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Did You Know That There’s a Symbol of Adoption?

The symbol of adoptionIf you’ve been blessed by adoption, you might wish to honor your journey in a meaningful way. The symbol of adoption has been used by many to share their love of open adoption. As seen in this image, the symbol of adoption is a triangle entwined with a heart. Each of the three sides of the triangle signifies the adoption triad: birth family, adoptive family, and adoptee. The heart symbolizes the love present in an open adoption relationship!

We encourage you to appreciate the fact that all in the adoption triad play a role in building a healthy, safe life for the child. Understanding what each party in the triad should (and shouldn’t) contribute is an important first step. Today, we’re sharing about the roles of adoptive parents, birth parents, and adoptees!

Adoptive Parents

adoption loveAdoptive parents provide the child with daily care, support, and love. They’re responsible for the child emotionally, medically, and financially. And adoptive parents are responsible for helping their child grow healthy self-esteem about their adoption. Openness and honesty are encouraged from the very beginning. It means sharing in an age-appropriate way that the child’s birth parents created this adoption plan to give them the best life possible.

Adoptive parents should honor the promise of ongoing contact that they made to the birth parents. If you promised to send pictures and updates, send them. If you agreed to visits, then schedule them. Open adoption is built on trust. If contact doesn’t happen, your child might search for his or her birth parents. You don’t want your child to hear that you broke your promise to keep in touch!

Birth Parents

Birth parents are a vital part of the adoption triad. They’ll always have a biological link to their child. At the same time, they should honor the level of contact they agreed to. It’s difficult to manage expectations if they thought, for example, that their child would still call them “Mom.” Having a sensitive conversation with them can help.

Sometimes birth parents make negative choices after placement. If you’re worried about your child’s safety, it’s acceptable to look at boundaries. But don’t change your open adoption agreement because some of the choices are ones you don’t approve of. Simply express your concern and hope for them.

The Adoptee

What a sweet update on baby Brynlee!Children should be provided the truth about their adoption in a way they can understand. You can share more and answer more questions as your child gets older. That way, your child doesn’t grow up confused about where they came from.

When parents wait to tell their child that they were adopted, it comes as a major shock, and there’s the potential for relationships to suffer. Part of loving your adopted child is loving where they came from, including their birth mother. Face the challenges you might feel when your child is curious about their origins.

When you understand adoption from everyone’s point of view as well as what healthy boundaries look like, these roles in the adoption triad will bring positive outcomes.

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“I’m a Birth Father…Do I Have a Say in Adoption?”

what are my rights as a birth father?Has your girlfriend just told you she’s pregnant and going to place your baby for adoption? Or maybe it’s your wife who wants to do adoption, after years of struggling to make ends meet. In any case, you might be wondering, “does the father have a say in adoption?”

The answer is definitely “yes”! Here at Lifetime, we encourage birth fathers to be a part of the adoption planning. The term “birth father” refers to a man whose baby or child is placed with an adoptive family. Today, we’re giving you info about your choices and rights in modern adoption!

We believe that it’s just as important for you to know your adoption rights as it is for her. Right now, your family might be pressuring you to “step up” and be a man, to fight the adoption.

Adoption Isn’t Giving Up

Lifetime has heard many men say they feel like adoption is a “cop-out.” They don’t want to admit any weakness, including the fact that they might not be able to provide for a child. These men say that they feel like adoption isn’t the best choice because it means they’re “giving up.”

People choose adoption not because they don’t love (or want) their child. Adoption is the choice they make because they love their child so much that they want to give him or her a bright future, something that they might not be able to provide at that point in their lives.

Adoption Isn’t Saying Goodbye

With open adoption, you’re able to remain a part of your child’s life and see them growing up. So, adoption definitely isn’t goodbye forever! Birth fathers are able to feel pride in the decision, and see the blessing that adoption is for their child. “Adoption was the best choice we could have made for our child…we were able to give our daughter a mom and a dad who are excited to provide her with everything she needs and wants,” says one birth father. By playing an active role in the adoption plan, many birth fathers have shared that they are glad they put their child’s needs above theirs.

Learning Your Rights

As a birth father, you have the same rights that the birth mother does. You can fully participate in the adoption at whatever level you want to. Just like your baby’s mother can, you’re able to interview adoptive couples and ask them questions. What kinds of questions?
You could ask about their parenting style, jobs, family structure, lifestyle, and even about their hobbies. You’re able to interview several adoptive families and meet with them, too.

Birth fathers have rights, too. Each state has their own laws and requirements about your responsibilities and rights. So it’s best to speak with an attorney who specializes in adoption law if you have questions.

Lifetime recognizes that the adoption decision can be as difficult for you as it is for your baby’s birth mother.

To talk with an Adoption Coordinator about an adoption plan for your child, just call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

Adoption Truth: Guys Can Be Involved, Too

the adoption truth is, your guy can get involved in the adoption planning, too“My girlfriend is 25 weeks pregnant. We’re both 19, and just work part-time while we go to school. So I know there’s no way I could support a family right now. She thinks adoption is going to be best for our baby. She’s probably right, but I can’t just forget about my child. I need to stay a part of their life.”

Does your baby’s father want to remain a part of his child’s life after the adoption happens? Keep reading to learn how he can be a part of making an adoption plan, and why it’s good for him to get involved.

Modern, open adoption is getting to be more common and understood. And, more birth fathers are taking part in the adoption process. Usually, we find that when a birth father knows he has rights in open adoption too, he becomes supportive of the adoption plans.

Your baby’s father can help you pick your baby’s adoptive parents, come to know them, and help as you make the plan for on-going future contact.

Even if you decide not to stay in touch with your baby’s adoptive family after the adoption happens, he can still stay connected with his child’s adoptive family and his child. Many times a man may be more supportive of an adoption plan if he knows that he also can participate in the open adoption!

You can learn more about your guy’s involvement in adoption planning in this short video:

Adoption Truth – Birth Father and Open Adoption from Lifetime Adoption on Vimeo.

Do you have questions about your baby’s father and how he can get involved in the adoption? Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is here to give you answers!

Just give us a call or text us at: 1-800-923-6784.

How to Get Your Baby’s Father Involved in Adoption

Have you decided that adoption is going to be your best option, but your baby’s father doesn’t agree? What can you do? Know that you’re not alone; this is a very common situation. Check out a short video that shares more about adoption and your baby’s father:

Getting your baby's father involved in the adoption? from Lifetime Adoption on Vimeo.

Thousands of women have been where you are right now. We recommend that you sit down with your baby’s father to get him involved in the adoption choice. It’s his baby too, and he has rights in adoption. You could allow him to be involved in picking the adoptive family for your baby. You can make what’s called an “open adoption” plan, which means you’ll get updates on your baby as he or she grows up, through emails, letters, photos, and visits. If he desires, your baby’s father could stay in touch with the adoptive couple, separate from you.

Right now, it’s important that he knows and understands he has rights as the birth father. Once he’s educated on the info and facts about the adoption process, he will probably come to see that it’s the best possible scenario for his child.

Both of you need to make sure you’re putting your baby’s life first and thinking about what’s going to be best for them. So, come together to talk so that you can make the best choice for your child.

It’s tough for a man to accept that can’t provide for his child. Speak with him and tell him your hopes for your child, and ask him what his are too. Tell him that he can help choose the adoptive family and remain in contact with them. You both can have a relationship with your child and the adoptive parents, even you two aren’t together. It may change his mind about adoption once he knows that it doesn’t mean goodbye forever.

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is here 24/7 to answer any questions that either of you have about adoption for your baby. Just call or text us at 1-800-923-6784, or send us a confidential email.

Thinking About Adoption-What About My Baby’s Father?

Baby's father thinking about adoptionQuestion: “I’ve been thinking about adopting out my baby ever since I was about 3 months along. But what about my baby’s father? Should he get involved?”

Answer: If he’s in your life, your baby’s father can be involved in the adoption if he’s interested. He can help choose the adoptive parents and have ongoing contact, like you, if he wishes.

We’ve worked with many birth fathers who’ve been active in the adoption plan for their child. One birth father has shared with us, “I’m so happy that I was able to put my child’s needs above my own.”

If your baby’s father isn’t around, or if he’s incarcerated or unsafe, an attorney will help you understand the legal steps needed in regards to his parental rights. Every situation is different and you can get free legal advice.

Adoption Agency Florida has found that some birth fathers say no to adoption because of pride. They say “no child of mine will be adopted out” because they won’t admit to themselves that it might be the best choice. The reality is that it takes a strong man to recognize that he’s not able to provide for a child right now, and to agree to the adoption.

As you look at adoption, you’ll probably have lots of questions. Adoption Agency Florida is here to help you find the answers you need. You can get the answers you need by calling us at 1-877-383-6847. Or, if you’re not comfortable talking on the phone, please send us an email.

If you’re ready to start your adoption plan, you can do so by giving us some info on this page: Start an Adoption Plan.

Adoption Agency Florida is here to help you; any info you give us is kept totally private and confidential.