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Archive for Unplanned Pregnancy

Telling People You’re Pregnant

The shock has started to wear off. You’ve taken a minute (or two or even a week!) to think about what your pregnancy will mean. Maybe you’ve decided against abortion, and are stressed out about becoming a mom.

how to tell people about an unplanned pregnancyTons of questions pop up. Who can you tell? Who can help you through the next few months of your pregnancy? What will people say? Will they be happy for you or disappointed in you?

Some women feel relieved once they tell people they’re pregnant. Once you tell people about your pregnancy, you’ll get a wide variety of reactions. Everyone will probably have an opinion to share—whether it’s helpful or not.

The bottom line this: it’s your body, your baby, and your pregnancy. Yours to talk about, yours to experience, and yours to decide about. And after your pregnancy, the baby is yours. So the opinion that counts the most is your own.

This doesn’t mean you have to go through it all alone. Tell people who are going to have your back, even when they don’t agree with you. Tell those who love you, know you, and know your situation. Don’t be scared to share how you’re feeling. If you have someone there by your side, things might not seem as scary or overwhelming.

Would you like to talk about your pregnancy and how you feel about having a baby, but can’t find the words to tell your family or friends? Lifetime is familiar with unplanned pregnancies and the decisions that come with them. Reach out to our caring and compassionate coordinators by texting or calling us at 1-800-923-6784. We’re here to listen, not judge, and can help you find the words you need to tell your parents and your baby’s father. You’re not alone!

Is a Last-Minute Adoption Possible?

learn about your rights and choices in making a last-minute adoption planIf you know that adoption is the best choice for both you and your baby, then having an adoption plan in place before you go into labor is a good idea. But what if you don’t decide until really late in your pregnancy that adoption is best? Or what if you go into labor and then decide on adoption?

With Lifetime, you’re able to make an adoption plan at any time during your pregnancy. We’ve even had women call us from the hospital, in the early stages of labor! Adoption is always a possibility.

When you make a last-minute adoption plan, you still have the same rights and choices as you would if you’d done adoption earlier on. With modern open adoption, you choose the adoptive parents for your baby. An open adoption allows you to talk to and meet the adoptive parents. And, you’re able to stay in touch with the adoptive couple and your child in the future. Birth mothers we’ve worked with stay in contact in a wide variety of ways: through emails, photos, social media updates, phone calls, Skype, and in-person visits.

If you need help money-wise, the adoptive parents you choose can usually pay for your prenatal visits, hospital stay, and living expenses. You have the power to decide how things go at the hospital. What do we mean by this? Your hospital preferences can include stuff like:

  • Who you’re OK with being at the hospital when you deliver
  • Whether you want your baby in the room with you, or if you’d like him or her to stay in the nursery with the adoptive parents
  • If you want to stay in another area of the hospital after you deliver, away from Labor & Delivery
  • How much you want the adoptive parents to participate in the birth (for example, some women are fine with the adoptive mom being in Labor & Delivery. Or maybe you want them to stay in the waiting room)
  • If you’ll want the newborn pictures that are taken of your baby

No matter how early or late you are into your pregnancy, adoption is always a choice you can make. You can even choose adoption after your baby is born.

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is here to help you as you go through this decision. Call us whenever you have questions or are ready to learn more: 1-800-923-6784.

“How do I know my baby is going into a good home?”

get Lifetime's answer to the question '"How do I know my baby is going into a good home?'Question: “Right now, I’m 30 weeks pregnant, and I’m looking at adoptive families on your site. They all look friendly, and I like what they write, but how do I know my baby is going into a good home? How do I know the parents are good people?”

Answer: Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is fully licensed and we do an in-depth screening of each of our adoptive families. That’s how we know that they’re financially secure and stable couples in a solid marriage. They’ve passed criminal background checks, have proven their income via tax records and payroll stubs, and have been declared healthy by doctor physicals.

Couples hoping to adopt also have to be asked lots of questions from a social worker, who visits their home to make sure it’s ready for a baby and to interview them. We do all of this so that you can be rest assured that the adoptive couples you see on our site are approved, screened, and questioned. They also attend adoption courses, so that they understand your need for future communication in what’s known as an “open adoption.”

When is it Too Early or Too Late to do Adoption?

Lifetime has been asked many different questions about when’s the right time to make an adoption plan. The truth is, it’s never too late or too early to look into adoption for your baby! Here are some answers to common questions women ask when they’re thinking about adoption early in their pregnancy as well as late in their pregnancy:
 
“I’m not that far along in my pregnancy – when can I choose adoption?”
 
“I’m not that far along in my pregnancy – when can I choose adoption?”If you’ve just learned that you’re pregnant or aren’t that far along, know that you can start the adoption process now. Most women aren’t 100% sure adoption is right for their situation when they call Lifetime. You don’t have to be committed to adoption before you contact us.
 
Contacting Lifetime early in your pregnancy gives you more time to learn about the adoption process, get emotional and financial support, and search for the right adoptive family for your baby. Contacting us doesn’t force you to choose adoption: you have the right to change your mind at any time until the legal paperwork has gone through.
 
“My due date is coming up quickly! – when is it too late to find adoptive parents for my baby?”
 
“My due date is coming up quickly! – when is it too late to find adoptive parents for my baby?”Choosing adoption isn’t an easy decision to arrive at. Some women don’t contact Lifetime to learn about adoption until the final weeks or days of their pregnancy. We have women call us from the hospital in the beginning stages of labor, more often than you’d think! If your due date is near, you might be wondering, “Is it too late to give my baby up for adoption?”
 
It’s never too late to choose adoption. You can even make an adoption plan after trying to parent your baby. Lifetime can help you begin the adoption quickly if that’s what you’d like. Within a matter of hours, we can have the adoptive parents you select there at the hospital waiting room while you deliver.
 
No matter how far along you are, you’ll have the chance to review and get to know a pre-screened adoptive couple. They’re ready and excited to commit to you and your baby. In many cases, the adoptive parents can cover your medical, counseling, and living costs.
 

Learn more about how to get started with your modern adoption plan by calling or texting Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784 today!

We Reveal the Truth About 5 Adoption Myths

learn the truth about these 5 adoption mythsToday, we’re sharing honest answers to 5 adoption myths about choosing adoption for your baby:

1. Adoption is selfish
This adoption myth is the biggest one out there! Really, adoption is about the least selfish choice that you can make for your child. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your baby. It means the opposite: you love them so much that you want them to have the life they deserve. When you don’t have the needed resources to care for a baby or aren’t ready to become a parent, choosing adoption for your baby is the most selfless thing you can do.

2. I’ll be giving my baby away to strangers
With a modern, open adoption, you have the power to choose your baby’s adoptive parents, and meet them to interview them too. You can pick a family who would raise your baby exactly the way that you wish. You also have the right to decide how much future contact with your child and family as you would like, whether it’s emails, letters, photos, or even visits.

3. I can’t do adoption without my parent’s approval
Some parents don’t understand modern adoption and how it works, so they might get angry and try to change your mind. The truth to this adoption myth is that no matter how young you are, no one can force you to a pregnancy choice, whether it’s parenting, adoption, or abortion. The law is on your side, and your parents typically don’t have rights to your baby. If your parents aren’t supportive, you might try writing down your adoption plan so they can see you’ve put a lot of thought into this.


4. If I use drugs or alcohol, no one will want to adopt my baby

Whatever your life situation is, there are adoptive families ready to provide your baby with a loving home. Lifetime is here to support and help you as you make an adoption plan, even if your baby has been exposed to drugs or alcohol. It’s important that you’re honest with us about any tobacco, drug, or alcohol use during your pregnancy. That way, your doctor is able to best take care of your health, and the health of your baby.

If you’re using drugs and are near your due date, your baby may test positive for drugs at birth. If these cases, the hospital must notify Child Protective Services, and your baby may be placed in foster care. By having an adoption plan in place, you’re able to choose where your baby will go, and the level of contact you want to have with your child as they grow up. So, if you think your baby may test positive for drugs at birth, call us at 1-800-923-6784 for help and info.

5. My baby is almost a year old! It’s too late to do adoption
It is never too late to choose adoption, and you can begin at any time. Maybe you’d thought about adoption and put it on hold. You can still go forward at any time. Even if you’ve been trying to make parenting work and are struggling, it’s not too late. You’re never making a bad choice for your child by loving them enough to give them the life you know they deserve, when you know you can’t provide it.

If you’re thinking of adoption, you can call Lifetime today to learn more: 1-800-923-6784. Contacting us doesn’t mean you HAVE to choose adoption. It just means you’re learning more about it.

Wondering What It’s Like to Be Adopted?

Alexa was adopted 18 years agoAs you think about adoption for your baby (or child) have you ever wondered what it’s like to be adopted?

Many women have shared with us “I’m worried that my child will hate me later on for choosing adoption!”

Alexa is an adoptee who was adopted a birth 18 years ago through Lifetime. She wanted to share her story, because she is grateful to her birth mother for choosing adoption and wishes she knew more about her.

In the video below, she answers many of the questions women have when thinking about adoption, like:

  • Will my child hate me for choosing adoption?
  • How will my child feel growing up adopted?
  • What does my child want to know about me?
  • Will my child understand?

In this video, Alexa shares her story. You can click on the image below to watch the video, or follow this link: https://vimeo.com/226472722/0bfdadc303.

Let Lifetime know what you think by leaving a comment below!

We’re here to give you info and resources as you think about adoption. We’re just a phone call or text away, at 1-800-923-6784.

Freedom to Choose What’s Best for Your Baby

adoption may be what's best for you and your babyAdoption is a loving and thoughtful decision, which pregnant women and moms make in the best interest of their child. Each woman faces her own unique goals, circumstances, and limitations, in addition to the hopes she has for her child’s life.

At Lifetime, we believe that women should never be pressured to parent OR place her baby, rather encouraged to make a healthy plan for the child’s future, as well as her own.

If you’re thinking about adoption, know that you have a voice in every part of the adoption process. Here are just a few of the many choices you have with modern adoption:

  • Pick your baby’s adoptive parents from dozens of families, of all races, ready to adopt, if you’d like.
  • Get to know the adoptive family you’ve selected before the adoption if desired.
  • Plan how things will go at the hospital when your baby is born.
  • Customize how you want to keep in touch with your child and the adoptive parents after the adoption takes place.
  • Get access to free licensed counseling, qualified legal assistance, and support before and after the adoption.

Adoption help is just a phone call or text message away:
1-800-923-6784.