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“Can I Stop Her From Putting Our Baby Up for Adoption?”

A couple argues at the subway Question: “My girlfriend is pregnant and is thinking about adopting out our baby. I think she’s crazy for even considering it and I’m totally against adoption. It’s my baby too. Do I have any control over this? Can I stop her from putting our baby up for adoption?”
 
Answer: Yes, you do have a say in your child’s future. It’s not out of your control. As the baby’s father, you have the right to get answers to your questions. You also have the right to take part in the adoption planning process.
 
Lifetime encourages you to find out more about what’s called “open adoption.” It has been the right choice for many, especially those who aren’t ready to become parents. In an open adoption, both of you can work together to pick the adoptive parents for your baby. You can remain a part of your child’s life.
 
Here are some things to think about: are you giving your girlfriend any financial (or emotional) support during her pregnancy? These things will come into play when thinking about the adoption decision.
 
Also, you might ask yourself why she wants to do adoption. Many women choose adoption because they have other children and can’t afford another baby. Others make an adoption plan because having a baby would derail education or career goals. There are many reasons why women choose adoption.
 
Adoption is one of those decisions that you make based on what’s best for the child. Sometimes, the decision is made despite your own desires. She may long to become a mom, but realize that it just isn’t in the cards right now.
 
Talk more with your girlfriend about this. And when you do, don’t think about what you want. Think about the life you want your child to have. Looking at adoptive couple profiles online can sometimes help you picture the possibilities with adoption.
 

Here are some articles to help you learn more about birth fathers & adoption:

 
“I’m a Birth Father…Do I Have a Say in Adoption?”
 
What Should I Do If My Girlfriend is Choosing Adoption?”
 
What Are My Responsibilities as a Birth Father?
 
How to Get Your Baby’s Father Involved in Adoption
 
Birth Fathers and Adoption
 

If you like to speak to someone right now about adoption, call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

What Should I Do If My Girlfriend is Choosing Adoption?

What should I do? My girlfriend is choosing adoption...Here’s a common question we get here at Lifetime Adoption Agency: “My girlfriend is pregnant, and wants to adopt out our baby. What can I do if my girlfriend is choosing adoption?”

As the father of the baby, you have the right to get answers to your questions. You have the right to participate in making an adoption plan for your child.

So today, we’re sharing 4 of the adoption questions we get asked the most by birth fathers. If you don’t see your question here, please feel free to call Lifetime’s toll-free number and ask us: 1-800-923-6784.

  1. What is an open adoption?
  2. Can I select an adoptive family for my baby?
  3. What are my rights in making this decision?
  4. Will I have a financial responsibility to this child?

1. What is an open adoption?
Open adoption means that you and the baby’s mother have the right to choose an adoption plan that works for you. You can select an adoptive family, choose how much contact you would like to have before and after your baby is born, and choose how you would like your hospital experience to be. You have the right to have an ongoing, open relationship with your baby and the adoptive family.

2. Can I select an adoptive family for my baby?
Yes, absolutely. Lifetime believes that you know best in choosing the best family for your baby. We can show you adoptive parent profiles about families from all different parts of the country, and from many different backgrounds. You might want to start by looking at some families that want to adopt.

3. What are my rights in making this decision?
The laws regarding a father’s rights differ based on which state you live in. You do have the right to know about an adoption plan, and you have the right to participate in the adoption planning process. An adoption attorney can help you to understand the laws in your state.

4. Will I have a financial responsibility to this child?
If you choose to make an adoption plan, the adoptive family that you choose would be financially responsible for the baby. You will not be required to pay child support once your parental rights are legally terminated.

For additional information, please call Lifetime’s toll-free number: 1-800-923-6784.

“I’m a Birth Father…Do I Have a Say in Adoption?”

what are my rights as a birth father?Has your girlfriend just told you she’s pregnant and going to place your baby for adoption? Or maybe it’s your wife who wants to do adoption, after years of struggling to make ends meet. In any case, you might be wondering, “does the father have a say in adoption?”

The answer is definitely “yes”! Here at Lifetime, we encourage birth fathers to be a part of the adoption planning. The term “birth father” refers to a man whose baby or child is placed with an adoptive family. Today, we’re giving you info about your choices and rights in modern adoption!

We believe that it’s just as important for you to know your adoption rights as it is for her. Right now, your family might be pressuring you to “step up” and be a man, to fight the adoption.

Adoption Isn’t Giving Up

Lifetime has heard many men say they feel like adoption is a “cop-out.” They don’t want to admit any weakness, including the fact that they might not be able to provide for a child. These men say that they feel like adoption isn’t the best choice because it means they’re “giving up.”

People choose adoption not because they don’t love (or want) their child. Adoption is the choice they make because they love their child so much that they want to give him or her a bright future, something that they might not be able to provide at that point in their lives.

Adoption Isn’t Saying Goodbye

With open adoption, you’re able to remain a part of your child’s life and see them growing up. So, adoption definitely isn’t goodbye forever! Birth fathers are able to feel pride in the decision, and see the blessing that adoption is for their child. “Adoption was the best choice we could have made for our child…we were able to give our daughter a mom and a dad who are excited to provide her with everything she needs and wants,” says one birth father. By playing an active role in the adoption plan, many birth fathers have shared that they are glad they put their child’s needs above theirs.

Learning Your Rights

As a birth father, you have the same rights that the birth mother does. You can fully participate in the adoption at whatever level you want to. Just like your baby’s mother can, you’re able to interview adoptive couples and ask them questions. What kinds of questions?
You could ask about their parenting style, jobs, family structure, lifestyle, and even about their hobbies. You’re able to interview several adoptive families and meet with them, too.

Birth fathers have rights, too. Each state has their own laws and requirements about your responsibilities and rights. So it’s best to speak with an attorney who specializes in adoption law if you have questions.

Lifetime recognizes that the adoption decision can be as difficult for you as it is for your baby’s birth mother.

To talk with an Adoption Coordinator about an adoption plan for your child, just call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.