Hopeful adoptive parents Adam and Mary hold hands while walking togetherBefore you choose your baby’s parents, you can speak with several hopeful adoptive parents. Sometimes, it’s nice to just get a bit more info to understand who they are and what they’re about.
I recently had the chance to chat with hopeful adoptive parents Adam and Mary from North Carolina. I asked them some fun questions that you won’t find in their adoption profile and learned that they are excited to become first-time parents through open adoption! As they put it, “We look forward to starting a relationship with you where we can get to know each other better and have ongoing contact in whatever way is comfortable. We’re thrilled to become first-time parents and share our love and lives with your child.”
Mary decorating their home for Christmas

1. What is your favorite holiday?

Our favorite holiday is Christmas! We love to decorate inside and out. Sometimes we do Christmas lights inside, and we always enjoy displaying Mary’s vast collection of nutcrackers.

We love giving gifts, and we do something special for our co-workers every year. This past year, the peppermint bark, chocolate chip cookies, and homemade ornaments were a particular hit!

2. What is something you are naturally talented at?

Adam is naturally talented at musical instruments. He can pick up pretty much any instrument and make music. We have many different musical instruments, and Adam loves to play them all.

Mary is a naturally gifted singer. When she sings in church, people always compliment her on how beautiful her voice sounds. Her singing is always filling the house.

Mary and Adam having fun roasting marshmallows on their open porch

3. What is a challenge you are proud to have overcome?

One thing that we both have overcome is being workaholics. We both used to work multiple jobs, and those jobs took up most of our time. We would never stop. It made our work, life balance…out of balance. While our work lives flourished, we were burning out.

Now we understand the need for rest and fun along with having a good work ethic. The advice we would give to someone struggling with this is that there is a place for play and fun. Those things should not be seen as a waste of time. Also, if you dedicate all your energy to work, your family life will suffer. Having it all is impossible.

You can get an even better glimpse into Adam and Mary’s lives in this video:

4. What is something from your childhood that you want to make sure your child gets to experience?

If we have a girl, Mary wants her to be able to play in this really large dollhouse that was passed down to her. She wants her little girl to have a similarly magical experience of playing and creating stories with it.

Adam would like for our child to experience looking through a telescope or microscope. That experience of knowing that there is a bigger (or smaller) world out there was an amazing experience for him growing up.

Both of us would love for our child to play all kinds of sports. It taught us both how to work with others, enjoy competition, and develop as people.

Adam preparing to throw a baseball

5. What did you want to be when you were a kid?

Adam always wanted to be a baseball player. He loves baseball and played from the age of three all the way through high school and beyond. He even played on traveling showcase teams for major league scouts. He got hurt playing and ended up becoming a psychologist instead.

Mary wanted to be a marine biologist. She loves animals! It’s probably one of the reasons why we have three dogs. Mary was a veterinary technician for several years while going to school to be a marriage and family therapist.

Curious to know more about Adam and Mary? You can view their adoptive family profile online.
If you’re interested in talking to them as potential adoptive parents to your baby, just text or call Lifetime at
and we can connect you with them.

Heather Featherston

Written by Heather Featherston

As the Vice President (VP) of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.

Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.

As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.