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Can We Adopt if I’m Overweight?

Can we adopt if I’m overweight?Question: “My husband and I have just started to look into adopting, after trying IVF for four years. I’m heavy-set, and I’m worried that would prevent us from being chosen by a birth mother. Can we adopt if I’m overweight?”

Answer: The truth is, birth mothers choose adoptive parents because they can relate to them. They’re not basing their selection on looks, but rather due to factors like faith, location, family structure, hobbies, and traditions. Birth moms often look for families that share something in common with them. There are many birth moms out there that are similar to you and can visualize their baby in your family.

Adoption isn’t a beauty contest. It isn’t any kind of competition at all. Birth mothers aren’t looking for perfection. They’re looking for a family that will provide a loving home for their baby. If you’re overweight, it doesn’t make you any less appealing. It makes you more human, more relatable.

Rather than go on a drastic diet, it’s more important that you focus on your overall health and wellness. Being active and exercising regularly can improve your stamina. That’s something you’ll need when you’re parenting the baby you bring home. Choosing healthy food and seeing your doctor regularly is a good idea for any parent. Babies and children demand that you keep up with them every step of the way!

Lifetime believes that you are going to be wonderful, loving parents. There is a birth mother out there that will be the ideal match for you. When your adoption professional calls you with a match, it will be because you have unique qualities that will stand out to her.

8 Ways to Be Positive During the Adoption Wait

During the adoption wait a couple walks their dogAre you having a difficult time during the adoption wait? Maintaining a positive attitude makes even the most challenging times easier to experience. Being positive doesn’t mean pretending that you have a perfect life, but rather about seeing the good in life and shifting how you perceive this time.
 
Research has shown that positive thinking can lead to success. Being positive isn’t a switch that can be turned on: like any skill it requires practice. Maintaining a positive attitude is crucial if you want to adopt.
 

Here are 8 ways you can boost your positivity:

 

  1. Think good thoughts. Negative thoughts can happen when you’re waiting to be chosen by a birth mother. When you experience one, take a moment to catch yourself. Identify the problem or emotion you’re feeling, then counter it with a positive thought.
  2. Be grateful. Spend time each day reminding yourself of everything good in your life. Write them down or share them with a loved one. For accountability, you might try doing a “30 Day Gratitude Challenge” with your spouse.
  3. Smile! Research has shown that smiles are contagious. Smile at a stranger, a co-worker, or a friend. They’ll smile back, leaving you both feeling more positive.
  4. Stay active. Exercise makes you feel better physically and mentally. Several times a week go for a walk, work on a project around the house, hit the gym, or play your favorite sport.
  5. Set goals. Having a goal can make you feel more hopeful and confident and give you something to strive for. Make your goal realistic and specific, and use positive words when writing or talking about it. For example, you might set a goal to have your adoption video recorded and edited within two weeks or to submit your home study paperwork within a week.
  6. Keep good company. The people you spend time with have a direct impact on how you feel. Seek out people who believe in you and your adoption dream. Spend time with family members, friends, co-workers, or acquaintances who think positive and inspire and motivate you to achieve your goals.
  7. Do things you love. Make time in your day to do something that makes you happy. Listen to music, read a book, catch up with a friend, or step outside and enjoy nature.
  8. Write in a journal. Jot down all the positive things that happen to you each day. Your journal entries can be just a few words or sentences. Pick a day each month to read through your journal and relive your positive experiences.

Hoping to Expand Your Family With a Second Adoption?

Discover how Lifetime Adoption Agency can help you with a second adoption!

James and Kellie adopted their first child through Lifetime in 2014…

Are you thinking about adopting another baby? After experiencing the joys of parenthood, many couples hope to expand their family by adopting a second time. Lifetime would love to help you adopt again!

Many of Lifetime’s birth mothers are looking for experienced adoptive parents. Adoptive couples who have already adopted a child know the ins and outs of open adoption, because they’re currently in this type of relationship with their child’s birth mother. And this is something that’s very attractive to prospective birth moms.

Today, we’re providing info on how you can expand your family through the blessing of a second adoption!

James and Kellie's children, all adopted through Lifetime Adoption Agency!

…and adopted twin boys through
Lifetime last year!

A More Streamlined Adoption Process

As an experienced adoptive parent, you have much to offer that is appreciated by adoption agencies. You have already created an adoption profile, had a home study, and completed the necessary paperwork for your first adoption. With this experience, those first steps in your adoption journey should be much more streamlined and prompt for your second adoption. As seasoned adoptive parents, you’ll already have significant experience by having been through the meticulous preparation and assessment process.

Greater Need for Experienced Adoptive Families

Lifetime Adoption Agency has seen an increase in birth mothers seeking a couple who has already adopted. We have come to find that birth mothers want a couple who have already adopted and is prepared to match. Due to the couple’s experience with the adoption match with their first child’s birth parents, they’re able to develop a relationship with birth parents more easily.

“When I decided to adopt out my baby, I was looking for a couple who would stay in touch afterward. I chose a couple who had just adopted their daughter a couple of years ago. I read in their adoption profile that they had visits with their daughter’s birth mom once a year and would like an open adoption with me, too. Right when I read that, I knew they were the perfect couple for my baby,” says a Lifetime birth mother.

Besides your experience with open adoption, your practice with parenting an adopted child makes you valuable to birth mothers. You’re already experienced in approaching the unique concerns involved in raising adopted children.

Aspects to Consider

It’s easy to see why many couples adopt again: they’re able to fulfill their dream family structure and give their child a sibling! Before you seek a second adoption, we encourage you to consider aspects like your child’s age, your family structure, and possible expenses. If you think you’d like to adopt again, make sure to take into account how this will affect your current children.

Before you consider adopting again, it’s important to give your child plenty of time to feel secure in your family. Many adoption agencies suggest that you’ve had at least a year to adapt to living together as a family before thinking about another adoption.

Let Us Help You Adopt a Second Time!

If you feel that God is nudging you toward bringing another child into your heart and your family, we’d love to help you adopt again! You can reach Lifetime Adoption Agency at 1-877-383-6847 if you have questions. We look forward to chatting with you about how we can help you build your family through a Lifetime Adoption.

Take the first step by filling out our free online application! Our application is the best place to begin, or restart, the adoption conversation with Lifetime Adoption Agency:

Apply to adopt today!

How to Find Out If You’re Both Ready to Adopt

Communicate openly with your spouse to find if you're both ready to adoptYour decision to adopt a baby probably didn’t happen overnight. Most couples take weeks, months, or years to move from fertility treatments to adoption. It’s important that you make sure you’re ready to adopt before you start the adoption process.

Today, Lifetime shares three basic requirements you should meet before signing on with an adoption professional:

1. You’ve Moved on from Infertility

So that your adoption can be successful, the decision must be fully embraced by both of you.

People handle stressful situations and grieve differently. So, it’s common for one spouse to be ready to adopt and the other to be uncertain.

Allow your spouse fully grieve failed fertility treatments, and the dream of having a child biologically, so that they can move through the grief and loss process at their own pace. If one of you isn’t fully ready to move to adoption, it might lead to complications during the adoption process down the road. Neither of you should feel pressured into adopting just because the other one is ready.

We encourage you to see an infertility counselor or a marriage and family counselor if you’re struggling to move on from infertility.

2. You Have Similar Adoption Plans

Just as each of you should be ready to adopt, you should also be on the same page as to how you’re going to adopt. Consider if you want to:

  • Adopt a newborn or an older child.
  • Adopt domestically, internationally or through foster care.
  • Adopt a baby of a specific gender.
  • Adopt a baby of a particular ethnicity
  • Be in contact with the birth parents, and if so, how much.

Speaking with an Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime will help both of you gain a better understanding of all the elements in adoption. Listening to webinars will help you gain more information about all aspects of adoption. Visit AdoptionWebinar.com to get started. Seek input from adoptive families for their experience with the type of adoption you’re interested in.

3. You’re Financially Ready for Adoption

There will be various adoption costs you need to prepare for. Examples include medical, legal and travel expenses.

Begin by carefully researching all of your options. Balance those costs with your budget to decide if you’re financially ready to pursue adoption. If finances are a concern, look into adoption fundraising, grants, and loans.

When you’re deciding whether or not you are ready to adopt, it’s essential to communicate openly with your spouse. Talk about all aspects of adoption, financial security, adoption goals, and your feelings surrounding infertility.

If you’re both ready to adopt or if you have questions about moving on from infertility, call Lifetime Adoption Agency at
1-800-923-6784.

Adopting a Baby in Today’s World

Webinar to learn about adopting a baby in today's worldWhat have you heard about how domestic adoption works nowadays? It’s easy to get caught up in the opinions and comments of others who think they know what adopting a baby is like or how it should go.
 
The truth is, adoption has changed a lot, even from just five years ago. It’s important to know what adopting a baby in the U.S. is like TODAY.
 
Lifetime just held a Q&A webinar about domestic adoption in today’s world! You can listen to “A Lifetime Q&A: Adopting a Baby | Domestic Adoption in Today’s World” here. Most people who want to adopt a baby aren’t totally clear on the process when they decide to pursue adoption. That’s where we come in!
 
Click to listen to this adoption webinar!We’re excited to present this new webinar, to help you cut through the stereotypes and hear-say. Get the info you need to know to adopt the baby you’re praying for.
 
If you’ve been thinking about starting the process to adopt a baby born in the US, then you’ll want to listen to this webinar all about domestic adoption!
 
In Lifetime’s Q&A webinar, we took questions from people considering domestic adoption, just like you. We covered topics from adoption basics, like getting started and what open adoption really looks like today, to beyond-the-basics, such as when (and how!) to tell your child about adoption, embracing adoption after going through infertility, and the best tips for ensuring a safe and successful adoption process.
 

A Lifetime Q&A Webinar: Adopting a Baby in Today’s World

 
When you subscribe to Lifetime’s Adoption Webinars, we’ll email you to let you know once our next webinar is scheduled. Sign up for the opportunity to ask our adoption experts your questions. We love to take questions from our audience of future adoptive parents, just like you!

Access this Free Webinar & Learn How to Get Started With Adoption

This free webinar will teach you how to get started with adoption!What do you need help with to get started with adoption? What obstacles are in your way towards achieving your dreams of adopting? Maybe deep inside you answered:

  • “I need clarity about the adoption process in general.”
  • “I wonder if open adoption would ever let us feel like ‘mom and dad.'”
  • “We need to know how to cover adoption costs.”
  • “My spouse is on board, but I’m just not there yet myself.”
  • “There’s so much going on right now. Hopefully soon we’ll have time to go over all of this, or take the next step.”
  • “We’re totally ready to adopt, but aren’t sure who we want to help us do it.”
  • “We’re still trying to conceive.” OR “We just miscarried again and need time to heal.”
  • “Honestly, we’re just so overwhelmed about what we want to do.”
  • “I just need to know what the next step is so that I can get this going!”

Maybe you can relate to one of those thoughts or have a totally different answer in mind. This free adoption webinar is a great place to start sorting through everything. The key with adoption is not to let the process or questions hold you back. The only way you’ll find out what you want to do next is to keep learning more!
 
If adoption is on your heart right now, then you’ll want to access this free webinar to get the answers you’ll need as someone who hopes to adopt.
 
Our adoption webinar, “Q&A: Adoption Basics & Getting Started,” is a great place to learn the basics, if you’re new to adoption, or to expand your understanding, if you’re already familiar with adoption 101 topics.
 
The key is not to let the process or questions hold you back from a calling on your heart to add a child to your family through adoption. This webinar will help you get the answers you need to make the right decision for your family’s future:
 

Q&A: Adoption Basics & Getting Started

“Open Adoption is Amazing! We’re Thankful to Be a Part of It!”

Brynlee's parents exclaim, "Open adoption is amazing!"

Here at our adoption agency in Florida, we love to share updates from our adoptive couples who are experiencing the joys of open adoption! Today, we’re sharing a sweet open adoption update from Jesse and Alicia, a young adoptive couple living in Colorado. Earlier this year, we wrote about their thankfulness to God for writing their beautiful adoption story. And last summer, we blogged to congratulate them on their adoption!

A year ago, Jesse and Alicia wrote, “We’re so thankful to have found Lifetime. You all have been there every step of the way. Struggling with infertility for so long leaves you vulnerable and it is difficult to imagine that you may never become a parent. God led us to Lifetime because He knew this perfect little girl would be waiting for us and that everyone at Lifetime would be here every step of the way! Every phone call, every webinar, and every prayer helped us become stronger and prepared us for parenthood.”

Here’s the most recent update from Jesse and Alicia, who created their family through a Lifetime open adoption:

Brynlee having fun in Disneyland“We have been reflecting on our journey a lot lately. On Mother’s Day I couldn’t think of anything I would rather do than to spend time with the woman who made me a mom! We met with Brynlee’s birth parents and visited the aquarium downtown! I love that we are in the same state because we can visit each other often. Brynlee loved seeing the fish and she soaked up all the hugs and play time.

Watching them interact was such an amazing feeling. It showed us again, just how amazing open adoption really is and how thankful we are to be a part of it.

After struggling with infertility for so long and hiding from this day every year, it was nice to have someone to celebrate it with and I feel like it was part of my healing process.

Jesse, Brynlee, and Alicia in Disneyland with Minnie MouseWhen we were saying our, ‘see you later,’ they gave me flowers and I just about lost it! I was amazed at how strong and selfless this gesture was. I was so honored! I think about them and pray for them every single day! I pray they are safe and that they are content with the decision they made and this gave me the reassurance I have been needing. They are doing well and they know their daughter is cared for and loved so much!

Can you believe Brynlee is 1 year old!?? Time is flying incredibly fast and we are enjoying every second! We are learning so much as she is blossoming into a beautiful, independent toddler. I take full advantage of when she wants to sit on my lap or be held to fall asleep. We celebrated Brynlee turning 1 by having a birthday party with family and friends. We also took her to Disneyland and spent some time on the beach, she LOVES being in the water.

We are eternally grateful for being chosen to raise Brynlee and for all the amazing people we have met along the way.”

If you’re ready to see how Lifetime’s Adoption Agency could help build your family, please apply today! You can click here to take the first step towards becoming a Lifetime family.

Is it Possible to Adopt Twins?

Keith and Thirza were blessed to adopt twins!Many hopeful adoptive couples ask “is it possible to adopt twins?” The short answer is “yes”! Lifetime adoptive couple Keith and Thirza from Florida just adopted newborn twin girls!
 
We feel blessed to be able to share about their journey to adopting newborn twins! Please pray for all involved in this precious adoption story, especially the twins’ birth mom for her loving choice.
 
If you’re in the middle of your adoption wait, hearing stories like Keith and Thirza’s will give you inspiration and hope!

These happy new parents share:
 
“We’re adjusting to our new life as parents and we’re loving every minute of it! We learned about their birth mom from a friend approximately two years to the day our journey began (this includes the three and a half months before we signed with Lifetime.) As we posed for this photo, we couldn’t help to feel that waiting two years wasn’t enough to prepare us for when they arrived!
 
I [Thirza] personally struggled with the wait. Had we not been matched by the end of our contract with Lifetime, we had planned on ending our journey. But Natalie called me and spoke words that I really needed to hear. Then, we learned about the twins’ birth mom on a Sunday and flew out to be with her the following Saturday, as she was induced. The twins were born that day at 1:55 am and 2:08 am. The two-year wait came down to six days!
 
Keith and Thirza's twin daughters in their matching bassinetsKyla and Trinity were born at 35 weeks so they were kept in NICU. The staff at the hospital was nothing short of tremendous. We weren’t the adoptive parents, we were THE parents. They were extremely respectful of us and very protective of us once birth mom signed the surrender papers. Some of the nurses offered to help us at the airport once we were ICPC cleared. The entire experience at the hospital was great!
 
This photo is of their first night in their bassinets at home! It’s been a whirlwind of visitors, packages and two very generous baby showers. We have been blessed beyond our wildest dreams with not one, but two beautiful baby girls. Lifetime kept us going when we were ready to give up and we’re so happy that Natalie called when she did!
 
We want to thank you for all of the work that you do to prepare adoptive parents. From the monthly webinars and update reports to the one-on-one individual attention you provide when it comes to profiles and websites, everything you all had done for us was truly appreciated and are sincerely thankful!”

 
As Keith and Thirza’s story shows, it is possible to adopt twins here at Lifetime. But if you’re only open to adopting twins, it will increase your wait time significantly. That’s because out of every 100 adoptions, Lifetime has around two to three newborn twin adoptions, on average, per year. You can learn more about adopting twins in our blog post, “How Long Does It Take to Adopt Twins?
 

Take the first step in your journey towards infant adoption today, simply by filling out Lifetime’s free online application to adopt!

Every Adoption is Meant to Be

Sometimes, couples ask themselves if they’re on the right track with trying to adopt. Silas and Dawn, a couple who adopted through our agency, shared in one of our webinars that they felt this way. Today, they feel like each part of their journey to adopt their son was meant to be.

Are you currently in your adoption wait? Then hearing Silas and Dawn’s story is a valuable reminder that you too will adopt. Watch this short video of adoptive parents Silas and Dawn sharing how their son’s adoption is meant-to-be!

Every adoption is meant to be. from Lifetime Adoption on Vimeo.

Adoptive father Silas shares, “First of all, you probably made the best decision with going with Lifetime. They understand the process and they prepare you for it.

One of the biggest things for me was, okay great we made this decision [to adopt] but how do we go about making this happen? I know that there are other agencies out there, but to be honest with you, we really feel right at home with Lifetime. I’ve already recommended it to my friends who have even asked me about it and I would not hesitate at all. So you are in good hands and just walk the path and do the steps and it’s going to happen.”

Silas as Dawn testify how every adoption is meant to be

And his wife, Dawn, adds, “Trust the process. It’s hard to do and I heard it so many times when we were waiting. It’s hard to hear those words. But just trust the process because it really does happen! When it happens, it’s perfect!

In the webinars that I’ve listened to where [the adoptive couple] had walked through more than one match before they finally brought a baby home, even those couples were saying that the baby that they finally did bring home and adopt was perfect for their situation, their family and everything they ever could have wanted. Everything works out in the end as it’s meant to be…that’s really what it is. Having that faith that this is going to happen when it’s supposed to for you.”

Watch Silas and Dawn’s whole story of how they expanded their family through adoption! In this recent adoption webinar, they give waiting couples an inspiring outlook for the wait, adoption travel tips, how you can use social media in your adoption, and their experience with Lifetime.

Just go to AdoptionWebinar.com to watch “Meant to Be: Silas and Dawn’s Adoption Story.”

“Thank you for helping us on the journey to parenthood. We love Lifetime!”

Chris and Carrie adopted their son through the Lifetime adoption agency

Lifetime’s adoption agency in Florida loves it when we get to share updates from our adoptive couples who have experienced the joy of infant adoption! Today, we’re sharing a sweet updated from Chris and Carrie, a young adoptive couple living in Kentucky. Earlier this year, we wrote about their exciting news of being blessed to adopt a baby boy!

Back in January, Chris and Carrie shared with us: “The whole process was just absolutely amazing! Colton’s birth parents are angels. They allowed us to be present for the entire process. We were in the room for his birth and the four of us spent an hour and a half together before we went to separate rooms. Colton’s birth mother was able to hold him as well!”

Here’s the most recent email from Chris and Carrie, who created their family with the help of the Lifetime adoption agency:

Chris and Carrie's son, ColtonHi Tiffany,

Here are some photos of us and sweet Colton. We are beyond grateful that we get to raise Colton. He is the most amazing gift! We are so thankful for his birth parents, we love them dearly.

Colton is almost five months, he loves to coo, smile, suck on his hands and laugh. We are trying to enjoy every moment with him.

We just finished our last post placement visit and hope to finalize within the next month. Words cannot accurately express the joy and life he has brought to our family. Thank you for helping us along this journey to parenthood, we love Lifetime!

And check out this short video about their experience with the Lifetime adoption agency!

If you’d like to read more adoption stories like this one, please visit our “Recent Adoptions & Matches” page. Our adoption staff updates this page all the time, so you’ll want to keep visiting the page to see new baby photos and stories!

If you’re ready to see how Lifetime’s Adoption Agency could help build your family, please apply today! You can click here to take the first step towards becoming a Lifetime family.