Today, we wanted to share the story of an adoptive couple’s adoption journey. They struggled with their adoption wait, and now hope to provide encouragement to others. Here are their heartfelt words to you:
“I wanted to share a bit about our adoption journey. Our son was born the Friday before Thanksgiving last year, and we were able to get our adoption cleared in time to fly home for Thanksgiving.
When we initially contracted with Lifetime, we were not open to visits. One year into our contract we opened up our preferences to allow for visits. Today, I wish our birth mom were my next-door neighbor and her family lived very close as well. We are a two-hour plane ride apart. I wish we lived so much closer. When my husband and I initially contracted with Lifetime we were both 26. I was a pharmacist and he worked in business. We checked all of the stereotypical boxes of young, successful, no other kids, etc. But despite all this, we didn’t have a placement, or even an interested birth mother, within the 6-to-18-month time-frame we were hoping for.
I fixated on that time-frame, and Linda can attest that part was very hard for me. We found out our birth mom was interested in speaking to us when she was roughly 16 weeks along and we had been contracted for 19 months.
We were able to visit her and her family twice prior to our son’s birth. We were there for the 20-week ultrasound revealing his gender. His birth was a scheduled C-section so I was able to fly out earlier in the week to spend lots of time with her prior and my husband flew out the day before to also spend quality time.
Aside from a few hiccups with hospital staff, it all went quite well. We spent a bunch of time in her room in the hospital chatting, joking and hanging out. She didn’t want to meet or see her son in person while in the hospital. She and I exchanged a lot of “I love you’s” in the operating room and right after she signed her rights to us.
We’ve maintained contact since his birth as well. We finalized in May and while it was possible to remotely finalize we actually flew down so we could spend a few days with her and her family. We are flying out Thursday to spend a long weekend with her and her family.
I truly struggled with the adoption wait. Your adoption webinars were very helpful to me. I listened to many multiple times on my commute to and from work. I know there are many others out there who struggle waiting to meet their baby. My hope is that by sharing our story, it’ll give them a small piece of hope.
While our situation is unique, as all are, we waited a long time and now have a very open adoption. I’d hope that sharing our story might let others know that others have been down the very rough path they have been down. Also, we are a living testament to the fact that sometimes you don’t initially know what is best for you. God clearly had a much different plan for us than what we had thought we wanted.”
-Jessica, an adoptive mom from Indiana