There’s no doubt that creating an adoption plan for your baby is an emotional event. Every birth mother is going to experience the stages of grief differently. Know that it’s completely normal for you to wonder if this is the right decision, and to feel sad. Your emotions are normal and shouldn’t be discounted.
What might help you is to talk to someone. Lifetime is happy to refer you to a licensed third-party counselor or to a peer counselor. Both types of counseling are provided to you free of charge. (By “peer counselor,” we mean a woman who’s gone through her own adoption planning and then placed her baby with adoptive parents.)
To help you process the grief you’re feeling, it’s important to take advantage of this free counseling. The counselor will help you cope with the grief, stress, and other emotions that come up during your adoption planning.
We’ll be up front: the process of grieving isn’t fun and it isn’t pretty. But working through these emotions now is the best way to get through this time in a healthy way. If you ignore how you’re feeling, it’ll just keep you from living a full, productive life.
You’re not alone with what you’re going through. There are millions of other women thinking about adoption and trying to process similar emotions. You’re able to talk to a licensed counselor AND a peer counselor right now and after your baby’s born.
With Lifetime, you’re able to speak honestly about the issues you’re facing as you get the help you need. Lifetime has a 24/7 adoption support phone number. If you’re more comfortable with texting, you can also use this number to text us.