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New Webinar Replay, Only Available Through July!

Adoption webinar on the pressure to be the perfect adoptive parentAfter last week’s webinar on adoptive parenting, one of our audience members shared: “I’m a nurse and have worked in what I thought were similar situations. The topics discussed tonight are truly unique and absolutely informative!”

Lifetime Adoption founder, seasoned adoptive mom, and award-winning adoption author, Mardie Caldwell, shared her personal experience with the unique and complex emotions and pressures that come with growing a family through adoption.

Spilling secrets from her early days as a new adoptive mom, as well as observations from 31 years helping adoptive families and birth mothers, Mardie spoke candidly about post-adoption depression, adoptive parent guilt and grief, and how honoring a promise to open adoption can help all involved in a new adoption story.

This webinar was highly praised by hopeful adoptive parents who were able to attend our live broadcast this week. For a limited time, you can access the replay to this helpful resource at this link on AdoptionWebinar.com: Mardie Caldwell Shares About the Pressure to be the Perfect Adoptive Parent.

In order to hear the webinar, you’ll need to subscribe first. Subscribing is completely free, and it’ll give you access to all of our webinar recordings. You’ll also be sent info, dates, and times about our future webinars! You can subscribe using this link.

7 Powerful Ways to Learn About Infant Adoption (Part 2)

Discover powerful ways to learn about infant adoption!Lifetime shares what successful adoptive families do and what struggling adoptive families have not done in part two of our two-part series of adoption education. If you missed part one, you can read it here: 7 Powerful Ways to Learn About Infant Adoption (Part 1).

Lifetime estimates that only 20% of prospective adoptive families focus on actively learning about adoption. They read adoption books, tune into webinars, and ask important questions of other adoptive families, adoption agencies, attorneys, and social workers. They’re focused on completely understanding what their adoption journey will involve. In doing so, they can adopt a baby in a shorter time frame.

Since you’re reading this, you’re probably in that 20% — or moving towards entering this successful group!

Here are 3 more powerful (and simple!) ways to get the most benefit from what you learn:

1. Teach yourself about adoption.

When you educate yourself about adoption, you’ll come to find you’re saving money in the long run. The time you spend reading books will save you from making errors in decision making such as spotting “red flags” in adoption situations. After you adopt, you’ll be able to look at the amount you spent on learning about adoption and how much value you got for the money.

Lifetime has also noticed that educated adoptive couples make better adoption decisions, communicate more effectively with birth mothers, and are less stressed. They have a much better adoption experience than those who didn’t do much to understand the birth parents’ feelings and the adoption process as a whole. It’s a powerful investment.

2. Choose the most qualified adoption professionals to work with.

Judge adoption professionals by their value, not their fees. Often, an adoption professional with a proven track record of success will give you lots more value (and less heartache!) than those less expensive. The “tried and true” professionals may be higher priced, but they offer a comparative bargain. Compare the adoption services and successes of various professionals. When you research agencies, take your time. Just a few weeks of research will pay off immensely. You can check for referrals with the Better Business Bureau.

3. Start now!

As they say, “Don’t delay, start today!” The more you procrastinate educating yourself about adoption, the longer it will take for you to adopt a baby. Moving closer to your dream of infant adoption is both possible and achievable. Start today; you won’t regret the experience!
 
 

Are you interested in discovering how Lifetime Adoption Agency can help you begin your family?
 
Please take the first step today by filling out our online application. The application is free of charge and is quick to fill out.

7 Powerful Ways to Learn About Infant Adoption (Part 1)

Luke and Lindsay were blessed by a Lifetime infant adoption!Today we’re sharing with you what may be the most important key to adoption success in infant adoption: education. But first, some background information. We have over 30 years of working with adoptive parents and assisting birth parents. In that time, we’ve seen what the successful adoptive families do and what struggling adoptive families have not done.

This post is part one in a two-part series of adoption education. Here are 4 powerful (and simple!) ways to get the most benefit from what you learn:
 

1. Learn from those who have already adopted successfully.

Avoid taking advice from people who haven’t “been there, done that”. Plenty of people who give adoption advice are wrong; they’re simply giving their opinions. They don’t have in-the-trenches experience with adopting. If they’ve never adopted, or their adoption was several years ago, you’ll find that the laws, methods, and adoption experiences have changed. So, following their advice can be frustrating and a waste of your time. Even worse, it may lead you down the wrong path.
 
Many people are uneducated about adoption, and learn what they know about it from the media. In reality, most adoptions go smoothly and without issues. But, the media knows that drama sells, even if it characterizes a tiny part of the adoption experience.
 
2. Read and listen actively.

As you read adoption books or listen to webinars, think to yourself: “How can this be applied to my adoption journey?” Write down notes so you can apply what you learn. If you don’t take notes, you’ll forget what you learned, and you won’t benefit.
 
3. Schedule time for learning about adoption.

Humans spend three to eight hours each week discovering learning new things. Since you’re likely busy already, allocate some time in your schedule for adoption education. Making the time is key to your success!
For example, knowing basic adoption terms will prevent you from having to spend money unnecessarily for an attorney to explain simple terms you can understand on your own. The time you’ve scheduled to learn about adoption can also be spent creating an adoption budget. Think about how you’ll fund your adoption.
 
4. Don’t strive for perfection

Don’t put lots of pressure on yourself: you don’t have to know everything right away. Begin by learning adoption terms, and then read stories from birth mothers to learn their point-of-view.

When you have questions about something, write them down. You can then ask others and do further research. Don’t try to be perfect. Just take things one topic at a time. “When my husband and I were adopting, I set aside one hour a day to adoption. That hour was devoted to learning about adoption. I did this by speaking to others that had adopted, reading books, and searching for adoption professionals,” says adoptive mother and Lifetime’s Founder, Mardie Caldwell.
 

Next week, we’ll share three more simple ways you can get the most benefit from what you learn about adoption!

In the meantime, feel free to browse our website, learn about adoption loans, and contact us with your questions.

We’re So Grateful to Lifetime for Helping Us Become a Family!

new adoptive parents Jesse and AliciaLifetime Adoption Agency Florida is excited to congratulate adoptive parents Jesse and Alicia from Colorado! They were blessed to adopt a baby girl, Brynlee, just a few weeks ago!

The excited adoptive couple emailed us:

“This all feels like a dream! We are so in love with baby Brynlee. We can’t take our eyes off of her! She is perfect in every way, God truly had His hand in every part of our adoption journey. We’re grateful for all the time we were able to spend with Brynlee’s birth mom at the hospital. We will cherish those moments and share them with Brynlee as she grows up.

We’re so thankful to have found Lifetime. You all have been there every step of the way. I remember when we had our first call with Jen. We were nervous and unsure of what to expect, but she was so sweet and answered every question (I had a huge list) and by the end of the call Jesse and I knew instantly knew that Lifetime would help us become a family of three. Struggling with infertility for so long leaves you vulnerable and it is difficult to imagine that you may never become a parent. God led us to Lifetime because He knew this perfect little girl would be waiting for us and that everyone at Lifetime would be here every step of the way! Every phone call, every webinar, and every prayer helped us become stronger and prepared us for parenthood.

precious baby girl BrynleeNatalie,
Thank you so much for always being so responsive to my emails and phone calls and for always being available to talk. Anytime I was feeling anxious you were there for me. We talked, we laughed, and you reassured me that everything was looking good for us and that God has a plan and His timing is perfect. I’m so thankful for the sharing of our page and the prayers you have said for our family. I will forever be thankful for you and the kindness you have shown us.

Tiffany,
I appreciate you not only being here for us, but for being here for Vanessa as well. You were there to support her when she didn’t have much support from anyone. You made her feel comfortable and you took the time to teach her about open adoption. You made yourself available to us and answered our questions, even when we called you at 7am because we were too excited to sleep!

As I am sitting here, holding our daughter in my arms and typing through my happy tears, I just couldn’t wait to share our thanks and gratitude to everyone at Lifetime. Thank you all so much! We can’t wait to share pictures and updates with you as she grows!”

Are you dreaming of infant adoption? Let Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida help you! Call us today at 1-800-923-6784.

Renewed Hope After a Failed International Adoption

Lifetime adoptive couple Jason and Rebecca have been blessed by domestic adoption!

Lifetime adoptive couple Jason and Rebecca have been blessed by domestic adoption!

Many countries have begun barring adoptions from happening. This has left many with a failed international adoption, as they are unable to move forward with their adoption plans. Not only that, but they are also unable to regain their adoption funds so that they can adopt elsewhere. Some adoptive couples were already working on the adoption of a specific child, and just waiting for the approval to travel home. This left many disappointed and devastated.

International adoption has always been a risk. It takes a strong heart and courage to forge ahead into unknown paths, with nothing but faith and a plan to bring their child home.

But there are other adoption options to think about, which you might never have considered. At Lifetime, we talk to thousands of women living in the US in unplanned pregnancies who are hoping that someone will be willing to adopt their baby.

Some adoptive couples are hesitant about domestic adoption because they’re frightened an open adoption plan means co-parenting. Also, they seem scared that the birth mother will come by to reclaim her baby. The reality is, most birth mothers in the U.S. seek families willing to at least share letters and photos after the adoption. Some are looking to have an in-person visit with the family, once a year for just a few hours at a location like a park. Due to fear, adoptive families miss out on these great adoption situations. It is possible for the birth mother to love her child, and yet wish to make an adoption plan. If an adoptive family is open to contact with a birth mother afterward, their wait time will be much shorter!

You may be wondering “why do we need to stay in contact if she doesn’t even want the child?” Most birth mothers want contact simply because they need that peace of mind, to know they made the right choice. In an open adoption, the adoptee never has to search for answers about their origins. And, with open domestic adoption, you’ll have your baby’s medical history and information.

Many times in an open domestic adoption, the family and the birth mother have been talking long before the baby is born, and they’ve developed a bond. They meet in the hospital for the birth of the child. They’re both excited about this new little life and want to make sure the baby is well-raised.

After the birth mother places her baby directly into the waiting arms of the family, most parents are completely in awe of the blessing the birth mother has given them. They’re amazed at the birth mother’s strength to willingly trust them with their new child. They’re overjoyed that they now have their baby in their arms!

There are lots of benefits to a domestic adoption over an international adoption. First off, there’s far less travel and expense involved. And, most domestic adoptions happen much quicker than international adoptions. The process in domestic adoption is streamlined because you’re working only with American laws and entities. In domestic adoption, most infants are born quite healthy with few medical complications. Finally, in domestic adoption, adoptive families have access to the medical records of the birth mother and the baby.

There are far fewer unknowns and uncertainty in domestic adoption. If you’ve been barred from an international adoption, or who have been told the wait will be many years, your hope can be renewed by exploring a domestic adoption.

If you have your specific questions about domestic adoption and would like to see if it’s right for you, please call Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida at 1-800-923-6784 or send us a message.

Are You Ready to Grow Your Family Through Adoption?

Is it time to grow your family through adoption?Have you been thinking about welcoming a second (or third) child into your home? For many, adoption is one of the biggest and most rewarding decisions of their lives. If you’re already a parent and would like to grow your family through adoption, there are questions to ask yourselves and factors to weigh in. Keep scrolling to discover how you can realize your dream and grow your family through adoption!

Here are some questions and concerns to keep in mind as you contemplate domestic infant adoption:

  • How will adoption affect our lives?
    Think about the areas of your lives that would be affected by a new addition. Factors to consider include time, finances, housing, scheduled commitments, and values.
  • Why do we want to adopt another child?
    There are lots of reasons why people want to parent again; some valid and some a bit questionable. Is it because you have a strong wish to parent another child? Maybe you have experience with parenting and feel confident about it. Does it feel as if there’s a missing piece in your family “puzzle”? These are all examples of good reasons to expand your family through adoption.

    However, you may wish to stop and think a little more if you want to adopt because your child wants a sibling, you want to make a difference to a “child in need,” or you believe that another child will fix your marriage.

We hope the questions and concerns we shared here are helpful as you think about whether or not to grow your family through adoption. Another child will definitely change your current family dynamic, so it’s wonderful you’re pondering your reasons for adopting.

As you think about this decision, we encourage you to seek out adoption books, blogs, and professionals that may be helpful. Recognize that the decision to adopt is ultimately a personal one. Take as much time as you need to make the best choice for you, your spouse, and your current child(ren).

Once you’re ready to start your adoption journey, you can message us or call us at 1-800-923-6784. We’ll help you begin the path towards domestic infant adoption!

Worth the Wait

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is excited to congratulate adoptive parents Kevin and Tequila from Georgia! They were blessed to adopt a baby boy, Maddox, just last week!
 
We were lucky enough to meet this newly-formed adoptive family in person! They visited our office and chatted with Lifetime’s adoption professionals, including Linda, Tiffany, and Natalie.
 
Adoptive family Kevin and Tequila visit with Lifetime's professionals
 
Worth the wait and loved!Baby Maddox was born at 3:14 am, weighed 7 pounds two ounces, and was 20 inches long. Kevin and Tequila are so happy and in love with him! We think his onesies say it all: “worth the wait” and “loved.”
 
Kevin and Tequila’s story of adopting Maddox began when two of Lifetime’s staff members met with his birth mother. They provided her with a labor bag, full of essentials that pregnant women need for their hospital stay. That very night, Maddox’s birth mother went into labor! Kevin and Tequila were able to make it to the hospital in time for delivery!
 
They make a beautiful family! Here’s a sweet video of Kevin, Anthony, Maddox, and Lifetime’s staff visiting:
 

Kevin & Tequila Adoptive Couple Adoption Update from Lifetime Adoption on Vimeo.

 

Would you like to discover how Lifetime Adoption Agency can help you begin your family?
 
You can take this first step towards adoption today! Just fill out our online application. The application is free of charge and can be completed quickly and simply.

Mother’s Day Adoption Webinar on Thursday! Hear Deanna’s Story

Our caring staff at Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida knows that Mother’s Day can be difficult when you’re in the midst of your adoption wait. Many adoptive-mothers-in-waiting experience mixed emotions on Mother’s Day. We’ll be hosting a special adoption webinar in honor of Mother’s Day!

Tennessee adoptive couple David and Deanna thought that they were going into yet another Mother’s Day waiting for a baby.

But last year, they were chosen by a birth mother who was in labor with a with a baby girl. She called Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida while in labor and was able to make a last-minute adoption plan!

Deanna is going to share her beautiful adoption story in a future webinar. She looks forward to telling future adoptive parents about her adoption journey. She’s hoping that the adoption wait story encourages you. David and Deanna’s story is a declaration of faith and perseverance in domestic adoption!

Just click this link to reserve your spot! This webinar was rescheduled. However, you may still register to attend and then you will be the first to know when the new date is confirmed.

Here’s the link to register for Lifetime’s special Mother’s Day webinar:
https://attendee.gotowebinar.com/register/4694935921382638338.

You can attend our adoption webinar online, over the phone, or by using the GoToWebinar app from your smart phone.

Upon registering for our special Mother’s Day webinar, we’ll email you instructions on how you can tune in live.

You can benefit from hearing adoptive mother Deanna’s story, no matter what stage you’re in of your adoption journey!

A Fun Money-Saving Tip for Your Adoption Budget

save money for your adoption budget with this fun tip!Are you preparing to have professional photos taken for your adoption profile? Or maybe you’ve set an in-person meeting with your home study provider and want to look presentable. Looking good and saving money on a manicure is possible with this simple tip. It’ll help you feel confident, while at the same time save money for your adoption budget.

Lots of women find that at-home manicures are tricky. Do you end up with polish on your skin when you’re done? Make your DIY manicure easier and less messy by applying Elmer’s glue. It’ll catch the extra polish and remove it from your skin once your polish dries. When you’re done, your skin will remain polish-free and your nails will look flawless!

Here are the supplies you’ll need: an old makeup brush, Elmer’s glue, a cuticle stick, and nail polish. Select a makeup brush you don’t mind ruining, or get one at the dollar store. This tip is really useful when you’re applying nail polish with your non-dominant hand since painting is usually trickier on that side.

Here are the 4 simple steps to your flawless DIY manicure:

1. Get out that old makeup brush and use it to spread glue on your finger, onto your skin around each nail. Make sure to apply just a thin layer. Otherwise, it’ll take forever to dry.

2. Polish your nails with the color you’ve selected.

3. After your polish has dried, use your cuticle stick to begin peeling off the glue. As you peel the glue off, you’ll be removing the extra polish layer on top of it, too. Once you begin peeling with the cuticle stick, you can just pull the rest off using your fingers.

4. Use your cuticle stick to skim away any of the remaining dried glue from your skin.

4 Terrific Tips on Listening to Birth Mothers

learn tips on listening to birth mothersListening is so important in any relationship, and especially when first meeting a birth mother. Many adoptive parents are so nervous during that first phone call that they chatter on and on. As a result, they never get to know the person on the other end of the phone. Today, we’re sharing simple tips on listening to birth mothers!

Humans can think about lots of things at once, and many of us do just that. This is a real issue if it’s done while speaking with a birth mother. It may feel natural to plan what you’ll say next when someone is speaking to you. But if you’re focused on what you’ll say next, then you’re not concentrating on a birth mother and her needs.

If you don’t truly listen to a birth mother, it may cost you the opportunity to adopt her child. Our Founder Mardie Caldwell shares, “I’ve seen several adoptive couples lose the opportunity in their first conversation by talking too much about themselves or drilling the birth mother with questions.”

Here are our 4 simple tips on how to effectively listen to birth mothers:

1. Really listen, and don’t interrupt her. Let the birth mother finish her sentence before you jump in. You can instead jot down a note that says what you wanted to say, and ask once she’s done talking.

2. Ask questions about the birth mother and her life, and be interested. Never judge her or preach to her. Ask if she’d like to know more about you, and then go ahead.

3. Give her a sign that you acknowledge, understand, and hear what she is saying.

5. Repeat or “mirror” what you heard her saying, in her words. Doing so makes sure she knows you got it.

Developing a healthy relationship with a birth mother isn’t a chess game. Plotting your next move while she’s talking is counterproductive.

Practice these tips the next time you have a conversation at work or with a friend. It might feel weird and uncomfortable at first. However, you’ll see that people respond well to you. When you talk to a birth mother, you’ll have listening experience and will increase your chances of a match!