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How to Find Out If You’re Both Ready to Adopt

Communicate openly with your spouse to find if you're both ready to adoptYour decision to adopt a baby probably didn’t happen overnight. Most couples take weeks, months, or years to move from fertility treatments to adoption. It’s important that you make sure you’re ready to adopt before you start the adoption process.

Today, Lifetime shares three basic requirements you should meet before signing on with an adoption professional:

1. You’ve Moved on from Infertility

So that your adoption can be successful, the decision must be fully embraced by both of you.

People handle stressful situations and grieve differently. So, it’s common for one spouse to be ready to adopt and the other to be uncertain.

Allow your spouse fully grieve failed fertility treatments, and the dream of having a child biologically, so that they can move through the grief and loss process at their own pace. If one of you isn’t fully ready to move to adoption, it might lead to complications during the adoption process down the road. Neither of you should feel pressured into adopting just because the other one is ready.

We encourage you to see an infertility counselor or a marriage and family counselor if you’re struggling to move on from infertility.

2. You Have Similar Adoption Plans

Just as each of you should be ready to adopt, you should also be on the same page as to how you’re going to adopt. Consider if you want to:

  • Adopt a newborn or an older child.
  • Adopt domestically, internationally or through foster care.
  • Adopt a baby of a specific gender.
  • Adopt a baby of a particular ethnicity
  • Be in contact with the birth parents, and if so, how much.

Speaking with an Adoption Coordinator at Lifetime will help both of you gain a better understanding of all the elements in adoption. Listening to webinars will help you gain more information about all aspects of adoption. Visit AdoptionWebinar.com to get started. Seek input from adoptive families for their experience with the type of adoption you’re interested in.

3. You’re Financially Ready for Adoption

There will be various adoption costs you need to prepare for. Examples include medical, legal and travel expenses.

Begin by carefully researching all of your options. Balance those costs with your budget to decide if you’re financially ready to pursue adoption. If finances are a concern, look into adoption fundraising, grants, and loans.

When you’re deciding whether or not you are ready to adopt, it’s essential to communicate openly with your spouse. Talk about all aspects of adoption, financial security, adoption goals, and your feelings surrounding infertility.

If you’re both ready to adopt or if you have questions about moving on from infertility, call Lifetime Adoption Agency at
1-800-923-6784.

Adopting a Baby in Today’s World

Webinar to learn about adopting a baby in today's worldWhat have you heard about how domestic adoption works nowadays? It’s easy to get caught up in the opinions and comments of others who think they know what adopting a baby is like or how it should go.
 
The truth is, adoption has changed a lot, even from just five years ago. It’s important to know what adopting a baby in the U.S. is like TODAY.
 
Lifetime just held a Q&A webinar about domestic adoption in today’s world! You can listen to “A Lifetime Q&A: Adopting a Baby | Domestic Adoption in Today’s World” here. Most people who want to adopt a baby aren’t totally clear on the process when they decide to pursue adoption. That’s where we come in!
 
Click to listen to this adoption webinar!We’re excited to present this new webinar, to help you cut through the stereotypes and hear-say. Get the info you need to know to adopt the baby you’re praying for.
 
If you’ve been thinking about starting the process to adopt a baby born in the US, then you’ll want to listen to this webinar all about domestic adoption!
 
In Lifetime’s Q&A webinar, we took questions from people considering domestic adoption, just like you. We covered topics from adoption basics, like getting started and what open adoption really looks like today, to beyond-the-basics, such as when (and how!) to tell your child about adoption, embracing adoption after going through infertility, and the best tips for ensuring a safe and successful adoption process.
 

A Lifetime Q&A Webinar: Adopting a Baby in Today’s World

 
When you subscribe to Lifetime’s Adoption Webinars, we’ll email you to let you know once our next webinar is scheduled. Sign up for the opportunity to ask our adoption experts your questions. We love to take questions from our audience of future adoptive parents, just like you!

Access this Free Webinar & Learn How to Get Started With Adoption

This free webinar will teach you how to get started with adoption!What do you need help with to get started with adoption? What obstacles are in your way towards achieving your dreams of adopting? Maybe deep inside you answered:

  • “I need clarity about the adoption process in general.”
  • “I wonder if open adoption would ever let us feel like ‘mom and dad.'”
  • “We need to know how to cover adoption costs.”
  • “My spouse is on board, but I’m just not there yet myself.”
  • “There’s so much going on right now. Hopefully soon we’ll have time to go over all of this, or take the next step.”
  • “We’re totally ready to adopt, but aren’t sure who we want to help us do it.”
  • “We’re still trying to conceive.” OR “We just miscarried again and need time to heal.”
  • “Honestly, we’re just so overwhelmed about what we want to do.”
  • “I just need to know what the next step is so that I can get this going!”

Maybe you can relate to one of those thoughts or have a totally different answer in mind. This free adoption webinar is a great place to start sorting through everything. The key with adoption is not to let the process or questions hold you back. The only way you’ll find out what you want to do next is to keep learning more!
 
If adoption is on your heart right now, then you’ll want to access this free webinar to get the answers you’ll need as someone who hopes to adopt.
 
Our adoption webinar, “Q&A: Adoption Basics & Getting Started,” is a great place to learn the basics, if you’re new to adoption, or to expand your understanding, if you’re already familiar with adoption 101 topics.
 
The key is not to let the process or questions hold you back from a calling on your heart to add a child to your family through adoption. This webinar will help you get the answers you need to make the right decision for your family’s future:
 

Q&A: Adoption Basics & Getting Started

7 Powerful Ways to Learn About Infant Adoption (Part 2)

Discover powerful ways to learn about infant adoption!Lifetime shares what successful adoptive families do and what struggling adoptive families have not done in part two of our two-part series of adoption education. If you missed part one, you can read it here: 7 Powerful Ways to Learn About Infant Adoption (Part 1).

Lifetime estimates that only 20% of prospective adoptive families focus on actively learning about adoption. They read adoption books, tune into webinars, and ask important questions of other adoptive families, adoption agencies, attorneys, and social workers. They’re focused on completely understanding what their adoption journey will involve. In doing so, they can adopt a baby in a shorter time frame.

Since you’re reading this, you’re probably in that 20% — or moving towards entering this successful group!

Here are 3 more powerful (and simple!) ways to get the most benefit from what you learn:

1. Teach yourself about adoption.

When you educate yourself about adoption, you’ll come to find you’re saving money in the long run. The time you spend reading books will save you from making errors in decision making such as spotting “red flags” in adoption situations. After you adopt, you’ll be able to look at the amount you spent on learning about adoption and how much value you got for the money.

Lifetime has also noticed that educated adoptive couples make better adoption decisions, communicate more effectively with birth mothers, and are less stressed. They have a much better adoption experience than those who didn’t do much to understand the birth parents’ feelings and the adoption process as a whole. It’s a powerful investment.

2. Choose the most qualified adoption professionals to work with.

Judge adoption professionals by their value, not their fees. Often, an adoption professional with a proven track record of success will give you lots more value (and less heartache!) than those less expensive. The “tried and true” professionals may be higher priced, but they offer a comparative bargain. Compare the adoption services and successes of various professionals. When you research agencies, take your time. Just a few weeks of research will pay off immensely. You can check for referrals with the Better Business Bureau.

3. Start now!

As they say, “Don’t delay, start today!” The more you procrastinate educating yourself about adoption, the longer it will take for you to adopt a baby. Moving closer to your dream of infant adoption is both possible and achievable. Start today; you won’t regret the experience!
 
 

Are you interested in discovering how Lifetime Adoption Agency can help you begin your family?
 
Please take the first step today by filling out our online application. The application is free of charge and is quick to fill out.

7 Powerful Ways to Learn About Infant Adoption (Part 1)

Luke and Lindsay were blessed by a Lifetime infant adoption!Today we’re sharing with you what may be the most important key to adoption success in infant adoption: education. But first, some background information. We have over 30 years of working with adoptive parents and assisting birth parents. In that time, we’ve seen what the successful adoptive families do and what struggling adoptive families have not done.

This post is part one in a two-part series of adoption education. Here are 4 powerful (and simple!) ways to get the most benefit from what you learn:
 

1. Learn from those who have already adopted successfully.

Avoid taking advice from people who haven’t “been there, done that”. Plenty of people who give adoption advice are wrong; they’re simply giving their opinions. They don’t have in-the-trenches experience with adopting. If they’ve never adopted, or their adoption was several years ago, you’ll find that the laws, methods, and adoption experiences have changed. So, following their advice can be frustrating and a waste of your time. Even worse, it may lead you down the wrong path.
 
Many people are uneducated about adoption, and learn what they know about it from the media. In reality, most adoptions go smoothly and without issues. But, the media knows that drama sells, even if it characterizes a tiny part of the adoption experience.
 
2. Read and listen actively.

As you read adoption books or listen to webinars, think to yourself: “How can this be applied to my adoption journey?” Write down notes so you can apply what you learn. If you don’t take notes, you’ll forget what you learned, and you won’t benefit.
 
3. Schedule time for learning about adoption.

Humans spend three to eight hours each week discovering learning new things. Since you’re likely busy already, allocate some time in your schedule for adoption education. Making the time is key to your success!
For example, knowing basic adoption terms will prevent you from having to spend money unnecessarily for an attorney to explain simple terms you can understand on your own. The time you’ve scheduled to learn about adoption can also be spent creating an adoption budget. Think about how you’ll fund your adoption.
 
4. Don’t strive for perfection

Don’t put lots of pressure on yourself: you don’t have to know everything right away. Begin by learning adoption terms, and then read stories from birth mothers to learn their point-of-view.

When you have questions about something, write them down. You can then ask others and do further research. Don’t try to be perfect. Just take things one topic at a time. “When my husband and I were adopting, I set aside one hour a day to adoption. That hour was devoted to learning about adoption. I did this by speaking to others that had adopted, reading books, and searching for adoption professionals,” says adoptive mother and Lifetime’s Founder, Mardie Caldwell.
 

Next week, we’ll share three more simple ways you can get the most benefit from what you learn about adoption!

In the meantime, feel free to browse our website, learn about adoption loans, and contact us with your questions.