Have you decided that adoption is going to be your best option, but your baby’s father doesn’t agree? What can you do? Know that you’re not alone; this is a very common situation. Check out a short video that shares more about adoption and your baby’s father:
Thousands of women have been where you are right now. We recommend that you sit down with your baby’s father to get him involved in the adoption choice. It’s his baby too, and he has rights in adoption. You could allow him to be involved in picking the adoptive family for your baby. You can make what’s called an “open adoption” plan, which means you’ll get updates on your baby as he or she grows up, through emails, letters, photos, and visits. If he desires, your baby’s father could stay in touch with the adoptive couple, separate from you.
Right now, it’s important that he knows and understands he has rights as the birth father. Once he’s educated on the info and facts about the adoption process, he will probably come to see that it’s the best possible scenario for his child.
Both of you need to make sure you’re putting your baby’s life first and thinking about what’s going to be best for them. So, come together to talk so that you can make the best choice for your child.
It’s tough for a man to accept that can’t provide for his child. Speak with him and tell him your hopes for your child, and ask him what his are too. Tell him that he can help choose the adoptive family and remain in contact with them. You both can have a relationship with your child and the adoptive parents, even you two aren’t together. It may change his mind about adoption once he knows that it doesn’t mean goodbye forever.