You’ll see that the legal paperwork required for adoption will use this adoption language to designate those involved in one child’s adoption.

Many adoption agencies and other adoption professionals prefer to use the term “birth mother.” It’s warmer than “biological mother,” which has a bit of a clinical ring to it.

We’ve seen terms like “expectant parent” or “expectant mother” used, but these aren’t always correct, since not every woman choosing adoption is pregnant. A mother can make an adoption plan weeks, months or years after her child is born; it’s never too late for adoption. Since many refer to adoptive parents as ‘expectantly’ waiting, using a term like “expectant parent” gets confusing. It starts to get very complicated, especially for people new to adoption and unfamiliar with positive adoption language.

Here at Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida, we don’t assume a woman is going to place her child when she’s in contact with us. We educate and provide support to every woman who calls us, regardless of whether she’s sure about adoption. In Lifetime’s social media accounts and informational materials, we use the term “birth mother” to protect her privacy. Of course, when we communicate with her one-on-one, she’s referred to by her name. Each woman who contacts Lifetime is listened to. We’re here provide her with help on her own terms, and as it applies to her unique situation.

It’s so important to be sensitive to a woman’s feelings when she’s deciding about her unplanned pregnancy and her baby’s future. Women typically see the term “birth mother” as positive adoption language when they were given the choice to lovingly and willingly choose adoption for her child. Using the term “birth mother” reminds us that she has an important role in creating her child’s custom adoption plan. Our hearts break for women who felt coerced into adoption, which was, unfortunately, the norm decades ago.

In open adoption, a woman who creates a plan for her baby or child can create and develop an on-going connection with her child and the adoptive parents. Whatever questions and thoughts she has are recognized, before, during, and after the adoption takes place. Even if she decides that adoption isn’t right for her, she’ll be able to help another woman who does choose adoption. So as you can see, the term “birth mother” is actually positive adoption language.

Touching Video from a Birth Mom to Her Baby Has Gone Viral!

Birth mother Hannah holds her newborn sonIn a heartfelt video that’s now viral, a birth mother tells her newborn born son that she’ll always love him.

Both People Magazine and The Today Show have featured this story, all about a loving birth mother with a loving message for her baby. “I thought I would make this video for you instead of writing a letter because it’s real and it’s in the moment,” birth mother Hannah says tearily in the video.

Hannah’s video is a lovely reminder of your birth mother’s love for her child. This love may also include you, the parents she chose for her baby. “His adoptive mom Emily is honestly everything I want to be as a person and a mother. I am so grateful that [my son] led me to her and their family. They are a blessing…” Hannah shares.

Your child will really appreciate having a video like this! Many adopted children grow up wondering about their birth family, and why they chose adoption. By taping a video like this, your child is provided with answers to many of their questions. As Hannah words it, “He will never have to think that I ‘gave him up’ or that I did not love him. He will always be able to know that I loved him more than anyone else in this world!”

Here’s birth mom Hannah’s full video:

“I made this video so that you know how much I love you,” Hannah says in the clip. “I made this decision completely out of love, and if I didn’t love you I wouldn’t of been in this position at all, and you wouldn’t have this awesome adoptive family. I fell in love with them, and they were beyond anything I could have asked for, and I have really really high standards for anyone who is going to raise my child.”

At the hospital, Hannah allowed the adoptive parents she chose to be present for some of her labor. After delivery, Hannah asked to have some time alone with her son. We were reminded of the saying in adoption: “you can’t say goodbye until you say hello.” Remember, if your birth mother requests time alone with her baby, it doesn’t mean she’s having second thoughts. It means that she loves her baby very much, and wants the best for him or her.

Today, Hannah has an open adoption with the adoptive couple she chose, Brad and Emily. They’ve shared that it’s important for them that all three of their sons have open adoptions. “Having our boys’ birth mothers so involved in their lives means they will never have to wonder if their birth moms loved them, they will never have to feel abandoned,” says adoptive mother, Emily. “They are all wonderful mothers and will always be our boys’ first mothers.

When is it Too Early or Too Late to do Adoption?

Lifetime has been asked many different questions about when’s the right time to make an adoption plan. The truth is, it’s never too late or too early to look into adoption for your baby! Here are some answers to common questions women ask when they’re thinking about adoption early in their pregnancy as well as late in their pregnancy:
“I’m not that far along in my pregnancy – when can I choose adoption?”
“I’m not that far along in my pregnancy – when can I choose adoption?”If you’ve just learned that you’re pregnant or aren’t that far along, know that you can start the adoption process now. Most women aren’t 100% sure adoption is right for their situation when they call Lifetime. You don’t have to be committed to adoption before you contact us.
Contacting Lifetime early in your pregnancy gives you more time to learn about the adoption process, get emotional and financial support, and search for the right adoptive family for your baby. Contacting us doesn’t force you to choose adoption: you have the right to change your mind at any time until the legal paperwork has gone through.
“My due date is coming up quickly! – when is it too late to find adoptive parents for my baby?”
“My due date is coming up quickly! – when is it too late to find adoptive parents for my baby?”Choosing adoption isn’t an easy decision to arrive at. Some women don’t contact Lifetime to learn about adoption until the final weeks or days of their pregnancy. We have women call us from the hospital in the beginning stages of labor, more often than you’d think! If your due date is near, you might be wondering, “Is it too late to give my baby up for adoption?”
It’s never too late to choose adoption. You can even make an adoption plan after trying to parent your baby. Lifetime can help you begin the adoption quickly if that’s what you’d like. Within a matter of hours, we can have the adoptive parents you select there at the hospital waiting room while you deliver.
No matter how far along you are, you’ll have the chance to review and get to know a pre-screened adoptive couple. They’re ready and excited to commit to you and your baby. In many cases, the adoptive parents can cover your medical, counseling, and living costs.

Learn more about how to get started with your modern adoption plan by calling or texting Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784 today!

Learn More About Domestic Adoption Through Free Online Webinars

did you know that you can learn about domestic adoption through free, online webinars?Each year, prospective adoptive families across the US make the life-changing and exciting decision to adopt a child. Yet, many people think an international adoption will happen more quickly and easily than a domestic adoption. That’s just due to a popular myth that says it will be difficult to adopt a baby in the United States.

Lifetime Adoption has been providing adoption services to adoptive parents and birth parents since 1986. We also educate about modern adoption and open adoption, so that light can be shed on adoption myths. Our free online webinars can be accessed by anyone who’s interested.

Our free, online adoption webinars provide information on the adoption process, what open adoption looks like, and gives adoption tips. Head over to to start watching and listening to this FREE adoption resource! Each of our webinars feature expert answers and insights from people recently touched by adoption.

Lifetime focuses on each part of the “adoption triad”-the adoptee, birth mother, and adoptive parents. We assist women thinking about adoption for their baby with finding medical care, supportive counseling, and financial help. Prospective adoptive parents are guided through the open adoption process, which includes the home study, legal process, and creating their own adoption profile to present to birth mothers. We also help adoptive couples discover how to afford adoption, through adoption financing, adoption loans, adoption grants, and fundraising.

Subscribe to our free online adoption webinars at today, so you can learn the important details you’ll need to know as you travel the path to adoption! When you subscribe, you’ll get exclusive access to webinar replays AND to invites to new LIVE webinars directly to your email.

Open Adoption from an Adoptee’s Perspective

adoptee shares her storyToday, Adoption Agency Florida has a guest post from an adoptee who shares her open adoption story:

“My birth mom made one of the hardest choices a parent can make—she put me up for adoption. I was adopted into a loving and wonderful family in California just a few days after I was born. I’m so grateful that my mom chose life!

I’ve never felt like I was missing anything from my life. My adoptive parents were very open with me from a young age about adoption. And, I’ve had visits with my birth mother since I was a year old. So, I’ve always known I was adopted, but it didn’t bother me. It’s just a part of my life. Other people have been curious about my adoption, though, and have asked awkward questions like ‘where’s your REAL mom?’

Domestic adoption is one of the most popular types of adoption today. But, there are still tons of negative stereotypes about birth mothers. The most damaging ones are of birth mothers heartlessly “giving up” their baby or child. The truth is, most of them, like my birth mom, made the most selfless and loving choice that they could make. Birth mothers make a huge sacrifice for the benefit of their child. She is able to give life to her baby, and also to a couple who are filled with love and hope for a child.

Being an adopted child, I’ll be forever grateful for both my birth mom and the parents who adopted me. Thousands of adoptees are out there, thankful that we got the chance to live because two families made a remarkable decision. I am one of the blessed ones. I hope to keep sharing my adoption story so that others can also get this opportunity.”

Are you thinking about adoption for your baby or child? You can learn the steps needed to get started with an adoption plan by calling or texting us at 1-800-923-6784.

We Wish You a Very Merry Christmas!

Image copyright Catherine Lane 2015

“She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins. All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had said through the prophet: “The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel” (which means “God with us”). When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife. But he did not consummate their marriage until she gave birth to a son. And he gave him the name Jesus.”

Matthew 1: 21-25

As we observe and rejoice during the Christmas season, our wish is that you remain thankful for the greatest gift of all, the birth of our Savior. May God bless your loved ones at Christmas and during the new year!

Adoption Agency Florida is going to stay available throughout the holiday weekend to help women who are thinking about adoption for their child. We’re also available to adoptive families who are working on an adoption match and have an important update. You can contact us by calling or texting Adoption Agency Florida at 1-800-923-6784.

Celebrate Adoption!

A wonderful way to celebrate adoption this National Adoption Awareness Month is to show adoption books in your library!

Make a suggestion to your library to feature books about adoption in a display or table for easy access during Adoption Awareness Month. The books could be for adults or children and offer information about all types of adoption. Below is a photo of an example adoption book display. It’s showing currently at a library near Lifetime’s main office in Northern California.

celebrate adoption

Here are some ideas of adoption books that you could ask your library to display:

  • gives readers practical, easy-to-follow guidelines about adopting a child. This book tells you what you’ll need to know, whether you’re seeking a domestic adoption or international adoption.
  • Adoption: Your Step-by-Step Guide: answers adoption questions commonly asked by hopeful adoptive parents. Included inside is Lifetime Adoption’s Founder Mardie’s expert advice, resources, and tips from her years of experience in the field of adoption.
  • The Healthcare Professional’s Guide to Adoption: educates healthcare workers on how to best assist women facing an unplanned pregnancy. It also contains information on what to do when a woman is admitted to the hospital with an adoption plan in place, or with hopes to create one.
  • Called to Adoption: for Christians feeling the Lord leading them to learn more about adoption. The book allows Christians to learn more about the miracle of families created through adoption.
  • So I Was Thinking About Adoption: for women who are considering adoption of an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy. It provides a handy guide to the ins and outs of making an adoption for your baby or child.


National Adoption Awareness Month is November!

Across the United States, National Adoption Awareness Month is celebrated in November. As we honor open adoption this month, we wanted to share this great quote about the blessing of open adoption with you:

National Adoption Awareness Month

You can share with friends and family how marvelous open adoption is by sharing the below video with them. It features the adoption stories of birth mothers and adoptive families who have worked with Lifetime:

The video highlights how Lifetime Adoption connects birth mothers and families ready to adopt. Lifetime’s caring professionals help pregnant women consider their options, and provides adoptive couples with a vast array of adoption services.

There are many ways to recognize adoption this month. Others have donated to adoption non-profits, read adoption stories, and asked their library to show adoption books. Learning about positive adoption language and then sharing your knowledge with others is also a good idea. It’ll help end the myth that adoption is second best. By using positive adoption language, you’ll reflect the true nature of adoption, free of stereotypes.

You can find tons of ideas on how to celebrate National Adoption Awareness Month at this website:

Marry My Baby’s Dad?

birth parents unhappyQuestion: My baby’s dad and I were dating for about year when we found out I was pregnant. But, I’ve never felt like I love him. My friends and family say that we should get married and raise our child together. But I’ve been thinking I want to adopt out my baby. What should we do??!

Answer: First, you’ll need to think about whether you’re willing to have a marriage that is unstable from the beginning. When you marry for the wrong reason, the odds are against you. One way to give your child the best chance to be raised in a loving and secure home is with adoptive family. This will also give you fresh start. An adoptive couple can provide for and give your child a good role model of what a healthy marriage and family is all about. This will give your child a healthy self-image. And, he or she can be raised to know you loved them so much you wanted the very best life for them.

Statistics show that couples who get married because the woman is pregnant have a greater chance of failure than in a relationship that has had time to naturally develop over time. When you decide to marry, it should be because you both love each other so much you want to be together. The time to get married must be right. Marry a man who’s responsible, ready to settle down, and ready to provide for his family. Ask yourself: will your baby’s dad be a good role model for your child? If your baby will be a boy, do you want him to turn out like his dad? Are both of you ready to make the needed sacrifices to give a secure family life for your child? If not, it’s smart to think about adoption.

Allow yourself time to decide what you want from life before you add the commitment of parenting. If you and your baby’s dad aren’t ready to be parents, don’t sacrifice your child’s life.