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8 Ways to Be Positive During the Adoption Wait

During the adoption wait a couple walks their dogAre you having a difficult time during the adoption wait? Maintaining a positive attitude makes even the most challenging times easier to experience. Being positive doesn’t mean pretending that you have a perfect life, but rather about seeing the good in life and shifting how you perceive this time.
 
Research has shown that positive thinking can lead to success. Being positive isn’t a switch that can be turned on: like any skill it requires practice. Maintaining a positive attitude is crucial if you want to adopt.
 

Here are 8 ways you can boost your positivity:

 

  1. Think good thoughts. Negative thoughts can happen when you’re waiting to be chosen by a birth mother. When you experience one, take a moment to catch yourself. Identify the problem or emotion you’re feeling, then counter it with a positive thought.
  2. Be grateful. Spend time each day reminding yourself of everything good in your life. Write them down or share them with a loved one. For accountability, you might try doing a “30 Day Gratitude Challenge” with your spouse.
  3. Smile! Research has shown that smiles are contagious. Smile at a stranger, a co-worker, or a friend. They’ll smile back, leaving you both feeling more positive.
  4. Stay active. Exercise makes you feel better physically and mentally. Several times a week go for a walk, work on a project around the house, hit the gym, or play your favorite sport.
  5. Set goals. Having a goal can make you feel more hopeful and confident and give you something to strive for. Make your goal realistic and specific, and use positive words when writing or talking about it. For example, you might set a goal to have your adoption video recorded and edited within two weeks or to submit your home study paperwork within a week.
  6. Keep good company. The people you spend time with have a direct impact on how you feel. Seek out people who believe in you and your adoption dream. Spend time with family members, friends, co-workers, or acquaintances who think positive and inspire and motivate you to achieve your goals.
  7. Do things you love. Make time in your day to do something that makes you happy. Listen to music, read a book, catch up with a friend, or step outside and enjoy nature.
  8. Write in a journal. Jot down all the positive things that happen to you each day. Your journal entries can be just a few words or sentences. Pick a day each month to read through your journal and relive your positive experiences.

Why Did They Adopt, But Not Us?

Why did they adopt, but not us?There are many sides to the adoption journey when you’re eagerly waiting to be chosen by a birth mother. Many adoptive couples go through the process joyfully, trying to be as patient and proactive as possible. Others struggle with feelings of jealousy and frustration, asking themselves, “Why did they adopt, but not us?”
 
During the wait, most adoptive families may wonder things like:
 
Why did that couple get chosen by a birth mother and not us?

Why is this taking so long?

Why are they taking new adoptive families when we’re still waiting?

We would have happily adopted that baby. Why didn’t they offer the adoption to us?

Thoughts like these might make you doubt your adoption professional and your adoption plans. They can even make you question what you have to offer a child. It’s what you do with these thoughts that’ll affect your peace of mind, while you’re in the adoption wait. Today, we’re going to elaborate on each common question to find the truth:
 

Why did that couple get chosen by a birth mother and not us?

In modern adoption, birth mothers choose adoptive families for a variety of reasons. Lifetime has worked with birth moms who chose the couple they did because they looked kind, familiar, or fun. Other women have chosen their baby’s adoptive family based on where they live, their hobbies, and even their pets. There isn’t one predictable reason a birth mother may prefer one family over another. However, the truth is that she can only pick ONE adoptive family for her baby. This makes her decision difficult when she learns about so many wonderful couples who’d make loving parents for her child.
 

Why is this taking so long?

If adoption was easy or fast, more people would pursue it. It’s hard to predict exactly how long your adoption wait will be. At our agency, every adoption depends on a birth mother’s choice. So in order to maximize your exposure to women thinking about adoption, it’s very important to follow your adoption professional’s recommendations.
 
Similarly, it’s crucial to keep your adoption preferences as open as you are comfortable. Each time your profile is shown to a birth mother is another opportunity to be picked. The truth is that there are reasons why some couples wait longer than others, such as procrastinating on getting their adoption profile or home study completed or passing up opportunities within their preferences. For couples who have been proactive from the start, the truth is it’s just a matter of time.
 
Birth mother considering adoption

Why are they taking new adoptive families when we’re still waiting?

Many assume that an agency should avoid welcoming new clients until their current ones have adopted. This reasoning behind this argument is that with fewer couples to choose from, the longer-waiting ones are more likely to get chosen. But, the argument ignores the fact that couples ARE completing adoptions each month, and there continues to be a need for adoptive families who are open to a variety of situations.
 
The truth is that birth mothers are less inclined to consider adoption when she doesn’t see any adoptive families that interest her. She might look for an adoptive family at another agency, or even give up on adoption altogether. When she really has a choice in who adopts her baby, a birth mother is more likely to feel confident in moving forward with an adoption match when she’s ready.
 

We would have happily adopted that baby. Why didn’t they offer the adoption to us?

Many factors come into play when an agency picks a family for a baby, including the birth mother’s preferences. Even if she wants the agency to pick the adoptive family, a birth mother may still have requests. Also, the agency must carefully consider the adoptive family’s readiness, preferences, and budget.
 
Lifetime’s Adoption Coordinators are thorough when they help adoptive parents and birth mothers connect. The truth is that because of confidentiality you don’t know every detail that went into an adoption match. It’s impossible to know what happened “behind the scenes.”
 

Remain Positive & Hopeful

Most adoptive families will tell you, that looking back now, perspective is everything when you’re in the adoption wait. When questions like these pop up in your mind, focus on the truth rather than fears or frustrations. This will help you remain positive and hopeful. The best way to fight feelings of discouragement or jealousy is to celebrate the adoptions of other adoptive parents and to focus on what IS happening as you wait. If you find the adoption journey pressing on your insecurities, reflect and then take action to tackle them during your wait. Not every step of your adoption path will be a milestone, but all are a necessary part of leading you to the child you long to add to your family.

Hear an Adoption Story That Was Meant-to-Be

Hear Silas and Dawn's adoption storyIf you’re waiting to adopt, you might find that you go through seasons of discouragement, and wonder if you’re still on the right track with your adoption. But ask any experienced adoptive parent and they’ll share that once they adopted, it just seems meant to be. The timing, the baby, the events that brought their adoption together…all of it meant to be.
 
Silas and Dawn, a Lifetime adoptive couple, are no exception. They had to pinch themselves that their calling to adopt was leading them to their baby boy, even up until the moment they were traveling to meet him. Silas and Dawn’s anxiety was for nothing since each detail of their son’s adoption story keeps showing them it was meant to be!

This adoptive couple just appeared on a Lifetime webinar and shared the story of how they became a family of five through adoption. Silas and Dawn’s adoption webinar also included an encouraging perspective through the wait, adoption travel tips, how to use social media when a birth mother wants a limited connection, and info about their experience with Lifetime. Silas and Dawn’s story will touch anyone hoping to adopt!

You can watch the webinar replay of Silas and Dawn’s meant-to-be open adoption story online today! Just visit AdoptionWebinar.com to watch “Meant to Be: Silas and Dawn’s Adoption Story.”

Here at Lifetime, we get to see a lot of “meant-to-be” adoption experiences like Silas and Dawn’s! While you’re waiting to be chosen by a birth mother, it can help to hear from others who recently walked where you are today.

Please call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784 if we can help you or someone you care about get started on the path towards adoption.

The Top 10 Blog Posts of 2017!

Lifetime adoptive couple Eric and Amanda with their daughter Mariella

Lifetime adoptive couple Eric and Amanda with their daughter Mariella

In 2017, Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida’s blog covered so many adoption topics, ranging from tips on how to handle the wait and guidance for getting ready to adopt to info about what modern adoption means and how to choose adoptive parents for your baby.

Here are the top 10 posts of 2017:

#10: We Reveal the Truth About 5 Adoption Myths
We shed light on five of the most widely believed myths surrounding the choice of adoption for your baby. Two of these five myths include that adoption is selfish, and that it means giving your baby away to strangers. Nothing could be farther from the truth: adoption is the most loving decision a woman can make. Also, with modern adoption today, you’re able to hand-pick the adoptive parents for your baby.

#9: 6 Smart Moves to Get Your Finances in Line for a Baby
We recommend that you get a hold of your finances during the adoption wait. That way, you’ll be able to enjoy the newborn days without worrying about money issues. This post shares 6 smart financial moves to make before your baby arrives.

#8: Why Choose Adoption?
This post seeks to answer the question: “why would I choose adoption for my baby?” In it, we provided a list of things to keep in mind if you’re thinking about adoption. We’re definitely not here to give you “reasons why you should choose adoption,” because only you know what’s best.

#7: 4 Terrific Tips on Listening to Birth Mothers
Many adoptive parents have said they were so nervous during the first phone call with a birth mother, that they ended up chattering on and on. This blog post shares a few easy tips on how to effectively listen to a birth mother, and begin to build a relationship!

#6: Wondering What It’s Like to Be Adopted?
If you’re thinking about adoption for your baby, you might be wondering what it’s like to be adopted. We interviewed Alexa, an 18-year-old adoptee for this blog post. She was excited to share her story because she’s so grateful to her birth mother for choosing adoption!

#5: How to Research Adoption Benefits
Sadly, the number one reason many don’t adopt is because they feel like they can’t afford it. There are so many of adoption benefits available if you know where to look! This blog post gives you info on how to learn about the adoption benefits your employer, insurance, or church offers.

#4: “My Baby’s Adoptive Mom is So Awesome!”
Lifetime is blessed to be able to share this birth mother’s Facebook post: “My baby’s adoptive mom is so awesome! [The adoptive parents] are the most amazing people I have ever had the pleasure of saying that I know…I could not feel more blessed to have found them!”

#3: Coping With Your Adoption Wait
Have you been wondering what you can do to get through your adoption wait? In this post, we shared action steps you can take in order to stay productive during your wait!

#2: How To Get The Counseling You Need During Your Adoption Planning
Choosing adoption for your baby is an emotional event, and every birth mother is going to experience the stages of grief in a different way. This posts shares how Lifetime is able to get you the counseling you need. We can refer you to a licensed third-party counselor or to a peer counselor, for free.

#1: How Long Does It Take to Adopt Twins?
This is a question that we get asked a lot here at Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida! Discover the answer to the question “On average, how long does it take to adopt twins through Lifetime Adoption Agency?”

What was your favorite blog post of the year? Are there any specific topics you’d like to see covered on Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida’s blog in 2018?

Waiting to Adopt? Get Our Holiday Survival Tips

get Lifetime's tips for surviving the holidays while you're waiting to adopt!If you’re in the midst of your adoption wait, the holidays can become a time of added pressure and disappointment. People close to you may mean well but ask questions or make remarks that seem insensitive.

If you’re hopeful adoptive parents waiting for a child, you might be wondering “How are we going to get through the holidays?” Today, Lifetime is sharing 5 tips on how to survive the holidays while in the adoption wait!

1. Talk About It
Trying to hold your emotions inside will only make you feel worse. So, think about talking to a close family member, friend, counselor, or your pastor about what you’re going through. It may be that simply talking about it will raise your spirits so that you can enjoy the holiday festivities.

2. Be Honest
You might be feeling guilty that you’re not happy when everyone around you seems to be in the holiday spirit. You see that people around you are cheerfully celebrating. If you’re feeling down, don’t try to suppress your emotions. Grant yourself permission to cry and be sad. It might help to jot your feelings down in a journal. Decline invites to holiday parties and dinners you’re not up to attending.

3. Do Something for Yourself
Practice some self-care if you’re feeling unhappy during the holidays. This could be a nice long massage, a weekly yoga class, or treating yourself to that pretty dress you’ve been admiring. By doing something for yourself, relaxing, and unwinding, you’ll be better able to handle the hectic holiday season. Everyone deserves a break to re-group every now and then.

4. Help Those in Need
Often, giving back can lift your spirits. There are so many ways to do this, so pick something that feels right to you. You could volunteer at a homeless shelter, donate toys or gifts to a family in need, or even just do something thoughtful for a friend, co-worker, or family member. Helping those in need will give you an amazing feeling!

5. Get Involved
When you’re feeling blue, getting involved in a project or activity may help. “When we were in the adoption wait, I put a fresh coat of paint and got new furniture for our guest bedroom. Doing all this allowed me something to think about other than how sad I felt. And, it paid off! My mom ended up staying in this guest room and helping me out during the very first days home with our newborn son,” shares one Lifetime adoptive mom. Getting involved doesn’t have to mean undertaking such a big project, though. It may be an activity as simple as baking, scrapbooking, knitting, organizing a closet, or making homemade gifts.

Remember, this too shall pass, no matter how you choose to get through the holiday season while you’re waiting to adopt. And you’ll be parents before you know it!

Adoptive Couple Zach and Kearsten Visit Us With Their Baby!

Proud adoptive parents Kearsten and Zach with their adoption blessing!Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is excited to congratulate adoptive parents Zach and Kearsten from Virginia! They were blessed to adopt a baby boy, Maverick.
 
We were lucky enough to meet this newly-formed adoptive family in person! They visited our office with two-day-old Maverick and chatted with Lifetime’s adoption professionals, including Linda, Chrissy, Tiffany, and Natalie. Lifetime’s staff were also visited by another adoptive mom, Amanda, and her seven-week-old daughter, Mariella at the same time!
 
Zac and Kearsten experienced a fall-through before being chosen by Maverick’s birth mother, so this was a major blessing for them!
 
Maverick was born a week early and right after Hurricane Irma, so there were no flights. Zach and Kearsten drove for 12 hours through the night to get to the hospital as fast as they could. They were very nervous because of their previous experience. Zach and Kearsten’s time with the birth mom at the hospital turned out very well and they couldn’t be happier. Kearsten said, even with the fall-through, they would do it all again the same way because it made them stronger and more appreciative and Maverick was well worth it!
 
They make a beautiful family! Here’s a sweet video of Zach and Kearsten sharing some of their adoption story with Lifetime’s staff:
 

Two Families Visited Lifetime Adoption’s Florida Office! from Lifetime Adoption on Vimeo.

 

Discover how Lifetime Adoption Agency can help you begin your family!
 
Consider taking the first step towards infant adoption today! Just fill out our online application. The application is free of charge and can be completed quickly and simply.

Hear David & Deanna’s Inspiring Story in This Adoption Webinar!

David and Deanna with their baby girl; hear their adoption webinar!David and Deanna’s adoption story is sure to inspire you to keep the faith and remain dedicated during your adoption wait! Lifetime realizes that during your adoption wait, you’ll probably go through lots of highs and lows, and a mix of emotions.

At this time last year, Lifetime adoptive couple David and Deanna were anticipating to keep waiting. But then, we called them about a birth mother who was about to deliver a baby girl. This birth mother had chosen David and Deanna as her baby’s adoptive parents! In a special webinar, adoptive mom Deanna tells their adoption story to us.

The recording of this inspiring webinar is now available online. Read on and discover how you can access it!

There are features of David and Deanna’s story that you’ll connect with! Watching their adoption webinar is a good idea you’ve:

  • Been unsure whether open adoption is right for your family.
  • Asked yourselves “are we too old to adopt?” or “is it too late to adopt?”
  • Got children already, or are a blended family.
  • Been worrying if you can stand out to birth mothers.
  • Wondered how Lifetime’s help makes a difference in your adoption success.

Adoption webinars featuring stories from adoptive parents are a wonderful resource for anyone hoping to adopt. You’ll receive tips and answers from those who’ve recently been through the adoption process, get encouraged as you follow your own calling to adopt, and get info about how adoptions at Lifetime work!

Watch “Lifetime’s Adoption Webinar: David & Deanna’s Story” over at AdoptionWebinar.com.

To watch David & Deanna’s webinar, you’ll need to subscribe to AdoptionWebinar.com. Signing up is free, and it’ll give you access to watch any of our numerous webinar recordings. You’ll also be emailed info, dates, and times about our future webinars! You can subscribe using this link.

In Your Adoption Wait? 5 Ideas on What You Can Do

learn what you can do during your adoption wait!If you’re struggling with the adoption wait, know that it’s just a matter of time before a birth mother chooses you. During your adoption wait, you have time to learn what you can to get ready for parenthood. You’ll learn how the adoption process works and positive adoption language. You’ll consult with experts in the adoption field. Know that there will be good days and others filled with doubt and worry.

But what can you do while you wait? Here are 5 ideas:

1. Imagine what it will be like once you bring your baby home. How will you notify your employer you need time off for adoption travel? Will you celebrate the adoption privately, with family and friends, or publicly at a religious observance? Who will you call first?

2. Think about what you’ll name your child. Will you name them after a much-loved relative? Or maybe a name you have always liked? Many adoptive families use the name their child’s birth mother gave them as their middle name. If you’re adopting an older child, consider keeping the name your child is accustomed to.

3. Plan the style of your child’s room. Some waiting adoptive couples enjoy shopping for baby items and assembling the nursery. Others feel it’s a sad reminder that they haven’t yet brought home their baby. So, consider what works best for you. You might choose furniture, paint, wall paper, and the needed baby gear, and have it on reserve at the baby store.

4. Join an adoption support group. These groups are a great way to get practical know-how and guidance from others in the wait. There will be adoptive families in each stage of their adoption journey in the support group. Some will be experienced adoptive parents, and the advice they give will be priceless.

5. Consider counseling as another way to get support and explore adoptive parenting. Find a local psychologist or social worker whose specialty is adoption. Talk about any anxieties you have surrounding the adoption process, and also about your parenting plans.

Soon, your adoption wait will be over, and you’ll be enjoying the sights and sounds of parenthood. The love you’ll feel for your child is unlimited!

If we can help you or someone you care for,
share this link to our free application to adopt!
LifetimeAdoption.com/apply

Worth the Wait

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is excited to congratulate adoptive parents Kevin and Tequila from Georgia! They were blessed to adopt a baby boy, Maddox, just last week!
 
We were lucky enough to meet this newly-formed adoptive family in person! They visited our office and chatted with Lifetime’s adoption professionals, including Linda, Tiffany, and Natalie.
 
Adoptive family Kevin and Tequila visit with Lifetime's professionals
 
Worth the wait and loved!Baby Maddox was born at 3:14 am, weighed 7 pounds two ounces, and was 20 inches long. Kevin and Tequila are so happy and in love with him! We think his onesies say it all: “worth the wait” and “loved.”
 
Kevin and Tequila’s story of adopting Maddox began when two of Lifetime’s staff members met with his birth mother. They provided her with a labor bag, full of essentials that pregnant women need for their hospital stay. That very night, Maddox’s birth mother went into labor! Kevin and Tequila were able to make it to the hospital in time for delivery!
 
They make a beautiful family! Here’s a sweet video of Kevin, Anthony, Maddox, and Lifetime’s staff visiting:
 

Kevin & Tequila Adoptive Couple Adoption Update from Lifetime Adoption on Vimeo.

 

Would you like to discover how Lifetime Adoption Agency can help you begin your family?
 
You can take this first step towards adoption today! Just fill out our online application. The application is free of charge and can be completed quickly and simply.

Mother’s Day Adoption Webinar on Thursday! Hear Deanna’s Story

Our caring staff at Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida knows that Mother’s Day can be difficult when you’re in the midst of your adoption wait. Many adoptive-mothers-in-waiting experience mixed emotions on Mother’s Day. We’ll be hosting a special adoption webinar in honor of Mother’s Day!

Tennessee adoptive couple David and Deanna thought that they were going into yet another Mother’s Day waiting for a baby.

But last year, they were chosen by a birth mother who was in labor with a with a baby girl. She called Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida while in labor and was able to make a last-minute adoption plan!

Deanna is going to share her beautiful adoption story in a future webinar. She looks forward to telling future adoptive parents about her adoption journey. She’s hoping that the adoption wait story encourages you. David and Deanna’s story is a declaration of faith and perseverance in domestic adoption!

Just click this link to reserve your spot! This webinar was rescheduled. However, you may still register to attend and then you will be the first to know when the new date is confirmed.

Here’s the link to register for Lifetime’s special Mother’s Day webinar:
https://attendee.gotowebinar.com/register/4694935921382638338.

You can attend our adoption webinar online, over the phone, or by using the GoToWebinar app from your smart phone.

Upon registering for our special Mother’s Day webinar, we’ll email you instructions on how you can tune in live.

You can benefit from hearing adoptive mother Deanna’s story, no matter what stage you’re in of your adoption journey!