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Is a Last-Minute Adoption Possible?

learn about your rights and choices in making a last-minute adoption planIf you know that adoption is the best choice for both you and your baby, then having an adoption plan in place before you go into labor is a good idea. But what if you don’t decide until really late in your pregnancy that adoption is best? Or what if you go into labor and then decide on adoption?

With Lifetime, you’re able to make an adoption plan at any time during your pregnancy. We’ve even had women call us from the hospital, in the early stages of labor! Adoption is always a possibility.

When you make a last-minute adoption plan, you still have the same rights and choices as you would if you’d done adoption earlier on. With modern open adoption, you choose the adoptive parents for your baby. An open adoption allows you to talk to and meet the adoptive parents. And, you’re able to stay in touch with the adoptive couple and your child in the future. Birth mothers we’ve worked with stay in contact in a wide variety of ways: through emails, photos, social media updates, phone calls, Skype, and in-person visits.

If you need help money-wise, the adoptive parents you choose can usually pay for your prenatal visits, hospital stay, and living expenses. You have the power to decide how things go at the hospital. What do we mean by this? Your hospital preferences can include stuff like:

  • Who you’re OK with being at the hospital when you deliver
  • Whether you want your baby in the room with you, or if you’d like him or her to stay in the nursery with the adoptive parents
  • If you want to stay in another area of the hospital after you deliver, away from Labor & Delivery
  • How much you want the adoptive parents to participate in the birth (for example, some women are fine with the adoptive mom being in Labor & Delivery. Or maybe you want them to stay in the waiting room)
  • If you’ll want the newborn pictures that are taken of your baby

No matter how early or late you are into your pregnancy, adoption is always a choice you can make. You can even choose adoption after your baby is born.

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is here to help you as you go through this decision. Call us whenever you have questions or are ready to learn more: 1-800-923-6784.

We Reveal the Truth About 5 Adoption Myths

learn the truth about these 5 adoption mythsToday, we’re sharing honest answers to 5 adoption myths about choosing adoption for your baby:

1. Adoption is selfish
This adoption myth is the biggest one out there! Really, adoption is about the least selfish choice that you can make for your child. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your baby. It means the opposite: you love them so much that you want them to have the life they deserve. When you don’t have the needed resources to care for a baby or aren’t ready to become a parent, choosing adoption for your baby is the most selfless thing you can do.

2. I’ll be giving my baby away to strangers
With a modern, open adoption, you have the power to choose your baby’s adoptive parents, and meet them to interview them too. You can pick a family who would raise your baby exactly the way that you wish. You also have the right to decide how much future contact with your child and family as you would like, whether it’s emails, letters, photos, or even visits.

3. I can’t do adoption without my parent’s approval
Some parents don’t understand modern adoption and how it works, so they might get angry and try to change your mind. The truth to this adoption myth is that no matter how young you are, no one can force you to a pregnancy choice, whether it’s parenting, adoption, or abortion. The law is on your side, and your parents typically don’t have rights to your baby. If your parents aren’t supportive, you might try writing down your adoption plan so they can see you’ve put a lot of thought into this.


4. If I use drugs or alcohol, no one will want to adopt my baby

Whatever your life situation is, there are adoptive families ready to provide your baby with a loving home. Lifetime is here to support and help you as you make an adoption plan, even if your baby has been exposed to drugs or alcohol. It’s important that you’re honest with us about any tobacco, drug, or alcohol use during your pregnancy. That way, your doctor is able to best take care of your health, and the health of your baby.

If you’re using drugs and are near your due date, your baby may test positive for drugs at birth. If these cases, the hospital must notify Child Protective Services, and your baby may be placed in foster care. By having an adoption plan in place, you’re able to choose where your baby will go, and the level of contact you want to have with your child as they grow up. So, if you think your baby may test positive for drugs at birth, call us at 1-800-923-6784 for help and info.

5. My baby is almost a year old! It’s too late to do adoption
It is never too late to choose adoption, and you can begin at any time. Maybe you’d thought about adoption and put it on hold. You can still go forward at any time. Even if you’ve been trying to make parenting work and are struggling, it’s not too late. You’re never making a bad choice for your child by loving them enough to give them the life you know they deserve, when you know you can’t provide it.

If you’re thinking of adoption, you can call Lifetime today to learn more: 1-800-923-6784. Contacting us doesn’t mean you HAVE to choose adoption. It just means you’re learning more about it.

Freedom to Choose What’s Best for Your Baby

adoption may be what's best for you and your babyAdoption is a loving and thoughtful decision, which pregnant women and moms make in the best interest of their child. Each woman faces her own unique goals, circumstances, and limitations, in addition to the hopes she has for her child’s life.

At Lifetime, we believe that women should never be pressured to parent OR place her baby, rather encouraged to make a healthy plan for the child’s future, as well as her own.

If you’re thinking about adoption, know that you have a voice in every part of the adoption process. Here are just a few of the many choices you have with modern adoption:

  • Pick your baby’s adoptive parents from dozens of families, of all races, ready to adopt, if you’d like.
  • Get to know the adoptive family you’ve selected before the adoption if desired.
  • Plan how things will go at the hospital when your baby is born.
  • Customize how you want to keep in touch with your child and the adoptive parents after the adoption takes place.
  • Get access to free licensed counseling, qualified legal assistance, and support before and after the adoption.

Adoption help is just a phone call or text message away:
1-800-923-6784.

Adoption, in a Birth Mom’s Words

hear about adoption in a birth mom's wordsWhen you’re not sure if adoption is right for you, what can help is hearing from someone who’s been where you are. Someone who’s been in your shoes, “been there, done that,” you know? Today, we’re going to share about adoption with you, from a birth mom’s point-of-view, in a birth mom’s words.
 
Here are some comments and emails from Lifetime birth mothers, sharing their stories of making an adoption plan for their baby, and their hopes for the future…all names and identifying info have been removed for privacy.
 
“It makes me so happy to see the adoptive mom I picked with my son. She’s such a good mom. I’d never ever change my decision to do adoption. He’s thriving and very smart. Sometimes I think about the ways I could have made it work, but in my heart I know I did the best thing I could for him. He’s got the world at his fingertips, and I’d never have been able to give him that. If not for Lifetime and his adoptive family, I think I’d have been a hot mess.”
 
“This is definitely the most difficult thing that I’ve ever done. But, my daughter will be surrounded by so much love and affection by her adoptive family. I’m so blessed to have peace of mind that she’ll be well provided for and taken care of. Working with lifetime has been nothing short of amazing…thank you again for everything!”
 
“Choosing adoption for my son is totally the best decision I’ve ever made. I gave up so much for that little guy: my senior year, my boyfriend, my body…I could go on. But I’ll never regret choosing to endure the 9 months it took to give my baby to a loving couple who can’t have children on their own. Knowing that I gave life to a couple who couldn’t make it themselves makes me thrilled. All of us have something to be grateful for. For me, it’s the ability to give my son a better life, and to help create a new family.”
 

If you’d like info on open adoption, you can call or text our 24-hour adoption answer line at 1-800-923-6784.

Why Choose Adoption?

what to consider if you're asking yourself 'why choose adoption?'No one but you can decide whether adoption is the best choice for you and your child. The adoption decision is completely yours to make. So, you’ll need to make sure you’ve thought about all your pregnancy options and their outcomes. When you’re asking yourself ‘why choose adoption?’ think about your baby’s future as well as yours.
 
Deciding to make an adoption plan is obviously not an easy choice. But in some circumstances, it’s what a woman comes to realize is the best option.
 
Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is here to give you info and resources on open adoption so that you’re fully educated on all your pregnancy choices. That way, you’re able to make an informed decision.
 
Here are some things you might want to keep in mind if you’re thinking about adoption:

  • What kind of home environment do I want my child to grow up with?
  • What are my future plans and goals?
  • What do I desire for my child’s future?
  • How will I handle child care once I go back to work?
  • Is financial stability something that’s important to me?

 
Every woman’s situation is different and unique, so we’re not here to make a list of “reasons why you should choose adoption.” There are so many factors in play during this difficult choice, along with so many emotions.
 

If you’d like info on open adoption, you can call or text our 24-hour adoption answer line at 1-800-923-6784.

Here’s Why I Chose Adoption…

Here's why I chose adoption for my baby...“I want to share my story of why I chose adoption for my baby…

My son was born two weeks before his official due date. I’d been thinking about adoption but didn’t have a plan in place. Then when he was born it was hard! I took him home, and my mom helped me out. But then, she had to go back to work. It was just me and my baby at home all day. I tried to offer my son more than I grew up with, but I didn’t have much to start with. So, what could I give my baby really? His needs were more important that my wants.
 
My friend told me about a place that did adoptions that were able to keep it private and confidential. I called Lifetime in the middle of the night when my baby was three weeks old. I told the woman who answered the phone at Lifetime that I needed to do adoption right away. Every day it was getting harder to have my baby here and know I was going to give him to someone else.
 
My coordinator at Lifetime was really cool about it and didn’t judge me. She emailed me a few adoptive family websites that matched up with what I was looking for. What really helped me was that my coordinator was super-easy to get in touch with. I’d just text her whenever I had a question. I shared with her that it was too hard to keep faking it. I needed to have an adoptive family by the end of the week. I found a couple that I liked a lot, and they were just perfect for my son.
 
I talked with the adoptive couple, Kevin and Amy, on the phone. They lived in Texas too, about two hours from me. They met with my son and I the next day, and I knew they were a really great couple. Kevin and Amy had a stable marriage and were financially secure: two major things I really wanted for my son. My coordinator at Lifetime sent me the adoption paperwork to sign. The paperwork for my baby’s father to sign was taken care of by the attorney, which was paid by the adoptive parents.
 
You might think you can’t do adoption, but a year later, I know it was the best thing I could do for my son. I’m getting my life together and have started taking classes at my local community college. My son is getting all the support and love he needs from two parents who were ready for a baby. I that hope my story about adoption can help someone else!”
 

Please feel free to call or text our 24-hour adoption answer line at 1-800-923-6784 and ask to speak to an adoption coordinator.

“My Baby’s Adoptive Mom is So Awesome!”

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida gives ongoing pregnancy and adoption support to birth mothers from all over, including birth mothers right here in Florida, like Terri. She emailed her Adoption Support Coordinator Tiffany, “Good evening luv. I thought I’d share this with you. The adoptive mother, Cassie made a special Facebook group for Sidney. My baby’s adoptive mom is so awesome!”

my baby’s adoptive mom

Terri posted: “Cassie, Matt, and Tiffany. Three of the most amazing people I have ever had the pleasure of saying that I know. And all three now have a very special place in my heart forever more !! I could not feel more blessed to have found all three !! Everyone should be so lucky !!!”

It goes to show how much you really do have a say in your child’s future with open adoption! You can pick the adoptive parents for your baby from a big selection of couples all over the U.S. You have the power to say how things go in the hospital during delivery, such as who’s allowed in your room afterward. And, you’re able to keep in touch with them through emails, phone calls, Facebook, Skype, or visits. Another way to keep in touch with your child’s adoptive parents is on a private Facebook group, like Terri is doing.

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is here for you as you consider adoption for your baby or child. Let us know if you have questions. Just call or text 1-800-923-6784.

Adoption, Abortion, or Parenting…What’s Right for You?

Is Adoption, Abortion, or Parenting right for you?Every day, millions of women discover they’re pregnant. Some women are happy and excited to be pregnant, but others will not be. These women face a life-changing and important decision. Will adoption, abortion, or parenting be the right choice?

Every woman has pregnancy choices, whether they became pregnant on purpose or not. Know that no matter what your situation is, the options are still there: adoption, abortion, or parenting. The reality is this: the only person who can decide what’s best for you and your child is YOU.

Choosing abortion may create feelings of guilt or shame. Also, abortion is pretty expensive: according to Planned Parenthood, it costs up to $1,500 in the first trimester. The costs usually depend upon how far along you are and the insurance you have. It’s a decision that can’t be reversed.

Another option for you is to become a parent and to raise your baby. Of all of the three pregnancy choices, this the most expensive one. You’ll have the financial responsibility of a child placed on you. You’ll have a child relying on you for everything that they need until adulthood. Parenting does come with many positives, such as the opportunity to care for and love a child of your own, and to help him or her to grow into a positive member of society. You’ll be a major part of your child’s life. Parenting isn’t an irreversible decision. You might decide to parent right away, but discover it’s not working and choose adoption.

Adoption is one of the most flexible choices for your unplanned pregnancy. With adoption, you’ll be making a personal sacrifice by placing your child in the care of another family. There are many types of adoption, some which will allow you to be a part of the child’s life and some which will allow you to continue your life without that child. It’s up to you which type of adoption is best for you and your child. Adoption doesn’t come with any costs; you’re able to get help with pregnancy-related expenses. Plus, your life as you know it doesn’t have to stop since you won’t be the primary caregiver for a child. The biggest benefit of all is that your child will be given the best life possible by a family that loves him or her unconditionally.

To find out more about adoption as an option, just call or text us at 1-877-383-6847 at any time!

Can My Parents Make Me Get an Abortion?

I Don’t Want to Do Abortion…Can My Parents Force Me To?

can my parents make me get an abortion?Question: I’m 15 and three weeks ago, I found out that I’m pregnant. My parents are so disappointed in me, and furious. They told me they made an appointment for an abortion. Can they force me to do that?

Answer: No. Unless it’s a medical emergency, there’s no way they could force you into abortion. You have a right to make important health and life choices. We understand that your life seems out of whack right now, but it’s great that you’re really thinking of what’s best for you and your baby. No one can force you to abort your baby. There are three pregnancy choices: abortion, adoption, or parenting. But, abortion is the only one that you can’t change your mind about. Even as a teen mom, you have the choice over what happens to your baby.

Parents hold authority over you and can have tons of influence! Some people say that teens don’t have the physical and mental capacity to understand the results of their decisions. They believe that parents should have the legal right to force their children into a decision as they have the best interests of the child at heart. We suggest that you talk with your parents: will they kick you out if you didn’t do abortion? Finding out more info on open adoption is easy and it’s a positive choice when raising a baby doesn’t seem like it’d work.

Adoption Agency Florida can give you info about the pregnancy choice of adoption. We’re also able to help you find the support you need in your local community. Remember, you are not alone! Just call us at 1-877-383-6847 or send us an email.

Paula’s Adoption Story

Adoption story from Paula

When you’re pregnant and thinking about adoption for your baby, it helps to hear from women who’ve been where you are now. Here’s Paula’s adoption story:

“One day I discovered I was pregnant and facing the most difficult decision of my life. My thoughts changed overnight with the realization of the life that grew inside of me. As my pregnancy progressed, I had to decide if my current situation was best for my child, or if there were ways to make my circumstances work out for a child. I thought the realities of single parenthood would not be fair to my child.

When I went to my next doctor’s appointment I saw a brochure about adoption in the waiting room. I began to see adoption as a way I could provide my daughter with parents who could raise her with every opportunity and stability I couldn’t offer yet. After many hours of prayer and soul-searching, I decided to make an adoption plan for my baby.

I took the time to research prospective families with Lifetime Adoption Center and found a family whom I truly loved. Finding them made me more sure about my decision. I wanted them involved in my pregnancy and I had chosen my baby’s adoptive mother to be my labor partner. She went to every doctor’s appointment with me and we would get breakfast afterward. During this time spent together we got to know one another very well and became good friends. I felt that it was important to spend the time and effort to get to know my child’s adoptive parents.

A few months later I delivered a beautiful, healthy baby girl. The time spent in the hospital was precious; together with my daughter’s parents, I was able to care for her. We spent two days in the hospital sharing with friends and family the beautiful life that I had created. It was a time of love and laughter. Emotions ran high in those few hours, but the one that was most present was LOVE!

After we parted and went home, I with my family and my daughter with hers, I knew that my daughter would loved and cared for in every way. I love my daughter with all my heart, and because of that love I was able to give her everything I had always wanted for her. I know that open adoption was the very best plan for my daughter, Alexandra.

Today I am able to share my story with others with the hope of educating as many people as possible about the benefits of open adoption. As a birth mother, I will never have to hide behind a veil of secrecy, and I will always know how my daughter is doing. I do wish I had been in a position to parent her myself, but I am so very excited for the life she will be able to lead due to open adoption. Each and every day I think of my daughter and know that she is loved, safe, and thriving in her family.

I can see from the photos and letters that her adoptive parents regularly send me that she is growing into a lovely young girl. The relationship that my daughter’s adoptive parents and I share is one I know will last a lifetime.”

Paula’s story can be found in the book So I Was Thinking About Adoption. Get yourself a copy (for FREE!) by visiting FreeAdoptionBook.com. If you have questions about doing adoption or if you’d like to explore it further, please call us at 1-877-383-6847.