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We Reveal the Truth About 5 Adoption Myths

learn the truth about these 5 adoption mythsToday, we’re sharing honest answers to 5 adoption myths about choosing adoption for your baby:

1. Adoption is selfish
This adoption myth is the biggest one out there! Really, adoption is about the least selfish choice that you can make for your child. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your baby. It means the opposite: you love them so much that you want them to have the life they deserve. When you don’t have the needed resources to care for a baby or aren’t ready to become a parent, choosing adoption for your baby is the most selfless thing you can do.

2. I’ll be giving my baby away to strangers
With a modern, open adoption, you have the power to choose your baby’s adoptive parents, and meet them to interview them too. You can pick a family who would raise your baby exactly the way that you wish. You also have the right to decide how much future contact with your child and family as you would like, whether it’s emails, letters, photos, or even visits.

3. I can’t do adoption without my parent’s approval
Some parents don’t understand modern adoption and how it works, so they might get angry and try to change your mind. The truth to this adoption myth is that no matter how young you are, no one can force you to a pregnancy choice, whether it’s parenting, adoption, or abortion. The law is on your side, and your parents typically don’t have rights to your baby. If your parents aren’t supportive, you might try writing down your adoption plan so they can see you’ve put a lot of thought into this.

4. If I use drugs or alcohol, no one will want to adopt my baby

Whatever your life situation is, there are adoptive families ready to provide your baby with a loving home. Lifetime is here to support and help you as you make an adoption plan, even if your baby has been exposed to drugs or alcohol. It’s important that you’re honest with us about any tobacco, drug, or alcohol use during your pregnancy. That way, your doctor is able to best take care of your health, and the health of your baby.

If you’re using drugs and are near your due date, your baby may test positive for drugs at birth. If these cases, the hospital must notify Child Protective Services, and your baby may be placed in foster care. By having an adoption plan in place, you’re able to choose where your baby will go, and the level of contact you want to have with your child as they grow up. So, if you think your baby may test positive for drugs at birth, call us at 1-800-923-6784 for help and info.

5. My baby is almost a year old! It’s too late to do adoption
It is never too late to choose adoption, and you can begin at any time. Maybe you’d thought about adoption and put it on hold. You can still go forward at any time. Even if you’ve been trying to make parenting work and are struggling, it’s not too late. You’re never making a bad choice for your child by loving them enough to give them the life you know they deserve, when you know you can’t provide it.

If you’re thinking of adoption, you can call Lifetime today to learn more: 1-800-923-6784. Contacting us doesn’t mean you HAVE to choose adoption. It just means you’re learning more about it.

Freedom to Choose What’s Best for Your Baby

adoption may be what's best for you and your babyAdoption is a loving and thoughtful decision, which pregnant women and moms make in the best interest of their child. Each woman faces her own unique goals, circumstances, and limitations, in addition to the hopes she has for her child’s life.

At Lifetime, we believe that women should never be pressured to parent OR place her baby, rather encouraged to make a healthy plan for the child’s future, as well as her own.

If you’re thinking about adoption, know that you have a voice in every part of the adoption process. Here are just a few of the many choices you have with modern adoption:

  • Pick your baby’s adoptive parents from dozens of families, of all races, ready to adopt, if you’d like.
  • Get to know the adoptive family you’ve selected before the adoption if desired.
  • Plan how things will go at the hospital when your baby is born.
  • Customize how you want to keep in touch with your child and the adoptive parents after the adoption takes place.
  • Get access to free licensed counseling, qualified legal assistance, and support before and after the adoption.

Adoption help is just a phone call or text message away:

Adoption, Abortion, or Parenting…What’s Right for You?

Is Adoption, Abortion, or Parenting right for you?Every day, millions of women discover they’re pregnant. Some women are happy and excited to be pregnant, but others will not be. These women face a life-changing and important decision. Will adoption, abortion, or parenting be the right choice?

Every woman has pregnancy choices, whether they became pregnant on purpose or not. Know that no matter what your situation is, the options are still there: adoption, abortion, or parenting. The reality is this: the only person who can decide what’s best for you and your child is YOU.

Choosing abortion may create feelings of guilt or shame. Also, abortion is pretty expensive: according to Planned Parenthood, it costs up to $1,500 in the first trimester. The costs usually depend upon how far along you are and the insurance you have. It’s a decision that can’t be reversed.

Another option for you is to become a parent and to raise your baby. Of all of the three pregnancy choices, this the most expensive one. You’ll have the financial responsibility of a child placed on you. You’ll have a child relying on you for everything that they need until adulthood. Parenting does come with many positives, such as the opportunity to care for and love a child of your own, and to help him or her to grow into a positive member of society. You’ll be a major part of your child’s life. Parenting isn’t an irreversible decision. You might decide to parent right away, but discover it’s not working and choose adoption.

Adoption is one of the most flexible choices for your unplanned pregnancy. With adoption, you’ll be making a personal sacrifice by placing your child in the care of another family. There are many types of adoption, some which will allow you to be a part of the child’s life and some which will allow you to continue your life without that child. It’s up to you which type of adoption is best for you and your child. Adoption doesn’t come with any costs; you’re able to get help with pregnancy-related expenses. Plus, your life as you know it doesn’t have to stop since you won’t be the primary caregiver for a child. The biggest benefit of all is that your child will be given the best life possible by a family that loves him or her unconditionally.

To find out more about adoption as an option, just call or text us at 1-877-383-6847 at any time!

How You Speak About Your Child’s Birth Mother Matters

learn how to speak to yoru child about your child's birth motherIt’s normal for adopted children to ask about their birth families. They may wonder things like ‘do they look like me?,’ ‘Why did they choose adoption?’ and ‘What do I have in common with them?’ What’s important is to be honest, open, and positive when you talk with your child about your child’s birth mother. After all, their birth parents are a major part of his or her adoption story.

Since it’s a delicate subject, many adoptive parents wonder how they should start the birth parent conversation with their child. Here are some tips about talking with your child about his or her birth parents:

1. Start Telling Their Adoption Story Early On
Begin talking with your child about their adoption from day one. That way, it’s not a shock to your child that they were adopted. Your child will know their adoption is special if you speak about it early and often. For very young children, you might share photos of their birth parents and explain that they helped create your family.

2. Keep in Touch
Many (if not most) birth mothers want an open adoption maintained. So, it’s important that you follow through on the amount of contact you agree to. Preserving a relationship with your child’s birth mother is benefiting all involved, particularly your child.

3. Plan Ahead
As your child matures, they’ll ask different questions and want to know more details about their birth parents. Speak with your spouse and come up with a plan of how you’ll address questions and when you want to share certain details. Ask your child’s birth mother for more info—it may help you answer some of these questions that’ll come up down the road. It’s ideal if she could write a letter to your child, describing her choice of adoption.

4. Celebrate Adoption
Consider having a yearly party for your child’s adoption day, and invite your child’s birth parents. Talk with your child about their birth story and birth family. Other adoption-related holidays that you can recognize include National Adoption Month, Birth Mother’s Day, and National Adoption Day.

5. Be Truthful

You don’t need to tell your child all of the information about their birth family all at once. Keep in mind that you should never fabricate stories about your child’s birth parents. If your child asks you a question that you don’t have the answer to, just tell them so. Saying “we don’t know” is better than telling them what you think they want to hear or making up a story.

6. Be Positive
Avoid speaking badly about your child’s birth mother, especially to others. It’s important to respect her privacy, while at the same time being understanding with her mistakes and lifestyle differences. Remember that it was your child’s birth parents who brought them into this world and made it possible for you to be parents. Make sure that your child knows that he or she is loved by the birth parents who chose to give them life. The birth mother will always love their child, even as they struggle to maintain stability or healthy choices. Remember, it’s out of loss and difficulties that you were blessed to adopt that child and to build your family!

Talking with your child about their birth parents doesn’t lessen your role as parents or change the relationship you have with your child. Just the opposite: it’ll bring your family closer, increase trust, and make your child proud of his or her origins.

5 Tips to Prevent a Hot Car Fatality

A young father strapping his baby into a car seatIt’s a story that you hear in the news all too often lately. A parent forgets that their baby is in the car and as a result, their child dies.

One mom, Jodie, shared that she was very cautious for her daughter’s safety, and read every parenting book. Her agonizing story, written about in goes like this; instead of dropping her infant daughter off at the sitter’s, she went to work. “At 4pm, she returned to the car that had been sitting for 7 hours in the 92-degree heat. Jodie put the car in reverse, and as she started to back up, she caught a glimpse of Jenna in the rearview mirror…And then she made the devastating realization that the memory she had of dropping Jenna at the sitter’s house wasn’t real — it was merely the daydream she’d had during her drive to work. Even though Jodie knew it was already too late, she slammed on the brakes and ran to the back, frantically dialing 911. When Jenna wouldn’t wake up, she collapsed next to the minivan in utter agony.”

We want to share these 5 valuable tips with you to help you avoid this tragedy:

1.) Stash something you need in the back seat: it could be your purse, cell phone, computer, or lunch: something that’s crucial for your day.

2.) Remember to lock your car doors; this prevents curious toddlers from getting into the car and then getting trapped.

3.) Before you lock your doors, open your back door and look in the back seat. Even if you know your child isn’t with you, make sure that everyone is out of the car.

4.) Develop a plan with your child’s sitter or day care. If your child doesn’t show up to daycare without being notified beforehand, direct them to call you.

5.) Keep a sharp eye when you’re out and about: if you see a child or baby alone in a car, call 911 right away.

One of the biggest mistakes that parents can make is assuming this can’t happen to them. Because when you think it can’t happen to you, it’s like you’ve already decided you don’t need to use these safety tips. It’s important to understand that we’re all susceptible.