There’s a lot of waiting involved in the infant adoption process. First, there’s waiting for your home study to be completed, then there’s the waiting for a birth mother to choose to match with you. The adoption wait can seem extra tough, especially when it’s for something you so long for: to be parents.
There may be days when the phone rings and you think ‘could that be the call we’ve been waiting for?’ Then, it’s disappointing when it turns out this isn’t your adoption agency calling that a birth mother is interested in speaking with you. The important thing is that that you keep on going, and praying for that much-anticipated call to come soon.
During your adoption wait, your profile will be looked at by many birth mothers. You’ll probably end up speaking to several of them before being matched. This fact can be both a blessing and distressing.
You may get your hopes up once you’re aware that your profile is getting viewed, so your excitement grows because you feel that your chances of being chosen for a match will come soon. But then what if you still don’t get chosen?
You begin to doubt yourself, your profile, and that you’re able to show birth mother mothers you’ll be excellent parents. When you don’t get picked, it can lower your self-esteem and you can get down on yourself.
Don’t go there! Remember, God made you and that is good enough. There will be ups and downs on your adoption journey, but it will come to an end. You will adopt a baby if you stick with it.
So, what can you do to get through your waiting time? Are there actions you can take to make the wait easier to cope with? The good news is that yes, there are definitely things you can do in order to stay productive during your wait! Check out Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida’s ideas on how to cope with your adoption wait: