The decision to adopt a baby or child comes from a personal journey that can vary from person to person. Some people find that it feels like a natural decision that serves to expand their family. For other couples who have already gone through infertility treatments to become parents, adoption is a much more stressful subject. Regardless of the situation which led you to adoption, your actual adoption journey can be filled with expectation, some stress at times, and uncertainty, yet it can be amazingly fulfilling, exciting, and joyous.
Many couples who have decided on adoption next wonder how they can best share their plans to adopt with family and friends. First, think about how comfortable you are in your decision to adopt. Then, you can set practical expectations for how people may react.
Here are some things to think about that may help you and your spouse as you share your plans:
1. Remember that your decision to adopt wasn’t an impulsive one. It took some time for you to consider all of your options and decide whether adopting was a good fit for you. So, when you decide to share your adoption plans with those in your life, don’t expect them to immediately understand or accept the news. Give them a chance to take it all in, including the effect that your decision will also have on their lives.
2. Decide whether you are open to other’s questions, comments, and advice. It’s normal for people to have an opinion and express it. It’s not a realistic expectation that everyone just embraces your decision, congratulates you, and goes on. Prepare yourself by deciding what you feel comfortable sharing and also details that you’d rather not share.
3. Realize that some people in your life may disagree with your decision to adopt, or have a negative view of adoption. You might consider avoiding people who may make you feel insecure in your decision to adopt, or uncomfortable. Or, a great solution is to remain positive when dealing with negative people. You can reveal to them the wonderful blessing that adoption truly is.
4. Discuss with your spouse who to share your news with. You may decide not to ever tell some people, and that is your prerogative.
Regardless of when and how you share your adoption plans with others, the key is to make sure that you are happy with the decision you’ve arrived at. Remain excited, happy, and in tune with your own feelings and those of your partner, no matter what others think. Embrace the hope of making your family complete!
