The holiday season is right around the corner. For some, festive and colorful holiday decorations inspire excitement for the celebrations to come. But for those grieving failed fertility treatments, the holidays might bring feelings of sadness. Even if your infertility grief isn’t new, the holidays may become a reminder of the loss of your dream of becoming parents biologically.
While there’s certainly no “right” way to get through these times, here are some thoughts and ideas that may be helpful:
Find support—if you’re not able to distance yourself from the grief, seek support. Since many make insensitive comments about infertility, it’s important to find a support system you can rely on. Talk to the people you are closest to, to create your support system. It’s normal to feel isolated during the holidays, but don’t condemn yourself to that fate. Your support system is there to understand and listen to you.
If you can’t find anyone in your life that will support you, we suggest that you find a grief support group with others suffering from infertility. If you’re struggling with day-to-day tasks because of infertility grief, you might decide to get the help of a professional.
Read others’ stories—a great way to feel connected is to read stories online from women who have been (and are) where you are right now. Reading their stories and thoughts will help you feel connected and create a community. Considering watching a webinar in which adoptive mother Mardie Caldwell shares her story: Embracing Adoption After Infertility.
Avoid stress—for many of us, the holiday season is filled with pressure and stress. There are tons of tasks to complete: shopping, baking, decorating, wrapping gifts, and traveling to name a few. When you’re grieving, we encourage you to prioritize what needs to be done. And, focus on the tasks that you enjoy doing.
Learn your options—after being diagnosed with infertility, you might feel that your situation is bleak. Discover the various options open to you; there are a variety of different paths to parenthood. If you’re ready to learn about the choice of domestic adoption to start your family, contact Adoption Agency Florida. We’re here to answer your questions! Just call us at 1-877-383-6847. Or, you can send us an email.