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Waiting to Adopt? Get Our Holiday Survival Tips

get Lifetime's tips for surviving the holidays while you're waiting to adopt!If you’re in the midst of your adoption wait, the holidays can become a time of added pressure and disappointment. People close to you may mean well but ask questions or make remarks that seem insensitive.

If you’re hopeful adoptive parents waiting for a child, you might be wondering “How are we going to get through the holidays?” Today, Lifetime is sharing 5 tips on how to survive the holidays while in the adoption wait!

1. Talk About It
Trying to hold your emotions inside will only make you feel worse. So, think about talking to a close family member, friend, counselor, or your pastor about what you’re going through. It may be that simply talking about it will raise your spirits so that you can enjoy the holiday festivities.

2. Be Honest
You might be feeling guilty that you’re not happy when everyone around you seems to be in the holiday spirit. You see that people around you are cheerfully celebrating. If you’re feeling down, don’t try to suppress your emotions. Grant yourself permission to cry and be sad. It might help to jot your feelings down in a journal. Decline invites to holiday parties and dinners you’re not up to attending.

3. Do Something for Yourself
Practice some self-care if you’re feeling unhappy during the holidays. This could be a nice long massage, a weekly yoga class, or treating yourself to that pretty dress you’ve been admiring. By doing something for yourself, relaxing, and unwinding, you’ll be better able to handle the hectic holiday season. Everyone deserves a break to re-group every now and then.

4. Help Those in Need
Often, giving back can lift your spirits. There are so many ways to do this, so pick something that feels right to you. You could volunteer at a homeless shelter, donate toys or gifts to a family in need, or even just do something thoughtful for a friend, co-worker, or family member. Helping those in need will give you an amazing feeling!

5. Get Involved
When you’re feeling blue, getting involved in a project or activity may help. “When we were in the adoption wait, I put a fresh coat of paint and got new furniture for our guest bedroom. Doing all this allowed me something to think about other than how sad I felt. And, it paid off! My mom ended up staying in this guest room and helping me out during the very first days home with our newborn son,” shares one Lifetime adoptive mom. Getting involved doesn’t have to mean undertaking such a big project, though. It may be an activity as simple as baking, scrapbooking, knitting, organizing a closet, or making homemade gifts.

Remember, this too shall pass, no matter how you choose to get through the holiday season while you’re waiting to adopt. And you’ll be parents before you know it!

5 Tips for Staying Positive During the Holidays

happy-during-holidaysMany hopeful adoptive couples find that the wait to be chosen by birth mother gets tedious, and even more so during the holiday season. To keep yourself and your spouse motivated during your adoption wait, we’re sharing 5 tips with you today:
 
1. Find with Other Waiting Parents

Establishing a connection with other waiting adoptive parents will give you support during your adoption wait. You can find other waiting couples online or in person, in adoption support groups. There are tons of groups around the US which are aimed at supporting parents in their adoption journey. Search for a group close to you or online. Then, begin talking with people who can empathize with what you are going through right now.

2. Discuss the Adoption Process

Find others you’re close to and with whom you’re comfortable discussing your adoption journey. You may feel that your family and close friends are sick of hearing about your adoption, but most likely they aren’t. If your friends are true friends, they’ll listen and continue to support you. If you’d rather not keep talking with the same friends about your adoption, we suggest that you find a group of adoptive mothers or an adoption support group.
 

3. Make a Progress Chart

It’s beneficial for you to be able to see your progress on a chart. Just make yourself a chart of all the steps needed to achieve your goal of adopting. As you finish each step, you’ll be able to see tangible proof that you’re moving toward your goal. You may feel silly doing this but remember: before you know it, you’ll be holding your beautiful baby in your arms.
 
4. Treat Yourselves

As you complete each of your steps on your progress chart, reward yourself and your spouse. Maybe your reward will be going to go out to a romantic dinner at the new hot spot in town. Or, maybe you’ll get that dress you’ve been eyeing for a while. It really doesn’t matter what you pick as your reward; the main idea is to find rewards that’ll keep you motivated.
 
5. Have Fun

Many find it difficult to have fun when they’re aching so badly to be parents. You’ll need to have a sense of humor when you become a parent, so now is a good time to start! Appreciate this time you have, waiting and anticipating the new addition to your family. Before you know it, you’ll be parenting the baby of your dreams!