Question: “My husband and I have just started to look into adopting, after trying IVF for four years. I’m heavy-set, and I’m worried that would prevent us from being chosen by a birth mother. Can we adopt if I’m overweight?”
Answer: The truth is, birth mothers choose adoptive parents because they can relate to them. They’re not basing their selection on looks, but rather due to factors like faith, location, family structure, hobbies, and traditions. Birth moms often look for families that share something in common with them. There are many birth moms out there that are similar to you and can visualize their baby in your family.
Adoption isn’t a beauty contest. It isn’t any kind of competition at all. Birth mothers aren’t looking for perfection. They’re looking for a family that will provide a loving home for their baby. If you’re overweight, it doesn’t make you any less appealing. It makes you more human, more relatable.
Rather than go on a drastic diet, it’s more important that you focus on your overall health and wellness. Being active and exercising regularly can improve your stamina. That’s something you’ll need when you’re parenting the baby you bring home. Choosing healthy food and seeing your doctor regularly is a good idea for any parent. Babies and children demand that you keep up with them every step of the way!
Lifetime believes that you are going to be wonderful, loving parents. There is a birth mother out there that will be the ideal match for you. When your adoption professional calls you with a match, it will be because you have unique qualities that will stand out to her.
Are you having a difficult time during the adoption wait? Maintaining a positive attitude makes even the most challenging times easier to experience. Being positive doesn’t mean pretending that you have a perfect life, but rather about seeing the good in life and shifting how you perceive this time.
Your decision to adopt a baby probably didn’t happen overnight. Most couples take weeks, months, or years to move from fertility treatments to adoption. It’s important that you make sure you’re ready to adopt before you start the adoption process.
What have you heard about how domestic adoption works nowadays? It’s easy to get caught up in the opinions and comments of others who think they know what adopting a baby is like or how it should go.
“We have been reflecting on our journey a lot lately. On Mother’s Day I couldn’t think of anything I would rather do than to spend time with the woman who made me a mom! We met with Brynlee’s birth parents and visited the aquarium downtown! I love that we are in the same state because we can visit each other often. Brynlee loved seeing the fish and she soaked up all the hugs and play time.
When we were saying our, ‘see you later,’ they gave me flowers and I just about lost it! I was amazed at how strong and selfless this gesture was. I was so honored! I think about them and pray for them every single day! I pray they are safe and that they are content with the decision they made and this gave me the reassurance I have been needing. They are doing well and they know their daughter is cared for and loved so much!
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Kyla and Trinity were born at 35 weeks so they were kept in NICU. The staff at the hospital was nothing short of tremendous. We weren’t the adoptive parents, we were THE parents. They were extremely respectful of us and very protective of us once birth mom signed the surrender papers. Some of the nurses offered to help us at the airport once we were ICPC cleared. The entire experience at the hospital was great!
