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Archive for National Adoption Month

“I Praise God for Women Who Choose Adoption”

This guest post was written by a Lifetime adoptive mother who adopted a baby girl last year, along with her husband.
 
"I praise God for women who choose adoption" shares an adoptive mother“It’s National Adoption Month. I’ve had a lot on my mind. And I’ve tried to do my due diligence at reading/listening to all members of the domestic private adoption triad. Here’s what I’ve learned…
 
The adoptee doesn’t want to be told to be thankful. She lives with a label she can’t hide from and a shadow of what the unknown could have been like.
 
Birth mom doesn’t want to be told what a selfless and sacrificial decision she made. She may live with guilt and grief, and despise the adoptive parents because she feels like a doormat. Only getting contact to check off the box of what they owe her…
 
We haven’t heard from our birth mom since our daughter was six weeks old. I can’t help but wonder how she is. I send her a lengthy email every two months, update pictures in a Google share folder, and send text pictures randomly. No response. I gave her permission to tell me to be more frequent, or less frequent – but no response. I miss her. I care about her. I wish I knew how to help her.
 
Adoptive mother and newborn adopteeOur daughter is great! She loves her family, and we love her. This is a journey, and in 10 years there will be much more to say about how she is – how she has come to accept her heritage. My prayer for her is that adoption would not define her, that she wouldn’t let it be her sole identity. But rather, through this experience she would become an advocate for families. An advocate for children.
 
My husband is a pastor. We work with a lot of children and adolescents. There are so many difficult situations our kids are dealing with – living in. Step parents are cruel, moms are in jail, dads and boyfriends are abusive, and children beg for food, I could go on. This is really difficult to say without sounding judgmental, or proud – so please hear this carefully. 18 years is a long time for a child to live in turmoil. When I think about our daughter’s birth family, the writing on the wall tells me she would have been living among unstable and non-committal relationships. Her birth mom found herself in a very sticky situation, bless her heart. I have full forgiveness and mercy for her. And for our daughter’s sake, I’m so thankful she chose adoption. I’m not sure what her motives were. Whether she realizes it or not, she saved our daughter from a slew of messy and quite possibly abusive relationships. She gave her stability and full acceptance. She’s no longer an accident, a mistake, an ex-girlfriend’s other child, a half-sister, or a girlfriend’s daughter. This is an identity she does not have to live with! And I am so THANKFUL for her sake. She is a daughter, a sister. No strings attached.
 
This is also difficult to say, because I don’t want to exclude single adoptive moms – or cast judgement on single parents. I simply want to say, that on top of what I’ve already said about the gift our daughter’s birth mom gave her, she gave her a DAD. Had she stayed with her birth family, in 15 years she may have been saying to her pastor, like many have said to us in tears, ‘I don’t have a dad.’ They call mom’s boyfriend dad, but he’s not their dad and next month he could be gone. Their siblings’ dad babysits them, but he’s not their dad, and everyone knows it. Our daughter has a dad, and he’s not going anywhere.
 
The gospel has incredible healing power. And I believe God changes lives. I would 100% support a single woman with an unplanned pregnancy who wanted to parent, because I believe God can turn our mess into something beautiful. He is the God of restoration. But the road isn’t easy. Quoting the title of an excellent book, the Christian life is “a long obedience in the same direction.” Although this next part grieves me, I’ve also learned to accept that not every birth mom is ready for the long obedience that will transform her mess into a beautiful story. And so I praise God for those birth moms who choose adoption. And I also praise God for bringing the gospel to me, for cleaning up my own mess and equipping me to be a part of someone else’s story – my daughter’s story. It’s an overwhelming privilege. I pray I am faithful to the task.”

 

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November is Adoption Month – Get 30 Days’ Worth of Prayer Ideas

praying for adoptoinIn recognition of National Adoption Awareness Month, Lifetime encourages you to pray for those touched by adoption! We want to lift birth parents and adoptive families up with prayer so that they might meet in open adoption.

Sometimes it’s difficult for people to know exactly WHAT to pray for regarding adoption. So, Lifetime has put together a FREE download, packed with prayer ideas. This sweet download has 30 days’ worth of prayer inspiration and related Bible verses.

Just visit LifetimeAdoption.com to request your free download. Or you can just click the image below:

click to get 30 days of prayer ideas!

We’ll just need your name and email address, and then the free download of 30 Days to Pray for Adoption is yours! We encourage you to share this adoption prayer download with your church group, Bible study, or with friends and family.

Here’s a sneak preview of some notable passages from 30 Days to Pray for Adoption:

For a pure heart and the right motivations as I pray for adoption in my life, or in the lives of others.
(Psalm 51:10)

For a content attitude, in every phase and through any circumstance that may come up through adoption.
(Philippians 4:11-13)

Give thanks for adoption this National Adoption Awareness Month! We hope that you’ll join Lifetime as we honor adoption through prayer. We celebrate birth mothers who make adoption possible, and adoptive parents who are blessed every day by adoption.

Modern Adoption, Revealed! Join Lifetime’s Webinar

Lifetime's Webinar: the Modern AdoptionLifetime has an inspiring adoption webinar coming up later this month! Tune in as we share the choices modern adoption offers families and women considering adoption. In celebration of National Adoption Awareness Month, we’re going to talk about what adoption looks like nowadays to Lifetime, as well as the advantages for birth mothers, hopeful parents, and children that come together in each story.

Our webinar, The Modern Adoption, will start at 7:00 pm Eastern on Thursday, November 30th. If you’re thinking about adoption, it’s important to know how adoption works today for adoptive families and birth parents. What choices does modern adoption offer?

This webinar is open to all hopeful adoptive parents, and there’s no cost to attend! It’ll prove helpful, no matter if you’ve just started thinking about adopting or are in the wait.

Open adoption offers many options for everyone involved in an adoption story, including women facing an unplanned pregnancy, or difficulty providing for a child, or a family hoping to grow with the addition of a child.

One of the best retorts for curious or ignorant questions about adoption is to educate. Join in on our modern adoption webinar to get the answers to widely-believed myths and gain knowledge about how much adoption has improved over the years.

Sign up for our modern adoption webinar by using this link or by visiting AdoptionWebinar.com. We’ll email you the details on how to join the live broadcast. You can listen in by phone, on a computer, on your cell phone’s web browser, or the GoToWebinar app. Downloading the app on your smart phone allows you to tune into our modern adoption webinar from anywhere you are!

We hope you’re able to make it! If you have questions about how to join this webinar, just call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

Celebrate Adoption!

A wonderful way to celebrate adoption this National Adoption Awareness Month is to show adoption books in your library!

Make a suggestion to your library to feature books about adoption in a display or table for easy access during Adoption Awareness Month. The books could be for adults or children and offer information about all types of adoption. Below is a photo of an example adoption book display. It’s showing currently at a library near Lifetime’s main office in Northern California.

celebrate adoption

Here are some ideas of adoption books that you could ask your library to display:

  • AdoptingOnline.com: gives readers practical, easy-to-follow guidelines about adopting a child. This book tells you what you’ll need to know, whether you’re seeking a domestic adoption or international adoption.
  • Adoption: Your Step-by-Step Guide: answers adoption questions commonly asked by hopeful adoptive parents. Included inside is Lifetime Adoption’s Founder Mardie’s expert advice, resources, and tips from her years of experience in the field of adoption.
  • The Healthcare Professional’s Guide to Adoption: educates healthcare workers on how to best assist women facing an unplanned pregnancy. It also contains information on what to do when a woman is admitted to the hospital with an adoption plan in place, or with hopes to create one.
  • Called to Adoption: for Christians feeling the Lord leading them to learn more about adoption. The book allows Christians to learn more about the miracle of families created through adoption.
  • So I Was Thinking About Adoption: for women who are considering adoption of an unplanned or unwanted pregnancy. It provides a handy guide to the ins and outs of making an adoption for your baby or child.

 

National Adoption Awareness Month is November!

Across the United States, National Adoption Awareness Month is celebrated in November. As we honor open adoption this month, we wanted to share this great quote about the blessing of open adoption with you:

National Adoption Awareness Month

You can share with friends and family how marvelous open adoption is by sharing the below video with them. It features the adoption stories of birth mothers and adoptive families who have worked with Lifetime:

The video highlights how Lifetime Adoption connects birth mothers and families ready to adopt. Lifetime’s caring professionals help pregnant women consider their options, and provides adoptive couples with a vast array of adoption services.

There are many ways to recognize adoption this month. Others have donated to adoption non-profits, read adoption stories, and asked their library to show adoption books. Learning about positive adoption language and then sharing your knowledge with others is also a good idea. It’ll help end the myth that adoption is second best. By using positive adoption language, you’ll reflect the true nature of adoption, free of stereotypes.

You can find tons of ideas on how to celebrate National Adoption Awareness Month at this website: NationalAdoptionAwarenessMonth.com.