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8 Ways to Be Positive During the Adoption Wait

During the adoption wait a couple walks their dogAre you having a difficult time during the adoption wait? Maintaining a positive attitude makes even the most challenging times easier to experience. Being positive doesn’t mean pretending that you have a perfect life, but rather about seeing the good in life and shifting how you perceive this time.
 
Research has shown that positive thinking can lead to success. Being positive isn’t a switch that can be turned on: like any skill it requires practice. Maintaining a positive attitude is crucial if you want to adopt.
 

Here are 8 ways you can boost your positivity:

 

  1. Think good thoughts. Negative thoughts can happen when you’re waiting to be chosen by a birth mother. When you experience one, take a moment to catch yourself. Identify the problem or emotion you’re feeling, then counter it with a positive thought.
  2. Be grateful. Spend time each day reminding yourself of everything good in your life. Write them down or share them with a loved one. For accountability, you might try doing a “30 Day Gratitude Challenge” with your spouse.
  3. Smile! Research has shown that smiles are contagious. Smile at a stranger, a co-worker, or a friend. They’ll smile back, leaving you both feeling more positive.
  4. Stay active. Exercise makes you feel better physically and mentally. Several times a week go for a walk, work on a project around the house, hit the gym, or play your favorite sport.
  5. Set goals. Having a goal can make you feel more hopeful and confident and give you something to strive for. Make your goal realistic and specific, and use positive words when writing or talking about it. For example, you might set a goal to have your adoption video recorded and edited within two weeks or to submit your home study paperwork within a week.
  6. Keep good company. The people you spend time with have a direct impact on how you feel. Seek out people who believe in you and your adoption dream. Spend time with family members, friends, co-workers, or acquaintances who think positive and inspire and motivate you to achieve your goals.
  7. Do things you love. Make time in your day to do something that makes you happy. Listen to music, read a book, catch up with a friend, or step outside and enjoy nature.
  8. Write in a journal. Jot down all the positive things that happen to you each day. Your journal entries can be just a few words or sentences. Pick a day each month to read through your journal and relive your positive experiences.

Why Did They Adopt, But Not Us?

Why did they adopt, but not us?There are many sides to the adoption journey when you’re eagerly waiting to be chosen by a birth mother. Many adoptive couples go through the process joyfully, trying to be as patient and proactive as possible. Others struggle with feelings of jealousy and frustration, asking themselves, “Why did they adopt, but not us?”
 
During the wait, most adoptive families may wonder things like:
 
Why did that couple get chosen by a birth mother and not us?

Why is this taking so long?

Why are they taking new adoptive families when we’re still waiting?

We would have happily adopted that baby. Why didn’t they offer the adoption to us?

Thoughts like these might make you doubt your adoption professional and your adoption plans. They can even make you question what you have to offer a child. It’s what you do with these thoughts that’ll affect your peace of mind, while you’re in the adoption wait. Today, we’re going to elaborate on each common question to find the truth:
 

Why did that couple get chosen by a birth mother and not us?

In modern adoption, birth mothers choose adoptive families for a variety of reasons. Lifetime has worked with birth moms who chose the couple they did because they looked kind, familiar, or fun. Other women have chosen their baby’s adoptive family based on where they live, their hobbies, and even their pets. There isn’t one predictable reason a birth mother may prefer one family over another. However, the truth is that she can only pick ONE adoptive family for her baby. This makes her decision difficult when she learns about so many wonderful couples who’d make loving parents for her child.
 

Why is this taking so long?

If adoption was easy or fast, more people would pursue it. It’s hard to predict exactly how long your adoption wait will be. At our agency, every adoption depends on a birth mother’s choice. So in order to maximize your exposure to women thinking about adoption, it’s very important to follow your adoption professional’s recommendations.
 
Similarly, it’s crucial to keep your adoption preferences as open as you are comfortable. Each time your profile is shown to a birth mother is another opportunity to be picked. The truth is that there are reasons why some couples wait longer than others, such as procrastinating on getting their adoption profile or home study completed or passing up opportunities within their preferences. For couples who have been proactive from the start, the truth is it’s just a matter of time.
 
Birth mother considering adoption

Why are they taking new adoptive families when we’re still waiting?

Many assume that an agency should avoid welcoming new clients until their current ones have adopted. This reasoning behind this argument is that with fewer couples to choose from, the longer-waiting ones are more likely to get chosen. But, the argument ignores the fact that couples ARE completing adoptions each month, and there continues to be a need for adoptive families who are open to a variety of situations.
 
The truth is that birth mothers are less inclined to consider adoption when she doesn’t see any adoptive families that interest her. She might look for an adoptive family at another agency, or even give up on adoption altogether. When she really has a choice in who adopts her baby, a birth mother is more likely to feel confident in moving forward with an adoption match when she’s ready.
 

We would have happily adopted that baby. Why didn’t they offer the adoption to us?

Many factors come into play when an agency picks a family for a baby, including the birth mother’s preferences. Even if she wants the agency to pick the adoptive family, a birth mother may still have requests. Also, the agency must carefully consider the adoptive family’s readiness, preferences, and budget.
 
Lifetime’s Adoption Coordinators are thorough when they help adoptive parents and birth mothers connect. The truth is that because of confidentiality you don’t know every detail that went into an adoption match. It’s impossible to know what happened “behind the scenes.”
 

Remain Positive & Hopeful

Most adoptive families will tell you, that looking back now, perspective is everything when you’re in the adoption wait. When questions like these pop up in your mind, focus on the truth rather than fears or frustrations. This will help you remain positive and hopeful. The best way to fight feelings of discouragement or jealousy is to celebrate the adoptions of other adoptive parents and to focus on what IS happening as you wait. If you find the adoption journey pressing on your insecurities, reflect and then take action to tackle them during your wait. Not every step of your adoption path will be a milestone, but all are a necessary part of leading you to the child you long to add to your family.

“Open Adoption is Amazing! We’re Thankful to Be a Part of It!”

Brynlee's parents exclaim, "Open adoption is amazing!"

Here at our adoption agency in Florida, we love to share updates from our adoptive couples who are experiencing the joys of open adoption! Today, we’re sharing a sweet open adoption update from Jesse and Alicia, a young adoptive couple living in Colorado. Earlier this year, we wrote about their thankfulness to God for writing their beautiful adoption story. And last summer, we blogged to congratulate them on their adoption!

A year ago, Jesse and Alicia wrote, “We’re so thankful to have found Lifetime. You all have been there every step of the way. Struggling with infertility for so long leaves you vulnerable and it is difficult to imagine that you may never become a parent. God led us to Lifetime because He knew this perfect little girl would be waiting for us and that everyone at Lifetime would be here every step of the way! Every phone call, every webinar, and every prayer helped us become stronger and prepared us for parenthood.”

Here’s the most recent update from Jesse and Alicia, who created their family through a Lifetime open adoption:

Brynlee having fun in Disneyland“We have been reflecting on our journey a lot lately. On Mother’s Day I couldn’t think of anything I would rather do than to spend time with the woman who made me a mom! We met with Brynlee’s birth parents and visited the aquarium downtown! I love that we are in the same state because we can visit each other often. Brynlee loved seeing the fish and she soaked up all the hugs and play time.

Watching them interact was such an amazing feeling. It showed us again, just how amazing open adoption really is and how thankful we are to be a part of it.

After struggling with infertility for so long and hiding from this day every year, it was nice to have someone to celebrate it with and I feel like it was part of my healing process.

Jesse, Brynlee, and Alicia in Disneyland with Minnie MouseWhen we were saying our, ‘see you later,’ they gave me flowers and I just about lost it! I was amazed at how strong and selfless this gesture was. I was so honored! I think about them and pray for them every single day! I pray they are safe and that they are content with the decision they made and this gave me the reassurance I have been needing. They are doing well and they know their daughter is cared for and loved so much!

Can you believe Brynlee is 1 year old!?? Time is flying incredibly fast and we are enjoying every second! We are learning so much as she is blossoming into a beautiful, independent toddler. I take full advantage of when she wants to sit on my lap or be held to fall asleep. We celebrated Brynlee turning 1 by having a birthday party with family and friends. We also took her to Disneyland and spent some time on the beach, she LOVES being in the water.

We are eternally grateful for being chosen to raise Brynlee and for all the amazing people we have met along the way.”

If you’re ready to see how Lifetime’s Adoption Agency could help build your family, please apply today! You can click here to take the first step towards becoming a Lifetime family.

“Thank you for helping us on the journey to parenthood. We love Lifetime!”

Chris and Carrie adopted their son through the Lifetime adoption agency

Lifetime’s adoption agency in Florida loves it when we get to share updates from our adoptive couples who have experienced the joy of infant adoption! Today, we’re sharing a sweet updated from Chris and Carrie, a young adoptive couple living in Kentucky. Earlier this year, we wrote about their exciting news of being blessed to adopt a baby boy!

Back in January, Chris and Carrie shared with us: “The whole process was just absolutely amazing! Colton’s birth parents are angels. They allowed us to be present for the entire process. We were in the room for his birth and the four of us spent an hour and a half together before we went to separate rooms. Colton’s birth mother was able to hold him as well!”

Here’s the most recent email from Chris and Carrie, who created their family with the help of the Lifetime adoption agency:

Chris and Carrie's son, ColtonHi Tiffany,

Here are some photos of us and sweet Colton. We are beyond grateful that we get to raise Colton. He is the most amazing gift! We are so thankful for his birth parents, we love them dearly.

Colton is almost five months, he loves to coo, smile, suck on his hands and laugh. We are trying to enjoy every moment with him.

We just finished our last post placement visit and hope to finalize within the next month. Words cannot accurately express the joy and life he has brought to our family. Thank you for helping us along this journey to parenthood, we love Lifetime!

And check out this short video about their experience with the Lifetime adoption agency!

If you’d like to read more adoption stories like this one, please visit our “Recent Adoptions & Matches” page. Our adoption staff updates this page all the time, so you’ll want to keep visiting the page to see new baby photos and stories!

If you’re ready to see how Lifetime’s Adoption Agency could help build your family, please apply today! You can click here to take the first step towards becoming a Lifetime family.

Your Florida Adoption Agency Was There Every Step of the Way!

Lifetime’s adoption agency in Florida loves it when we get to share updates from our adoptive couples who have been blessed by infant adoption! Today, we’re sharing a sweet one from Joe and Megan, a young adoptive couple living in New Jersey. In their adoption video, they shared: “We cannot wait to welcome this baby into our family and cherish them forever!”

Here’s a heartwarming email from Joe and Megan, another adoptive couple who built their family with the help of our Florida adoption agency!

Joe and Megan adopted through our Florida adoption agency!

“From the beginning, I felt at ease with Lifetime. Our journey started with Kim, who was so knowledgeable and made us feel so welcomed. We then spoke with Linda and Natalie and we knew we had met the perfect team. All our questions and concerns were answered in a timely manner.

Natalie was always able to make me feel better on days I never thought this would happen. And then we got *the call* from Chrissy and our lives changed in the greatest way! Also, I cannot forget Tiffany, who stepped in during an important time in our match process.

We can never thank Lifetime enough for bringing us such great joy. You all are amazing and we are beyond thankful for all the work you do. Thank you for being there every step of the way!”

Want to read more touching adoption stories like this one? Just visit our “Recent Adoptions & Matches” page. We add to this page every week, so keep visiting to see cute baby photos and stories!

If you’re ready to see how Lifetime’s Florida Adoption Agency could help build your family, please apply today! You can click here to take the first step towards becoming a Lifetime family.

We Love Lifetime With All Our Hearts…Thank You!

Lifetime’s adoption agency in Florida loves it when we get to share updates from our adoptive couples who have been blessed by infant adoption! Today, we’re sharing a sweet one from Luke and Lindsay, a young adoptive couple living in Illinois. They adopted their son, Lincoln, through Lifetime last year. Last May they emailed us, “We truly can’t believe he’s here…it still feels like a dream! So thankful to you all at Lifetime and to God for this journey!”

Here’s a recent email Luke and Lindsay, another adoptive couple who’s expanded their family with the help of our Florida adoption agency!

Luke and Lindsay rave about Lifetime

Hello! It’s hard to believe Lincoln is already a year old. I wanted to send an email thanking you all again for all the support, love, encouragement and clarity in the chaos happening this time last year!

Lincoln and his proud big sister HannahThe year has just flown by…we still can’t believe how much this little boy has overcome and accomplished. He is into everything, loves to belly laugh, and is best friends with Hannah. The first thing they do when waking up is to find each other and share hugs in the morning. She refers to him as her “little buddy Win-con.”

We never imagined how beautiful our story would unfold. We tried so many years to have children…never in a million years did we see being blessed with two amazing babies in 3 years. God is so good!

We also exchange such sweet text messages with Lincoln’s birth mom. We text around holidays and send her photos every other month or two. Its been such a sweet connection, being able to share his accomplishments and adorable smiles.

We love Lifetime with all our hearts…thank you again!

Forever grateful,
Luke and Lindsay

Want to read more touching adoption stories like this one? Just visit our “Recent Adoptions & Matches” page. We add to this page every week, so keep visiting to see cute baby photos and stories!

If you’re ready to see how Lifetime’s Florida Adoption Agency could help build your family, please apply today! You can click here to take the first step towards becoming a Lifetime family.

Check Out This Review of Our Adoption Agency in Florida!

Lifetime’s adoption agency in Florida loves to share reviews from our adoptive couples! Today, we’re sharing a sweet comment from Brandon and Terra, a Wisconsin couple who are still in their adoption wait. Just last month, we wrote about their short and sweet adoption video, which they created to share how excited they are to adopt a baby.

Terra recently emailed her Adoption Coordinator, Natalie:

“Hi! We wanted to write and say how thankful we are for Lifetime. We were on a flight yesterday speaking to a couple that recently adopted and it was not a pleasant experience. That truly hurt my heart as this should be a happy time. The agency they used did not provide half of what we get with Lifetime, especially the webinars.

When we were talking about our experience thus far, the couple was blown away by the above and beyond service you all provide your families. I felt it was only fair to share. We are thankful every day that God brought us to you all!”

If you’re ready to see how Lifetime’s Florida Adoption Agency could help build your family, please apply today! You can click here to take the first step towards becoming a Lifetime family.

Another Forever Family, Made Possible By This Florida Adoption Agency!

Lifetime’s adoption agency in Florida loves it when we get to share updates from our adoptive couples who have been blessed by infant adoption! Today, we’re sharing a sweet one from Clayton and Sarah, a young adoptive couple living in Indiana. Last Fall, they shared with us how ready and excited they were to adopt a baby of any race. Here’s a heartwarming email Clayton and Sarah, another adoptive couple who built their family with the help of our Florida adoption agency!

Clayton and Sarah adopted through our Florida adoption agency!

“Just wanted to check in to let you know that yesterday WE FINALIZED!!! Such a huge and special day for our family! Both sets of grandparents traveled to be with us and to *officially* welcome Aubrey into our family forever (even though in our hearts it was already done!).

Aubrey is now a week away from three months old and is doing great! She loves being held and worn in a wrap (best invention for adoptive mamas in my opinion!). She recently started to recognize my and Clayton’s faces and began smiling when we talk to her or make funny faces which is the cutest thing on earth.

We love her so much and are so thankful for the entire staff at Lifetime! So grateful for the education we received from you all about open adoption. We frequently text with Aubrey’s birthmom and have an added level of peace knowing she is doing well and is still glad that she chose adoption.

We had a great experience working with you and will definitely refer all future couples we know who are thinking about adoption to Lifetime!”

Want to read more touching adoption stories like this one? Just visit our “Recent Adoptions & Matches” page. We add to this page every week, so keep visiting to see cute baby photos and stories!

If you’re ready to see how Lifetime’s Florida Adoption Agency could help build your family, please apply today! You can click here to take the first step towards becoming a Lifetime family.

Hear an Adoption Story That Was Meant-to-Be

Hear Silas and Dawn's adoption storyIf you’re waiting to adopt, you might find that you go through seasons of discouragement, and wonder if you’re still on the right track with your adoption. But ask any experienced adoptive parent and they’ll share that once they adopted, it just seems meant to be. The timing, the baby, the events that brought their adoption together…all of it meant to be.
 
Silas and Dawn, a Lifetime adoptive couple, are no exception. They had to pinch themselves that their calling to adopt was leading them to their baby boy, even up until the moment they were traveling to meet him. Silas and Dawn’s anxiety was for nothing since each detail of their son’s adoption story keeps showing them it was meant to be!

This adoptive couple just appeared on a Lifetime webinar and shared the story of how they became a family of five through adoption. Silas and Dawn’s adoption webinar also included an encouraging perspective through the wait, adoption travel tips, how to use social media when a birth mother wants a limited connection, and info about their experience with Lifetime. Silas and Dawn’s story will touch anyone hoping to adopt!

You can watch the webinar replay of Silas and Dawn’s meant-to-be open adoption story online today! Just visit AdoptionWebinar.com to watch “Meant to Be: Silas and Dawn’s Adoption Story.”

Here at Lifetime, we get to see a lot of “meant-to-be” adoption experiences like Silas and Dawn’s! While you’re waiting to be chosen by a birth mother, it can help to hear from others who recently walked where you are today.

Please call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784 if we can help you or someone you care about get started on the path towards adoption.

“God Has Written Us a Beautiful Adoption Story!”

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida loves to share updates from our adoptive couples who have been blessed by infant adoption! Here’s a heartwarming one from Colorado adoptive couple Jesse and Alicia:

What a sweet update on baby Brynlee!“Hi Natalie!

I hope you and everyone at Lifetime are doing well. Now that we are winding down from the very busy holiday season, I wanted to take a few minutes to update you on how we are doing! Brynlee is seven months old, can you believe it!? She is crawling now and keeping us very busy! Watching her learn and grow is such a joy! I feel like it wasn’t long ago that I was emailing and calling you to get suggestions from you on how we could improve our profile. What a beautiful story God has written for us! Thank you for being a part of it!

Adoptive couple Jesse and Alicia with their daughter BrynleeThanksgiving was such a special day for us. Looking over at Brynlee in her high chair at the dinner table was such a dream come true. We have so much to be thankful for, every day is Thanksgiving in our home!

Our Christmas was amazing! Brynlee’s birth parents planned a special dinner so we were able to spend time with them and meet their families. We are extremely grateful for the relationship we have with Brynlee’s birth parents. This was the start of a new Christmas tradition that we hope to continue for many years to come!

On December 28th, we finalized our adoption! As our family filled the courtroom, I couldn’t help but feel so overwhelmed with emotions. There were countless nights of hoping, praying and longing to be parents and now that we are, I just couldn’t imagine our lives without her!”

To see more photos and adoption stories, visit our “Recent Adoptions & Matches” page!
Are you hoping to adopt a baby? Call us at 1-877-383-6847 or email us to learn the steps needed to get started with a domestic infant adoption.