You’ve waited so long for this adoption to happen. You hope that you can bring joy, support, lots of love, and a life full of great experiences to a child. You started the adoption process with the knowledge that you just wanted a child to share life with, regardless of race.
In reality, adopting a child of another ethnicity isn’t as simple as that. It takes lots of education, awareness, and sensitivity.
Your child’s cultural awareness should be a priority in your lives, no matter if your child is a newborn or eight years old. Some find it uncomfortable to explain racial issues to a curious child. But, remember that your child won’t always be a child, and they’ll be judged, unfortunately, based on their race at some point in their lives. As the parent, you need to know this and make a conscious effort to talk about it in your household.
Make sure to bring your child’s culture into your home, their toys, and their lives. For example, buy your daughter dolls in her race, and tell her how beautiful those dolls are. It’s necessary to take your child to cultural events where they can learn about their heritage and read them about their culture.
As your child grows up, their awareness of their ethnicity will become clearer. As their parent, it’s your job to help them to acknowledge this. Help them to learn that their success shouldn’t be based on their race, but that it’s a factor in how they’re seen by others.
Isolating your child in an environment without any “color” could be damaging to their self-identity and growth. Since your family is multicultural, your child’s school and home life should reflect that. You can give your child a wonderful upbringing by teaching them how to connect with people of any race while still being proud of who they are!