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7 Powerful Ways to Learn About Infant Adoption (Part 2)

Discover powerful ways to learn about infant adoption!Lifetime shares what successful adoptive families do and what struggling adoptive families have not done in part two of our two-part series of adoption education. If you missed part one, you can read it here: 7 Powerful Ways to Learn About Infant Adoption (Part 1).

Lifetime estimates that only 20% of prospective adoptive families focus on actively learning about adoption. They read adoption books, tune into webinars, and ask important questions of other adoptive families, adoption agencies, attorneys, and social workers. They’re focused on completely understanding what their adoption journey will involve. In doing so, they can adopt a baby in a shorter time frame.

Since you’re reading this, you’re probably in that 20% — or moving towards entering this successful group!

Here are 3 more powerful (and simple!) ways to get the most benefit from what you learn:

1. Teach yourself about adoption.

When you educate yourself about adoption, you’ll come to find you’re saving money in the long run. The time you spend reading books will save you from making errors in decision making such as spotting “red flags” in adoption situations. After you adopt, you’ll be able to look at the amount you spent on learning about adoption and how much value you got for the money.

Lifetime has also noticed that educated adoptive couples make better adoption decisions, communicate more effectively with birth mothers, and are less stressed. They have a much better adoption experience than those who didn’t do much to understand the birth parents’ feelings and the adoption process as a whole. It’s a powerful investment.

2. Choose the most qualified adoption professionals to work with.

Judge adoption professionals by their value, not their fees. Often, an adoption professional with a proven track record of success will give you lots more value (and less heartache!) than those less expensive. The “tried and true” professionals may be higher priced, but they offer a comparative bargain. Compare the adoption services and successes of various professionals. When you research agencies, take your time. Just a few weeks of research will pay off immensely. You can check for referrals with the Better Business Bureau.

3. Start now!

As they say, “Don’t delay, start today!” The more you procrastinate educating yourself about adoption, the longer it will take for you to adopt a baby. Moving closer to your dream of infant adoption is both possible and achievable. Start today; you won’t regret the experience!
 
 

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7 Powerful Ways to Learn About Infant Adoption (Part 1)

Luke and Lindsay were blessed by a Lifetime infant adoption!Today we’re sharing with you what may be the most important key to adoption success in infant adoption: education. But first, some background information. We have over 30 years of working with adoptive parents and assisting birth parents. In that time, we’ve seen what the successful adoptive families do and what struggling adoptive families have not done.

This post is part one in a two-part series of adoption education. Here are 4 powerful (and simple!) ways to get the most benefit from what you learn:
 

1. Learn from those who have already adopted successfully.

Avoid taking advice from people who haven’t “been there, done that”. Plenty of people who give adoption advice are wrong; they’re simply giving their opinions. They don’t have in-the-trenches experience with adopting. If they’ve never adopted, or their adoption was several years ago, you’ll find that the laws, methods, and adoption experiences have changed. So, following their advice can be frustrating and a waste of your time. Even worse, it may lead you down the wrong path.
 
Many people are uneducated about adoption, and learn what they know about it from the media. In reality, most adoptions go smoothly and without issues. But, the media knows that drama sells, even if it characterizes a tiny part of the adoption experience.
 
2. Read and listen actively.

As you read adoption books or listen to webinars, think to yourself: “How can this be applied to my adoption journey?” Write down notes so you can apply what you learn. If you don’t take notes, you’ll forget what you learned, and you won’t benefit.
 
3. Schedule time for learning about adoption.

Humans spend three to eight hours each week discovering learning new things. Since you’re likely busy already, allocate some time in your schedule for adoption education. Making the time is key to your success!
For example, knowing basic adoption terms will prevent you from having to spend money unnecessarily for an attorney to explain simple terms you can understand on your own. The time you’ve scheduled to learn about adoption can also be spent creating an adoption budget. Think about how you’ll fund your adoption.
 
4. Don’t strive for perfection

Don’t put lots of pressure on yourself: you don’t have to know everything right away. Begin by learning adoption terms, and then read stories from birth mothers to learn their point-of-view.

When you have questions about something, write them down. You can then ask others and do further research. Don’t try to be perfect. Just take things one topic at a time. “When my husband and I were adopting, I set aside one hour a day to adoption. That hour was devoted to learning about adoption. I did this by speaking to others that had adopted, reading books, and searching for adoption professionals,” says adoptive mother and Lifetime’s Founder, Mardie Caldwell.
 

Next week, we’ll share three more simple ways you can get the most benefit from what you learn about adoption!

In the meantime, feel free to browse our website, learn about adoption loans, and contact us with your questions.