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Get the Inside Scoop on Modern Adoption

What is modern adoption?Modern adoption has changed so much from how adoptions used to go. In a modern adoption, you have the power to choose your baby’s adoptive parents, how much you’d like to stay in contact in the future, and how things go down in the hospital. “Modern adoption” is also called “open adoption.”
 
We’re showing you the inside scoop on what modern adoption looks like nowadays! Here are what women who made a modern adoption plan have to say about it!
 
For privacy, we’ve removed everyone’s names.
 
“I’m so grateful that with open adoption, I’m able to know how my baby is doing and see updates on her.”
 
“My son knows that I’m his birth mother (he calls me his “tummy mommy”). We visit once a year, and his adoptive parents share photos and videos of him on Instagram all the time so I can see him grow up! Once he gets older and starts asking about his birth mom and why I placed him, his parents will have that info to share with him.”
 
“Choosing modern adoption for my three-year-old daughter sure wasn’t easy. I did it because knew I couldn’t give her the life I wanted to. It helped that I could hand-pick her adoptive parents, and stay in touch. I wanted her to be with an active and outgoing couple who could keep up with her! Being able to put her through college was a must for me. Even though this was such a hard decision, I feel peace knowing she’s with the perfect couple, that I was able to pick out for her!”
 
“I took a long time picking out the adoptive parents for my baby boy. This was such a big decision, so I needed to be picky about it! At eight and a half months pregnant, I chose a couple who followed the same religion as me and had strong Christian values. It’s important to me that my son’s brought up with morals and values, so I was so relieved to find them!”
 
 

Would you like to talk with someone who’s made a modern adoption plan? To get connected with one of Lifetime’s peer counselors, just text or call us at 1-800-923-6784.
 
Our peer counselors have been where you’re at now, and are here for you!

Adoption Webinar on the Pressure to be the Perfect Adoptive Parent

Adoption webinar on the pressure to be the perfect adoptive parentJoin us next week for a special adoption webinar with our Founder Mardie Caldwell. She’ll discuss adoptive parenting in a LIVE webinar next Monday night!

Everyone is invited to this free webinar, no matter what stage you’re at in your adoption journey. You’ll find this webinar valuable if you’re just starting to think about adoption, are waiting to adopt, or are a new parent through adoption! We’ll start 7:00 pm Eastern time on Monday, July 10th.

After couples bring home their baby through adoption, brand-new adoptive parents face a variety of emotions as they adapt to life with a baby or new child. On top of this is a new relationship with their child’s birth mother. Many adoptive parents share that they feel relieved during this time, but others feel a sort of let-down.

For many adoptive moms, they feel intense pressure to be the perfect parent who knows all and has everything in her control. In Monday’s webinar, we’ll get an insider’s look “beyond the blessing” from author and adoptive mom Mardie Caldwell. Mardie is going to share secrets and stories from her first days as a new adoptive mom.

In this webinar, Mardie will speak about:

  • Post-adoption depression
  • Keeping the promises made to your child’s birth mother
  • Bonding with your new child during this emotional time
  • and more!

SIGN UP USING THIS LINK! We suggest you set a reminder for yourself so you don’t miss this important event.

We’ll start the webinar at 7:00 pm Eastern time (that’s 6:00 Central time, 5:00 Mountain time, and 4:00 pm Pacific time). Meet up with us for time well spent learning all you can on what you may experience as a new adoptive parent!

Sign up using this link or by visiting AdoptionWebinar.com. Once you register, you’ll be emailed instructions on how to tune into the live broadcast.

We hope you can make it! If you have questions about how to join this webinar, just call Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784.

Choosing an Adoptive Family for Your Baby

Did you know that you have lots of rights in modern adoption, like choosing an adoptive family for your baby?No matter how you got to our site, whether you Googled “how do I give up a baby” or “I want to put my baby up for adoption,” you’re definitely in the right place!

Lifetime is here to help by giving you resources on modern adoption plans. Adoption isn’t like it was decades ago when a pregnant woman was placed in a maternity home, then forced to place her baby.

Modern adoption is all about putting the power and choices in your hands. You have rights: in choosing an adoptive family for your baby, deciding how much you want to stay in contact with them in the future, and also how things will go down at the hospital when you deliver.

Since 1986, we’ve helped thousands of women find loving adoptive parents for their child. So, you can trust that Lifetime knows what we’re doing!

You can check out available adoptive families by viewing our Waiting Adoptive Families page. If you see an adoptive couple you’re interested in talking to, Lifetime can make that happen!

Just call us (anytime, day or night) at 1-800-923-6784. Let Lifetime connect you with our carefully-approved adoptive parents.

Maybe you’ve already had your baby, or you’ve been parenting, but it’s not working out. It’s never too late to make a modern adoption plan. Just call or text Lifetime anytime day or night, at 1-800-923-6784. We’ll get you adoption help and resources right away!

Adoption as a Solution to Unplanned Pregnancy

Adoption can be a great solution to an unplanned pregnancy...If you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and don’t feel prepared to raise a child, adoption is a realistic alternative. Adoptions today are done very differently than in years past.
 
Today, in what’s called an “open adoption,” you’re empowered and respected. You have the right to choose the parents you want for your child. Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida will send you profiles made by the hopeful adoptive parents. In the profile, they share about their lives, careers, where they live, and other facts. We encourage you to interview your top three picks over the phone, and in person if possible.
 
You’ll get to know the adoptive family better throughout your pregnancy. The amount of contact you’d like to have after the adoption happens is talked about and agreed on. Some birth mothers like to stay in touch with the adoptive family and their child through email and social media sites like Facebook. Others choose to have in-person visits once a year. It’s all up to you!
 
When they first hear about adoption, some women say, “I could never give my baby up for adoption.” But open adoption today really isn’t about a decision to “give my baby away.” It’s about making a mature decision if you realize that you wouldn’t be able to give your child everything you want to.
 
Maybe now isn’t the right time to parent. That’s a hard realization to come to, and so we encourage you to take advantage of the counseling we make available. You can talk to a licensed third-party therapist, and you can talk to a birth mother: someone who’s been where you are now and ended up choosing adoption for her child.
 

If you’d like info on how to get started with open adoption, you can call or text our 24-hour adoption answer line at 1-800-923-6784.

Surviving the Adoption Home Study

adoption home study visitWe recommend that you use your adoption home study as a way to learn even more about adoption. You’ll need to get a home study no matter where you live, or where you plan to adopt. An adoption home study is a document that shares the story of your life: your health, your family and marital history, and your finances. It also contains a description of your house and neighborhood, references, and info about any criminal record or health concerns.

For many hopeful adoptive couples, the idea of opening up their homes and lives to a stranger puts them on edge. A common worry about the home study is that it’ll find you ineligible to adopt. The truth is, it’s uncommon for a home study to end with a negative judgment. Even though you might feel that the process is invasive, remember its goal is to ensure children are placed into loving homes.

So what exactly is an adoption home study? It’s social worker’s written evaluation, based upon interviews they’ve had with you during at least one in-person visit to your home. Your home doesn’t have to be child-proofed, contain a finished nursery, or a separate bedroom for the baby before the social worker’s visit. They will want to know, however, how you plan to accommodate your precious arrival.

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida provides home studies. Learn how we can help you with this aspect of your domestic adoption!

Just give us a call at 1-800-9-ADOPT-4 or learn more about our home study service here.

In the video below, our Founder and President Mardie Caldwell shares about the adoption home study service we provide to adopting families:

“My Baby’s Adoptive Parents Are a Gift from God!”

Here’s a touching email that one of our birth mothers recently emailed to the adoptive family she chose for her baby:

“Dear Chris and Jessica,

It wasn’t that long ago that we were strangers…strangers who needed each other. I needed for you to open your hearts and home to my baby. You needed me to give you the baby that you’d so longed for. I think that at the time of conception, God was developing a plan to unite us, even though there were thousands of miles between us.

From the moment we talked on the phone, I felt a sense of comfort and relief. I was relieved that God had sent me angels to care for and love my baby. Even though I was relieved, I was also doubtful that total strangers could love my baby as their own. It wasn’t until I saw you two at the hospital caring for and holding and caring my baby that I realized how amazing adoption is. All of my doubts quickly went away.

Chris, you gently picked up my baby girl and wrapped your arms around her, as if pledging to protect her. The look in your eyes said “love.” You were so concerned when her last diaper change or feeding was. It became clear to me that she’d won your heart and was in good hands.

Jessica, I really feel that you’re a gift from God. The love and nurturing that you gave my daughter was so real and strong that everyone around us could feel it. I feel honored to have been able to help you become a mother.

I love you two! I can’t describe how much it means to me that you adopted my baby. May God bless you, because you’ve definitely blessed me. Thank you!”

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is here for you as you consider adoption for your baby or child. Let us know if you have questions. Just call or text 1-800-923-6784.

“My Baby’s Adoptive Mom is So Awesome!”

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida gives ongoing pregnancy and adoption support to birth mothers from all over, including birth mothers right here in Florida, like Terri. She emailed her Adoption Support Coordinator Tiffany, “Good evening luv. I thought I’d share this with you. The adoptive mother, Cassie made a special Facebook group for Sidney. My baby’s adoptive mom is so awesome!”

my baby’s adoptive mom

Terri posted: “Cassie, Matt, and Tiffany. Three of the most amazing people I have ever had the pleasure of saying that I know. And all three now have a very special place in my heart forever more !! I could not feel more blessed to have found all three !! Everyone should be so lucky !!!”

It goes to show how much you really do have a say in your child’s future with open adoption! You can pick the adoptive parents for your baby from a big selection of couples all over the U.S. You have the power to say how things go in the hospital during delivery, such as who’s allowed in your room afterward. And, you’re able to keep in touch with them through emails, phone calls, Facebook, Skype, or visits. Another way to keep in touch with your child’s adoptive parents is on a private Facebook group, like Terri is doing.

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is here for you as you consider adoption for your baby or child. Let us know if you have questions. Just call or text 1-800-923-6784.

Open Adoption from an Adoptee’s Perspective

adoptee shares her storyToday, Adoption Agency Florida has a guest post from an adoptee who shares her open adoption story:

“My birth mom made one of the hardest choices a parent can make—she put me up for adoption. I was adopted into a loving and wonderful family in California just a few days after I was born. I’m so grateful that my mom chose life!

I’ve never felt like I was missing anything from my life. My adoptive parents were very open with me from a young age about adoption. And, I’ve had visits with my birth mother since I was a year old. So, I’ve always known I was adopted, but it didn’t bother me. It’s just a part of my life. Other people have been curious about my adoption, though, and have asked awkward questions like ‘where’s your REAL mom?’

Domestic adoption is one of the most popular types of adoption today. But, there are still tons of negative stereotypes about birth mothers. The most damaging ones are of birth mothers heartlessly “giving up” their baby or child. The truth is, most of them, like my birth mom, made the most selfless and loving choice that they could make. Birth mothers make a huge sacrifice for the benefit of their child. She is able to give life to her baby, and also to a couple who are filled with love and hope for a child.

Being an adopted child, I’ll be forever grateful for both my birth mom and the parents who adopted me. Thousands of adoptees are out there, thankful that we got the chance to live because two families made a remarkable decision. I am one of the blessed ones. I hope to keep sharing my adoption story so that others can also get this opportunity.”

Are you thinking about adoption for your baby or child? You can learn the steps needed to get started with an adoption plan by calling or texting us at 1-800-923-6784.

How You Speak About Your Child’s Birth Mother Matters

learn how to speak to yoru child about your child's birth motherIt’s normal for adopted children to ask about their birth families. They may wonder things like ‘do they look like me?,’ ‘Why did they choose adoption?’ and ‘What do I have in common with them?’ What’s important is to be honest, open, and positive when you talk with your child about your child’s birth mother. After all, their birth parents are a major part of his or her adoption story.

Since it’s a delicate subject, many adoptive parents wonder how they should start the birth parent conversation with their child. Here are some tips about talking with your child about his or her birth parents:

1. Start Telling Their Adoption Story Early On
Begin talking with your child about their adoption from day one. That way, it’s not a shock to your child that they were adopted. Your child will know their adoption is special if you speak about it early and often. For very young children, you might share photos of their birth parents and explain that they helped create your family.

2. Keep in Touch
Many (if not most) birth mothers want an open adoption maintained. So, it’s important that you follow through on the amount of contact you agree to. Preserving a relationship with your child’s birth mother is benefiting all involved, particularly your child.

3. Plan Ahead
As your child matures, they’ll ask different questions and want to know more details about their birth parents. Speak with your spouse and come up with a plan of how you’ll address questions and when you want to share certain details. Ask your child’s birth mother for more info—it may help you answer some of these questions that’ll come up down the road. It’s ideal if she could write a letter to your child, describing her choice of adoption.

4. Celebrate Adoption
Consider having a yearly party for your child’s adoption day, and invite your child’s birth parents. Talk with your child about their birth story and birth family. Other adoption-related holidays that you can recognize include National Adoption Month, Birth Mother’s Day, and National Adoption Day.

5. Be Truthful

You don’t need to tell your child all of the information about their birth family all at once. Keep in mind that you should never fabricate stories about your child’s birth parents. If your child asks you a question that you don’t have the answer to, just tell them so. Saying “we don’t know” is better than telling them what you think they want to hear or making up a story.

6. Be Positive
Avoid speaking badly about your child’s birth mother, especially to others. It’s important to respect her privacy, while at the same time being understanding with her mistakes and lifestyle differences. Remember that it was your child’s birth parents who brought them into this world and made it possible for you to be parents. Make sure that your child knows that he or she is loved by the birth parents who chose to give them life. The birth mother will always love their child, even as they struggle to maintain stability or healthy choices. Remember, it’s out of loss and difficulties that you were blessed to adopt that child and to build your family!

Talking with your child about their birth parents doesn’t lessen your role as parents or change the relationship you have with your child. Just the opposite: it’ll bring your family closer, increase trust, and make your child proud of his or her origins.

“Adopting Out My Baby Was My Choice”

Discover why adopting out my baby was the right choice for me“Many people didn’t understand how I could think about placing my baby up for adoption. They said ‘I could not imagine thinking of adopting out my baby!!’ But beyond my wants, I knew that my baby boy deserved a stable, loving mother and father.

At first, no one understood why I would choose adoption. My mom said she’d help me parent and I could live at home. But I didn’t want that life for my baby. In the end, family and friends praised me for my decision because they realized it was made out of pure love for my child.

I thank God each day that I don’t have to visit the memory of an aborted baby, the grave of an innocent child. Yes, I grieve the loss of my child and it’s hard sometimes, but the joy far exceeds the sorrow. I rejoice in all he has gained through adoption! I can live with my decision…and so can my son! I have no regrets about choosing adoption.

Nowadays, I keep in touch with the adoptive family who adopted my son. They have a special Facebook profile set up just so that I can see photos, updates, and videos of my son as he grows up. And, we talk or text about every other month. My favorite month now is April: that’s when his birthday is, and when we visit in-person.”

Are you curious about adoption for your baby? Call or text with one of the caring Adoption Coordinators at Adoption Agency Florida at 1-800-923-6784.

We’re here to help and won’t judge you. Getting in touch with us doesn’t mean you have to do adoption; it just means that you’re asking for more info about it.