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“All of It-The Wait, The Worry-Will Be Worth It!”

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida loves to share stories from our adoptive couples who have been blessed by infant adoption! Here’s a sweet one from Tennessee adoptive couple Colby and Sarah:

Adoptive parents Sarah and Colby with their precious newborn son“Thank you so much for helping us on this journey! We couldn’t love Jack any more than we do! He’s the best baby we could have hoped for. Once you’re matched and you meet your child, it still takes you a little while to process all the things that had to fall into place to make this miracle happen.

Whether you get the call six months or six hours ahead of the match, you’ll never be prepared enough. And that’s okay. Because all of it—the wait, the worry, the late nights sitting up wondering if your family will ever be whole—will be worth it. I know this because of the thousand little moments that are ingrained in my memory forever because of this journey.

when can we name our adopted baby?I’ll never forget the call I got from my wife when we initially got matched. I’ll never, ever forget driving all night to meet my wife, who had flown ahead to be with our son, and cradling him in my arms for the first time at 4:30 in the morning. I’ve never been happier at that time in the morning. Those moments make every single struggle you’ve had to endure on this journey disappear in a blink. I promise.

I promise that you’ll look into your child’s eyes as you’re feeding them one night, or hear them say, “I love you” for the first time and this is all going to make sense!”

To see more photos and adoption stories, visit our “Recent Adoptions & Matches” page!
Are you hoping to adopt a baby? Call us at 1-877-383-6847 or email us to learn the steps needed to get started with a domestic infant adoption.

4 Terrific Tips on Listening to Birth Mothers

learn tips on listening to birth mothersListening is so important in any relationship, and especially when first meeting a birth mother. Many adoptive parents are so nervous during that first phone call that they chatter on and on. As a result, they never get to know the person on the other end of the phone. Today, we’re sharing simple tips on listening to birth mothers!

Humans can think about lots of things at once, and many of us do just that. This is a real issue if it’s done while speaking with a birth mother. It may feel natural to plan what you’ll say next when someone is speaking to you. But if you’re focused on what you’ll say next, then you’re not concentrating on a birth mother and her needs.

If you don’t truly listen to a birth mother, it may cost you the opportunity to adopt her child. Our Founder Mardie Caldwell shares, “I’ve seen several adoptive couples lose the opportunity in their first conversation by talking too much about themselves or drilling the birth mother with questions.”

Here are our 4 simple tips on how to effectively listen to birth mothers:

1. Really listen, and don’t interrupt her. Let the birth mother finish her sentence before you jump in. You can instead jot down a note that says what you wanted to say, and ask once she’s done talking.

2. Ask questions about the birth mother and her life, and be interested. Never judge her or preach to her. Ask if she’d like to know more about you, and then go ahead.

3. Give her a sign that you acknowledge, understand, and hear what she is saying.

5. Repeat or “mirror” what you heard her saying, in her words. Doing so makes sure she knows you got it.

Developing a healthy relationship with a birth mother isn’t a chess game. Plotting your next move while she’s talking is counterproductive.

Practice these tips the next time you have a conversation at work or with a friend. It might feel weird and uncomfortable at first. However, you’ll see that people respond well to you. When you talk to a birth mother, you’ll have listening experience and will increase your chances of a match!