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Archive for Open adoption

Your Florida Adoption Agency Was There Every Step of the Way!

Lifetime’s adoption agency in Florida loves it when we get to share updates from our adoptive couples who have been blessed by infant adoption! Today, we’re sharing a sweet one from Joe and Megan, a young adoptive couple living in New Jersey. In their adoption video, they shared: “We cannot wait to welcome this baby into our family and cherish them forever!”

Here’s a heartwarming email from Joe and Megan, another adoptive couple who built their family with the help of our Florida adoption agency!

Joe and Megan adopted through our Florida adoption agency!

“From the beginning, I felt at ease with Lifetime. Our journey started with Kim, who was so knowledgeable and made us feel so welcomed. We then spoke with Linda and Natalie and we knew we had met the perfect team. All our questions and concerns were answered in a timely manner.

Natalie was always able to make me feel better on days I never thought this would happen. And then we got *the call* from Chrissy and our lives changed in the greatest way! Also, I cannot forget Tiffany, who stepped in during an important time in our match process.

We can never thank Lifetime enough for bringing us such great joy. You all are amazing and we are beyond thankful for all the work you do. Thank you for being there every step of the way!”

Want to read more touching adoption stories like this one? Just visit our “Recent Adoptions & Matches” page. We add to this page every week, so keep visiting to see cute baby photos and stories!

If you’re ready to see how Lifetime’s Florida Adoption Agency could help build your family, please apply today! You can click here to take the first step towards becoming a Lifetime family.

Is Adoption the Right Choice for You?

Is adoption is the right choice for you after seeing a positive pregnancy test?Wondering if adoption is the right choice for you and for your baby? Maybe you’ve tried to parent for a few months and have been struggling big time. Or you could be dealing with a positive pregnancy test and are looking for another answer besides abortion.

We’re not here to judge, or to tell you that adoption is a simple decision to make. Today, we’re hoping to give you some info to help you decide if adoption is the right answer for you.

How Open Adoption Works:

  • You can pick your baby’s adoptive family based on your desires
  • You have the opportunity to receive no-cost counseling, from a licensed third-party therapist to help you work through your emotions during this whole process
  • You’re able to interview adoptive parents, meet them in person, and establish a relationship
  • It’s your right to create a birth plan and hospital plan that works for you
  • After the adoption, you can stay in touch with the adoptive family through letters, emails, photos, and visits if you wish
  • You can request financial assistance for pregnancy-related expenses

Peer Counseling from Birth Mothers

Lifetime has licensed counselors, experienced birth mothers, and adoption coordinators to help guide you through the process. Birth mothers who have made an adoption plan for their child through Lifetime are available for you to speak with. This can really help as you’re deciding whether adoption is the right choice for you because these birth mothers have been in your shoes! They’ll be real with you about what you might be feeling and going through because they’ve been there too.

Is Adoption the Right Choice for Me?

We're all about educating you so that you can make the best choice for you and your baby!Adoption isn’t the answer for everyone, but it may be the right choice for you. We’re all about educating you so that you can make the best choice for you and your baby. If you want to learn more about open adoption, check out these links:

“How do I know my baby is going into a good home?”

Is Adoption Right for You?…There’s an App for That!

How To Get The Counseling You Need During Your Adoption Planning

3 Common Fears About Choosing Adoption for Your Baby

This National Adoption Hotline Helps You Get Answers, Privately

How to Talk About Adoption With Your Baby’s Father

At our adoption agency in Florida, we’ll work with you throughout your entire adoption process and afterward too. Lifetime is here for you every step of the way. As you create an adoption plan for your baby, you can count on Adoption Agency Florida to:

  • Be available to you 24/7
  • Help you find the perfect adoptive family for your baby
  • Answer all your questions, to help in your decision making
  • Protect your privacy

We want you to know all the choices available to you. You’re in charge of your adoption plan and have the right to ask as many questions as you need to. We will guide you through the process. Our warm and caring staff is always available to speak with you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Reach out to Lifetime’s Adoption Agency anytime you’re ready. We’re happy to talk with you privately any time at 1-800-923-6784.

7 of the Most Frequently Asked Questions About Open Adoption

Lifetime couple Chaun and Bobby with their open adoption blessing

Lifetime couple Chaun and Bobby admire their adoption blessing

Open adoption is very common nowadays, with most birth parents and adoptive couples hoping for some form of openness. Many adoptive families living with an open adoption relationship get questions from people unfamiliar with the concept. They get asked questions such as, “how does open adoption work?”

Lifetime is providing you with answers to 7 of the most frequently-asked questions you might get about your relationship with your child’s birth parents!

1. “What is open adoption?”

In an open adoption, there’s some amount of interaction between the birth family and the adoptive family. They might communicate with each other through social media, emails, and photos. Other adoptive families have visits with their child’s birth mother once or twice a year. Typically in open adoption, there’s no go-between (like an agency, attorney, or social worker) and the families communicate directly. The amount of contact is something that the adoptive family and birth family mutually agree upon.

2. “Aren’t you worried that she’ll come back and get her child?”

Once the adoption is legally final, the adoptive parents are the child’s legal parents. Once the birth parents sign the paperwork consenting to the adoption and their revocation period is over, the adoption is permanent.

3. “Does your child know their birth parents?”

In today’s adoptions, adoptive parents talk about adoption with their child from the beginning. This is done so that the child doesn’t grow up wondering about their birth family and where they came from.

4. “Isn’t it heartbreaking for your child’s birth mother to see him with you?”

Although open adoption visits are definitely emotional, most birth mothers have told Lifetime that they make her feel positive about the decision she made. Emails, photos, visits, and other forms of contact let the birth mother see her child is growing up happy and loved. So rather than feeling regretful, she feels validated.

5. “How many years do you have to stay in touch with the birth parents?”

The answer depends on the open adoption arrangement made between the adoptive parents and the birth family. Lifetime has worked with birth mothers who need to have lots of contact for the first few years after placement, but not as much after that. Of course, the opposite can also be true; it just depends on the birth mother and her needs.

6. “Isn’t open adoption confusing for your child?”

Adoption experts have found that open adoption reduces the amount of confusion for adoptees. In an open adoption, a child knows his or her birth family and the circumstances of his or her birth. Plus, adoptees in open adoption know that they’re loved by two families: their birth family and their adoptive family. So really, the truth of their adoption isn’t confusing, it’s liberating.

7. “Do you wish you had a closed adoption?”

Adoption isn’t about the adoptive parents only; it’s about all involved. Everything in open adoption is done in the best interest of the child, making them the most important person. The reason why birth parents choose to place their baby is because of their child; to provide them the best life that they can. Although they can’t parent, they chose adoption out of love for their child.

At the end of the day, it’s the adopted child who sees the most benefits from an open adoption. Because of open adoption, they’ll never have to question or doubt that they’re loved by their birth family.

Discover how Lifetime Adoption Agency can help you realize your adoption dreams! There is no obligation in filling out our application.

It’s completely free to complete our online application! Click here to apply to adopt.

We Love Lifetime With All Our Hearts…Thank You!

Lifetime’s adoption agency in Florida loves it when we get to share updates from our adoptive couples who have been blessed by infant adoption! Today, we’re sharing a sweet one from Luke and Lindsay, a young adoptive couple living in Illinois. They adopted their son, Lincoln, through Lifetime last year. Last May they emailed us, “We truly can’t believe he’s here…it still feels like a dream! So thankful to you all at Lifetime and to God for this journey!”

Here’s a recent email Luke and Lindsay, another adoptive couple who’s expanded their family with the help of our Florida adoption agency!

Luke and Lindsay rave about Lifetime

Hello! It’s hard to believe Lincoln is already a year old. I wanted to send an email thanking you all again for all the support, love, encouragement and clarity in the chaos happening this time last year!

Lincoln and his proud big sister HannahThe year has just flown by…we still can’t believe how much this little boy has overcome and accomplished. He is into everything, loves to belly laugh, and is best friends with Hannah. The first thing they do when waking up is to find each other and share hugs in the morning. She refers to him as her “little buddy Win-con.”

We never imagined how beautiful our story would unfold. We tried so many years to have children…never in a million years did we see being blessed with two amazing babies in 3 years. God is so good!

We also exchange such sweet text messages with Lincoln’s birth mom. We text around holidays and send her photos every other month or two. Its been such a sweet connection, being able to share his accomplishments and adorable smiles.

We love Lifetime with all our hearts…thank you again!

Forever grateful,
Luke and Lindsay

Want to read more touching adoption stories like this one? Just visit our “Recent Adoptions & Matches” page. We add to this page every week, so keep visiting to see cute baby photos and stories!

If you’re ready to see how Lifetime’s Florida Adoption Agency could help build your family, please apply today! You can click here to take the first step towards becoming a Lifetime family.

Check Out This Review of Our Adoption Agency in Florida!

Lifetime’s adoption agency in Florida loves to share reviews from our adoptive couples! Today, we’re sharing a sweet comment from Brandon and Terra, a Wisconsin couple who are still in their adoption wait. Just last month, we wrote about their short and sweet adoption video, which they created to share how excited they are to adopt a baby.

Terra recently emailed her Adoption Coordinator, Natalie:

“Hi! We wanted to write and say how thankful we are for Lifetime. We were on a flight yesterday speaking to a couple that recently adopted and it was not a pleasant experience. That truly hurt my heart as this should be a happy time. The agency they used did not provide half of what we get with Lifetime, especially the webinars.

When we were talking about our experience thus far, the couple was blown away by the above and beyond service you all provide your families. I felt it was only fair to share. We are thankful every day that God brought us to you all!”

If you’re ready to see how Lifetime’s Florida Adoption Agency could help build your family, please apply today! You can click here to take the first step towards becoming a Lifetime family.

Another Forever Family, Made Possible By This Florida Adoption Agency!

Lifetime’s adoption agency in Florida loves it when we get to share updates from our adoptive couples who have been blessed by infant adoption! Today, we’re sharing a sweet one from Clayton and Sarah, a young adoptive couple living in Indiana. Last Fall, they shared with us how ready and excited they were to adopt a baby of any race. Here’s a heartwarming email Clayton and Sarah, another adoptive couple who built their family with the help of our Florida adoption agency!

Clayton and Sarah adopted through our Florida adoption agency!

“Just wanted to check in to let you know that yesterday WE FINALIZED!!! Such a huge and special day for our family! Both sets of grandparents traveled to be with us and to *officially* welcome Aubrey into our family forever (even though in our hearts it was already done!).

Aubrey is now a week away from three months old and is doing great! She loves being held and worn in a wrap (best invention for adoptive mamas in my opinion!). She recently started to recognize my and Clayton’s faces and began smiling when we talk to her or make funny faces which is the cutest thing on earth.

We love her so much and are so thankful for the entire staff at Lifetime! So grateful for the education we received from you all about open adoption. We frequently text with Aubrey’s birthmom and have an added level of peace knowing she is doing well and is still glad that she chose adoption.

We had a great experience working with you and will definitely refer all future couples we know who are thinking about adoption to Lifetime!”

Want to read more touching adoption stories like this one? Just visit our “Recent Adoptions & Matches” page. We add to this page every week, so keep visiting to see cute baby photos and stories!

If you’re ready to see how Lifetime’s Florida Adoption Agency could help build your family, please apply today! You can click here to take the first step towards becoming a Lifetime family.

Is It Positive Adoption Language to Call Her a “Birth Mother”?

is it positive adoption language to call her a birth mother?We wanted to share a question that our Florida adoption agency received recently about positive adoption language:

“I’ve noticed a few people saying online that the term ‘birth mother’ shouldn’t be used until after a woman places her child for adoption. So, I’m wondering if we should stop using the term ‘birth mother’? Is that negative adoption language?”

Let’s start with an easy definition…”birth mother” simply means a biological mother. So actually, a birth mother is any woman who gives birth.

In adoption language, we use the term ‘birth mother’ for a woman who’s considering adoption, or who is deciding to place her child. To identify the individuals involved in adoption, it makes things more accurate and simple to refer to adoptive parents (those adopting the child) and birth mothers (who will or have given birth). You’ll see that the legal paperwork required for adoption will use this adoption language to designate those involved in one child’s adoption.

Many adoption agencies and other adoption professionals prefer to use the term “birth mother.” It’s warmer than “biological mother,” which has a bit of a clinical ring to it.

We’ve seen terms like “expectant parent” or “expectant mother” used, but these aren’t always correct, since not every woman choosing adoption is pregnant. A mother can make an adoption plan weeks, months or years after her child is born; it’s never too late for adoption. Since many refer to adoptive parents as ‘expectantly’ waiting, using a term like “expectant parent” gets confusing. It starts to get very complicated, especially for people new to adoption and unfamiliar with positive adoption language.

Here at Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida, we don’t assume a woman is going to place her child when she’s in contact with us. We educate and provide support to every woman who calls us, regardless of whether she’s sure about adoption. In Lifetime’s social media accounts and informational materials, we use the term “birth mother” to protect her privacy. Of course, when we communicate with her one-on-one, she’s referred to by her name. Each woman who contacts Lifetime is listened to. We’re here provide her with help on her own terms, and as it applies to her unique situation.

It’s so important to be sensitive to a woman’s feelings when she’s deciding about her unplanned pregnancy and her baby’s future. Women typically see the term “birth mother” as positive adoption language when they were given the choice to lovingly and willingly choose adoption for her child. Using the term “birth mother” reminds us that she has an important role in creating her child’s custom adoption plan. Our hearts break for women who felt coerced into adoption, which was, unfortunately, the norm decades ago.

In open adoption, a woman who creates a plan for her baby or child can create and develop an on-going connection with her child and the adoptive parents. Whatever questions and thoughts she has are recognized, before, during, and after the adoption takes place. Even if she decides that adoption isn’t right for her, she’ll be able to help another woman who does choose adoption. So as you can see, the term “birth mother” is actually positive adoption language.

What NOT To Do at the Hospital

Many adoptive families nowadays are blessed to get invited by the birth parents to be present for the birth of their baby. We want to share some general guidelines with you today about the adoption hospital experience!

At the hospital, there’s such a difference between adoptive parents that mean well and those who act entitled. Join Lifetime as we share four things that adoptive couples should avoid doing at the hospital.

1. Don’t Invite People

While this is a joyous occasion for you, consider the birth parents. Unless they request the company of your friends and family, avoid the urge to invite them to the hospital.

We want to advise you to not to treat her hospital experience as your own, by celebrating with friends and family.

A birth mother kisses her baby2. Don’t Take Charge
The birth mother should always be the one taking the lead. Remember that right now, you don’t have any legal rights to her child. Show your birth mother the respect she deserves by honoring this fact and understanding boundaries. Don’t make any decisions for the baby until the adoption paperwork has been signed. That means that if hospital personnel asks you a question about the baby, you’ll need to remind them to ask the birth mother. She needs to be the one making the decisions for now.

Lifetime has heard from many birth mothers who cherish the time they’re able to spend with their baby after delivery. So, make sure to let her enjoy this time.

Remember, let the birth mother take the lead and always ask for her permission. It’s important that you allow her however much time she needs to have with her baby.

3. Don’t Stay for Hours on End
Make sure to give the birth mother regular breaks from visiting with you and give her the space she needs. It’s sometimes easy for adoptive couples to be so excited about becoming parents, that they miss her social cues saying she needs some space. Your birth mother definitely needs to rest after giving birth, and she might also need some time alone with her baby.

Follow her lead, and provide for her wants and needs as you can. Avoid trying to take over, and don’t ask her for favors. For example, we’ve heard of adoptive couples asking to have the baby room with them, or for them to sleep over in the birth mother’s room. Don’t be that couple! Your birth mother already has so much on her plate, and she deserves to be in charge.

4. Don’t Pressure Her
Many birth mothers already feel pressured to follow through with adoption, so don’t do or say anything that to add to that. An example is gifts. Even though adoptive couples mean well, giving a gift right now just adds to the pressure she already feels. Your birth mother’s aware you’ve traveled a long way to get to the hospital. She knows the emotional ties you’ve made to her baby.

Our advice is to make sure to communicate with her. Are you unsure of what to say or do? Let her know! Tell her that you’re not there to pressure her. Let her know you’ll still love and respect her should she decide to parent.

Remember, for years to come you’ll be telling your son or daughter their birth story. So what’s important now is that you act in a way that will make your child proud of the role you played.

5 Tips on How to Survive Work During Your Third Trimester

get our tips on how to survive work during your third trimesterDuring the final weeks of your pregnancy, you probably get tired so easily that it feels like a major accomplishment to do much of anything (for example, tying your shoes!)

It might seem like every day during your third trimester brings a new, unpleasant side effect. But, you still need to arrive at your job and work like everyone else.

Today, we’re sharing 5 quick tips on how you can survive work when you are very, very pregnant:

1. Pack snacks!
Make sure to have plenty of healthy snacks handy at work. Snacking not only satisfies your hunger, but it’ll give you a much-needed energy boost. Plus, snacks provide both you and your growing baby with the nutrients and extra calories you need.

2. Dress comfortably
We suggest loose, stretchy clothing and flat shoes. You can put together a work outfit and still be comfy. For example, try a maxi dress or maxi skirt. Or dress up an outfit with a scarf, necklace, or bracelets. And there’s always the pregnant lady’s favorite: leggings! You can wear a long tunic shirt or dress with your leggings to make them more work-appropriate.

3. Speak up
Ask your co-workers and boss about making adjustments or changes during your third trimester. For example, you could request to take breaks more often, or for work that doesn’t require lots of standing.

You can also ask for adjustments to your work area. If you work at a desk, try putting a box under your feet to prop them up. Also, ask for a small ergonomic pillow to put behind your back. If you stand at your job, try to take breaks and rest often.

4. Know where the bathroom is!
When you’re pregnant, it’s important to drink plenty of water. Getting plenty of water helps prevent swelling, UTIs, fatigue, constipation, headaches, and overheating. Obviously, the more water you drink, the more you’ll have to pee. So, find where the closest bathroom is, plus a backup bathroom in case that one’s in use.

5. Schedule adjustments and days off

If you can, try to give yourself a day off now and then. You can use it to relax and nap. If your job is super-stressful, sometimes a normal two-day weekend doesn’t give you enough time to wind down.

Some pregnant women find that the typical five-day work week leaves them stressed out and overwhelmed. If you feel like this is happening to you, talk to your supervisor about changing up your schedule a little. Maybe you can work part-time a few days of the week.

Women who have worked with Lifetime on an adoption plan for their child have shared with us they were glad to stay active and busy every day during their last trimester. As one birth mom puts it, “I think that if I didn’t work, I’d have just sat around at home feeling mixed-up about my situation. What helped was knowing that I was making the most of this time and giving my baby the best possible life I could.”

Touching Video from a Birth Mom to Her Baby Has Gone Viral!

Birth mother Hannah holds her newborn sonIn a heartfelt video that’s now viral, a birth mother tells her newborn born son that she’ll always love him.

Both People Magazine and The Today Show have featured this story, all about a loving birth mother with a loving message for her baby. “I thought I would make this video for you instead of writing a letter because it’s real and it’s in the moment,” birth mother Hannah says tearily in the video.

Hannah’s video is a lovely reminder of your birth mother’s love for her child. This love may also include you, the parents she chose for her baby. “His adoptive mom Emily is honestly everything I want to be as a person and a mother. I am so grateful that [my son] led me to her and their family. They are a blessing…” Hannah shares.

Your child will really appreciate having a video like this! Many adopted children grow up wondering about their birth family, and why they chose adoption. By taping a video like this, your child is provided with answers to many of their questions. As Hannah words it, “He will never have to think that I ‘gave him up’ or that I did not love him. He will always be able to know that I loved him more than anyone else in this world!”

Here’s birth mom Hannah’s full video:

“I made this video so that you know how much I love you,” Hannah says in the clip. “I made this decision completely out of love, and if I didn’t love you I wouldn’t of been in this position at all, and you wouldn’t have this awesome adoptive family. I fell in love with them, and they were beyond anything I could have asked for, and I have really really high standards for anyone who is going to raise my child.”

At the hospital, Hannah allowed the adoptive parents she chose to be present for some of her labor. After delivery, Hannah asked to have some time alone with her son. We were reminded of the saying in adoption: “you can’t say goodbye until you say hello.” Remember, if your birth mother requests time alone with her baby, it doesn’t mean she’s having second thoughts. It means that she loves her baby very much, and wants the best for him or her.

Today, Hannah has an open adoption with the adoptive couple she chose, Brad and Emily. They’ve shared that it’s important for them that all three of their sons have open adoptions. “Having our boys’ birth mothers so involved in their lives means they will never have to wonder if their birth moms loved them, they will never have to feel abandoned,” says adoptive mother, Emily. “They are all wonderful mothers and will always be our boys’ first mothers.