Woman looks at open adoption profilesMany hopeful adoptive parents wonder what birth mothers are looking for in an adoption profile. They want to increase their profile views so that a birth mother chooses them. However, what to include in your adoption profile isn’t an exact science. That’s because every birth mother is different, and so there’s no single answer to what every woman wants to see. Because every birth mother’s preferences are different, so is what she wants to see in the profile of the family she picks.
 
With that said, there are three major items that most birth mothers seek in adoption profiles:
 

1. A Genuine Connection

When we’ve asked birth mothers why they chose the particular adoptive couple that she did, most of them share that they just had a “gut feeling” about the family. Sometimes, birth mothers know the exact attributes they want to see in an adoptive family. Others might not know what they want and then something just “clicks” when they look at an adoptive family profile.
 
Usually, the thing that makes her feel an immediate connection is a small, unique trait. As an example, a birth mother that had a particular breed of a dog growing up might see a family with that same breed and then decide they’re right for her. It might also be that the adoptive mom shares their interests or hobbies.
 
The things that allow a birth mother to feel a connection are usually things that an adoptive family can’t control. That’s why it’s important to be yourself in your adoption profile. It seems to be the unique things about a family that causes a birth mother to choose them. If you’re true to yourself in your profile, you’ll have a better chance of the right birth mother choosing you.
 
Women reads adoption profiles from hopeful parents

2. Happy, Candid Photos

While birth mothers do read an adoptive family’s profile, the text usually comes second to the pictures. Like most people today, birth mothers often prefer looking at photos over reading text. Having quality, current, photos in your adoption profile will give her a better idea of what your family is really like. Naturally, a birth mother would be more comfortable choosing an adoptive couple who looks happy and candid in their photos over one with staged, stiff photos.
 

3. A Positive View of Adoption

Adoption is a difficult decision to make. So, birth mothers want to feel reassured that the family they select for their baby respects and celebrates adoption. Most birth mothers want their baby to grow up knowing about his or her adoption and their birth family. Seeing an adoptive family focus on that commitment in their profile is crucial.
 
Put yourself in a birth mother’s shoes, and try to imagine what she’s going through. Make sure to share how you’ll celebrate adoption and your child’s birth mother in your family. If you emphasize your excitement for the adoption in your profile, a birth mother will notice it.
 
If you’re a hopeful adoptive family, make sure to represent yourselves honestly, and the right birth mother will find you!
 
At Lifetime Adoption Agency, each adoptive family receives one-on-one guidance and tips from their own dedicated Profile Coordinator.
 

Do you have questions about adopting through Lifetime or how we can help you create an effective adoption profile?

Send us an email or call us at (530) 271-1740!

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What birth mothers want to see in a profile #adoptionprofile #adoption #hopingtoadopt #adoptiontips
What birth mothers want to see in a profile #adoptionprofile #adoption #hopingtoadopt #adoptiontips