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5 Major Reasons Why Women Choose Adoption

What are the reasons why women choose adoption?When you’re facing an unexpected pregnancy and thinking about adoption for your baby, you might have a lot of questions. One of your questions might be “what are the reasons why women choose adoption for their baby?”

Making an adoption plan is a personal decision, one which every woman needs to make on her own. The fact is that women choose adoption out of love for their baby. By making an open adoption plan, they’re placing their child’s needs and interests before their own.

Today, we’re sharing 5 of the most common reasons why women choose open adoption:

1. Power over their adoption plan

Today, birth parents have a lot of control in creating and planning for their child’s adoption. They’re able to look at as many adoption profiles as they’d like and select the perfect adoptive parents for their baby. Also, birth parents can talk with the adoptive couple of their choosing, to get to know them better.

2. Not ready to become a parent

There’s no doubt about it: having a child will change your life forever. Some women aren’t prepared to become a parent, so they explore other choices.

3. Wants to give her child more opportunities

If she’s struggling to make ends meet or is in an unstable relationship, a woman might conclude that this isn’t the right time to bring a child into her life.

By making an open adoption plan, she can place her baby into a safe and stable home, with loving adoptive parents who are ready and equipped to parent her baby.

4. Desire for a two-parent family

Lots of women choose adoption because they want their child to grow up with two parents. Particularly if they’re no longer in a relationship with their baby’s father, a two-parent adoptive family is what they’re looking for. Through modern adoption, a birth mother can provide her child with the type of future she desires.

5. Wants to continue having a relationship with her child

It used to be that adoption meant goodbye forever for birth parents, and they never heard about their child again after signing adoption papers. Today’s adoptions happen much differently. We recognize that children need to know where they came from and who they are. By choosing open adoption, a birth mother can stay in her child’s life. The adoptive family of her choosing sends updates through emails, letters, photos, and social media posts. And, there’s also the option for visits once or twice a year!

While each woman will have her own reasons for choosing adoption, it all comes down to what’s best for your child. Before you make a decision, we encourage you to learn all you can about adoption. We can help you do that; just call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

Lifetime can help you obtain free, third-party counseling and connect you with a peer counselor too. A peer counselor is a woman who’s made an adoption plan already, so she knows where you’re at. By chatting with her, you can make an informed decision about adoption.

Call or text Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784 to learn more, so that you can decide if open adoption is right for you.

“I’m So Thankful for Open Adoption!”

"I am so thankful for open adoption!" shares one birth motherToday, Lifetime Adoption Agency is sharing one birth mother’s story. While every open adoption is different, it can help to hear from others who have been where you are now. Here’s one birth mother’s experience with coming to adoption:

“I was 16 years old when I became pregnant. Even at such a young age, I knew that there would be no way I could make parenting work. I didn’t even have my driver’s license yet! My baby’s father, Matt, and I knew we couldn’t give our beautiful baby everything she needed or wanted. Adoption was a hard decision for us to make, but we have all been blessed abundantly. Today, I feel like we have one of the best situations in open adoption history.

Hailey was born at 6:02 p.m. after an exceptionally smooth labor. She was loved and visited by my family and friends as well as Matt’s. The adoptive parents we chose, Kirk and Gwen, arrived later that night. As soon as they took their first look at her, I knew this was right. It was the hardest thing we’ve ever done, but I know it was the right decision.

I will always have a deep love for Matt, Hailey, and the adoptive parents, Kirk and Gwen. We are all so happy and very close. We talk a few times a month and meet up twice a year. I am so thankful for open adoption. I thank God every day that He showed me this option because it eases me to know that Hailey will know I love her, and she’ll know me as a person—as her birth mother.”

You can learn about making an open adoption plan for your baby by calling
Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

“Should I Give My Baby Up For Adoption?”

should I give my baby up for adoption?“I’m 35 weeks along and I’m thinking about adoption, but I’m really on the fence. My Mom raised my brother and I all by herself, and I saw how hard that was. I love babies but I’m not ready to be a mom, so I’m wondering if I should give my baby up for adoption. Do I need to decide right now, before my baby’s born? How do I decide? Help!”

We encourage you to take all the time you need to reflect on the pros and cons of both parenting and adoption. You don’t have to decide on adoption before your baby has been born. You can call Lifetime at any point during your pregnancy, or after you’ve delivered. We’ve even helped women create an adoption plan after they called us from the hospital, in labor.

Weighing the pros and cons of parenting and adoption will help you during your pregnancy, as well as after your baby is born. It helps you to clarify and communicate your decision-making process.

Here are 3 things that you can do if you’re unsure whether adoption is right for you:

Keep a Journal

Journaling is a really helpful tool that you can use to express your thoughts, feelings, and ideas about adoption on paper. Many birth parents have shared with us that reflecting back on their journey is therapeutic.

Speak to a Counselor

It’s important for you to talk about your fears as you’re deciding whether adoption is right for you and your baby. A counselor will provide a safe and nonjudgmental space for you to talk through your fears. Lifetime can connect you with an outside counselor at no charge to you.

Talk With A Birth Mother

Some women thinking about adoption find it helpful to connect with a birth mother who has made an adoption plan herself. Talking with others who are living with their choices can help shed light on the positives and challenges of adoption. Lifetime can connect you with a birth mother, through a phone call, email, or in person.

Lifetime Adoption Agency is available to you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. So just call us at 1-800-923-6784 whenever you have a question or a concern you need to talk through!

What Should I Do If My Girlfriend is Choosing Adoption?

What should I do? My girlfriend is choosing adoption...Here’s a common question we get here at Lifetime Adoption Agency: “My girlfriend is pregnant, and wants to adopt out our baby. What can I do if my girlfriend is choosing adoption?”

As the father of the baby, you have the right to get answers to your questions. You have the right to participate in making an adoption plan for your child.

So today, we’re sharing 4 of the adoption questions we get asked the most by birth fathers. If you don’t see your question here, please feel free to call Lifetime’s toll-free number and ask us: 1-800-923-6784.

  1. What is an open adoption?
  2. Can I select an adoptive family for my baby?
  3. What are my rights in making this decision?
  4. Will I have a financial responsibility to this child?

1. What is an open adoption?
Open adoption means that you and the baby’s mother have the right to choose an adoption plan that works for you. You can select an adoptive family, choose how much contact you would like to have before and after your baby is born, and choose how you would like your hospital experience to be. You have the right to have an ongoing, open relationship with your baby and the adoptive family.

2. Can I select an adoptive family for my baby?
Yes, absolutely. Lifetime believes that you know best in choosing the best family for your baby. We can show you adoptive parent profiles about families from all different parts of the country, and from many different backgrounds. You might want to start by looking at some families that want to adopt.

3. What are my rights in making this decision?
The laws regarding a father’s rights differ based on which state you live in. You do have the right to know about an adoption plan, and you have the right to participate in the adoption planning process. An adoption attorney can help you to understand the laws in your state.

4. Will I have a financial responsibility to this child?
If you choose to make an adoption plan, the adoptive family that you choose would be financially responsible for the baby. You will not be required to pay child support once your parental rights are legally terminated.

For additional information, please call Lifetime’s toll-free number: 1-800-923-6784.

“Open Adoption Was the Best Thing for My Son”

Birth mother Ashley shares why she chose open adoption

Birth mother Ashley shares her adoption story“When I discovered I was pregnant, I was terrified and confused. I was a freshman in college. My boyfriend and I talked about our options. He knows I am pro-life, so he didn’t even suggest abortion. We both agreed that adoption was the best decision. I called my parents from school to tell them this life-changing news. They were very supportive of my decision to adopt out my baby.

An old friend of mine told me about a couple that was looking to adopt. She gave me the number for Lifetime Adoption Agency and urged me to call. The woman I talked to at Lifetime was very friendly and helpful.

They sent me numerous profiles about prospective parents. I selected three, including the first couple I met through my friend and talked with them all. I had a good feeling about the first couple, but I wanted to be absolutely sure they were the right people to raise my child. After meeting the other couples, I knew that the first couple were the ones.

I had a lot of support from my family, friends, my Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime, and, of course, the adoptive parents. I never doubted that the best thing for my little one was to make an adoption plan for him.

The adoptive couple visited me often, and the wife was there in the delivery room along with my parents. As I kissed my son’s tiny, perfect cheek, I cried. But they were tears of joy at having completed someone’s family.

The adoptive parents and I talk on the phone, and they tell me how healthy and happy my son is. They send me pictures regularly, and I am secure in the knowledge that he is being brought up by beautiful people. I wrote my son a letter explaining why I chose adoption for him and telling him that if he wishes to see me, I would enjoy nothing more than to sit and talk with him when he is ready.

Making an adoption plan was the best thing I could’ve done for my son, given my situation. I like to tell people how beautiful open adoption is. My family and I have become good friends with the adoptive parents. I thank God for Lifetime and for open adoption.”

Thinking About Adoption When You Already Have Kids

I'm thinking about adoption...how do I tell my kids?!If you’re pregnant and already parenting, you’re not alone. Lifetime has helped many women who are already parenting, and thinking about adoption for the baby they’re pregnant with.

Maybe you’re struggling to make ends meet, or you’re in a rocky relationship. Whatever your situation is, Lifetime Adoption Agency is here to help you.

Questions From Your Children

One of your biggest concerns right now might be how you should explain this situation to your kids. We encourage you to be honest with your children. You might tell that the baby will live with another family but that their place in the home is not at risk.

If your child is still a toddler, they might not realize that anything significant is happening. If this is the case, explaining the situation too much would just confuse them. In these instances, the best choice may be to avoid talking about the baby unless they ask. If they do, simple answers will usually satisfy their curiosity.

What About What People Will Think?

Your co-workers, neighbors, and friends will probably want to talk about your soon-to-be-born baby. They might assume that your pregnancy was planned and you’re excited to expand your family. So, you might be worried about any negative reactions to your adoption plans.

No one answer is going to satisfy everyone. The best way for you to handle people’s reactions is to get confident in your decision and remember why you started thinking about adoption.

With open adoption, you’re able to stay in your child’s life if you want to. You have the right to choose how much contact you’d like after the adoption. Your child is going to live a great life with the adoptive couple. It can help to keep this in mind if you get backlash from people who don’t know a lot about adoption.

How to Get Support

Lifetime can connect you with counseling services and emotional support, at no charge to you. You can also chat with another woman who’s been in your shoes and chose adoption. Hearing their stories and advice can help give you the reassurance that you need right now. Family therapy can give older children in the home the opportunity to discuss their own emotions and feel more secure.

At Lifetime Adoption Agency, we’re here to answer your questions and help you find the resources you need!

Just give us a call at 1-800-923-6784.

Experienced Adoptive Parents in Missouri Excited to Adopt Again!

Andy and Christa were blessed to adopt their second son and look forward to growing their family through adoption again! As experienced adoptive parents, they have an open adoption with their son’s birth mother.

They say, “Open adoption has been wonderful and we are open to sharing letters, pictures, and visits with you too if you desire. We promise to provide for and give them every opportunity we can. We will always speak kindly of you and honor the adoption plan we create together. We will share our Christian faith and do our best to raise your child to be kind, loving, caring and compassionate!”

Andy and Christa recently recorded this heartfelt audio clip to introduce themselves and share more about what they have to offer your child. You can listen to it by clicking “play” below. Keep scrolling to learn more about this diverse couple who live in Missouri!

Experienced adoptive parents Andy and Christa

This Missouri couple has been married for nine years. Their lives are made up of dancing together, family prayer, frequent meals and Sunday lunches with extended family with lots of laughing! Andy and Christa’s home is constantly filled with friends and family BBQ-ing, Bible Studies, movie nights and more!

Andy works as a bi-vocational pastor at a new church in their city. He enjoys urban running, salsa dancing, and frequenting local coffee shops. Christa is a stay-at-home mom who enjoys baking, encouraging others to be healthy and fit via online support groups, taking the boys on local adventures and an occasional spa day. Their two sons, Josiah (6) and Timothy (4) are energetic, loving, sensitive and kind. Andy and Christa’s family live in an adorable 3 bedroom home. It’s across the street from the middle & high schools and within walking distance from all of Andy’s family.

You can find out more about experienced adoptive parents Andy and Christa by visiting their adoption website. You may also view all adoptive family profiles here on AdoptionAgencyFlorida.com. If you see an adoptive family that you’re interested in, please give us a call at 1-877-383-6847.

With Modern Adoption, You Make the Choices

A woman learning about modern adoption on her cell phoneAdoption today means that you make all the choices. And modern adoption gives you tons of choices! You can choose the adoptive parents for your baby, how much you want to get to know the parents you choose, and what happens at the hospital when you give birth. If you want, you can even keep in touch after the adoption happens. You can do this through phone calls, emails, texts, letters, social media, and visits. You have a say in every step!

We provide you with the trusted adoption help you need, the way you want it. Learning about adoption is easy, private, and convenient with Lifetime! Get answers to your questions, see waiting adoptive couples, and receive free resources! With Lifetime, you have a wide variety of adoptive families of all backgrounds to choose from, living all throughout the US.

Lifetime offers a FREE BOOK for women thinking about adoption. Just visit FreeAdoptionBook.com. And in our smartphone app, you can listen to stories from other mothers who chose adoption.

You can get peer support, counseling, and help with your needs or pregnancy-related expenses as you consider an adoption plan for your baby. While you learn about adoption, you will receive free services and full support, as well as during and after the adoption.

On the new site ModernAdoptionAgency.com, you can learn about adoption from the privacy of your phone or laptop. Chat on the website, or message (with a real person!) on our Facebook page or on Instagram.

You can confidentially and safely begin your adoption plan online, by email, or by mail. Just let us know what’s best for you!

Call or text a caring adoption expert ANYTIME at 1-800-923-6784.

How Do I Find Just the Right Parents for My Baby?

the right parents for my baby?If you’re thinking about adoption for your baby, we understand that you might be worried about finding the perfect adoptive family. Anyone who decides adoption is the right choice wants to make sure that their child has the best life. How can you make sure that your baby receives just that?

Lifetime has developed a process of supporting women as they search for the perfect families for their babies. When you contact us for the first time, you’ll get your own individual Adoption Coordinator. She’ll help you to make sure your adoption goes just the way you want it to. That includes deciding on the perfect adoptive family for your baby. At this point, you may already know the type of adoption profiles you’re interested in looking at. Your Adoption Coordinator will help you to narrow down your preferences more by asking you questions like:

Is the location of the adoptive couple important to you?

Do you picture your baby growing up in an urban setting, or have you always dreamed of living on a farm in the Midwest? As a nationwide, full-service adoption agency, Lifetime works with families across the US. This gives you lots of choices as you consider where your child will live.

Do you want your child to have brothers or sisters?

Some women wish to place their baby with a couple who can’t conceive. Others feel that it’s important for a child to grow up with siblings. So, they look only at adoptive families who already have kids.

Does it matter to you if your child looks like his or her adoptive parents?

Some women hope to choose an adoptive family who shares their own culture and ethnicity. Fortunately, Lifetime has hopeful adoptive families of many races and backgrounds.

What values are important to you?

Are you hoping for a couple whose religious beliefs match your own? Or maybe there other values that are important to you as well, like work ethic or political beliefs.

You can explore some of the adoption profiles of families we work with, by viewing our pages of waiting adoptive families.

Speak with an Adoption Coordinator confidentially and with no obligation, by calling 1-800-923-6784. Or, send us a message.

“Does putting my baby up for adoption make me a bad person?”

does putting my baby up for adoption make me a bad person?Question: “I’m like 99% sure that adoption’s going to be the best choice for my situation…but I’m worried what people will think. Does putting my baby up for adoption make me a bad person?”

Answer: Many women who are thinking about adoption struggle with this question. Unfortunately, lots of people are still clueless about adoption and how it works today. They may believe that a woman who places her baby is running away from their responsibilities or “taking the easy way out.”

But at Lifetime, we know it’s the exact opposite. Birth mothers are putting their child first and taking full responsibility for their child’s future.

Here’s how one birth mother puts it: “Plenty of people told me I was making a selfless and brave decision by putting my baby up for adoption. But honestly, I didn’t feel like that was true. I just thought out all my choices. Even though adoption was the best decision for my baby, it was also the best decision for me. I felt like I was selfish for wanting my old life back. I was ashamed that I couldn’t parent.

But, at the end of the day, the main reason I decided to put my son up for adoption was that I wanted him to have the best life possible. He deserved a life I couldn’t give him on my own. It wasn’t about me; it was about him!”

Birth mothers put their child’s needs before their wants and desires. It doesn’t get braver than that! They’re turning a difficult experience into something beautiful and full of love. And that is something to be proud of.