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5 Major Reasons Why Women Choose Adoption

What are the reasons why women choose adoption?When you’re facing an unexpected pregnancy and thinking about adoption for your baby, you might have a lot of questions. One of your questions might be “what are the reasons why women choose adoption for their baby?”

Making an adoption plan is a personal decision, one which every woman needs to make on her own. The fact is that women choose adoption out of love for their baby. By making an open adoption plan, they’re placing their child’s needs and interests before their own.

Today, we’re sharing 5 of the most common reasons why women choose open adoption:

1. Power over their adoption plan

Today, birth parents have a lot of control in creating and planning for their child’s adoption. They’re able to look at as many adoption profiles as they’d like and select the perfect adoptive parents for their baby. Also, birth parents can talk with the adoptive couple of their choosing, to get to know them better.

2. Not ready to become a parent

There’s no doubt about it: having a child will change your life forever. Some women aren’t prepared to become a parent, so they explore other choices.

3. Wants to give her child more opportunities

If she’s struggling to make ends meet or is in an unstable relationship, a woman might conclude that this isn’t the right time to bring a child into her life.

By making an open adoption plan, she can place her baby into a safe and stable home, with loving adoptive parents who are ready and equipped to parent her baby.

4. Desire for a two-parent family

Lots of women choose adoption because they want their child to grow up with two parents. Particularly if they’re no longer in a relationship with their baby’s father, a two-parent adoptive family is what they’re looking for. Through modern adoption, a birth mother can provide her child with the type of future she desires.

5. Wants to continue having a relationship with her child

It used to be that adoption meant goodbye forever for birth parents, and they never heard about their child again after signing adoption papers. Today’s adoptions happen much differently. We recognize that children need to know where they came from and who they are. By choosing open adoption, a birth mother can stay in her child’s life. The adoptive family of her choosing sends updates through emails, letters, photos, and social media posts. And, there’s also the option for visits once or twice a year!

While each woman will have her own reasons for choosing adoption, it all comes down to what’s best for your child. Before you make a decision, we encourage you to learn all you can about adoption. We can help you do that; just call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

Lifetime can help you obtain free, third-party counseling and connect you with a peer counselor too. A peer counselor is a woman who’s made an adoption plan already, so she knows where you’re at. By chatting with her, you can make an informed decision about adoption.

Call or text Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784 to learn more, so that you can decide if open adoption is right for you.

Adoption, in a Birth Mom’s Words

hear about adoption in a birth mom's wordsWhen you’re not sure if adoption is right for you, what can help is hearing from someone who’s been where you are. Someone who’s been in your shoes, “been there, done that,” you know? Today, we’re going to share about adoption with you, from a birth mom’s point-of-view, in a birth mom’s words.
 
Here are some comments and emails from Lifetime birth mothers, sharing their stories of making an adoption plan for their baby, and their hopes for the future…all names and identifying info have been removed for privacy.
 
“It makes me so happy to see the adoptive mom I picked with my son. She’s such a good mom. I’d never ever change my decision to do adoption. He’s thriving and very smart. Sometimes I think about the ways I could have made it work, but in my heart I know I did the best thing I could for him. He’s got the world at his fingertips, and I’d never have been able to give him that. If not for Lifetime and his adoptive family, I think I’d have been a hot mess.”
 
“This is definitely the most difficult thing that I’ve ever done. But, my daughter will be surrounded by so much love and affection by her adoptive family. I’m so blessed to have peace of mind that she’ll be well provided for and taken care of. Working with lifetime has been nothing short of amazing…thank you again for everything!”
 
“Choosing adoption for my son is totally the best decision I’ve ever made. I gave up so much for that little guy: my senior year, my boyfriend, my body…I could go on. But I’ll never regret choosing to endure the 9 months it took to give my baby to a loving couple who can’t have children on their own. Knowing that I gave life to a couple who couldn’t make it themselves makes me thrilled. All of us have something to be grateful for. For me, it’s the ability to give my son a better life, and to help create a new family.”
 

If you’d like info on open adoption, you can call or text our 24-hour adoption answer line at 1-800-923-6784.

Why Choose Adoption?

what to consider if you're asking yourself 'why choose adoption?'No one but you can decide whether adoption is the best choice for you and your child. The adoption decision is completely yours to make. So, you’ll need to make sure you’ve thought about all your pregnancy options and their outcomes. When you’re asking yourself ‘why choose adoption?’ think about your baby’s future as well as yours.
 
Deciding to make an adoption plan is obviously not an easy choice. But in some circumstances, it’s what a woman comes to realize is the best option.
 
Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is here to give you info and resources on open adoption so that you’re fully educated on all your pregnancy choices. That way, you’re able to make an informed decision.
 
Here are some things you might want to keep in mind if you’re thinking about adoption:

  • What kind of home environment do I want my child to grow up with?
  • What are my future plans and goals?
  • What do I desire for my child’s future?
  • How will I handle child care once I go back to work?
  • Is financial stability something that’s important to me?

 
Every woman’s situation is different and unique, so we’re not here to make a list of “reasons why you should choose adoption.” There are so many factors in play during this difficult choice, along with so many emotions.
 

If you’d like info on open adoption, you can call or text our 24-hour adoption answer line at 1-800-923-6784.

Paula’s Adoption Story

Adoption story from Paula

When you’re pregnant and thinking about adoption for your baby, it helps to hear from women who’ve been where you are now. Here’s Paula’s adoption story:

“One day I discovered I was pregnant and facing the most difficult decision of my life. My thoughts changed overnight with the realization of the life that grew inside of me. As my pregnancy progressed, I had to decide if my current situation was best for my child, or if there were ways to make my circumstances work out for a child. I thought the realities of single parenthood would not be fair to my child.

When I went to my next doctor’s appointment I saw a brochure about adoption in the waiting room. I began to see adoption as a way I could provide my daughter with parents who could raise her with every opportunity and stability I couldn’t offer yet. After many hours of prayer and soul-searching, I decided to make an adoption plan for my baby.

I took the time to research prospective families with Lifetime Adoption Center and found a family whom I truly loved. Finding them made me more sure about my decision. I wanted them involved in my pregnancy and I had chosen my baby’s adoptive mother to be my labor partner. She went to every doctor’s appointment with me and we would get breakfast afterward. During this time spent together we got to know one another very well and became good friends. I felt that it was important to spend the time and effort to get to know my child’s adoptive parents.

A few months later I delivered a beautiful, healthy baby girl. The time spent in the hospital was precious; together with my daughter’s parents, I was able to care for her. We spent two days in the hospital sharing with friends and family the beautiful life that I had created. It was a time of love and laughter. Emotions ran high in those few hours, but the one that was most present was LOVE!

After we parted and went home, I with my family and my daughter with hers, I knew that my daughter would loved and cared for in every way. I love my daughter with all my heart, and because of that love I was able to give her everything I had always wanted for her. I know that open adoption was the very best plan for my daughter, Alexandra.

Today I am able to share my story with others with the hope of educating as many people as possible about the benefits of open adoption. As a birth mother, I will never have to hide behind a veil of secrecy, and I will always know how my daughter is doing. I do wish I had been in a position to parent her myself, but I am so very excited for the life she will be able to lead due to open adoption. Each and every day I think of my daughter and know that she is loved, safe, and thriving in her family.

I can see from the photos and letters that her adoptive parents regularly send me that she is growing into a lovely young girl. The relationship that my daughter’s adoptive parents and I share is one I know will last a lifetime.”

Paula’s story can be found in the book So I Was Thinking About Adoption. Get yourself a copy (for FREE!) by visiting FreeAdoptionBook.com. If you have questions about doing adoption or if you’d like to explore it further, please call us at 1-877-383-6847.