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7 Things to Know About Your Unplanned Pregnancy

positive pregnancy test? here's what you should know!Lots of us have been there: standing in line to pay for a pregnancy test. It doesn’t matter if the test is for a friend or a “friend,” it’s as if you can feel the panic in the air.

If you’ve just gotten a positive pregnancy test, you might be freaking out. Nothing in makes sense, and it’s like your stomach has fallen to your feet. You wake up the next few mornings with anxiety, realizing it wasn’t all a dream and you’re actually pregnant.

Here are 7 things to be aware of about your unplanned pregnancy:

1. It’s fine to be scared
The fact that you’re freaking out makes you human. It doesn’t matter if you’re 17, 27, or 37: an unplanned pregnancy is a shock. It’s also OK to be angry or sad. You might be sad for a version of your life that you’ll have to let go of. Know that no matter how you’re feeling, it’s okay. If you don’t allow yourself to feel these emotions now, they’ll eat you alive.

2. Nobody can tell you what to do
Lots of people might give you their opinions. But nobody can tell you how your decision will affect your life. No matter how many Google searches you do, it won’t predict your future. So try to cut through all the noise in your ears. Your heart knows which choice is best for you.

3. You’re not totally alone
Facing an unplanned pregnancy might make you feel alone, but that’s far from the truth. Nearly 50% of women in the U.S. will face an unplanned pregnancy by the time they’re 45 (source: the Guttmacher Institute). The reality is that there are tons of women who know how you feel because they’ve been there themselves.

4. Avoid using fear or anger to make a decision
While the emotions you’re feeling are real and OK, they might be getting in the way of your thinking. Once you’re calm, you’ll be best able to make a decision. Then, consider if the reason for your choice is love or fear.

5. Get a support system
This can be difficult to find, especially if you’re thinking about adoption. It will be an important part of moving forward. You might find a support system online if no one in your life has your back.

Lifetime has peer counselors that you can talk with. They’re women who’ve been where you are now and want to hear you out and give advice if you’re open to it. Just call us at 1-800-923-6784 if you’d like to talk or text with a birth mom.

6. You’re more than a statistic
Feeling ashamed, embarrassed, or even disappointed in yourself is normal. But we want you to know that you’re so much more than a just a statistic. An unplanned pregnancy doesn’t have to define you; it doesn’t make you stupid or irresponsible.

7. You can choose adoption anytime
You don’t have to make an adoption plan while you’re pregnant. Lifetime helps lots of women with adoption after their baby’s been born and when their child is a few years old. We’re not here to pressure you or rush you into a decision. Call Lifetime whenever you’re ready to learn more: 1-800-923-6784.

Modern Adoption vs. Safe Haven: How Do They Compare?

modern adoption or safe haven?Wondering what exactly is a “safe haven”? Safe Haven laws allow a parent give up their unwanted baby privately. With these laws, moms can drop their baby off at a safe haven location, as long as their baby hasn’t been abused. Safe Haven laws began so that babies wouldn’t be left in places like dumpsters or public toilets.

Regardless of what their life situation is like, a woman can make a private open adoption plan just as quickly and easily as she can drop off her baby at a safe haven. Just take a look at the benefits of creating an adoption plan instead of dropping off your baby at a Safe Haven:

  • Your baby won’t go into the crowded foster care system; they’ll be able to go home with a stable, loving adoptive couple of your choosing right away.
  • You’ll know what happened to your child (even if you end up choosing a closed adoption after placement.)
  • You can get access to no-cost counseling and support.
  • Adoption is free to choose, and it comes with no legal risks to you.
  • You can remain confidential with your situation
  • You’ll never be judged for making an adoption plan.
  • Adoption gives both you and your baby more stability and security in the long run.
  • If you choose open adoption, you’re able to stay in touch with your child and the adoptive family.

You can make an adoption plan for your baby at any time, even after they’re born. It’s never too late to choose adoption! Every child is wanted and adopt-able at Lifetime. To learn more about the advantages of modern adoption, just reach out to us.

Lifetime’s hotline is staffed 24 hours every day! You can call or send a text to 1-800-923-6784.

Telling People You’re Pregnant

The shock has started to wear off. You’ve taken a minute (or two or even a week!) to think about what your pregnancy will mean. Maybe you’ve decided against abortion, and are stressed out about becoming a mom.

how to tell people about an unplanned pregnancyTons of questions pop up. Who can you tell? Who can help you through the next few months of your pregnancy? What will people say? Will they be happy for you or disappointed in you?

Some women feel relieved once they tell people they’re pregnant. Once you tell people about your pregnancy, you’ll get a wide variety of reactions. Everyone will probably have an opinion to share—whether it’s helpful or not.

The bottom line this: it’s your body, your baby, and your pregnancy. Yours to talk about, yours to experience, and yours to decide about. And after your pregnancy, the baby is yours. So the opinion that counts the most is your own.

This doesn’t mean you have to go through it all alone. Tell people who are going to have your back, even when they don’t agree with you. Tell those who love you, know you, and know your situation. Don’t be scared to share how you’re feeling. If you have someone there by your side, things might not seem as scary or overwhelming.

Would you like to talk about your pregnancy and how you feel about having a baby, but can’t find the words to tell your family or friends? Lifetime is familiar with unplanned pregnancies and the decisions that come with them. Reach out to our caring and compassionate coordinators by texting or calling us at 1-800-923-6784. We’re here to listen, not judge, and can help you find the words you need to tell your parents and your baby’s father. You’re not alone!

Adoption as a Solution to Unplanned Pregnancy

Adoption can be a great solution to an unplanned pregnancy...If you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and don’t feel prepared to raise a child, adoption is a realistic alternative. Adoptions today are done very differently than in years past.
 
Today, in what’s called an “open adoption,” you’re empowered and respected. You have the right to choose the parents you want for your child. Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida will send you profiles made by the hopeful adoptive parents. In the profile, they share about their lives, careers, where they live, and other facts. We encourage you to interview your top three picks over the phone, and in person if possible.
 
You’ll get to know the adoptive family better throughout your pregnancy. The amount of contact you’d like to have after the adoption happens is talked about and agreed on. Some birth mothers like to stay in touch with the adoptive family and their child through email and social media sites like Facebook. Others choose to have in-person visits once a year. It’s all up to you!
 
When they first hear about adoption, some women say, “I could never give my baby up for adoption.” But open adoption today really isn’t about a decision to “give my baby away.” It’s about making a mature decision if you realize that you wouldn’t be able to give your child everything you want to.
 
Maybe now isn’t the right time to parent. That’s a hard realization to come to, and so we encourage you to take advantage of the counseling we make available. You can talk to a licensed third-party therapist, and you can talk to a birth mother: someone who’s been where you are now and ended up choosing adoption for her child.
 

If you’d like info on how to get started with open adoption, you can call or text our 24-hour adoption answer line at 1-800-923-6784.

Adoption, Abortion, or Parenting…What’s Right for You?

Is Adoption, Abortion, or Parenting right for you?Every day, millions of women discover they’re pregnant. Some women are happy and excited to be pregnant, but others will not be. These women face a life-changing and important decision. Will adoption, abortion, or parenting be the right choice?

Every woman has pregnancy choices, whether they became pregnant on purpose or not. Know that no matter what your situation is, the options are still there: adoption, abortion, or parenting. The reality is this: the only person who can decide what’s best for you and your child is YOU.

Choosing abortion may create feelings of guilt or shame. Also, abortion is pretty expensive: according to Planned Parenthood, it costs up to $1,500 in the first trimester. The costs usually depend upon how far along you are and the insurance you have. It’s a decision that can’t be reversed.

Another option for you is to become a parent and to raise your baby. Of all of the three pregnancy choices, this the most expensive one. You’ll have the financial responsibility of a child placed on you. You’ll have a child relying on you for everything that they need until adulthood. Parenting does come with many positives, such as the opportunity to care for and love a child of your own, and to help him or her to grow into a positive member of society. You’ll be a major part of your child’s life. Parenting isn’t an irreversible decision. You might decide to parent right away, but discover it’s not working and choose adoption.

Adoption is one of the most flexible choices for your unplanned pregnancy. With adoption, you’ll be making a personal sacrifice by placing your child in the care of another family. There are many types of adoption, some which will allow you to be a part of the child’s life and some which will allow you to continue your life without that child. It’s up to you which type of adoption is best for you and your child. Adoption doesn’t come with any costs; you’re able to get help with pregnancy-related expenses. Plus, your life as you know it doesn’t have to stop since you won’t be the primary caregiver for a child. The biggest benefit of all is that your child will be given the best life possible by a family that loves him or her unconditionally.

To find out more about adoption as an option, just call or text us at 1-877-383-6847 at any time!

Why I Chose Adoption—Katy’s Story

Here's why I chose adoption for my baby...“When people ask me why I chose adoption, the answer is simple. I knew that giving my baby up for adoption was my best option I had within a few weeks of getting a positive pregnancy test. I was single, living with my parents at the time and working at a job that didn’t pay well. Plus, the guy I was hooking up with didn’t want anything to do with the pregnancy. When I told my parents I was pregnant, they said I’d need to find my own place if I chose to parent. But, but I didn’t want my baby to grow up in a single-parent home.

Because I wanted to make sure someone was there for me after I placed, I chose Adoption Agency Florida. I felt like they were truly looking to help everyone involved in an adoption. I was so nervous when I first called, but so glad I did. My adoption coordinator never made me feel guilty; I felt supported every time I texted, emailed, or talked to her on the phone. She made sure to let me know they supported me no matter what choice I made, even if I decided not to place at the last minute; that this was my right. I talked to a girl, a peer counselor, who had placed her baby for adoption years ago. My adoption coordinator and I discussed lots of things, like how I was feeling, how I might feel after placement, how to find the right adoptive parents, creating my birth plan for the hospital, and what my wishes were for future contact.

When I looked at adoptive family profiles, my list of must-haves included: living in the same state as me, having the same religion as me, and the same morals. Having the same hobbies was a plus, but not necessary. I was also looking for a couple who didn’t have kids; I wanted to bless someone who couldn’t have their own children. And, finally, I wanted to make sure they were open to contact later on, including visits.

Once it was time for my baby to be born, the adoptive couple I chose came to the hospital. The adoptive mom was in the room during labor and delivery and was one of the first to hold our daughter. Nowadays, I keep in touch with the adoptive couple and my daughter through Facebook, and I visit them on her birthday and in the summer. I don’t regret choosing adoption for my daughter because through it I was able to give her the life she deserves.”