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“Can I Stop Her From Putting Our Baby Up for Adoption?”

A couple argues at the subway Question: “My girlfriend is pregnant and is thinking about adopting out our baby. I think she’s crazy for even considering it and I’m totally against adoption. It’s my baby too. Do I have any control over this? Can I stop her from putting our baby up for adoption?”
 
Answer: Yes, you do have a say in your child’s future. It’s not out of your control. As the baby’s father, you have the right to get answers to your questions. You also have the right to take part in the adoption planning process.
 
Lifetime encourages you to find out more about what’s called “open adoption.” It has been the right choice for many, especially those who aren’t ready to become parents. In an open adoption, both of you can work together to pick the adoptive parents for your baby. You can remain a part of your child’s life.
 
Here are some things to think about: are you giving your girlfriend any financial (or emotional) support during her pregnancy? These things will come into play when thinking about the adoption decision.
 
Also, you might ask yourself why she wants to do adoption. Many women choose adoption because they have other children and can’t afford another baby. Others make an adoption plan because having a baby would derail education or career goals. There are many reasons why women choose adoption.
 
Adoption is one of those decisions that you make based on what’s best for the child. Sometimes, the decision is made despite your own desires. She may long to become a mom, but realize that it just isn’t in the cards right now.
 
Talk more with your girlfriend about this. And when you do, don’t think about what you want. Think about the life you want your child to have. Looking at adoptive couple profiles online can sometimes help you picture the possibilities with adoption.
 

Here are some articles to help you learn more about birth fathers & adoption:

 
“I’m a Birth Father…Do I Have a Say in Adoption?”
 
What Should I Do If My Girlfriend is Choosing Adoption?”
 
What Are My Responsibilities as a Birth Father?
 
How to Get Your Baby’s Father Involved in Adoption
 
Birth Fathers and Adoption
 

If you like to speak to someone right now about adoption, call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

Adoption Truth: Guys Can Be Involved, Too

the adoption truth is, your guy can get involved in the adoption planning, too“My girlfriend is 25 weeks pregnant. We’re both 19, and just work part-time while we go to school. So I know there’s no way I could support a family right now. She thinks adoption is going to be best for our baby. She’s probably right, but I can’t just forget about my child. I need to stay a part of their life.”

Does your baby’s father want to remain a part of his child’s life after the adoption happens? Keep reading to learn how he can be a part of making an adoption plan, and why it’s good for him to get involved.

Modern, open adoption is getting to be more common and understood. And, more birth fathers are taking part in the adoption process. Usually, we find that when a birth father knows he has rights in open adoption too, he becomes supportive of the adoption plans.

Your baby’s father can help you pick your baby’s adoptive parents, come to know them, and help as you make the plan for on-going future contact.

Even if you decide not to stay in touch with your baby’s adoptive family after the adoption happens, he can still stay connected with his child’s adoptive family and his child. Many times a man may be more supportive of an adoption plan if he knows that he also can participate in the open adoption!

You can learn more about your guy’s involvement in adoption planning in this short video:

Adoption Truth – Birth Father and Open Adoption from Lifetime Adoption on Vimeo.

Do you have questions about your baby’s father and how he can get involved in the adoption? Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is here to give you answers!

Just give us a call or text us at: 1-800-923-6784.

How to Get Your Baby’s Father Involved in Adoption

Have you decided that adoption is going to be your best option, but your baby’s father doesn’t agree? What can you do? Know that you’re not alone; this is a very common situation. Check out a short video that shares more about adoption and your baby’s father:

Getting your baby's father involved in the adoption? from Lifetime Adoption on Vimeo.

Thousands of women have been where you are right now. We recommend that you sit down with your baby’s father to get him involved in the adoption choice. It’s his baby too, and he has rights in adoption. You could allow him to be involved in picking the adoptive family for your baby. You can make what’s called an “open adoption” plan, which means you’ll get updates on your baby as he or she grows up, through emails, letters, photos, and visits. If he desires, your baby’s father could stay in touch with the adoptive couple, separate from you.

Right now, it’s important that he knows and understands he has rights as the birth father. Once he’s educated on the info and facts about the adoption process, he will probably come to see that it’s the best possible scenario for his child.

Both of you need to make sure you’re putting your baby’s life first and thinking about what’s going to be best for them. So, come together to talk so that you can make the best choice for your child.

It’s tough for a man to accept that can’t provide for his child. Speak with him and tell him your hopes for your child, and ask him what his are too. Tell him that he can help choose the adoptive family and remain in contact with them. You both can have a relationship with your child and the adoptive parents, even you two aren’t together. It may change his mind about adoption once he knows that it doesn’t mean goodbye forever.

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is here 24/7 to answer any questions that either of you have about adoption for your baby. Just call or text us at 1-800-923-6784, or send us a confidential email.