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What If No One Wants to Adopt My Baby?

Pregnant woman cradles bellyMany pregnant women who are thinking about adoption for their baby wonder, “Are babies that are put up for adoption always adopted?” They worry that no one will want to adopt their baby.
 
This worry usually comes from confusion about the adoption process. Some women are concerned that their baby’s health issue will affect his or her chances of being adopted.
 
We know that you want the best for your baby.
 
You’re probably thinking of adoption because you want your baby to have every opportunity in life. And right now, you might not be able to provide the kind of life you envision for your child. But, you might be wondering, “What if they aren’t adopted? What if nobody wants to adopt my child? Will they go into the foster care system?”
 
When you make an adoption plan through an adoption agency, your baby will be adopted. He or she will be placed into the arms of an adoptive couple who have been waiting and praying for a child.
 
The main reason that people wonder how many kids “given up for adoption” really get adopted is because they think adoption is just like foster care.
 
With adoption, you’re intentionally choosing for your baby to be parented by an adoptive couple. You’re able to select your adoption professional, your baby’s adoptive parents, how much contact you’d like with them, and how your time in the hospital for delivery will go.
 
In foster care, a child is removed from their home by the authorities. The child is usually placed into temporary care while waiting to go home with a biological family member. If they can’t be reunited with a member of their family, they’ll become eligible for adoption through foster care. These children then may face a long wait until a couple adopts them permanently from foster care.
 
When you contact Lifetime Adoption Agency to make an adoption plan, we’ll work with you as you choose adoptive parents who you feel are right for your baby. Your baby won’t go into state custody, so he or she will never be waiting to be adopted. Once your baby is born, you’re able to place him or her into their parents’ arms.
 
You might have heard about how children in foster care wait years to be adopted into a permanent family. Many of these children remain in foster care until they become adults at 18.
 
Fortunately, choosing adoption for your baby with an agency isn’t like that. By working with an adoption agency like Lifetime, your baby will have permanent adoptive parents ready and waiting for them. Making an adoption plan for a baby through an agency is different than a foster care adoption. Your baby is able to go home with their forever family.
 
If you’ve ever been worried that no one would want to adopt your baby, you can rest easy. There are hundreds of waiting adoptive parents who have been praying for a child and would love to welcome your baby into their family.
 

Click to view some of their profiles, or contact us to see more profiles of potential parents for your baby.

“What if I change my mind about adoption?”

Woman thinking outsideChoosing adoption for your baby is a major decision, and one that you might be on the fence about. Many women thinking about adoption worry that they might come to regret this decision. Right now, you might be wondering, “What if I change my mind about adoption? Can I adopt out my baby and get her back if I want to?”
 
At the end of the day, adoption is your choice. If your intuition is telling you that the adoptive couple you picked isn’t right, make sure to tell your Adoption Coordinator. She’s here to help you as you decide if the couple is right for your child.
 

Adoption Laws

After your baby is born, you have a set amount of time to change your mind about adoption. The amount of time depends on the state you live in. An adoption lawyer can make sure that you know your right and are fully informed before you sign anything.
 

Remember Your Reasons for Choosing Adoption

Before you stop the adoption, take a step back and think about why you chose adoption for your baby. What’s changed in your life that would make parenting easier? Why don’t you want to do adoption now?
 
A few of the most common reasons women choose adoption are:

    Pregnant woman at a park

  • Can’t afford to support another child
  • Environment is unsafe for a child
  • Lack of support from the father
  • Too young
  • Parenting would get in the way of future plans
  • Desire to provide child with a better life

Take some time to really consider your plans, feelings, and what’s going to work in the long-term. Then, be upfront and honest with your adoption agency and the adoptive couple you’ve already selected for your baby.
 
Remember, it’s never too late to choose adoption. If your parenting doesn’t work, you can always explore adoption again.
 

Speak With a Therapist

Lifetime encourages you to seek counseling during your adoption planning process. We can connect you with a licensed third-party counselor, for free. (“Third-party” means that the counselor has no personal interest in whether or not you do adoption.) The therapist merely is there to help you sort through the variety of emotions you might be facing.
 
Free peer counseling is also available to you. With peer counseling, you talk with a woman who chose adoption for her child. Since she’s been where you’re at right now, she can let you know what to expect as you get closer to your due date. If you’re having doubts about adoption, you can vent those to her.
 

Get Informed

Right now, the best thing you for yourself is to get as much information about adoption as possible. Reading this blog is a great place to start, as is going through all the info that your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime sent you. Seek support from a counselor or a close friend as you’re making your adoption decision. Here at Lifetime, we realize that adoption is a tough choice to have to make. You might have moments of doubt even when you’re on the right path.
 

Know that Lifetime Adoption Agency isn’t here to push you into choosing adoption. The adoption decision is up to you!

“Can I Stop Her From Putting Our Baby Up for Adoption?”

A couple argues at the subway Question: “My girlfriend is pregnant and is thinking about adopting out our baby. I think she’s crazy for even considering it and I’m totally against adoption. It’s my baby too. Do I have any control over this? Can I stop her from putting our baby up for adoption?”
 
Answer: Yes, you do have a say in your child’s future. It’s not out of your control. As the baby’s father, you have the right to get answers to your questions. You also have the right to take part in the adoption planning process.
 
Lifetime encourages you to find out more about what’s called “open adoption.” It has been the right choice for many, especially those who aren’t ready to become parents. In an open adoption, both of you can work together to pick the adoptive parents for your baby. You can remain a part of your child’s life.
 
Here are some things to think about: are you giving your girlfriend any financial (or emotional) support during her pregnancy? These things will come into play when thinking about the adoption decision.
 
Also, you might ask yourself why she wants to do adoption. Many women choose adoption because they have other children and can’t afford another baby. Others make an adoption plan because having a baby would derail education or career goals. There are many reasons why women choose adoption.
 
Adoption is one of those decisions that you make based on what’s best for the child. Sometimes, the decision is made despite your own desires. She may long to become a mom, but realize that it just isn’t in the cards right now.
 
Talk more with your girlfriend about this. And when you do, don’t think about what you want. Think about the life you want your child to have. Looking at adoptive couple profiles online can sometimes help you picture the possibilities with adoption.
 

Here are some articles to help you learn more about birth fathers & adoption:

 
“I’m a Birth Father…Do I Have a Say in Adoption?”
 
What Should I Do If My Girlfriend is Choosing Adoption?”
 
What Are My Responsibilities as a Birth Father?
 
How to Get Your Baby’s Father Involved in Adoption
 
Birth Fathers and Adoption
 

If you like to speak to someone right now about adoption, call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

Is Adoption What’s Best for My Baby?

Pregnant woman wonders, 'is adoption what's best for my baby?'Are you pregnant and considering adoption? You’re not alone; we’re here to help you. Lifetime Adoption Agency helps expectant mothers in Florida and across to the U.S. explore adoption in a supportive, safe, and personalized environment. We’re here to provide you with up-to-date adoption information and support.
 
Discovering that you’re pregnant unexpectedly can be a very emotional time. No matter where you live, we can connect you with a hopeful adoptive couple who wants to provide your child with a stable, loving home.
 

Why Do Women Choose Adoption?

Are you wondering “is adoption what’s best for my baby?” There are many reasons why a woman decides to make an adoption plan for her baby. Overall though, women choose adoption because they want the best for their baby. Here are a few common reasons why a pregnant woman or mother might choose adoption:
 

  • Not ready to become a parent right now
  • Not financially able to provide for a baby
  • Still in school
  • Doesn’t want to be a single parent
  • Desires the best for her child

How Will My Baby Benefit from Adoption?

If you’re not ready to become a parent, you can choose an adoptive family for your baby through our Florida adoption agency. Adoption can provide your baby with many things, such as:
 

  • Safe, stable, loving home life
  • Parents who are emotionally ready to care for a child
  • Loving grandparents and relatives
  • Financially stable parents
  • Opportunities for a happy, fulfilling life
  • Opportunity for a quality education

Women reads adoption profiles from hopeful parents

Getting Started with Adoption

After you have learned all about adoption and have decided to move forward, our adoption agency in Florida is here to help you create your adoption plan.
 
An “adoption plan” describes your wants and needs for the adoption process. It includes your preferences on the adoptive family you’re hoping for, the level of contact you’d like in the future, and your adoption hospital plan.
 

Choosing a Family

A big part of the adoption process is selecting the adoptive family for your baby. Lifetime’s hopeful adoptive couples have been pre-screened and are approved to adopt a baby in the U.S. Plus, they’re excited to provide a safe, stable, loving home for your baby.
 
After you select your favorite adoptive family, we encourage you to speak with them. During the phone call, you can ask them questions about their faith, family traditions, parenting style, family background, and more.
 

We’re Here to Support You

Lifetime’s Adoption Coordinators are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. We’re happy to discuss your options, answer your questions, and help you make the decision that’s best for you and your baby.

Just call or text Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784 anytime, day or night.

5 Major Reasons Why Women Choose Adoption

What are the reasons why women choose adoption?When you’re facing an unexpected pregnancy and thinking about adoption for your baby, you might have a lot of questions. One of your questions might be “what are the reasons why women choose adoption for their baby?”

Making an adoption plan is a personal decision, one which every woman needs to make on her own. The fact is that women choose adoption out of love for their baby. By making an open adoption plan, they’re placing their child’s needs and interests before their own.

Today, we’re sharing 5 of the most common reasons why women choose open adoption:

1. Power over their adoption plan

Today, birth parents have a lot of control in creating and planning for their child’s adoption. They’re able to look at as many adoption profiles as they’d like and select the perfect adoptive parents for their baby. Also, birth parents can talk with the adoptive couple of their choosing, to get to know them better.

2. Not ready to become a parent

There’s no doubt about it: having a child will change your life forever. Some women aren’t prepared to become a parent, so they explore other choices.

3. Wants to give her child more opportunities

If she’s struggling to make ends meet or is in an unstable relationship, a woman might conclude that this isn’t the right time to bring a child into her life.

By making an open adoption plan, she can place her baby into a safe and stable home, with loving adoptive parents who are ready and equipped to parent her baby.

4. Desire for a two-parent family

Lots of women choose adoption because they want their child to grow up with two parents. Particularly if they’re no longer in a relationship with their baby’s father, a two-parent adoptive family is what they’re looking for. Through modern adoption, a birth mother can provide her child with the type of future she desires.

5. Wants to continue having a relationship with her child

It used to be that adoption meant goodbye forever for birth parents, and they never heard about their child again after signing adoption papers. Today’s adoptions happen much differently. We recognize that children need to know where they came from and who they are. By choosing open adoption, a birth mother can stay in her child’s life. The adoptive family of her choosing sends updates through emails, letters, photos, and social media posts. And, there’s also the option for visits once or twice a year!

While each woman will have her own reasons for choosing adoption, it all comes down to what’s best for your child. Before you make a decision, we encourage you to learn all you can about adoption. We can help you do that; just call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

Lifetime can help you obtain free, third-party counseling and connect you with a peer counselor too. A peer counselor is a woman who’s made an adoption plan already, so she knows where you’re at. By chatting with her, you can make an informed decision about adoption.

Call or text Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784 to learn more, so that you can decide if open adoption is right for you.

“I’m So Thankful for Open Adoption!”

"I am so thankful for open adoption!" shares one birth motherToday, Lifetime Adoption Agency is sharing one birth mother’s story. While every open adoption is different, it can help to hear from others who have been where you are now. Here’s one birth mother’s experience with coming to adoption:

“I was 16 years old when I became pregnant. Even at such a young age, I knew that there would be no way I could make parenting work. I didn’t even have my driver’s license yet! My baby’s father, Matt, and I knew we couldn’t give our beautiful baby everything she needed or wanted. Adoption was a hard decision for us to make, but we have all been blessed abundantly. Today, I feel like we have one of the best situations in open adoption history.

Hailey was born at 6:02 p.m. after an exceptionally smooth labor. She was loved and visited by my family and friends as well as Matt’s. The adoptive parents we chose, Kirk and Gwen, arrived later that night. As soon as they took their first look at her, I knew this was right. It was the hardest thing we’ve ever done, but I know it was the right decision.

I will always have a deep love for Matt, Hailey, and the adoptive parents, Kirk and Gwen. We are all so happy and very close. We talk a few times a month and meet up twice a year. I am so thankful for open adoption. I thank God every day that He showed me this option because it eases me to know that Hailey will know I love her, and she’ll know me as a person—as her birth mother.”

You can learn about making an open adoption plan for your baby by calling
Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

“Should I Give My Baby Up For Adoption?”

should I give my baby up for adoption?“I’m 35 weeks along and I’m thinking about adoption, but I’m really on the fence. My Mom raised my brother and I all by herself, and I saw how hard that was. I love babies but I’m not ready to be a mom, so I’m wondering if I should give my baby up for adoption. Do I need to decide right now, before my baby’s born? How do I decide? Help!”

We encourage you to take all the time you need to reflect on the pros and cons of both parenting and adoption. You don’t have to decide on adoption before your baby has been born. You can call Lifetime at any point during your pregnancy, or after you’ve delivered. We’ve even helped women create an adoption plan after they called us from the hospital, in labor.

Weighing the pros and cons of parenting and adoption will help you during your pregnancy, as well as after your baby is born. It helps you to clarify and communicate your decision-making process.

Here are 3 things that you can do if you’re unsure whether adoption is right for you:

Keep a Journal

Journaling is a really helpful tool that you can use to express your thoughts, feelings, and ideas about adoption on paper. Many birth parents have shared with us that reflecting back on their journey is therapeutic.

Speak to a Counselor

It’s important for you to talk about your fears as you’re deciding whether adoption is right for you and your baby. A counselor will provide a safe and nonjudgmental space for you to talk through your fears. Lifetime can connect you with an outside counselor at no charge to you.

Talk With A Birth Mother

Some women thinking about adoption find it helpful to connect with a birth mother who has made an adoption plan herself. Talking with others who are living with their choices can help shed light on the positives and challenges of adoption. Lifetime can connect you with a birth mother, through a phone call, email, or in person.

Lifetime Adoption Agency is available to you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. So just call us at 1-800-923-6784 whenever you have a question or a concern you need to talk through!

What Should I Do If My Girlfriend is Choosing Adoption?

What should I do? My girlfriend is choosing adoption...Here’s a common question we get here at Lifetime Adoption Agency: “My girlfriend is pregnant, and wants to adopt out our baby. What can I do if my girlfriend is choosing adoption?”

As the father of the baby, you have the right to get answers to your questions. You have the right to participate in making an adoption plan for your child.

So today, we’re sharing 4 of the adoption questions we get asked the most by birth fathers. If you don’t see your question here, please feel free to call Lifetime’s toll-free number and ask us: 1-800-923-6784.

  1. What is an open adoption?
  2. Can I select an adoptive family for my baby?
  3. What are my rights in making this decision?
  4. Will I have a financial responsibility to this child?

1. What is an open adoption?
Open adoption means that you and the baby’s mother have the right to choose an adoption plan that works for you. You can select an adoptive family, choose how much contact you would like to have before and after your baby is born, and choose how you would like your hospital experience to be. You have the right to have an ongoing, open relationship with your baby and the adoptive family.

2. Can I select an adoptive family for my baby?
Yes, absolutely. Lifetime believes that you know best in choosing the best family for your baby. We can show you adoptive parent profiles about families from all different parts of the country, and from many different backgrounds. You might want to start by looking at some families that want to adopt.

3. What are my rights in making this decision?
The laws regarding a father’s rights differ based on which state you live in. You do have the right to know about an adoption plan, and you have the right to participate in the adoption planning process. An adoption attorney can help you to understand the laws in your state.

4. Will I have a financial responsibility to this child?
If you choose to make an adoption plan, the adoptive family that you choose would be financially responsible for the baby. You will not be required to pay child support once your parental rights are legally terminated.

For additional information, please call Lifetime’s toll-free number: 1-800-923-6784.

“Open Adoption Was the Best Thing for My Son”

Birth mother Ashley shares why she chose open adoption

Birth mother Ashley shares her adoption story“When I discovered I was pregnant, I was terrified and confused. I was a freshman in college. My boyfriend and I talked about our options. He knows I am pro-life, so he didn’t even suggest abortion. We both agreed that adoption was the best decision. I called my parents from school to tell them this life-changing news. They were very supportive of my decision to adopt out my baby.

An old friend of mine told me about a couple that was looking to adopt. She gave me the number for Lifetime Adoption Agency and urged me to call. The woman I talked to at Lifetime was very friendly and helpful.

They sent me numerous profiles about prospective parents. I selected three, including the first couple I met through my friend and talked with them all. I had a good feeling about the first couple, but I wanted to be absolutely sure they were the right people to raise my child. After meeting the other couples, I knew that the first couple were the ones.

I had a lot of support from my family, friends, my Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime, and, of course, the adoptive parents. I never doubted that the best thing for my little one was to make an adoption plan for him.

The adoptive couple visited me often, and the wife was there in the delivery room along with my parents. As I kissed my son’s tiny, perfect cheek, I cried. But they were tears of joy at having completed someone’s family.

The adoptive parents and I talk on the phone, and they tell me how healthy and happy my son is. They send me pictures regularly, and I am secure in the knowledge that he is being brought up by beautiful people. I wrote my son a letter explaining why I chose adoption for him and telling him that if he wishes to see me, I would enjoy nothing more than to sit and talk with him when he is ready.

Making an adoption plan was the best thing I could’ve done for my son, given my situation. I like to tell people how beautiful open adoption is. My family and I have become good friends with the adoptive parents. I thank God for Lifetime and for open adoption.”

Thinking About Adoption When You Already Have Kids

I'm thinking about adoption...how do I tell my kids?!If you’re pregnant and already parenting, you’re not alone. Lifetime has helped many women who are already parenting, and thinking about adoption for the baby they’re pregnant with.

Maybe you’re struggling to make ends meet, or you’re in a rocky relationship. Whatever your situation is, Lifetime Adoption Agency is here to help you.

Questions From Your Children

One of your biggest concerns right now might be how you should explain this situation to your kids. We encourage you to be honest with your children. You might tell that the baby will live with another family but that their place in the home is not at risk.

If your child is still a toddler, they might not realize that anything significant is happening. If this is the case, explaining the situation too much would just confuse them. In these instances, the best choice may be to avoid talking about the baby unless they ask. If they do, simple answers will usually satisfy their curiosity.

What About What People Will Think?

Your co-workers, neighbors, and friends will probably want to talk about your soon-to-be-born baby. They might assume that your pregnancy was planned and you’re excited to expand your family. So, you might be worried about any negative reactions to your adoption plans.

No one answer is going to satisfy everyone. The best way for you to handle people’s reactions is to get confident in your decision and remember why you started thinking about adoption.

With open adoption, you’re able to stay in your child’s life if you want to. You have the right to choose how much contact you’d like after the adoption. Your child is going to live a great life with the adoptive couple. It can help to keep this in mind if you get backlash from people who don’t know a lot about adoption.

How to Get Support

Lifetime can connect you with counseling services and emotional support, at no charge to you. You can also chat with another woman who’s been in your shoes and chose adoption. Hearing their stories and advice can help give you the reassurance that you need right now. Family therapy can give older children in the home the opportunity to discuss their own emotions and feel more secure.

At Lifetime Adoption Agency, we’re here to answer your questions and help you find the resources you need!

Just give us a call at 1-800-923-6784.