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How to Prepare for Your First Meeting With the Adoptive Parents

Pregnant woman talking on the phone at a parkYou’ve put a lot of time and effort put into choosing the perfect family for your baby. You’ve read profile after profile until you finally found “the one.” It can be a big relief to have that part of your adoption planning behind you.
 
That is until you realize now it’s time to meet them. If the thought of meeting them has you feeling stressed, you’re not alone. The adoptive couple is very nervous too because they want to make a good first impression.
 
Your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime will help you get ready for that first meeting or phone call with an adoptive couple. She can also join the phone call, too, to help you begin the conversation and move it along.
 

Here are three helpful tips that’ll have you feeling more prepared for your first meeting with the adoptive couple:

Be Natural

Since you’ll need to create a connection with your baby’s potential adoptive parents, just be yourself. They’re just as nervous as you. The adoptive couple isn’t there to judge you, they want to get to know you and to show you that they’re dependable.
 
The more calm and open-minded you can be, the better. This will set a good tone as you get to know each other. You’re seeking a genuine connection because this will be a lifelong relationship.
 

Choose a Neutral Location

Try to meet in a neutral setting if possible, one where you’ll feel comfortable. You might choose to meet in a spot such as your favorite restaurant or shop. We recommend that you don’t meet up in the adoptive couple’s home or your home because it can create pressure. If you don’t live close enough to the adoptive couple to meet, we recommend talking on the phone for your first meeting.
 
If it’s hard to break the ice or the conversation goes off course, a public setting will give you more to talk about. Small talk can help make everyone comfortable and lead to a more meaningful discussion.
 

Ask Questions

You’re in charge of this meeting, so feel free to ask as many questions as you want. After looking at their profile, you can try to get a better feel for who they are and what they have to offer. Use the information in their profile to dig a little deeper. When you’re getting ready for the meeting, we recommend writing down the questions you’d like to ask. Then, you can add more questions as you think of them.
 
The most important thing to remember as you prepare for this first meeting is that it’s up to you. If you don’t feel comfortable with the adoptive couple, you don’t have to choose them. Adoption isn’t easy, and the hardest part can be making sure you’re choosing the right adoptive family for your baby. So, don’t stress, take your time, and remember that you are in control.
 

Questions about adoptive couples, or about adoption in general?

Call or text Lifetime Adoption Agency at 1-800-923-6784 anytime of the day or night!

Adopting a Baby in Today’s World

Webinar to learn about adopting a baby in today's worldWhat have you heard about how domestic adoption works nowadays? It’s easy to get caught up in the opinions and comments of others who think they know what adopting a baby is like or how it should go.
 
The truth is, adoption has changed a lot, even from just five years ago. It’s important to know what adopting a baby in the U.S. is like TODAY.
 
Lifetime just held a Q&A webinar about domestic adoption in today’s world! You can listen to “A Lifetime Q&A: Adopting a Baby | Domestic Adoption in Today’s World” here. Most people who want to adopt a baby aren’t totally clear on the process when they decide to pursue adoption. That’s where we come in!
 
Click to listen to this adoption webinar!We’re excited to present this new webinar, to help you cut through the stereotypes and hear-say. Get the info you need to know to adopt the baby you’re praying for.
 
If you’ve been thinking about starting the process to adopt a baby born in the US, then you’ll want to listen to this webinar all about domestic adoption!
 
In Lifetime’s Q&A webinar, we took questions from people considering domestic adoption, just like you. We covered topics from adoption basics, like getting started and what open adoption really looks like today, to beyond-the-basics, such as when (and how!) to tell your child about adoption, embracing adoption after going through infertility, and the best tips for ensuring a safe and successful adoption process.
 

A Lifetime Q&A Webinar: Adopting a Baby in Today’s World

 
When you subscribe to Lifetime’s Adoption Webinars, we’ll email you to let you know once our next webinar is scheduled. Sign up for the opportunity to ask our adoption experts your questions. We love to take questions from our audience of future adoptive parents, just like you!

Access this Free Webinar & Learn How to Get Started With Adoption

This free webinar will teach you how to get started with adoption!What do you need help with to get started with adoption? What obstacles are in your way towards achieving your dreams of adopting? Maybe deep inside you answered:

  • “I need clarity about the adoption process in general.”
  • “I wonder if open adoption would ever let us feel like ‘mom and dad.'”
  • “We need to know how to cover adoption costs.”
  • “My spouse is on board, but I’m just not there yet myself.”
  • “There’s so much going on right now. Hopefully soon we’ll have time to go over all of this, or take the next step.”
  • “We’re totally ready to adopt, but aren’t sure who we want to help us do it.”
  • “We’re still trying to conceive.” OR “We just miscarried again and need time to heal.”
  • “Honestly, we’re just so overwhelmed about what we want to do.”
  • “I just need to know what the next step is so that I can get this going!”

Maybe you can relate to one of those thoughts or have a totally different answer in mind. This free adoption webinar is a great place to start sorting through everything. The key with adoption is not to let the process or questions hold you back. The only way you’ll find out what you want to do next is to keep learning more!
 
If adoption is on your heart right now, then you’ll want to access this free webinar to get the answers you’ll need as someone who hopes to adopt.
 
Our adoption webinar, “Q&A: Adoption Basics & Getting Started,” is a great place to learn the basics, if you’re new to adoption, or to expand your understanding, if you’re already familiar with adoption 101 topics.
 
The key is not to let the process or questions hold you back from a calling on your heart to add a child to your family through adoption. This webinar will help you get the answers you need to make the right decision for your family’s future:
 

Q&A: Adoption Basics & Getting Started

7 of the Most Frequently Asked Questions About Open Adoption

Lifetime couple Chaun and Bobby with their open adoption blessing

Lifetime couple Chaun and Bobby admire their adoption blessing

Open adoption is very common nowadays, with most birth parents and adoptive couples hoping for some form of openness. Many adoptive families living with an open adoption relationship get questions from people unfamiliar with the concept. They get asked questions such as, “how does open adoption work?”

Lifetime is providing you with answers to 7 of the most frequently-asked questions you might get about your relationship with your child’s birth parents!

1. “What is open adoption?”

In an open adoption, there’s some amount of interaction between the birth family and the adoptive family. They might communicate with each other through social media, emails, and photos. Other adoptive families have visits with their child’s birth mother once or twice a year. Typically in open adoption, there’s no go-between (like an agency, attorney, or social worker) and the families communicate directly. The amount of contact is something that the adoptive family and birth family mutually agree upon.

2. “Aren’t you worried that she’ll come back and get her child?”

Once the adoption is legally final, the adoptive parents are the child’s legal parents. Once the birth parents sign the paperwork consenting to the adoption and their revocation period is over, the adoption is permanent.

3. “Does your child know their birth parents?”

In today’s adoptions, adoptive parents talk about adoption with their child from the beginning. This is done so that the child doesn’t grow up wondering about their birth family and where they came from.

4. “Isn’t it heartbreaking for your child’s birth mother to see him with you?”

Although open adoption visits are definitely emotional, most birth mothers have told Lifetime that they make her feel positive about the decision she made. Emails, photos, visits, and other forms of contact let the birth mother see her child is growing up happy and loved. So rather than feeling regretful, she feels validated.

5. “How many years do you have to stay in touch with the birth parents?”

The answer depends on the open adoption arrangement made between the adoptive parents and the birth family. Lifetime has worked with birth mothers who need to have lots of contact for the first few years after placement, but not as much after that. Of course, the opposite can also be true; it just depends on the birth mother and her needs.

6. “Isn’t open adoption confusing for your child?”

Adoption experts have found that open adoption reduces the amount of confusion for adoptees. In an open adoption, a child knows his or her birth family and the circumstances of his or her birth. Plus, adoptees in open adoption know that they’re loved by two families: their birth family and their adoptive family. So really, the truth of their adoption isn’t confusing, it’s liberating.

7. “Do you wish you had a closed adoption?”

Adoption isn’t about the adoptive parents only; it’s about all involved. Everything in open adoption is done in the best interest of the child, making them the most important person. The reason why birth parents choose to place their baby is because of their child; to provide them the best life that they can. Although they can’t parent, they chose adoption out of love for their child.

At the end of the day, it’s the adopted child who sees the most benefits from an open adoption. Because of open adoption, they’ll never have to question or doubt that they’re loved by their birth family.

Discover how Lifetime Adoption Agency can help you realize your adoption dreams! There is no obligation in filling out our application.

It’s completely free to complete our online application! Click here to apply to adopt.

Join Us Next Week for Silas and Dawn’s Adoption Story!

Adoption stories are some of the greatest, and most encouraging, resources for anyone hoping to adopt. The testimonies from people who have recently walked through the process to adopt provide helpful answers and tips. Adoption seems less complicated and overwhelming when you can hear from others who were once where you are today.

Hear Silas and Dawn's adoption storyJoin us for Silas and Dawn’s adoption story next Tuesday! You can sign up for this webinar using this link. We’re starting the New Year off with a sweet reminder that it only takes one birth mother to start a story that looks meant to be in hindsight.

The webinar will be held on Tuesday, January 23rd, at:
3:00 pm Pacific Time
4:00 pm Mountain Time
5:00 pm Central Time
6:00 pm Eastern Time

To secure your spot in next Tuesday’s webinar, just click on the following link: Register.GoToWebinar.com.

You can watch this adoption webinar online, over the phone, or by using the GoToWebinar app on your cell phone.

After you sign up for the webinar, we’ll email you instructions on how you can join in live. You’ll benefit from Silas and Dawn’s adoption story, no matter what stage you’re at in your adoption journey!

How to Get Closer to Your Resolution of Adopting a Baby in 2018

discover how you can adopt a baby in 2018!Every new year brings new potential and hope for the future. It also comes with the chance to commit to a New Year’s resolution. Do you hope to adopt a baby in 2018?

Starting your family through adoption is a resolution that’s not set to please other people or to gain attention. Becoming a parent through adoption is a life-changing event which will mark the start of a fresh chapter in your family.

Here are 5 ways to come closer to your resolution of adopting a baby in 2018!

1. Hear From Couples Who’ve Had Adoption Success
Your best resource to learn all you can about adoption is from a couple who’s adopted recently. Seek out the stories of experienced adoptive parents, and establish a conversation with them if you can. You might ask them for their advice, and about their adoption journey. After all, the more adoption stories you hear, the more viewpoints you’ll have to learn from. Follow adoption blogs, sign up for email newsletters, and join up with other couples also at the start of the adoption journey.

2. Continue Learning
Learn as much as you can about subjects like domestic adoption, open adoption, and modern adoption. There are a wealth of wonderful articles, books, and blogs out there. Check out the adoption stories featured on our “Recent Adoptions & Matches” page, which gets updated each day. You’ll also want to watch adoption webinars, available online for free at AdoptionWebinar.com.

3. Start to Finance Your Adoption
You don’t want to be scrambling for funds when the opportunity to adopt comes up. So, start getting all of your finances in order now by meeting with a financial planner. They can help you create a budget and get your finances straight. Look into adoption loans, grants, and fundraising, too.

4. Make Time for Adoption Each Week
Since most of us are very busy, we suggest that you set aside time each week to devote to learning more about adoption. By scheduling this time, you’re able to plan around things like appointments and work obligations.

5. Begin Your Adoption Profile
Even if you haven’t signed on with an adoption professional, you’re able to start working on your adoption profile. Consider taking quick photos of your day-to-day activities and favorite hobbies. And start considering what birth mothers will want to know about you: where you live, how long you’ve been married, what your jobs are, and why you’re hoping to adopt.

Watch this Webinar to Understand the Adoption Tax Credit

tune in to this webinar and learn about the Adoption Tax CreditWhether you’re just starting to think about adoption, actively waiting to adopt, or if you’ve just recently welcomed your baby home, it’s important to understand how the Adoption Tax Credit can help your family!

Lifetime recently hosted an exclusive webinar on what adoptive families need to know about the Adoption Tax Credit. In the webinar, we covered lots of questions about this tax credit, like “What’s the difference between a tax credit and a refund?,” “How will the Adoption Tax Credit be helpful for our adoption?” and “What kind of adoption expenses can be claimed and what records are needed when we file?”

This is a great webinar to start better understanding the Adoption Tax Credit and how it will apply for your family. Please note that we do not present this material to you as tax professionals, but rather to help you gather knowledge, questions, and other items so that a tax professional can best assist you with your personal tax and adoption circumstances. It’s highly recommended that you consult a qualified tax preparer for specific answers about how the Adoption Tax Credit will apply in your unique adoption story.

Are you wondering if this webinar will help you? Here are the audiences we aim to assist in this webinar:

  • People just starting to think about adopting a child
  • Hopeful adoptive parents actively waiting to adopt
  • Future adoptive parents currently matched with a mother
  • Parents who have recently welcomed a new baby home through adoption
  • Parents who have recently finalized their baby’s adoption

Tune in as we tell you all you need to know (and more!) about the Adoption Tax Credit!

You can watch “Lifetime’s Webinar: Understanding the Adoption Tax Credit” right now, at AdoptionWebinar.com.

To watch this webinar, you’ll need to subscribe to AdoptionWebinar.com. Subscribing is free, and it’ll give you access to watch any of our numerous webinar recordings. You’ll also be emailed info, dates, and times about our future webinars! You can subscribe using this link.

6 YouTube Channels for Women Thinking About Adoption

watching videos of birth mothers sharing their storiesWhen you’re thinking about adoption for your child, you’ll probably deal with a wide range of emotions. And, you’ll probably have lots of questions about what type of adoption is best for you. Know that Lifetime is just a phone call or text message away to answer your questions. You can reach us anytime, at
1-800-923-6784.

But, we realize too that sometimes you’re not ready to talk or text. When it comes to adoption, Youtube can be a great source of info. These 6 YouTube channels can give you encouragement, support, and info on what to expect as you go through the adoption process:

1. BraveLove hopes to change the way people think about adoption by producing honest and informative videos of birth mothers sharing their stories. Hear firsthand from women who chose a loving, eager adoptive family for their children.

2. Melissa Link: She’s a filmmaker and birth mother who created a documentary on her experience of placing her child for adoption. She shares about learning of her pregnancy, telling her family, and deciding on adoption. Her documentary has helped many birth mothers confirm that their adoption decision was the right one.

3. Beauty Amidst the Ashes: This channel’s goal is to educate people about adoption. They have tons of videos of birth mothers telling how their adoption process went and sharing their stories. These birth mothers come from many different backgrounds and situations and hope that their personal stories can encourage and support women thinking about adoption.

4. Lifetime: Our YouTube channel covers open adoption from every side, including yours. We have videos covering the adoption process from beginning to end, which can help answer any of your questions about the process. Make sure to check out the adoption videos that hopeful adoptive couples have made, too. Watching them is a great way to learn more about potential parents for your baby.

5. Mrs. Marshelle: She’s actually an adoptive mother, but she has some videos that’ll give you a peek into how an open adoption works in the real world. These videos feature her and her children visiting with their birth mothers.

6. Binti: This channel has interviews of birth mothers, which is great because you can learn from their experiences. Plus, you can learn about options you have with modern adoption that you maybe didn’t know existed! The birth mothers in Binti’s videos answer questions about a wide range of topics, from contact with the adoptive family to how involved the birth father is.

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is here to help you as you decide whether adoption’s the best choice for you.

Call or text us whenever you have questions or are ready to learn more: 1-800-923-6784.

“How do I know my baby is going into a good home?”

get Lifetime's answer to the question '"How do I know my baby is going into a good home?'Question: “Right now, I’m 30 weeks pregnant, and I’m looking at adoptive families on your site. They all look friendly, and I like what they write, but how do I know my baby is going into a good home? How do I know the parents are good people?”

Answer: Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is fully licensed and we do an in-depth screening of each of our adoptive families. That’s how we know that they’re financially secure and stable couples in a solid marriage. They’ve passed criminal background checks, have proven their income via tax records and payroll stubs, and have been declared healthy by doctor physicals.

Couples hoping to adopt also have to be asked lots of questions from a social worker, who visits their home to make sure it’s ready for a baby and to interview them. We do all of this so that you can be rest assured that the adoptive couples you see on our site are approved, screened, and questioned. They also attend adoption courses, so that they understand your need for future communication in what’s known as an “open adoption.”

Are You Ready to Grow Your Family Through Adoption?

Is it time to grow your family through adoption?Have you been thinking about welcoming a second (or third) child into your home? For many, adoption is one of the biggest and most rewarding decisions of their lives. If you’re already a parent and would like to grow your family through adoption, there are questions to ask yourselves and factors to weigh in. Keep scrolling to discover how you can realize your dream and grow your family through adoption!

Here are some questions and concerns to keep in mind as you contemplate domestic infant adoption:

  • How will adoption affect our lives?
    Think about the areas of your lives that would be affected by a new addition. Factors to consider include time, finances, housing, scheduled commitments, and values.
  • Why do we want to adopt another child?
    There are lots of reasons why people want to parent again; some valid and some a bit questionable. Is it because you have a strong wish to parent another child? Maybe you have experience with parenting and feel confident about it. Does it feel as if there’s a missing piece in your family “puzzle”? These are all examples of good reasons to expand your family through adoption.

    However, you may wish to stop and think a little more if you want to adopt because your child wants a sibling, you want to make a difference to a “child in need,” or you believe that another child will fix your marriage.

We hope the questions and concerns we shared here are helpful as you think about whether or not to grow your family through adoption. Another child will definitely change your current family dynamic, so it’s wonderful you’re pondering your reasons for adopting.

As you think about this decision, we encourage you to seek out adoption books, blogs, and professionals that may be helpful. Recognize that the decision to adopt is ultimately a personal one. Take as much time as you need to make the best choice for you, your spouse, and your current child(ren).

Once you’re ready to start your adoption journey, you can message us or call us at 1-800-923-6784. We’ll help you begin the path towards domestic infant adoption!