If you’re thinking about adoption, you want the best for your baby. However, you may wonder who will adopt your baby. Or you may worry your child will end up in the foster care system. Many women considering adoption have asked, “Are babies put up for adoption usually adopted?” and even “What if no one wants to adopt my baby?”
This worry usually comes from confusion about the adoption process. Some women are concerned that their baby’s health issue will affect his or her chances of being adopted.
Lifetime is Here for You
When you work with an adoption agency like Lifetime Adoption, an adoption professional will walk you through every step of the adoption process. We have helped thousands of women make adoption plans for their babies. This experience can reassure you that although your concerns are normal, it’s rarely the case that a baby isn’t adopted.
When you make an adoption plan through an adoption agency, your baby will be adopted. He or she will be placed into the arms of an adoptive couple who have been waiting and praying for a child.
With Lifetime, you will have your own Adoption Coordinator, who will help you throughout every step in the adoption process. She can provide you with profiles of countless adoptive couples across the nation waiting for a child to call their own.
The main reason that people wonder how many kids “given up for adoption” really get adopted is that they think adoption is just like foster care.
With adoption, you’re intentionally choosing for your baby to be parented by an adoptive couple. You’re able to select your adoption professional, your baby’s adoptive parents, how much contact you’d like with them, and how your time in the hospital for delivery will go.
In foster care, a child is removed from their home by the authorities. The child is usually placed into temporary care while waiting to go home with a biological family member. If they can’t be reunited with a member of their family, they’ll become eligible for adoption through foster care. These children then may face a long wait until a couple adopts them permanently from foster care.
When you contact Lifetime Adoption to make an adoption plan, we’ll work with you as you choose adoptive parents who you feel are right for your baby. Your baby won’t go into state custody, so he or she will never be waiting to be adopted. Once your baby is born, you’re able to place him or her in their adoptive parents’ arms.
Who Wants to Adopt My Baby?
There are many couples currently hoping to adopt a baby. Some may not be able to have kids biologically due to infertility. Others have children but feel the Lord calling them to grow their families through adoption.
No matter the reason, there are loving couples who can provide a good home for your baby. It may surprise you that the adoptive family will not only love your child but will also love and accept you.
Adoption Gives You Choices
It’s entirely your decision who adopts your baby. Every couple you see on Lifetime Adoption’s website has had background checks and has been properly vetted. Your Adoption Coordinator will get an idea of what you’re seeking in adoptive parents for your baby. Once she understands what type of adoptive parents you’re looking for, she’ll email you links to view potential profiles.
You can look at as many adoptive families’ profiles as you want. Then, if you find a family that you like, your Adoption Coordinator can arrange a phone call, FaceTime, Zoom, or in-person meet-up for you and the adoptive parents to get to know each other better. Some questions to ask yourself as you consider adoptive families include:
- What values are important to you? What values or beliefs are you looking for in a family to raise your child? Some birth mothers want their babies raised by adoptive parents who have similar religious beliefs. You may be looking for a family that likes to travel and show your child the world or one that puts a lot of value on higher education. You get to decide what is most important to you.
- Do you imagine your child’s future? When you think about your child growing up in a family, what do you envision for them? What opportunities would you like your child to experience? Do you hope they go to college? Would you like your child to be home-educated or go to a private school? Maybe you would like her to grow up in the countryside on a farm or in a big city.
- What size family do you want for your child? You may want your child to grow up with older siblings, or you might prefer your child to be the oldest in a family. Do you want your child to grow up near extended family, grandparents, uncles, aunts, or cousins?
Are You Worried About Foster Care?
If you are in a situation where you believe your newborn or young child will be taken by state authorities and placed in foster care, know that there is another option. You may have heard how kids end up in the foster care system for years, waiting to be adopted into a permanent home. Sometimes they’re in foster care until they’re adults.
When you use an adoption agency like Lifetime Adoption, you will have hundreds of adoptive families available to you. Your baby won’t go into the state foster system. Instead, they’ll have an adoptive family ready and waiting for them.
What About Open Adoption?
Every adoption has its own unique story. If you decide to place your child in an open adoption, you can stay in touch after placement. You can stay connected by emails, phone calls, texts, or sometimes in-person visits.
Your Adoption Coordinator can give you an idea of what an open adoption typically looks like. She can answer your questions and address any concerns you have. Plus, she can connect you with peer support, where you can talk with a birth mother who has an open adoption with her child. Chatting with someone who has been in your shoes can help you learn what to expect.
Lifetime Can Help
Lifetime Adoption has helped thousands of birth mothers from various backgrounds find the perfect adoptive family for their baby. There are many hopeful adoptive families, and each one is unique. There are married couples and singles, all waiting to adopt.
Who you choose as the right parents for your baby is entirely up to you. You are best qualified to make this decision, but we’re there to help you throughout the adoption process in any way you need.
If you’ve ever been worried that “No one wants to adopt my baby,” you can rest easy. There are hundreds of waiting adoptive parents who have been praying for a child and would love to welcome your baby into their family. Lifetime can answer your questions as you consider your choices. Call or text us today at 1-800-923-6784.
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Editor’s Note: This article was originally published on December 13, 2021, and has since been updated.
As the Vice President (VP) of Lifetime Adoption, Heather Featherston holds an MBA and is passionate about working with those facing adoption, pregnancy, and parenting issues. Heather has conducted training for birth parent advocates, spoken to professional groups, and has appeared on television and radio to discuss the multiple aspects of adoption. She has provided one-on-one support to women and hopeful adoptive parents working through adoption decisions.
Since 2002, she has been helping pregnant women and others in crisis to learn more about adoption. Heather also trains and speaks nationwide to pregnancy clinics to effectively meet the needs of women who want to explore adoption for their child. Today, she continues to address the concerns women have about adoption and supports the needs of women who choose adoption for their child.
As a published author of the book Called to Adoption, Featherston loves to see God’s hand at work every day as she helps children and families come together through adoption.