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4 Ways to Build a Quality Relationship With Your Child’s Adoptive Family

Learn about building a relationship With your child’s adoptive familyWhen you decide to make an open adoption plan, it doesn’t just mean having a relationship with your child. It also means having a relationship with your child’s adoptive family. And creating a bond with them can be a wonderful experience!
 
Today, we’re giving you 4 tips to help get you to begin the path towards a quality relationship with the adoptive family:
 

1. Get to Know Them

Getting to know your child’s adoptive parents before and after placement is important! So, ask them questions about things like their lives, jobs, church, vacations, and traditions. You could try chatting with them like you would to a friend.
 
“When I go to California to visit my daughter and her adoptive parents, I always update them on my life – school, dating, work, and stuff like that,” says Taylor, a birth mother. “I think that when we show interest in each other’s lives, it makes us all feel more comfortable.” Who knows, the adoptive couple may even become some of your closest friends!
 

2. Honor Boundaries

It’s crucial to respect their roles as parents, and yours as the birth mom. These roles are equally important but different. When you honor their boundaries and parenting decisions, the adoptive parents will feel respected and secure in their role. This security will make them feel more comfortable with you.
 

3. Notice Your Child’s Siblings

If your child has siblings, you’re important in their lives too. “My son’s brother is one of my favorite kids. When I visit, we all play together. He knows that I love him and his brother,” says Hailey, a birth mother. So if you get your child a gift, think about getting a gift for their brother or sister, as well. They need to know they are important to you too.
 

4. Don’t Worry

Adoptive parents are only humans, so they might act awkward and make mistakes. They might be worried about saying or doing the wrong thing, just like you. So try not to feel intimidated as you start your relationship. What’s helped some birth moms is to think of them like extended family members.
 
 
The bottom line is that any relationship requires work. We recommend that you find what works best for you, since every open adoption relationship is different. Your relationship with the adoptive couple will naturally change as time passes. It’s possible to have an incredible open adoption relationship if you put the child first and remember that adoption is about love!

Financially Stable Adoptive Couple for My Baby

With Lifetime, you can make the choices to build a personalized adoption for your baby. We’re here to help you every step of the way. One of the most important choices in your adoption plan is going to be picking your baby’s adoptive parents.

We have hopeful adoptive parents from all across the US of various races. All of the couples you see on our site are ready to adopt: they’ve had intense background checks and are excited to become parents through adoption. Each adoptive couple has different occupations, educations, religions, and interests, so make sure to tell your Adoption Coordinator what you’re looking for.

Maybe you’re thinking, “I’d like to find a financially stable adoptive couple for my baby” or “It’s important to me that the adoptive parents raise my child to know God.” Today, we’re sharing about Dave and Meghann, an active, financially stable couple in Florida.

They’re very excited to welcome another child into their lives! Dave works as a Financial Analyst, and Meghann works in HR. They believe in the importance of a quality education and will provide your child with a stable and nurturing home. Their son, Daxton, is almost a year old. Dave and Meghann live in a spacious 2 story, 3 bedroom home, with a large backyard. They live near parks, the beach, a zoo, an aquarium, a dog park, and a community pool. Dave and Meghann are open to future contact with you through photos, letters, and visits.

Dave and Meghann created this cute video to introduce themselves and share more about what they have to offer your child!

Dave and Meghann from Florida are a financially stable adoptive couple for my baby

You can find out more about hopeful adoptive couple Dave and Meghann by visiting their adoption website. You may also view all adoptive family profiles here on AdoptionAgencyFlorida.com. If you see an adoptive family that you’re interested in, please give us a call at 1-877-383-6847.

Get Advice on How to Pick the Perfect Parents for Your Baby

Pregnant woman tries to pick the perfect parents for her babyLots of women ask us how to pick the right adoptive family. The answer is different for everyone, but it always starts with asking yourself what’s important to you. This will help you choose a family that best matches your wants and dreams for your baby.

If you’re worried about whether your baby will be safe with the adoptive couple, know that Lifetime Adoption only works with families who are approved to adopt a baby in the U.S. Every one of our adoptive families have been pre-screened, had their backgrounds checked, and have proven they’re emotionally, physically, and financially equipped to provide a safe, stable, and loving home for your baby.

Here are 5 practical tips to follow as you search for the perfect parents for your baby:

1. Don’t Rush Yourself

While you might like to find a family during your pregnancy so you can begin getting to know them, make sure to take your time in finding a couple who is the right match for you and your baby. Don’t feel like you have to rush into a decision because your due date is approaching. You’re able to choose a family after your baby is born, too. It’s never too late!

2. Consider Open Adoption

If you want to have a very open adoption relationship, you might want to view families who have already adopted and have an ongoing relationship with their child’s birth mother. When you see a couple who remain in contact with their child’s birth mother, it’s a good sign that they’d be willing to have an open adoption relationship with you as well.

3. Remain Flexible

You won’t know exactly how much and what type of post-adoption contact you’ll want until you’ve placed your baby with his or her adoptive parents. During the planning stages of the adoption, some women feel like they’d like to visit with the adoptive family twice a year. But after placement, they decide that once a year is enough. It’s important to have an adoptive family who is open to that possibility and willing to be flexible. You might want to talk with the adoptive couple about leaving some room for flexibility in your post-adoption contact.

4. Talk to More Than One Couple

You might wish to speak with more than one adoptive family, even if it is just for comparison. It’s your right to talk to more than one couple if you want to. Some birth mothers know right away that the adoptive family they’ve selected is the perfect fit. Others want to talk to several adoptive couples to compare. This helps them make sure that their top pick is really the right family.

5. Trust Your Intuition

If you start to see “red flags” at any time that this might not be the right family for your baby, do something about it. Let your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime know of your doubts. In the matching phase of your adoption planning, you’re not obligated to any one couple. If you start to feel uncomfortable, speak up and think about choosing another family.

5 Major Reasons Why Women Choose Adoption

What are the reasons why women choose adoption?When you’re facing an unexpected pregnancy and thinking about adoption for your baby, you might have a lot of questions. One of your questions might be “what are the reasons why women choose adoption for their baby?”

Making an adoption plan is a personal decision, one which every woman needs to make on her own. The fact is that women choose adoption out of love for their baby. By making an open adoption plan, they’re placing their child’s needs and interests before their own.

Today, we’re sharing 5 of the most common reasons why women choose open adoption:

1. Power over their adoption plan

Today, birth parents have a lot of control in creating and planning for their child’s adoption. They’re able to look at as many adoption profiles as they’d like and select the perfect adoptive parents for their baby. Also, birth parents can talk with the adoptive couple of their choosing, to get to know them better.

2. Not ready to become a parent

There’s no doubt about it: having a child will change your life forever. Some women aren’t prepared to become a parent, so they explore other choices.

3. Wants to give her child more opportunities

If she’s struggling to make ends meet or is in an unstable relationship, a woman might conclude that this isn’t the right time to bring a child into her life.

By making an open adoption plan, she can place her baby into a safe and stable home, with loving adoptive parents who are ready and equipped to parent her baby.

4. Desire for a two-parent family

Lots of women choose adoption because they want their child to grow up with two parents. Particularly if they’re no longer in a relationship with their baby’s father, a two-parent adoptive family is what they’re looking for. Through modern adoption, a birth mother can provide her child with the type of future she desires.

5. Wants to continue having a relationship with her child

It used to be that adoption meant goodbye forever for birth parents, and they never heard about their child again after signing adoption papers. Today’s adoptions happen much differently. We recognize that children need to know where they came from and who they are. By choosing open adoption, a birth mother can stay in her child’s life. The adoptive family of her choosing sends updates through emails, letters, photos, and social media posts. And, there’s also the option for visits once or twice a year!

While each woman will have her own reasons for choosing adoption, it all comes down to what’s best for your child. Before you make a decision, we encourage you to learn all you can about adoption. We can help you do that; just call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

Lifetime can help you obtain free, third-party counseling and connect you with a peer counselor too. A peer counselor is a woman who’s made an adoption plan already, so she knows where you’re at. By chatting with her, you can make an informed decision about adoption.

Call or text Lifetime Adoption at 1-800-923-6784 to learn more, so that you can decide if open adoption is right for you.

Can I Hide My Adoption Plans?

Can I hide my adoption plans?If you’re pregnant and making an adoption plan for your baby, it’s great to have a reliable support system. However, some women don’t have any support to lean on throughout their adoption process. Some pregnant women ask “can I hide my adoption plans?”

Adoption is such a personal decision, and one that’s not easy to make. It’s important to know that you shouldn’t hide your plans of adoption from your baby’s father. After all, he’s this child’s parent too. If you’re uncomfortable telling him or if you’re scared for your safety, Lifetime can help you share the news with him. Or, we can contact an adoption attorney who can give suggestions on how to proceed.

Today, Lifetime is sharing info about confidential adoptions.

What’s a Confidential Adoption?

In a confidential, closed adoption, the birth mother chooses to keep her identity private. In a closed adoption, she has no contact with the adoptive family during or after the adoption process.

Some women who have wished to keep their adoption plans hidden from certain friends or relatives have created a closed adoption to help them keep their privacy. Even though most modern adoptions today are open or semi-open, you can still choose a closed adoption. But closed adoption does come with challenges. Your child may grow up not knowing your identity, and without a way to contact you in the future.

Hiding Your Pregnancy and Choosing Confidential Adoption

Some women can hide their growing bellies easier than others. They wear certain clothing or avoid people they don’t want to know the news. Keeping your pregnancy hidden might be difficult, but it can be done. Women may choose make a confidential adoption plan to:

  • Avoid a verbally or physically abusive relationship
  • Find support from family members or friends in another location
  • Hide their adoption plan from specific family members or friends, for various reasons.

In some situations, there are advantages to a confidential adoption. For women in an abusive situation, keeping adoption confidential may be important to protect both her and her baby. In other situations, women can avoid conflict with unsupportive friends or family members.

Disadvantages to Closed Adoptions

It’s important to know what the challenges are with a closed adoption before you consider this option. If you hide your pregnancy, you might have a difficult time getting the services you need, like prenatal care and adoption counseling. Plus, if you hide the fact that you’re making an adoption plan from your baby’s father, it can prevent the adoption from happening.

If you keep your adoption under wraps from your friends and family members, you’d miss out on their support during (and after) the adoption placement. Keeping such a significant life decision a secret in the long-term can be very emotionally challenging. It can make it more difficult to process emotions of grief and loss after placement. Because of these reasons, Lifetime recommends a closed adoption only if it is necessary for the safety of yourself and your child.

Why Should I Share My News?

Even though it might seem impossible now, telling just a few select friends or family members about your adoption plan may actually be a comfort to you. You may be surprised to find that they’re genuinely supportive of your confidential adoption plan, not disappointed in you.

But not everyone feels comfortable sharing the news of their pregnancy and adoption plans. If this sounds like your situation, we can help you learn how to best share about your pregnancy.

If you’re pregnant and thinking about a confidential adoption plan for your baby, know that Lifetime respects your privacy. We’ll provide all of the services, support, and guidance you need while keeping your adoption plan confidential.

Call us anytime at 1-800-923-6784 for free information. Your call is completely confidential and doesn’t obligate you to continue with an adoption plan.

“I’m So Thankful for Open Adoption!”

"I am so thankful for open adoption!" shares one birth motherToday, Lifetime Adoption Agency is sharing one birth mother’s story. While every open adoption is different, it can help to hear from others who have been where you are now. Here’s one birth mother’s experience with coming to adoption:

“I was 16 years old when I became pregnant. Even at such a young age, I knew that there would be no way I could make parenting work. I didn’t even have my driver’s license yet! My baby’s father, Matt, and I knew we couldn’t give our beautiful baby everything she needed or wanted. Adoption was a hard decision for us to make, but we have all been blessed abundantly. Today, I feel like we have one of the best situations in open adoption history.

Hailey was born at 6:02 p.m. after an exceptionally smooth labor. She was loved and visited by my family and friends as well as Matt’s. The adoptive parents we chose, Kirk and Gwen, arrived later that night. As soon as they took their first look at her, I knew this was right. It was the hardest thing we’ve ever done, but I know it was the right decision.

I will always have a deep love for Matt, Hailey, and the adoptive parents, Kirk and Gwen. We are all so happy and very close. We talk a few times a month and meet up twice a year. I am so thankful for open adoption. I thank God every day that He showed me this option because it eases me to know that Hailey will know I love her, and she’ll know me as a person—as her birth mother.”

You can learn about making an open adoption plan for your baby by calling
Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

Simple Tips to Pick the Best Adoption Agency for You

how to pick the best adoption agency as a birth motherAs you look into which adoption agency will work best for you, you might be feeling overwhelmed. Today, we’re giving you info on how to select the best adoption agency for you and your baby!

As a birth mother, you need an adoption agency that:

  • Puts you first
  • Provides pre- and post-adoption counseling
  • Supports the communication and relationship you want with the adoptive parents

An adoption agency which makes sure the couples they work with are socially, emotionally, and financially ready to become parents is also important. After all, you’re choosing the adoptive parents based on the idea that they’re prepared to parent your child. So, you want to find an agency that makes sure adoptive parents:

  • Receive education before they adopt
  • Promise not to hide your child’s adoption story from them
  • Have respect for you as an individual and as the mother of their child

Those are just a few reasons to choose Lifetime Adoption Agency. As you research adoption agencies, you might be surprised that some never ask the adoptive parents how they would tell their child about his or her adoption. The answers to these questions reveal a lot about how a couple will raise your child:

Does it matter to their friends or family members that their child was adopted and isn’t biologically theirs?

How do the adoptive parents view the birth mother? Do they see the birth father as irresponsible?

How and when will they tell their child about being adopted?

Adoption should be a normal and comfortable topic of conversation at home. If you grow up with the knowledge that you were adopted, the subject is normal. But, if the child finds out later on, the results can be life-shattering.

As you read through Lifetime’s adoptive parent profiles, you can tell that they’ll talk about adoption from day one. You’ll also notice that we make counseling and training available to both adoptive parents and birth parents.

Once you choose an adoptive family, you’ll discuss the kind of future contact you’d both like. You’ll create and agree on a pretty specific communication plan with the adoptive family. Hopefully, this information can help you through your own adoption journey and choices.

Lifetime Adoption Agency’s website provides some additional information that you might find helpful:

  1. Support provided to birth mothers
  2. Info on how to start an adoption plan
  3. How To Decide How Much Future Contact is Best for You
  4. “How can I be sure my baby will be safe with the adoptive couple?”

This Active Florida Couple Are Excited to Adopt!

Active Florida Family Excited to Adopt from Lifetime Adoption on Vimeo.

Scott and Carma are an active couple from Florida looking forward to expanding their family through adoption. They enjoy doing outdoor activities, spending time with loved ones, and being together as a family. Scott and Carma have a 12-year-old son, and he’s so excited to teach his younger sibling all the things he learns in school.

Scott and Carma created this cute video to introduce themselves and share more about what they have to offer your child. Keep scrolling to learn more about this loving and active Florida couple!

Scott and Carma are excited to adopt!Scott and Carma share, “We are a fun-loving family of three looking forward to expanding our family through adoption! We are financially stable, have supportive family nearby, and we have so much love in our hearts for another child. We look forward to keeping in contact with you through letters, photos, and visits if you wish!”

They promise to raise your child in a loving and faith-based household, and your child will have the opportunity to attend a great Catholic school. Scott and Carma promise to provide for their college education, and fill their days with laughter, encouragement, and opportunities to find where he or she is meant to be in life.

“Carma’s an affectionate and loving person who is a wonderful mother to our son, Caden. She is passionate about her career and works hard for our family as a Senior Executive. She’s looking forward to sharing our Catholic-based household and supportive family with your child!” says Scott. And Carma shares about her husband, “Scott is a devoted father and family man. He has a patient and kind personality and is liked by everyone he meets. Scott is a stay-at-home dad and is such a positive role model for our son!”

You can find out more about this hopeful adoptive couple from Florida by visiting Scott and Carma’s adoption website. You may also view all adoptive family profiles here on AdoptionAgencyFlorida.com. If you see an adoptive family that you’re interested in, please give us a call at 1-877-383-6847.

“Should I Give My Baby Up For Adoption?”

should I give my baby up for adoption?“I’m 35 weeks along and I’m thinking about adoption, but I’m really on the fence. My Mom raised my brother and I all by herself, and I saw how hard that was. I love babies but I’m not ready to be a mom, so I’m wondering if I should give my baby up for adoption. Do I need to decide right now, before my baby’s born? How do I decide? Help!”

We encourage you to take all the time you need to reflect on the pros and cons of both parenting and adoption. You don’t have to decide on adoption before your baby has been born. You can call Lifetime at any point during your pregnancy, or after you’ve delivered. We’ve even helped women create an adoption plan after they called us from the hospital, in labor.

Weighing the pros and cons of parenting and adoption will help you during your pregnancy, as well as after your baby is born. It helps you to clarify and communicate your decision-making process.

Here are 3 things that you can do if you’re unsure whether adoption is right for you:

Keep a Journal

Journaling is a really helpful tool that you can use to express your thoughts, feelings, and ideas about adoption on paper. Many birth parents have shared with us that reflecting back on their journey is therapeutic.

Speak to a Counselor

It’s important for you to talk about your fears as you’re deciding whether adoption is right for you and your baby. A counselor will provide a safe and nonjudgmental space for you to talk through your fears. Lifetime can connect you with an outside counselor at no charge to you.

Talk With A Birth Mother

Some women thinking about adoption find it helpful to connect with a birth mother who has made an adoption plan herself. Talking with others who are living with their choices can help shed light on the positives and challenges of adoption. Lifetime can connect you with a birth mother, through a phone call, email, or in person.

Lifetime Adoption Agency is available to you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. So just call us at 1-800-923-6784 whenever you have a question or a concern you need to talk through!

What Should I Do If My Girlfriend is Choosing Adoption?

What should I do? My girlfriend is choosing adoption...Here’s a common question we get here at Lifetime Adoption Agency: “My girlfriend is pregnant, and wants to adopt out our baby. What can I do if my girlfriend is choosing adoption?”

As the father of the baby, you have the right to get answers to your questions. You have the right to participate in making an adoption plan for your child.

So today, we’re sharing 4 of the adoption questions we get asked the most by birth fathers. If you don’t see your question here, please feel free to call Lifetime’s toll-free number and ask us: 1-800-923-6784.

  1. What is an open adoption?
  2. Can I select an adoptive family for my baby?
  3. What are my rights in making this decision?
  4. Will I have a financial responsibility to this child?

1. What is an open adoption?
Open adoption means that you and the baby’s mother have the right to choose an adoption plan that works for you. You can select an adoptive family, choose how much contact you would like to have before and after your baby is born, and choose how you would like your hospital experience to be. You have the right to have an ongoing, open relationship with your baby and the adoptive family.

2. Can I select an adoptive family for my baby?
Yes, absolutely. Lifetime believes that you know best in choosing the best family for your baby. We can show you adoptive parent profiles about families from all different parts of the country, and from many different backgrounds. You might want to start by looking at some families that want to adopt.

3. What are my rights in making this decision?
The laws regarding a father’s rights differ based on which state you live in. You do have the right to know about an adoption plan, and you have the right to participate in the adoption planning process. An adoption attorney can help you to understand the laws in your state.

4. Will I have a financial responsibility to this child?
If you choose to make an adoption plan, the adoptive family that you choose would be financially responsible for the baby. You will not be required to pay child support once your parental rights are legally terminated.

For additional information, please call Lifetime’s toll-free number: 1-800-923-6784.