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How to Rock Your Home Study

Married couple with adoption consultantMany hopeful adoptive parents find the home study to be the most time-consuming and nerve-wracking part of the adoption process. They wonder things like, “Will they find our home to be acceptable? What about our parenting approach?”
 
Today, Lifetime Adoption Agency will share what to expect with a home study and how to prepare, as well as shed light on common home study myths!
 

What’s the adoption home study?

It’s an evaluation that a licensed social worker completes on a prospective adoptive family. Per state and federal regulations, you must have an approved home study to adopt. That’s because your home study will be used by your attorney to file adoption paperwork with the court. Before he or she approves and finalizes your adoption, a judge will review your home study.
 
It’s the perfect time to learn more about the adoption process and how to parent an adopted child. So make sure to ask your home study provider your questions as they come up!
 

Information in a Home Study:

  • Your background (childhood, parents and siblings, and life events)
  • Important people in your lives
  • Marriage and family relationships
  • Reason for adopting
  • Expectations for your child and the adoption
  • Outlook about infertility issues (if relevant)
  • Parenting approach and childcare plans
  • Family environment
  • Your health history
  • Education
  • Employment
  • Finances (including your insurance coverage)
  • References
  • Criminal background clearances

What to Expect in a Home Study

The home study process typically happens in 3 stages:
 
1st Stage: Complete required paperwork
 
2nd Stage: A social worker will make at least one visit to your home, and conduct individual interviews of both of you.
 
3rd Stage: The social worker writes an evaluation of your family and their recommendation for adoption.
 
The home study process will take from two to four months, depending on how quickly you complete your paperwork and how busy the home study worker is at the time.
 
Completing adoption paperwork

Common Myths About Home Studies

“Our house must be perfect.”
A social worker is expecting to walk into a home that looks lived in, not one that’s been perfectly staged. The social worker won’t arrive in a little white outfit for a white glove test, we promise!
 
“We have to be rich.”
Even though adoption can get expensive, you don’t need to be wealthy to get your home study approved. The social worker is looking to see if you’re financially stable; that you stay out of debt and pay your bills on time. So, what’s more important than how well-off you are is your budget, debt, and how you spend.
 
“We have to own our home.”
Couples who rent a condo, apartment, or house can also get their home study approved.
 
“My past has to be clean.”
The social worker understands that you’re only human. With that said, you’ll have to answer questions about your criminal background, social environment, and medical history. Shares Linda Rotz, Lifetime’s Director of Adoption Services, “The adoptive couple needs to share if they’ve been directly or indirectly exposed to circumstances such as alcohol/drug abuse, physical abuse, mental abuse, sexual abuse, jail, counseling or financial issues. The truth is, most couples have had some sort of exposure,”
 
The social worker completing your home study will evaluate the issues and address them. Sometimes, a hopeful adoptive couple needs to show growth and change in a specific area, or take additional training. While there are felonies that would disqualify a couple from adopting, each state has its own laws. So it’s best to evaluate them with the social worker.
 
Social worker tours a couple's home

How to Get Ready for Your Home Study

Be prepared to answer questions about very personal topics such as your marriage, childhood, and any issues you might carry around. The home study provider might ask about your mental health, how you were disciplined as a child, marriage conflict, infertility issues, and financial struggles.
 
By asking questions like this, the social worker is seeking to determine how you manage stress and difficulty. How have you worked through tough issues in the past? Do you have a strong support system? Are you willing to ask for help when it’s needed? By being straightforward about how you’ve moved through difficult events, the social worker can get a clear picture.
 

Home Study Tips

Expect to spend quite a bit of time completing paperwork and gathering the needed documents. Here’s a list of items that most home study professionals require:

  • Tax records
  • Birth certificates
  • Marriage certificate
  • Background checks
  • Bank statements
  • Employment verification
  • Proof of insurance
  • Physicals

We recommend reserving a few weeknights or a weekend to work through the process. Put on your favorite music, grab some snacks, put on some music, and get to work!
 
It’s important to be yourself during the home visit and interview. Since the home study professional is trying to get to know you and your family, it’s beneficial for you to be honest and straightforward.
 
The adoption home study might involve a lot of work, but once you bring your baby home you’ll see that it’s completely worth it!
 

Home Study Resources

Adoption webinars about the home study, which are free to access!

Lifetime’s Adoption Expert Q&A: The Adoption Home Study, and more…
Behind the Scenes of Your Adoption Home Study
Adoption Q & A – All About the Home Study
 
Here are some useful articles on the adoption home study:
 
Home Study 101: All You Need to Know
6 Proven Tips on How to Get Your Home Study Done in a Flash
How to Get Ready for Your Home Study in Florida
Surviving the Adoption Home Study

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What If No One Wants to Adopt My Baby?

Pregnant woman cradles bellyMany pregnant women who are thinking about adoption for their baby wonder, “Are babies that are put up for adoption always adopted?” They worry that no one will want to adopt their baby.
 
This worry usually comes from confusion about the adoption process. Some women are concerned that their baby’s health issue will affect his or her chances of being adopted.
 
We know that you want the best for your baby.
 
You’re probably thinking of adoption because you want your baby to have every opportunity in life. And right now, you might not be able to provide the kind of life you envision for your child. But, you might be wondering, “What if they aren’t adopted? What if nobody wants to adopt my child? Will they go into the foster care system?”
 
When you make an adoption plan through an adoption agency, your baby will be adopted. He or she will be placed into the arms of an adoptive couple who have been waiting and praying for a child.
 
The main reason that people wonder how many kids “given up for adoption” really get adopted is because they think adoption is just like foster care.
 
With adoption, you’re intentionally choosing for your baby to be parented by an adoptive couple. You’re able to select your adoption professional, your baby’s adoptive parents, how much contact you’d like with them, and how your time in the hospital for delivery will go.
 
In foster care, a child is removed from their home by the authorities. The child is usually placed into temporary care while waiting to go home with a biological family member. If they can’t be reunited with a member of their family, they’ll become eligible for adoption through foster care. These children then may face a long wait until a couple adopts them permanently from foster care.
 
When you contact Lifetime Adoption Agency to make an adoption plan, we’ll work with you as you choose adoptive parents who you feel are right for your baby. Your baby won’t go into state custody, so he or she will never be waiting to be adopted. Once your baby is born, you’re able to place him or her into their parents’ arms.
 
You might have heard about how children in foster care wait years to be adopted into a permanent family. Many of these children remain in foster care until they become adults at 18.
 
Fortunately, choosing adoption for your baby with an agency isn’t like that. By working with an adoption agency like Lifetime, your baby will have permanent adoptive parents ready and waiting for them. Making an adoption plan for a baby through an agency is different than a foster care adoption. Your baby is able to go home with their forever family.
 
If you’ve ever been worried that no one would want to adopt your baby, you can rest easy. There are hundreds of waiting adoptive parents who have been praying for a child and would love to welcome your baby into their family.
 

Click to view some of their profiles, or contact us to see more profiles of potential parents for your baby.

What is ICPC and How Will It Affect Our Adoption?

Mother holds her sleeping baby on a planeThe world of domestic adoption has its own terms, phrases and, of course, acronyms. During your adoption journey, they’re important to know and understand. If you’re chosen by a birth mother who doesn’t live in your state, the acronym “ICPC” will become a crucial part of your adoption and remain in the front of your mind.
 
Are you wondering what ICPC stands for exactly? And how it will apply to your adoption? Today, Lifetime Adoption Agency will break this commonly-used domestic adoption acronym down for you!
 
“ICPC” stands for The Interstate Compact on the Placement of Children. ICPC oversees the transfer of a child from one state to another in an adoption situation. It was created to make sure that there is an agreement in adoptions where the child is born in a state other than the one where the adoptive parents live. Each US state has different adoption laws on adoptive family requirements, when a birth parent can sign their termination of parental rights (TPR), and how long the revocation period is. ICPC allows adoption professionals in each state to communicate with one another to confirm everything is done safely and legally.
 
To sum it up, the birth mother’s state and the adoptive family’s state need to communicate with each other. The birth mother’s state is tasked with the safety and well-being of the child and has to inform the other state that this child will soon become a resident. ICPC is done for the protection and welfare of the child, which can be challenging to remember when you’re anxious to go home.
 
In most cases, ICPC is basically a formality. Look at it as the last “to-do” before you can bring your baby home. While you wait for ICPC to clear, you’ll need to remain in the state in which your baby was born. However, depending on circumstances, one spouse may be allowed to go back home so they can continue working while the adoptive couple waits for ICPC to be approved. Some states complete the paperwork faster than others, so your adoption professional should be able to give you an estimate of how long you might be waiting.
 
If you’re adopting from another state, it’s important to have plans made ahead of time for who will take care of things at home. We recommend setting up someone to care for your pets, bring in your mail, and take care of any other responsibilities that have to be done while you’re gone. Explain the process to your employer, and reassure them that you’ll return as soon as possible.
 
While being away from your familiar surroundings with a newborn can be challenging, it can also be the perfect time to bond with your new baby as a newly-expanded family. If you’ve made sure to tie up all the loose ends before you leave, you can use this time to bond as a family before you go back home to your everyday routine.
 

Do you have questions about how domestic adoption works? Lifetime Adoption Agency would love to help you!

Just call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

“What if I change my mind about adoption?”

Woman thinking outsideChoosing adoption for your baby is a major decision, and one that you might be on the fence about. Many women thinking about adoption worry that they might come to regret this decision. Right now, you might be wondering, “What if I change my mind about adoption? Can I adopt out my baby and get her back if I want to?”
 
At the end of the day, adoption is your choice. If your intuition is telling you that the adoptive couple you picked isn’t right, make sure to tell your Adoption Coordinator. She’s here to help you as you decide if the couple is right for your child.
 

Adoption Laws

After your baby is born, you have a set amount of time to change your mind about adoption. The amount of time depends on the state you live in. An adoption lawyer can make sure that you know your right and are fully informed before you sign anything.
 

Remember Your Reasons for Choosing Adoption

Before you stop the adoption, take a step back and think about why you chose adoption for your baby. What’s changed in your life that would make parenting easier? Why don’t you want to do adoption now?
 
A few of the most common reasons women choose adoption are:

    Pregnant woman at a park

  • Can’t afford to support another child
  • Environment is unsafe for a child
  • Lack of support from the father
  • Too young
  • Parenting would get in the way of future plans
  • Desire to provide child with a better life

Take some time to really consider your plans, feelings, and what’s going to work in the long-term. Then, be upfront and honest with your adoption agency and the adoptive couple you’ve already selected for your baby.
 
Remember, it’s never too late to choose adoption. If your parenting doesn’t work, you can always explore adoption again.
 

Speak With a Therapist

Lifetime encourages you to seek counseling during your adoption planning process. We can connect you with a licensed third-party counselor, for free. (“Third-party” means that the counselor has no personal interest in whether or not you do adoption.) The therapist merely is there to help you sort through the variety of emotions you might be facing.
 
Free peer counseling is also available to you. With peer counseling, you talk with a woman who chose adoption for her child. Since she’s been where you’re at right now, she can let you know what to expect as you get closer to your due date. If you’re having doubts about adoption, you can vent those to her.
 

Get Informed

Right now, the best thing you for yourself is to get as much information about adoption as possible. Reading this blog is a great place to start, as is going through all the info that your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime sent you. Seek support from a counselor or a close friend as you’re making your adoption decision. Here at Lifetime, we realize that adoption is a tough choice to have to make. You might have moments of doubt even when you’re on the right path.
 

Know that Lifetime Adoption Agency isn’t here to push you into choosing adoption. The adoption decision is up to you!

The Truth About Being Picked by a Birth Mother

Woman browses Internet on a tabletAmanda rested on the sofa, with a cup of tea resting in one hand one. She grabbed for her iPad and began to browse through her adoption agency’s website, something that she did every night upon getting home from work. As she navigated the site, Amanda began feeling defeated. As she looked at all the happy photos of other couples hoping to adopt, she wondered, “How will we ever stand out from all these other couples and get picked by a birth mother? What makes a birth mother choose one couple over another as the parents to her child? How can we compete against couples who are charming, well-educated, attractive, and wealthier?”
 
If this scenario sounds familiar to you, you’re not alone. Plenty hopeful adoptive parents feel worried from time to time that a birth mother won’t choose them. Struggling with jealousy and frustration during your adoption journey is normal. Today, we hope to bring clarity to the open adoption process and give you some bottom line truths about being chosen by a birth mother.
 

Why Them and Not Us?

Today, birth mothers pick adoptive families for a variety of reasons. Lifetime has seen women choose a certain couple just because they looked kind, or familiar, or fun. Birth mothers have decided on their baby’s adoptive parents based on where they live, their pets, or their hobbies. We’ve even worked with birth mothers who felt an instant connection to an adoptive couple because they both liked the same candy! As you can tell, there’s no specific formula to explain why a birth mother might like one family over another.
 
The truth is, a birth mother can only pick ONE adoptive family for her baby. Once she realizes that there are so many wonderful, loving couples who would make amazing parents for her baby, it makes her difficult decision even more so.
 

How Long Will We Wait?

Adoption is unique. If it were easier to adopt, there would be more people pursuing this path to parenthood. It’s challenging to predict exactly how long your adoption wait will be. That because here at Lifetime, adoption depends on a birth mother’s choice.
 
So, it’s important to follow your adoption agency’s guidance and expertise on your adoption profile, website, and video. Also, make sure to be as open as you’re comfortable in your adoption preferences for a child. Every time a birth mother sees your information, it’s another opportunity to be picked.
 
The bottom line is that there are a variety of reasons why some adoptive couples wait longer than others. Some hopeful adoptive parents may have put off turning in their home study paperwork or getting their adoption profiles in. Or, they might even have turned down an opportunity to adopt that was given to them and was inside their preferences. For couples who have been ready and proactive from the beginning of their adoption journey, it’s just a matter of time!
 
Each adoptive family’s path to their child is unique, but it can be hard not to compare yourself to others. Whether you’re seeking an adoption match on your own or with the help of a professional, we hope that the insights we shared here help you get through the frustrating days.
 

Do you need encouragement and inspiration during your adoption wait? Make sure to check out these helpful articles about waiting:

8 Ways to Be Positive During the Adoption Wait
 
In Your Adoption Wait? 5 Ideas on What You Can Do
 
A Lesson In Patience as You Wait to Adopt
 
Coping With Your Adoption Wait
 
Struggling With Your Adoption Wait? Read This!

“Can I Stop Her From Putting Our Baby Up for Adoption?”

A couple argues at the subway Question: “My girlfriend is pregnant and is thinking about adopting out our baby. I think she’s crazy for even considering it and I’m totally against adoption. It’s my baby too. Do I have any control over this? Can I stop her from putting our baby up for adoption?”
 
Answer: Yes, you do have a say in your child’s future. It’s not out of your control. As the baby’s father, you have the right to get answers to your questions. You also have the right to take part in the adoption planning process.
 
Lifetime encourages you to find out more about what’s called “open adoption.” It has been the right choice for many, especially those who aren’t ready to become parents. In an open adoption, both of you can work together to pick the adoptive parents for your baby. You can remain a part of your child’s life.
 
Here are some things to think about: are you giving your girlfriend any financial (or emotional) support during her pregnancy? These things will come into play when thinking about the adoption decision.
 
Also, you might ask yourself why she wants to do adoption. Many women choose adoption because they have other children and can’t afford another baby. Others make an adoption plan because having a baby would derail education or career goals. There are many reasons why women choose adoption.
 
Adoption is one of those decisions that you make based on what’s best for the child. Sometimes, the decision is made despite your own desires. She may long to become a mom, but realize that it just isn’t in the cards right now.
 
Talk more with your girlfriend about this. And when you do, don’t think about what you want. Think about the life you want your child to have. Looking at adoptive couple profiles online can sometimes help you picture the possibilities with adoption.
 

Here are some articles to help you learn more about birth fathers & adoption:

 
“I’m a Birth Father…Do I Have a Say in Adoption?”
 
What Should I Do If My Girlfriend is Choosing Adoption?”
 
What Are My Responsibilities as a Birth Father?
 
How to Get Your Baby’s Father Involved in Adoption
 
Birth Fathers and Adoption
 

If you like to speak to someone right now about adoption, call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

Discover the Basics of Infant Adoption in This Webinar!

baby girl sleepingThere is so much to learn, to prepare, and to think about when it comes to adopting a baby. But it doesn’t have to be overwhelming! Lifetime is here to help you sort through your questions and get the details and tips you need to pave the path that’s right for you and your adoption goals.
 
A great way to learn about infant adoption is through Lifetime’s webinars. Our webinars are helpful, casual, interactive, and FREE to attend! You will get a lot of information and encouragement in just an hour.
 
Lifetime recently hosted a webinar where we answered some of the most common topics, using very individual questions from our audience of future adoptive parents. This webinar will help you learn (the basics and beyond!) about adoption AND also discover how things work at Lifetime.
 
The replay of this webinar now available here: Adoption 101 Q&A: Adoption Basics…and Beyond
 
Whether you’re just starting to learn about adopting a baby in the US, or if you’ve reached the point where you’re searching for the right help to reach your adoption dream, the topics we discussed in this live webinar will help you better understand modern adoption AND get to know Lifetime.
 
Learn all about newborn adoption in this webinar!Wondering who this webinar is good for?

  • Anyone just starting to learn about domestic adoption.
  • Hopeful parents curious about open adoption.
  • Parents hoping to expand their family through adoption.
  • Adoptive families who want to adopt again.
  • First-time parents deciding when to move from infertility to adoption.
  • Future parents ready to choose the right adoption help.

Listen to Adoption 101 Q&A: Adoption Basics…and Beyond if you want to learn (the basics and beyond!) about adoption. Our audience of future adoptive parents asked the best questions! We got to cover several hot topics that come up for people who are thinking about adopting a baby.
 
Here’s the link to the replay of this webinar: Adoption 101 Q&A: Adoption Basics…and Beyond. And you can visit AdoptionWebinar.com to get FREE access to dozens of recent webinars, helpful for anyone hoping to adopt.
 

Take a step closer to the child you’re meant to adopt by completing Lifetime’s Adoptive Parent application!

How to Find Adoption Help You Need

Learn about the adoption help you can get from Lifetime Adoption Agency!The emotional rollercoaster of choosing adoption for your baby can seem difficult enough without adding paperwork and all the steps involved. It might seem impossible to get through when you look at the adoption process with one glance. But just like with anything, when you take it one step at a time, it’s much easier to finish.
 
With every step along the way, you have the right to receive adoption services to help you. From deciding to place to post-adoption services, there is adoption help available to you.
 
Today, we’re sharing some of the most important adoption services available to you as a birth mother:
 

Adoption Counseling

The emotions that you might face when you’re thinking about adoption can feel overwhelming at times. You’re not only are you making life-long decisions for your child, but you’re also working through your thoughts and feelings. Counseling is available for such times like these. From the moment you start thinking about adoption, counseling is available to you at no charge. Lifetime can refer you to a licensed third-party counselor, as well as a peer counselor. Adoption counseling can guide you during the process, and after with post-adoption therapy services.
 

Finding a Family

Finding the best family for your child is probably one of the most important decisions you will make after deciding on adoption. Most women who choose adoption don’t have the family picked out already and need help locating the perfect adoptive parents.
 
When you’re ready to start looking for the family, help is available. Lifetime Adoption Agency can send you info on hopeful adoptive couples in a variety of formats from printed and bound profiles, to websites and videos that the adoptive couple creates. There are many families across the US looking to adopt, so you’ll have a wide selection to choose from.
 
Pregnant girl sits outsides

Legal Help

Legal representation is an important part of the adoption process, especially if you have a difficult relationship with your baby’s father. Lifetime Adoption Agency will coordinate legal representation for you, at no cost.
 

Financial Support

When you’re pregnant, your living expenses will probably go up as your grocery bill, doctors’ visits, and the need for supplies increase. You may be able to receive financial assistance from the adoptive family you choose, depending on your state. You might look to non-profits and local churches for help too. So if you need help during your pregnancy, make sure to learn about all the local resources available to you.
 

Adoption Planning

Planning an adoption involves filling out paperwork, and deciding on your plans and goals. While paperwork can seem like a chore, it’s important that your desires during the adoption process are made clear to us. Paperwork can help you in your decision-making process about the type of family you are looking for, how you want the process to move forward, and more.
 

Why Should I Accept Adoption Help?

Using the adoption help and services we offer will keep you focused, and motivated. There’s nothing wrong with asking for help. You might not think you need counseling, but later come to find it’s beneficial to you. There are many adoption support resources available. We’re here to help you, and there isn’t anything wrong with a little help when it comes to such a major decision like adoption.
 

If you have questions about the types of resources available, or if there is something you need and don’t know where to go to find it, feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-923-6784 for help.

“We knew that there was a child meant for us!”

Brandon and Megan with their cherished daughter, ArianaThe blessing in reading adoption stories is that you can really learn a lot from them. This especially holds true when you’re hearing from adoptive couples who have adopted recently.
 
Florida adoptive couple Brandon and Megan were blessed to adopt a baby girl through Lifetime just last year. In this family’s story, we hear from Megan about how they decided adoption was the way they’d build their family and their experience with becoming parents together through an open adoption.
 
You’ll learn valuable tips about how to cope with the adoption wait, as well as how to educate your family and friends about the beauty of open adoption! Now a forever family, adoptive mom Megan shares their beautiful story in this special guest blog post!
 
 
Megan gazes lovingly at her daughter“When I think of adoption it is with mixed emotions, the most overpowering one being love. We have been blessed by the adoption journey and by our daughter. However, I can also remember a time not so long ago that adoption was bittersweet and only wishful thinking. We had known we wanted to adopt long before the infertility issues began.
 
Once we were told that we would not be able to have children, adoption became more real. Throughout the process, there were fears, yet there was always hope. We knew that there was a child meant for us. Now, we can’t imagine our life without adoption and the greatest gift we’ve ever known: our daughter, Ariana.
 
Our adoption journey was relatively short. We spoke with Lifetime in August, and by March we were blessed with our daughter. During the process, I underwent a hysterectomy, and my husband and I endured a lot of grief during that time.
 
For me, adoption was something to hold onto, and I kept the faith that we would be parents. The waiting period was difficult, but my husband and I kept busy. We went on vacation for his birthday the month before we were matched. We focused on enjoying every moment before it would no longer be just the two of us.
 
Brandon with ArianaWhen we shared with our family and friends that we were going to adopt, they were both excited and nervous. Many people were skeptical of our decision, and we received a lot of questions about cost and age and the process.
 
One hesitation that people had was regarding an open adoption. Although we had researched the topic and felt comfortable, I think it made our family uneasy. We would get questions like, “How can you have a relationship with the birth family?” and “What if the birth mother wants her child back?” So we would educate them.
 
We were set in our decision that this was the right path and felt strongly that open adoption would be best for our child and us. We wanted that relationship, and now that we have it, we’re so thankful that we stuck to our guns. Once people realized how passionate and confident we were in the process, they were more enthusiastic and supportive.
 
We continue to speak with Ariana’s birth mother every month. For Christmas, she mailed Ariana a gift, and we sent something in turn. We love having an open relationship with her. She is uncomfortable with visits at this time. But she knows that if she changes her mind in the future, we are open to visits. We are so glad that our daughter will grow up knowing her birth mother and how much love we all have for her!”
 

Lifetime would love to help you adopt a baby, too!
 
Start your open adoption journey today by completing Lifetime’s free application to adopt.

How to Prepare for Your First Meeting With the Adoptive Parents

Pregnant woman talking on the phone at a parkYou’ve put a lot of time and effort put into choosing the perfect family for your baby. You’ve read profile after profile until you finally found “the one.” It can be a big relief to have that part of your adoption planning behind you.
 
That is until you realize now it’s time to meet them. If the thought of meeting them has you feeling stressed, you’re not alone. The adoptive couple is very nervous too because they want to make a good first impression.
 
Your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime will help you get ready for that first meeting or phone call with an adoptive couple. She can also join the phone call, too, to help you begin the conversation and move it along.
 

Here are three helpful tips that’ll have you feeling more prepared for your first meeting with the adoptive couple:

Be Natural

Since you’ll need to create a connection with your baby’s potential adoptive parents, just be yourself. They’re just as nervous as you. The adoptive couple isn’t there to judge you, they want to get to know you and to show you that they’re dependable.
 
The more calm and open-minded you can be, the better. This will set a good tone as you get to know each other. You’re seeking a genuine connection because this will be a lifelong relationship.
 

Choose a Neutral Location

Try to meet in a neutral setting if possible, one where you’ll feel comfortable. You might choose to meet in a spot such as your favorite restaurant or shop. We recommend that you don’t meet up in the adoptive couple’s home or your home because it can create pressure. If you don’t live close enough to the adoptive couple to meet, we recommend talking on the phone for your first meeting.
 
If it’s hard to break the ice or the conversation goes off course, a public setting will give you more to talk about. Small talk can help make everyone comfortable and lead to a more meaningful discussion.
 

Ask Questions

You’re in charge of this meeting, so feel free to ask as many questions as you want. After looking at their profile, you can try to get a better feel for who they are and what they have to offer. Use the information in their profile to dig a little deeper. When you’re getting ready for the meeting, we recommend writing down the questions you’d like to ask. Then, you can add more questions as you think of them.
 
The most important thing to remember as you prepare for this first meeting is that it’s up to you. If you don’t feel comfortable with the adoptive couple, you don’t have to choose them. Adoption isn’t easy, and the hardest part can be making sure you’re choosing the right adoptive family for your baby. So, don’t stress, take your time, and remember that you are in control.
 

Questions about adoptive couples, or about adoption in general?

Call or text Lifetime Adoption Agency at 1-800-923-6784 anytime of the day or night!