When you’re facing an unexpected pregnancy and thinking about adoption for your baby, you may feel nervous about the thought of becoming a mother. And if you have a lot of questions going through your mind, you are not alone. One of your questions might be, “What are the reasons why women choose adoption for their baby?”
It is normal to struggle with the thought of placing your baby in the arms of another family. But when you make an open adoption plan, you are choosing life for your child. Plus, you have a lot of control in creating and planning for your baby’s adoption. You can look at as many adoption profiles as you’d like and select the perfect adoptive parents for your baby. You can also interview and chat with the adoptive family of your choice to get to know them better.
Making an adoption plan is a personal decision, one which every woman needs to make on her own. The fact is that most women choose adoption out of love for their baby. By creating an open adoption plan, they place their child’s needs and interests before their own.
5 of the most common reasons why women choose adoption:
1. Lack of money
It’s no secret that raising a child gets expensive. Food, clothes, shoes, and health care can add up quickly. In addition, there are added costs, like child care, education expenses, and activities fees.
Currently, raising a child to the age of 17 could cost over $200,000. After looking at their financial situation, some women choose adoption to give their child a life they couldn’t provide otherwise.
2. Not ready to become a parent
This is actually the most common of the reasons why women choose adoption that we hear. Sometimes women who become unexpectedly pregnant are just not ready to give their lives to someone else who needs them 24/7. No matter their choices in life at the moment, they are just not ready to change everything and be a full-time mother.
3. Wants to give her child more opportunities
Finances, drug addiction, physical or mental health issues, and incarceration are personal challenges that may limit a woman from providing the life she wants to for her child. As a result, one of the most common reasons why women choose adoption is to give them a path toward a more hopeful future.
A birth mother can place her baby into a safe and stable home with loving adoptive parents ready and equipped to parent her baby by making an open adoption plan.
4. Desire for a two-parent family
Lots of women choose adoption because they want their child to grow up with two parents. Particularly if she’s no longer in a relationship with her baby’s father, she may be looking for a two-parent adoptive family. Through modern adoption, a birth mother can provide her child with the type of future she desires.
5. Unable to raise another child
You may be surprised to learn that many women who choose adoption are already parenting other children. Since they’re already busy with these children they may not have the time, energy, or resources to devote to a baby. These women also want to do what’s best for their other children, so they choose adoption.
While each woman will have her own reasons for choosing adoption, it all comes down to what’s best for your child. Before you make a decision, we encourage you to learn all you can about adoption. We can help you do that. You can read some of our other blogs about adoption, or you can talk to someone directly by calling or texting Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.
Lifetime can help you obtain free, third-party counseling and connect you with a peer counselor too. A peer counselor is a woman who’s chosen adoption for her child. So, she knows where you’re at right now and the questions that may be circling in your head. By chatting with her, you can make an informed decision about adoption.
Editor’s Note: This article was originally published on November 1, 2018, and has since been updated.
As the Vice President (VP) of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.