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Get 6 Tips on How to Support Your Loved One’s Adoption

Discover how to support your loved one's adoption journey!Today’s post is meant to help your friends and family better understand how adoption works today. If they want to participate in your adoption experience, this information can help serve as a starting point for meaningful conversations about how your adoption will affect everyone.

Please feel free to share this post with those close to you!

When someone you care about is hoping to adopt, you become a member of their adoption circle. As a member of their adoption circle, you’ll need information and insights about adoption. Whether you’re excited or anxious, experienced or unfamiliar with adoption, this info is useful for anyone touched by adoption. Lifetime hopes to help as you participate in their lives as an adoptive family!

Here are 6 ideas to support your loved one’s adoption journey:

1. Learn about modern adoption
Let them know that you want to learn more about domestic infant adoption. It’s helpful to know is that adoptions today are done so differently than they were 50 years ago, and drastically different than Foster to Adopt situations. Modern adoption is much more open, with the birth mother choosing the adoptive parents for her baby, and staying in contact as their child grows up.

2. Encourage them to see your point-of-view
Remind them that adoption was once new to them, as well. If you seem awkward as you talk about adoption or adoption terms, it’s because this is totally new to you.

3. Take risks
Part of being supportive and involved in their adoption will include asking questions and talking about adoption. If you’re not sure how to best discuss adoption, ask.

Don’t be worried if you accidentally say what might be seen as the “wrong” thing. Everyone, and that includes adoptive parents, says the wrong things about adoption inadvertently. Share that your questions come from a genuine and heartfelt place of interest.

adoptive father explains modern adoption4. Understand that sometimes, they might be sensitive about adoption and their child.
Sometimes, adoption is a touchy topic for the adoptive parents. We find this to be true if they’re still becoming comfortable with adoption themselves, or when they’re waiting to be chosen by a birth mother.

5. Apologize if needed
Do you feel like you’ve made mistakes in the past or said things you regret? Think about making an apology if it’s warranted. Tell them that you’re trying to learn more about adoption, then forgive yourself and move on.

6. Be open to learning and growing.
It’s normal to feel lost when you begin to learn about domestic adoption. So, keep an open mind and be willing to expand your knowledge as you support your loved one’s adoption journey.

When someone you care about is offering you the opportunity to participate in their adoption, it’s a beautiful thing. Maybe they’re even including you in their adoption process, for example by asking you to write a reference letter or appear in a photo for their adoption profile. It’s wonderful to get to share in the experience of your loved ones who are adopting!

“Should I Give My Baby Up For Adoption?”

should I give my baby up for adoption?“I’m 35 weeks along and I’m thinking about adoption, but I’m really on the fence. My Mom raised my brother and I all by herself, and I saw how hard that was. I love babies but I’m not ready to be a mom, so I’m wondering if I should give my baby up for adoption. Do I need to decide right now, before my baby’s born? How do I decide? Help!”

We encourage you to take all the time you need to reflect on the pros and cons of both parenting and adoption. You don’t have to decide on adoption before your baby has been born. You can call Lifetime at any point during your pregnancy, or after you’ve delivered. We’ve even helped women create an adoption plan after they called us from the hospital, in labor.

Weighing the pros and cons of parenting and adoption will help you during your pregnancy, as well as after your baby is born. It helps you to clarify and communicate your decision-making process.

Here are 3 things that you can do if you’re unsure whether adoption is right for you:

Keep a Journal

Journaling is a really helpful tool that you can use to express your thoughts, feelings, and ideas about adoption on paper. Many birth parents have shared with us that reflecting back on their journey is therapeutic.

Speak to a Counselor

It’s important for you to talk about your fears as you’re deciding whether adoption is right for you and your baby. A counselor will provide a safe and nonjudgmental space for you to talk through your fears. Lifetime can connect you with an outside counselor at no charge to you.

Talk With A Birth Mother

Some women thinking about adoption find it helpful to connect with a birth mother who has made an adoption plan herself. Talking with others who are living with their choices can help shed light on the positives and challenges of adoption. Lifetime can connect you with a birth mother, through a phone call, email, or in person.

Lifetime Adoption Agency is available to you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. So just call us at 1-800-923-6784 whenever you have a question or a concern you need to talk through!

Adopting a Baby in Today’s World

Webinar to learn about adopting a baby in today's worldWhat have you heard about how domestic adoption works nowadays? It’s easy to get caught up in the opinions and comments of others who think they know what adopting a baby is like or how it should go.
 
The truth is, adoption has changed a lot, even from just five years ago. It’s important to know what adopting a baby in the U.S. is like TODAY.
 
Lifetime just held a Q&A webinar about domestic adoption in today’s world! You can listen to “A Lifetime Q&A: Adopting a Baby | Domestic Adoption in Today’s World” here. Most people who want to adopt a baby aren’t totally clear on the process when they decide to pursue adoption. That’s where we come in!
 
Click to listen to this adoption webinar!We’re excited to present this new webinar, to help you cut through the stereotypes and hear-say. Get the info you need to know to adopt the baby you’re praying for.
 
If you’ve been thinking about starting the process to adopt a baby born in the US, then you’ll want to listen to this webinar all about domestic adoption!
 
In Lifetime’s Q&A webinar, we took questions from people considering domestic adoption, just like you. We covered topics from adoption basics, like getting started and what open adoption really looks like today, to beyond-the-basics, such as when (and how!) to tell your child about adoption, embracing adoption after going through infertility, and the best tips for ensuring a safe and successful adoption process.
 

A Lifetime Q&A Webinar: Adopting a Baby in Today’s World

 
When you subscribe to Lifetime’s Adoption Webinars, we’ll email you to let you know once our next webinar is scheduled. Sign up for the opportunity to ask our adoption experts your questions. We love to take questions from our audience of future adoptive parents, just like you!

What Should I Do If My Girlfriend is Choosing Adoption?

What should I do? My girlfriend is choosing adoption...Here’s a common question we get here at Lifetime Adoption Agency: “My girlfriend is pregnant, and wants to adopt out our baby. What can I do if my girlfriend is choosing adoption?”

As the father of the baby, you have the right to get answers to your questions. You have the right to participate in making an adoption plan for your child.

So today, we’re sharing 4 of the adoption questions we get asked the most by birth fathers. If you don’t see your question here, please feel free to call Lifetime’s toll-free number and ask us: 1-800-923-6784.

  1. What is an open adoption?
  2. Can I select an adoptive family for my baby?
  3. What are my rights in making this decision?
  4. Will I have a financial responsibility to this child?

1. What is an open adoption?
Open adoption means that you and the baby’s mother have the right to choose an adoption plan that works for you. You can select an adoptive family, choose how much contact you would like to have before and after your baby is born, and choose how you would like your hospital experience to be. You have the right to have an ongoing, open relationship with your baby and the adoptive family.

2. Can I select an adoptive family for my baby?
Yes, absolutely. Lifetime believes that you know best in choosing the best family for your baby. We can show you adoptive parent profiles about families from all different parts of the country, and from many different backgrounds. You might want to start by looking at some families that want to adopt.

3. What are my rights in making this decision?
The laws regarding a father’s rights differ based on which state you live in. You do have the right to know about an adoption plan, and you have the right to participate in the adoption planning process. An adoption attorney can help you to understand the laws in your state.

4. Will I have a financial responsibility to this child?
If you choose to make an adoption plan, the adoptive family that you choose would be financially responsible for the baby. You will not be required to pay child support once your parental rights are legally terminated.

For additional information, please call Lifetime’s toll-free number: 1-800-923-6784.

6 Proven Tips on How to Get Your Home Study Done in a Flash

Adoptive couple chatting in the kitchenAs one of the first steps in your adoption, the home study may bring up many different emotions, from excitement to intimidation. The adoption home study usually includes a complete background check, paperwork and documentation, interviews with members of your household, and a visit to your home.

While this might seem like a lot, we’ve seen people get through the home study process smoothly and quickly by following these 6 proven tips:

1. Obtain a list of needed documents

Ask your home study provider for a list of all the documents you need to provide. Some of these required documents may take you additional time to get, so it’s smart to start working on those first.

As an example, you’ll probably have to provide copies of your marriage license, driver’s license, and birth certificates. If you don’t have these documents, it might take some time to request copies. Also, there are some documents that you’ll need a notary for, such as a notarized financial statement.

2. Schedule doctor appointments

Most home studies require a signed physician’s statement regarding your health. You’ll also need to visit an authorized authority to get fingerprinted. If you have pets, make vet appointments so that they’re fully up-to-date with all vaccinations. Make sure to schedule these appointments right away so that they don’t get in the way of your ability to finish your home study.

3. Request that your references submit letters quickly

Home study applications usually require reference letters from family and friends, attesting to your character. We recommend choosing your references early on in this process since it’ll take time to get the reference letters back. There is a way to expedite the process, though.

Once you’ve chosen your references, you can give them a heads-up that they’ll get a reference request soon. Also, kindly request that they submit their letter as quickly as possible. We often find that missing reference letters are one of hold-ups of completing a home study.

4. Reserve time in your schedule to work on this

We recommend that you set aside some time to dedicate yourself to the home study application and needed documents. While the questions are pretty straightforward, it’s just a matter of making time to finish it. You might try setting aside two hours each day to power through your needed items.

5. Read a checklist

Once you’re done with the paperwork part of your home study, the next step is to schedule the home visit and interviews with a social worker. Before the social worker visits, we suggest reviewing a general home study checklist. This will allow you to see whether your home meets the recommended safety standards. Ask your social worker to provide you with a more state-specific list.

6. Check your home’s safety before the home visit

Even though your social worker will give you an opportunity to fix any potential safety hazards before finishing their report, taking care of all safety hazards before their initial visit will expedite the overall process.

Lifetime Adoption Agency provides affordable home study services in Florida. Learn more by calling us at 727-493-0933 or visiting our Adoption Home Study page.

How To Decide How Much Future Contact is Best for You

Woman looks at open adoption profilesYou have lots of choices with open adoption, like being able to select the adoptive parents for your baby. Open adoption also means that you choose how often you’d like to stay in contact with them after the adoption happens, and how you’d like to receive updates as your child grows up.

If you’re thinking about adoption, you might be thinking something like, “How can I choose how much future contact is best?” or “What if I say I want contact but then, later on, I decide I don’t?”

Today, we’re sharing more info about your options with future contact in open adoption!

Lifetime has helped a few birth mothers who decided on a closed adoption. Some opted for a semi-open adoption, and receive letters and pictures of their child. Many birth mothers want an open adoption and in addition to getting letters, pictures, emails, and talking to the family on the phone, they actually meet up once or twice a year.

It’s totally up to you how much future contact your adoption plan includes. Just tell your Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime what you’re hoping for, and she’ll send you adoption profiles that match what you’d like. Some women decide to have lots of contact and others would rather get updates through letters and pictures only. Others just want to see the adoptive family at the hospital to feel secure their decision. Seeing the adoptive couple with their baby allows them to rest in the knowledge that their baby will grow up loved and well provided for.

What If I Want Less (or More) Contact Later On?

Lifetime has helped many women who thought they wanted to stay in contact after placement, but then felt differently once the adoption happened. When this happens, Lifetime will help you leave your options open. These birth mothers tell us something like, “I just decided I don’t need any more contact. Since I met the family, I feel very comfortable with them. I feel like I need to move on with my life and I don’t need to have any contact.”

We’ve seen the reverse happen too. A birth mother who didn’t think she’d want to keep in touch afterward may think, “I’m wondering how my baby is doing and about the family that I helped create” a year or so down the road. An open adoption could go in that direction. Think about the amount of contact changing over the years, and talk it over with the adoptive family you chose. If you stay in good communication with the adoptive family during your match, you’ll build a relationship with them where you feel OK asking for more contact.

Lifetime understands that your needs and desire for an open adoption might evolve. We’ll remain available to you in the future if you decide that you might more contact. You can let us know, and we will arrange that for you.

Resources to Help With Your Future Contact Choices

We want you to feel confident and secure with the amount of contact you have after your baby’s adoption happens. So, we have many resources here to help you with your choices in future contact. You can speak with another woman who has chosen adoption, also known as peer support. They’re able to tell you what they’ve experienced with contact. Peer support is a really valuable asset to take advantage of. Lifetime also has phone counseling with a licensed counselor available, at no charge to you.

Lifetime is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Whenever you have a question or a concern you need to talk about, we’re here to help you!

Just call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

Access this Free Webinar & Learn How to Get Started With Adoption

This free webinar will teach you how to get started with adoption!What do you need help with to get started with adoption? What obstacles are in your way towards achieving your dreams of adopting? Maybe deep inside you answered:

  • “I need clarity about the adoption process in general.”
  • “I wonder if open adoption would ever let us feel like ‘mom and dad.'”
  • “We need to know how to cover adoption costs.”
  • “My spouse is on board, but I’m just not there yet myself.”
  • “There’s so much going on right now. Hopefully soon we’ll have time to go over all of this, or take the next step.”
  • “We’re totally ready to adopt, but aren’t sure who we want to help us do it.”
  • “We’re still trying to conceive.” OR “We just miscarried again and need time to heal.”
  • “Honestly, we’re just so overwhelmed about what we want to do.”
  • “I just need to know what the next step is so that I can get this going!”

Maybe you can relate to one of those thoughts or have a totally different answer in mind. This free adoption webinar is a great place to start sorting through everything. The key with adoption is not to let the process or questions hold you back. The only way you’ll find out what you want to do next is to keep learning more!
 
If adoption is on your heart right now, then you’ll want to access this free webinar to get the answers you’ll need as someone who hopes to adopt.
 
Our adoption webinar, “Q&A: Adoption Basics & Getting Started,” is a great place to learn the basics, if you’re new to adoption, or to expand your understanding, if you’re already familiar with adoption 101 topics.
 
The key is not to let the process or questions hold you back from a calling on your heart to add a child to your family through adoption. This webinar will help you get the answers you need to make the right decision for your family’s future:
 

Q&A: Adoption Basics & Getting Started

Outdoors Enthusiasts in Indiana Thrilled to Adopt Their First Child!

Outdoors Enthusiasts in Indiana Thrilled to Adopt Their First Child! from Lifetime Adoption on Vimeo.

Myron and April are so excited to adopt their first child! They’re looking forward to sharing their love for bicycle rides through the park, backyard barbecues with family and teaching their child to swim at the pool. Check out their adoptive family video today!

They created this cute video to introduce themselves and share more about what they have to offer your child. Keep scrolling to learn more about this fun and loving Indiana couple!

Myron and April are excited to adopt their first child!Myron and April share, “We have always wanted a large family and are excited to become first-time parents through adoption. We are looking forward to loving and providing our child with endless opportunities to help them grow!”

Their home is beautiful, bright and airy with plenty of space for family. Myron and April’s home has a big backyard and an outdoor eating area. They love gardening and growing fresh vegetables. Myron and April’s community includes lots of families and has a small-town charm. Their home is located near nature trails, children’s zoo, parks, cultural centers and great schools. Myron and April are looking forward to sharing photos, letters, and visits with you!

“April looks forward to nurturing our child, supporting and guiding them with unconditional love. I know she will be an amazing mother who will provide our child with an abundance of love!” says Myron. And April shares about her husband, “Myron was born to be a dad! He loves children and spends his spare time coaching kids so they can be the best they can be in sports and academics.”

You can find out more about hopeful adoptive couple Myron and April by visiting their adoption website. You may also view all adoptive family profiles here on AdoptionAgencyFlorida.com. If you see an adoptive family that you’re interested in, please give us a call at 1-877-383-6847.

How to Fundraise and Save So That You Can Afford Adoption

Young couple saving up so they can afford adoptionTrying to afford adoption is a common worry among hopeful parents. There’s the home study fee, adoption professional’s fees, travel costs, and legal fees. And sometimes birth mother expenses. So what can you do?

Today, we’re giving you 5 useful and practical tips that you can start following today, to get you closer to your adoption!

1. Make responsible financial decisions

If you’re thinking about taking out a second mortgage or borrowing from your retirement fund, keep your adoption goals in mind. Speak with a financial planner or a relative or friend who’s financially savvy. If you make irresponsible financial decisions now, it’ll have a negative impact on your finances in the future.

2. Start cutting back

Before you ask other people to donate towards your adoption, start cutting back on the extras. Your “extras” might be daily trips to Starbucks, cable TV, dining out, or memberships that you don’t use often. Take some time to decide what’s actually essential. Then, you can use the money you were spending on those things to save up for your adoption.

3. Sell unneeded items

Start a collection of the stuff you don’t need or don’t use. Selling some of it might make you money! We’re thinking bigger items or a vintage collection of something. By selling these things, you’ll get more space for all the baby stuff, and you’ll make money so that you can afford adoption!

4. Consider taking a second job

Start working another job on the weekends or evenings, sell products on Etsy, or offer a service such as tutoring. But be wary of “pyramid schemes” which mean a lot of work for little payoff. If you do choose direct sales, check out the company’s reputation and ensure that it doesn’t require a lot of up-front investment from you.

5. Fundraise

Adoption fundraising can be very effective. To get ideas for your adoption fundraiser, check out Facebook groups or do a Google search. Some options are selling t-shirts, puzzle fundraisers, auctions, dinners, or yard sales. Connect with others who held successful adoption fundraisers in the Facebook groups, and copy what they did.

“How can I be sure my baby will be safe with the adoptive couple?”

How do I know my baby will be safe with the adoptive couple?Question: “I’m 25 weeks pregnant, and I’ve been looking at the adoptive couples on your site. They all look super-friendly, and I like what they say about their parenting styles. But, how can I be sure my baby will be safe with the adoptive couple I pick?”

Answer: Lifetime Adoption Agency requires all of our adoptive families to go through in-depth screening and background checks before they can adopt. A social worker visits their home and checks it out to make sure it’s a safe place for a child. The hopeful adoptive couple must also undergo an interview with the social worker, to make sure they’re fit to be parents.

All of these background checks and screening is how we know that each Lifetime adoptive couple is financially secure, stable, and in a loving marriage. They’ve not only proven their income but also have passed criminal background checks and have had physicals from a doctor to make sure they’re healthy.

The reason why Lifetime goes to such lengths to make sure that each adoptive couple in our program is pre-screened is so that you’re able to rest assured that your baby will be safe with the adoptive couple. The adoptive couple must be screened and questioned in order to adopt. These couples also undergo adoption education so they can understand your need for future communication in an open adoption.

Do you have questions about adoption for your baby? Lifetime is available 24/7; just text or call us at 1-800-923-6784.