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5 Major Reasons Why Women Choose Adoption

What are the reasons why women choose adoption?When you’re facing an unexpected pregnancy and thinking about adoption for your baby, you might have a lot of questions. One of your questions might be “what are the reasons why women choose adoption for their baby?”

Making an adoption plan is a personal decision, one which every woman needs to make on her own. The fact is that women choose adoption out of love for their baby. By making an open adoption plan, they’re placing their child’s needs and interests before their own.

Today, we’re sharing 5 of the most common reasons why women choose open adoption:

1. Power over their adoption plan

Today, birth parents have a lot of control in creating and planning for their child’s adoption. They’re able to look at as many adoption profiles as they’d like and select the perfect adoptive parents for their baby. Also, birth parents can talk with the adoptive couple of their choosing, to get to know them better.

2. Not ready to become a parent

There’s no doubt about it: having a child will change your life forever. Some women aren’t prepared to become a parent, so they explore other choices.

3. Wants to give her child more opportunities

If she’s struggling to make ends meet or is in an unstable relationship, a woman might conclude that this isn’t the right time to bring a child into her life.

By making an open adoption plan, she can place her baby into a safe and stable home, with loving adoptive parents who are ready and equipped to parent her baby.

4. Desire for a two-parent family

Lots of women choose adoption because they want their child to grow up with two parents. Particularly if they’re no longer in a relationship with their baby’s father, a two-parent adoptive family is what they’re looking for. Through modern adoption, a birth mother can provide her child with the type of future she desires.

5. Wants to continue having a relationship with her child

It used to be that adoption meant goodbye forever for birth parents, and they never heard about their child again after signing adoption papers. Today’s adoptions happen much differently. We recognize that children need to know where they came from and who they are. By choosing open adoption, a birth mother can stay in her child’s life. The adoptive family of her choosing sends updates through emails, letters, photos, and social media posts. And, there’s also the option for visits once or twice a year!

While each woman will have her own reasons for choosing adoption, it all comes down to what’s best for your child. Before you make a decision, we encourage you to learn all you can about adoption. We can help you do that; just call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

Lifetime can help you obtain free, third-party counseling and connect you with a peer counselor too. A peer counselor is a woman who’s made an adoption plan already, so she knows where you’re at. By chatting with her, you can make an informed decision about adoption.

Call or text Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784 to learn more, so that you can decide if open adoption is right for you.

With Modern Adoption, You Make the Choices

A woman learning about modern adoption on her cell phoneAdoption today means that you make all the choices. And modern adoption gives you tons of choices! You can choose the adoptive parents for your baby, how much you want to get to know the parents you choose, and what happens at the hospital when you give birth. If you want, you can even keep in touch after the adoption happens. You can do this through phone calls, emails, texts, letters, social media, and visits. You have a say in every step!

We provide you with the trusted adoption help you need, the way you want it. Learning about adoption is easy, private, and convenient with Lifetime! Get answers to your questions, see waiting adoptive couples, and receive free resources! With Lifetime, you have a wide variety of adoptive families of all backgrounds to choose from, living all throughout the US.

Lifetime offers a FREE BOOK for women thinking about adoption. Just visit FreeAdoptionBook.com. And in our smartphone app, you can listen to stories from other mothers who chose adoption.

You can get peer support, counseling, and help with your needs or pregnancy-related expenses as you consider an adoption plan for your baby. While you learn about adoption, you will receive free services and full support, as well as during and after the adoption.

On the new site ModernAdoptionAgency.com, you can learn about adoption from the privacy of your phone or laptop. Chat on the website, or message (with a real person!) on our Facebook page or on Instagram.

You can confidentially and safely begin your adoption plan online, by email, or by mail. Just let us know what’s best for you!

Call or text a caring adoption expert ANYTIME at 1-800-923-6784.

How Do I Find Just the Right Parents for My Baby?

the right parents for my baby?If you’re thinking about adoption for your baby, we understand that you might be worried about finding the perfect adoptive family. Anyone who decides adoption is the right choice wants to make sure that their child has the best life. How can you make sure that your baby receives just that?

Lifetime has developed a process of supporting women as they search for the perfect families for their babies. When you contact us for the first time, you’ll get your own individual Adoption Coordinator. She’ll help you to make sure your adoption goes just the way you want it to. That includes deciding on the perfect adoptive family for your baby. At this point, you may already know the type of adoption profiles you’re interested in looking at. Your Adoption Coordinator will help you to narrow down your preferences more by asking you questions like:

Is the location of the adoptive couple important to you?

Do you picture your baby growing up in an urban setting, or have you always dreamed of living on a farm in the Midwest? As a nationwide, full-service adoption agency, Lifetime works with families across the US. This gives you lots of choices as you consider where your child will live.

Do you want your child to have brothers or sisters?

Some women wish to place their baby with a couple who can’t conceive. Others feel that it’s important for a child to grow up with siblings. So, they look only at adoptive families who already have kids.

Does it matter to you if your child looks like his or her adoptive parents?

Some women hope to choose an adoptive family who shares their own culture and ethnicity. Fortunately, Lifetime has hopeful adoptive families of many races and backgrounds.

What values are important to you?

Are you hoping for a couple whose religious beliefs match your own? Or maybe there other values that are important to you as well, like work ethic or political beliefs.

You can explore some of the adoption profiles of families we work with, by viewing our pages of waiting adoptive families.

Speak with an Adoption Coordinator confidentially and with no obligation, by calling 1-800-923-6784. Or, send us a message.

“Does putting my baby up for adoption make me a bad person?”

does putting my baby up for adoption make me a bad person?Question: “I’m like 99% sure that adoption’s going to be the best choice for my situation…but I’m worried what people will think. Does putting my baby up for adoption make me a bad person?”

Answer: Many women who are thinking about adoption struggle with this question. Unfortunately, lots of people are still clueless about adoption and how it works today. They may believe that a woman who places her baby is running away from their responsibilities or “taking the easy way out.”

But at Lifetime, we know it’s the exact opposite. Birth mothers are putting their child first and taking full responsibility for their child’s future.

Here’s how one birth mother puts it: “Plenty of people told me I was making a selfless and brave decision by putting my baby up for adoption. But honestly, I didn’t feel like that was true. I just thought out all my choices. Even though adoption was the best decision for my baby, it was also the best decision for me. I felt like I was selfish for wanting my old life back. I was ashamed that I couldn’t parent.

But, at the end of the day, the main reason I decided to put my son up for adoption was that I wanted him to have the best life possible. He deserved a life I couldn’t give him on my own. It wasn’t about me; it was about him!”

Birth mothers put their child’s needs before their wants and desires. It doesn’t get braver than that! They’re turning a difficult experience into something beautiful and full of love. And that is something to be proud of.

Is Adoption the Right Choice for You?

Is adoption is the right choice for you after seeing a positive pregnancy test?Wondering if adoption is the right choice for you and for your baby? Maybe you’ve tried to parent for a few months and have been struggling big time. Or you could be dealing with a positive pregnancy test and are looking for another answer besides abortion.

We’re not here to judge, or to tell you that adoption is a simple decision to make. Today, we’re hoping to give you some info to help you decide if adoption is the right answer for you.

How Open Adoption Works:

  • You can pick your baby’s adoptive family based on your desires
  • You have the opportunity to receive no-cost counseling, from a licensed third-party therapist to help you work through your emotions during this whole process
  • You’re able to interview adoptive parents, meet them in person, and establish a relationship
  • It’s your right to create a birth plan and hospital plan that works for you
  • After the adoption, you can stay in touch with the adoptive family through letters, emails, photos, and visits if you wish
  • You can request financial assistance for pregnancy-related expenses

Peer Counseling from Birth Mothers

Lifetime has licensed counselors, experienced birth mothers, and adoption coordinators to help guide you through the process. Birth mothers who have made an adoption plan for their child through Lifetime are available for you to speak with. This can really help as you’re deciding whether adoption is the right choice for you because these birth mothers have been in your shoes! They’ll be real with you about what you might be feeling and going through because they’ve been there too.

Is Adoption the Right Choice for Me?

We're all about educating you so that you can make the best choice for you and your baby!Adoption isn’t the answer for everyone, but it may be the right choice for you. We’re all about educating you so that you can make the best choice for you and your baby. If you want to learn more about open adoption, check out these links:

“How do I know my baby is going into a good home?”

Is Adoption Right for You?…There’s an App for That!

How To Get The Counseling You Need During Your Adoption Planning

3 Common Fears About Choosing Adoption for Your Baby

This National Adoption Hotline Helps You Get Answers, Privately

How to Talk About Adoption With Your Baby’s Father

At our adoption agency in Florida, we’ll work with you throughout your entire adoption process and afterward too. Lifetime is here for you every step of the way. As you create an adoption plan for your baby, you can count on Adoption Agency Florida to:

We want you to know all the choices available to you. You’re in charge of your adoption plan and have the right to ask as many questions as you need to. We will guide you through the process. Our warm and caring staff is always available to speak with you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Reach out to Lifetime’s Adoption Agency anytime you’re ready. We’re happy to talk with you privately any time at 1-800-923-6784.

“I need someone to adopt my baby”

"I need someone to adopt my baby!"We hear from women every day with situations like this one: “I just found out I’m pregnant, and my boyfriend literally disappeared. I thought we’d spend the rest of our lives together but he’s obvi not into me like I was into him! I’m still in high school and I have no idea how I’m going to raise a baby. My parents are threatening to kick me out so I know I can’t count on their help. I guess I’m really contacting you because I need someone to adopt my baby. How do I adopt out my baby?”

Does this sound like the situation you’re in? Are you looking for someone to adopt your baby? At our adoption agency in Florida, we’ll handle every detail of your adoption plan, so your pregnancy and placement are as simple as possible. We have hundreds of wonderful, loving pre-screened families to choose from. All you need to do is tell us what you’re looking for in a family for your baby. We’ll send you websites and profiles about adoptive family websites that match up with what you’re looking for.

A big part of making an adoption plan is choosing the adoptive family. By looking through their profile or website, you can learn a lot about them, what they’re about, and how they’re unique.

If you’re pregnant and thinking about adoption, we can email you links to adoption profiles and videos, or we can mail you profile booklets. (Or both!) What do the profiles tell you? Well a lot, such as what’s important to them, what life is like for them, their jobs, their beliefs, and plenty of photos from their lives, home, and family so that you can envision your baby with their family!

You might be hoping for a couple living in a state close to you, or farther away. Maybe where they live doesn’t matter that much to you, but you’d like to choose a couple of the same race as you. Adoption Agency Florida can find a family that meets what you need!

In choosing adoption for your baby, the first step can be the hardest. It’s never too early or too late to call our adoption agency. We’re happy to answer your questions or just to talk about your situation. Any advice or help we provide you is given freely, without asking any commitment from you. We guarantee your privacy and we’ll give you all the time you need for your own adoption process.

Adoption answers and help are just a text or phone call away, at
1-800-923-6784.

Is Adoption Right for You?…There’s an App for That!

there's an app for adoption!It seems like there’s an app for everything these days. And it’s no different for learning about the choice of adoption! “Open Adoption” is a new app that can really help you when you’re wondering if adoption is the right choice for you and your baby.

This smartphone app (which is totally free, by the way!) tells you what’s involved with making an adoption plan for your baby. And, you can read answers to questions that women frequently ask about adoption. Plus, you can browse hopeful adoptive parents, see their photos, and learn what they’re all about.

If you’ve just started thinking about adoption, you might not be ready to share this news to everyone right now. That’s totally normal. A smart way to look into adoption confidentially is by downloading this app, “Open Adoption.” Just go to AdoptionOptionApp.com to get more info and get your free download. The website Adoption Option App provides links to download “Open Adoption” for either an Apple or Google phone.

No matter what your reason is for thinking about adoption, know that you’re not alone. Thousands of women create open adoption plans each year. And with modern adoption, you’re encouraged to take the driver’s seat in every step of the process. You can pick the adoptive parents for your child, name how things will go at the hospital, and decide the amount of contact you’d like in the future.

In the Open Adoption app, you’ll find:

  • Bios, videos, and photos of hopeful adoptive couples
  • A short e-book about adoption
  • Popular questions about open adoption, and the answers
  • A breakdown of how modern open adoption works
  • Tips that you can use when you’re deciding if adoption’s for you
  • Resources and services that you might need
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    Best of all, the app “Open Adoption” is FREE and packed with info about modern adoption! Visit AdoptionOptionApp.com to get your free download.

    Click to download the app, Open Adoption

“I’m SO GRATEFUL to have found such an AMAZING adoption agency!”

Lifetime birth mother posts on Facebook Lifetime provides continued pregnancy and adoption support to birth moms from all over. This includes birth mothers right here in Florida, like Terri. Last year, she posted on Facebook about how much she loves her baby’s adoptive mom. And then recently, Terri posted on Facebook:

“I want to take a minute to be thankful for something a lot of people may never understand. I am SO GRATEFUL to have found such an AMAZING adoption agency!!

Lifetime Adoptions, and their case workers ESPECIALLY Tiffany, are the most kind, and caring people you could ever meet !! And I can NEVER thank them enough for finding and bringing to me, my son’s AMAZING adoptive parents Cassie and Matt !!! I am FOREVER thankful !!”

Terri posted on Facebook about Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida

Adoption is a loving decision that pregnant women and moms make with their child’s best interests in mind. Every woman has her own unique circumstances, goals, and hopes for her child’s life.

Here at Lifetime, we’ll never pressure you to parent OR to make an adoption plan for your baby. Instead, we encourage you to plan ahead for your child’s future, and your own.

If you’re considering adoption, we want you to know that you have a say in each part of the adoption process. Some of the many options you have with open adoption include:

  • Selecting your baby’s adoptive parents from hundreds of couples of all races, who are ready and excited to adopt.
  • Getting to know the family you chose before the adoption happens.
  • Planning how things go at the hospital when you give birth.
  • Personalizing the amount of contact you have with the adoptive family and your child in the future.
  • Receiving free licensed third-party counseling, expert legal assistance, and support both before and after the adoption.

We want you to know that adoption answers and help are just a text or phone call away, at 1-800-923-6784.

3 Common Fears About Choosing Adoption for Your Baby

discover the truth about 3 common adoption fearsIt’s totally normal to have fears when you’re thinking about adoption for your baby, especially at the beginning of the adoption journey. What has helped some women in your shoes is to talk about their fears with someone who’s been through the process.

Lifetime’s peer counselors are women who have made an adoption plan themselves. Please let us know if you’re interested in talking to one of our peer counselors. It can be a big relief to know that your feelings are normal and that you aren’t alone!

Here are 3 common fears that women have about choosing adoption:

Fear #1: “Giving Up My Baby Makes Me a Bad Mother”
This is probably the most common fear: that making an adoption plan for your baby makes you a bad mother. Adoption isn’t an easy decision to make, and it’s not one that you can be casual about. Every woman experiences adoption in a different way. But in general, there is some pain and grief involved. Know that only the most loving and compassionate mother who wants the best for her child would be willing to even consider adoption. You’re not choosing adoption for yourself, but for your child. You aren’t giving up, and choosing adoption doesn’t make you a bad mother!

Fear #2: “My Child Will Hate Me Someday”
Some women feel like they are simply giving away their baby, and that their child is going to hate them for it. For every negative adoption story you hear, there are many more positive ones. By building a loving, trusting open adoption relationship with the adoptive parents, your child will not hate you for it. With open adoption, your child will be able to communicate with you directly to ask any questions they may have. It’s a good idea to hear adoptee’s stories. Here are a couple: “Open Adoption from an Adoptee’s Perspective” and “Wondering What It’s Like to Be Adopted?

Fear #3: “No One Will Want to Adopt My Baby”
Some women are afraid that none of the hopeful adoptive families will want their baby because they used drugs or alcohol during the pregnancy. The fact is, there are many adoptive parents who truly understand that having children doesn’t come with guarantees. They want to parent the baby they’re blessed with. If you did use drugs or alcohol when you were pregnant, make sure to be honest. Tell your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime the truth about what your baby has been exposed to. She’ll help you find an adoptive family who is open to prenatal substance exposure, and who will provide your baby with a loving home.

You can call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784 to ask your questions about adoption or just to get more information. Your communication with Lifetime is always confidential, and you’re never under any obligation to choose adoption. We’re here to help, not to tell you what to do or to pressure you.

How To Get The Counseling You Need During Your Adoption Planning

There’s no doubt that creating an adoption plan for your baby is an emotional event. Every birth mother is going to experience the stages of grief differently. Know that it’s completely normal for you to wonder if this is the right decision, and to feel sad. Your emotions are normal and shouldn’t be discounted.

learn how to get no-cost counseling during your adoption planningWhat might help you is to talk to someone. Lifetime is happy to refer you to a licensed third-party counselor or to a peer counselor. Both types of counseling are provided to you free of charge. (By “peer counselor,” we mean a woman who’s gone through her own adoption planning and then placed her baby with adoptive parents.)

To help you process the grief you’re feeling, it’s important to take advantage of this free counseling. The counselor will help you cope with the grief, stress, and other emotions that come up during your adoption planning.

We’ll be up front: the process of grieving isn’t fun and it isn’t pretty. But working through these emotions now is the best way to get through this time in a healthy way. If you ignore how you’re feeling, it’ll just keep you from living a full, productive life.

You’re not alone with what you’re going through. There are millions of other women thinking about adoption and trying to process similar emotions. You’re able to talk to a licensed counselor AND a peer counselor right now and after your baby’s born.

With Lifetime, you’re able to speak honestly about the issues you’re facing as you get the help you need. Lifetime has a 24/7 adoption support phone number. If you’re more comfortable with texting, you can also use this number to text us.

Just give us a call or text us at 1-800-923-6784. We’re here to get you the help you need!