1. Learn from Others Who’ve Adopted
Don’t take advice from those who haven’t experienced adoption for themselves. A great place to hear from successful adoptive families is by tuning into webinars on AdoptionWebinar.com. Often, people who haven’t adopted recently will give advice about the methods and laws of adoption that have since changed.
Many are just ignorant about adoption and learn what they know from the media instead of real life. Most adoptions go well and without problems. Since the media knows that drama sells, they only portray a small portion of the adoption experience.
2. Get the Help of a Professional
Along with the people who sincerely want to help you adopt, there are also many out there who want to scam you. A good rule of thumb is to avoid spending a penny until you sign on with your adoption agency. There are a lot of dishonest people who say they want to help you, but they just want your money. An example of an adoption scam is an advertiser who says they’ll help you find a birth mother. A reputable agency is there to identify scams for you; they field inquiries from women who call in saying they want to choose adoption for their baby.
Many times, higher priced, experienced adoption professionals with a record of success will give you much value than someone less expensive. Compare adoption companies and don’t rush yourself when you do your research. Just a few weeks of research can pay off tremendously. Check out the professional with the Better Business Bureau and ask for referrals of past clients.
3. Don’t Be a Perfectionist
With adoption, you just can’t wait for the perfect time to get started. Realize that you don’t have to learn everything all at once. Start by researching adoption terms. If you have questions, write them down, then research and ask others. Don’t obsess: take it one step (or topic) at a time. Consider devoting one hour a day to learning about adoption. You can do this by reading, speaking to others who have adopted, and seeking out adoption professionals.
4. Consider Open Adoption
In an open adoption, the birth mother chooses the adoptive family for her baby. They meet each other in person and have ongoing contact as the child grows up. There are many benefits to open adoption, including that you’ll have knowledge of your child’s medical history in the future if needed. And, your child will grow up knowing that they were adopted, so when they ask you where they came from you’ll be able to answer.