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Archive for Adoption for my child

Get the Inside Scoop on Modern Adoption

What is modern adoption?Modern adoption has changed so much from how adoptions used to go. In a modern adoption, you have the power to choose your baby’s adoptive parents, how much you’d like to stay in contact in the future, and how things go down in the hospital. “Modern adoption” is also called “open adoption.”
 
We’re showing you the inside scoop on what modern adoption looks like nowadays! Here are what women who made a modern adoption plan have to say about it!
 
For privacy, we’ve removed everyone’s names.
 
“I’m so grateful that with open adoption, I’m able to know how my baby is doing and see updates on her.”
 
“My son knows that I’m his birth mother (he calls me his “tummy mommy”). We visit once a year, and his adoptive parents share photos and videos of him on Instagram all the time so I can see him grow up! Once he gets older and starts asking about his birth mom and why I placed him, his parents will have that info to share with him.”
 
“Choosing modern adoption for my three-year-old daughter sure wasn’t easy. I did it because knew I couldn’t give her the life I wanted to. It helped that I could hand-pick her adoptive parents, and stay in touch. I wanted her to be with an active and outgoing couple who could keep up with her! Being able to put her through college was a must for me. Even though this was such a hard decision, I feel peace knowing she’s with the perfect couple, that I was able to pick out for her!”
 
“I took a long time picking out the adoptive parents for my baby boy. This was such a big decision, so I needed to be picky about it! At eight and a half months pregnant, I chose a couple who followed the same religion as me and had strong Christian values. It’s important to me that my son’s brought up with morals and values, so I was so relieved to find them!”
 
 

Would you like to talk with someone who’s made a modern adoption plan? To get connected with one of Lifetime’s peer counselors, just text or call us at 1-800-923-6784.
 
Our peer counselors have been where you’re at now, and are here for you!

Pregnant and Thinking About Adoption? What to Expect

Thinking about adoption? Learn what to expect with LifetimeAre you thinking about adoption because you have no idea how you’ll be able to raise your unborn baby? Do you want to know what your choices are with modern adoption?

Lifetime’s compassionate Adoption Coordinators are committed to helping you make the best possible decision for yourself and your baby. That may mean choosing adoption, and it might not. By getting more info from us, it doesn’t mean you’re required to make an adoption plan for your child.

If you’re pregnant and thinking about adoption, here’s what you can expect with Lifetime:

  • Free adoption services and financial help throughout your pregnancy
  • No pressure; you are not obligated to choose adoption and can stop the adoption process at any time
  • Totally confidential support; the info you tell us won’t be shared with anyone
  • The opportunity to get peer counseling as you decide on adoption. Our peer counselors are women who have been in your shoes and chose adoption for their child
  • Total control of your adoption process; this includes picking the adoptive parents for your baby and the type of relationship you want to have with them during and after the adoption
  • However much time and help you need to decide if placing your child for adoption is right for you
  • 24/7 access to our toll-free hotline staffed with caring adoption workers, so you can get the support you need when you need it

If you’d like more information about how to choose adoption with Lifetime, or if you need help exploring options with open, modern adoption, you can contact us confidentially.

Just give Lifetime a call at 1-800-923-6784 or message us.

Choosing an Adoptive Family for Your Baby

Did you know that you have lots of rights in modern adoption, like choosing an adoptive family for your baby?No matter how you got to our site, whether you Googled “how do I give up a baby” or “I want to put my baby up for adoption,” you’re definitely in the right place!

Lifetime is here to help by giving you resources on modern adoption plans. Adoption isn’t like it was decades ago when a pregnant woman was placed in a maternity home, then forced to place her baby.

Modern adoption is all about putting the power and choices in your hands. You have rights: in choosing an adoptive family for your baby, deciding how much you want to stay in contact with them in the future, and also how things will go down at the hospital when you deliver.

Since 1986, we’ve helped thousands of women find loving adoptive parents for their child. So, you can trust that Lifetime knows what we’re doing!

You can check out available adoptive families by viewing our Waiting Adoptive Families page. If you see an adoptive couple you’re interested in talking to, Lifetime can make that happen!

Just call us (anytime, day or night) at 1-800-923-6784. Let Lifetime connect you with our carefully-approved adoptive parents.

Maybe you’ve already had your baby, or you’ve been parenting, but it’s not working out. It’s never too late to make a modern adoption plan. Just call or text Lifetime anytime day or night, at 1-800-923-6784. We’ll get you adoption help and resources right away!

Adoption as a Solution to Unplanned Pregnancy

Adoption can be a great solution to an unplanned pregnancy...If you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and don’t feel prepared to raise a child, adoption is a realistic alternative. Adoptions today are done very differently than in years past.
 
Today, in what’s called an “open adoption,” you’re empowered and respected. You have the right to choose the parents you want for your child. Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida will send you profiles made by the hopeful adoptive parents. In the profile, they share about their lives, careers, where they live, and other facts. We encourage you to interview your top three picks over the phone, and in person if possible.
 
You’ll get to know the adoptive family better throughout your pregnancy. The amount of contact you’d like to have after the adoption happens is talked about and agreed on. Some birth mothers like to stay in touch with the adoptive family and their child through email and social media sites like Facebook. Others choose to have in-person visits once a year. It’s all up to you!
 
When they first hear about adoption, some women say, “I could never give my baby up for adoption.” But open adoption today really isn’t about a decision to “give my baby away.” It’s about making a mature decision if you realize that you wouldn’t be able to give your child everything you want to.
 
Maybe now isn’t the right time to parent. That’s a hard realization to come to, and so we encourage you to take advantage of the counseling we make available. You can talk to a licensed third-party therapist, and you can talk to a birth mother: someone who’s been where you are now and ended up choosing adoption for her child.
 

If you’d like info on how to get started with open adoption, you can call or text our 24-hour adoption answer line at 1-800-923-6784.

Why Is It Important to Write a Letter to Your Child?

In choosing to make an adoption plan for your child, you’ve definitely given them a lifelong gift. Writing your child a letter, where you share your feelings of love and hope, will become a beautiful and cherished gift only you can provide. Today, we’re going to share with you how you can write this letter.
 
Many birth parents say, “I feel like my child is going to hate me for placing them up for adoption!” So that you can release your child into the adoptive parent’s home with trust, faith, and love, think about writing a special letter directly to your child. It can help you at this time of difficult emotions and show your true loving feelings for her child.
 
Begin your letter by telling your child what your hopes are for their lives. This may be one of the main reasons you chose adoption. Write about how picky you were in choosing the adoptive family. This letter is a good place to explain to them that you didn’t make an adoption plan because you didn’t care about them. In fact, it’s just the opposite: you did adoption because you care so much that you wanted to give them more than you were able to.
 
Make sure to get copies of this letter for your memory books or box. Rereading these loving words you’ve written down can help you when you feel grief and heartache.
 
You can ask the adoptive parents to give this letter to your child at a specific time. Or, maybe you’d rather they pick a time they feel is best. Your letter will be a treasure for your child for many years to come: it’s your hope and love fully expressed.
 
Some birth mothers feel like they can’t write a letter like this. It’s hard to put words to what you feel in your heart. We encourage you to avoid letting your words and feelings to be unwritten. The stories and pictures the adoptive parents provide your child will pale in comparison to the genuine words you share, telling about your adoption decision.
 
Writing a letter that shares your hope is a beautiful way to leave a legacy for your child!

Free E-book About Adoption

Click to request this free e-book about adoption The short book So I Was Thinking About Adoption gives you quick info as you consider whether adoption is the right choice for you and your child. You can download the e-book version for free! This e-book about adoption is packed with checklists, help, and advice as you consider each of your pregnancy choices. You just need to enter your email address!

So I Was Thinking About Adoption is:

* A handy pocket guide on how the adoption process works
* Full of useful and easy-to-understand info
* A good place to look for tips on how to tell your parents, friends, and the baby’s father that you’re pregnant and considering adoption
* Packed with resources you need if dealing with an unplanned pregnancy

Click here to request your free copy today! It will be emailed right to you. You can save it to look at later when you’re ready, or you can read it right now. You can read this e-book on your computer, tablet, or smartphone.

We understand you may have questions that might need answering now. We’re here to help with free caring, confidential 24/7 support.

Call us anytime at 1-800-923-6784.

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Adoption, in a Birth Mom’s Words

hear about adoption in a birth mom's wordsWhen you’re not sure if adoption is right for you, what can help is hearing from someone who’s been where you are. Someone who’s been in your shoes, “been there, done that,” you know? Today, we’re going to share about adoption with you, from a birth mom’s point-of-view, in a birth mom’s words.
 
Here are some comments and emails from Lifetime birth mothers, sharing their stories of making an adoption plan for their baby, and their hopes for the future…all names and identifying info have been removed for privacy.
 
“It makes me so happy to see the adoptive mom I picked with my son. She’s such a good mom. I’d never ever change my decision to do adoption. He’s thriving and very smart. Sometimes I think about the ways I could have made it work, but in my heart I know I did the best thing I could for him. He’s got the world at his fingertips, and I’d never have been able to give him that. If not for Lifetime and his adoptive family, I think I’d have been a hot mess.”
 
“This is definitely the most difficult thing that I’ve ever done. But, my daughter will be surrounded by so much love and affection by her adoptive family. I’m so blessed to have peace of mind that she’ll be well provided for and taken care of. Working with lifetime has been nothing short of amazing…thank you again for everything!”
 
“Choosing adoption for my son is totally the best decision I’ve ever made. I gave up so much for that little guy: my senior year, my boyfriend, my body…I could go on. But I’ll never regret choosing to endure the 9 months it took to give my baby to a loving couple who can’t have children on their own. Knowing that I gave life to a couple who couldn’t make it themselves makes me thrilled. All of us have something to be grateful for. For me, it’s the ability to give my son a better life, and to help create a new family.”
 

If you’d like info on open adoption, you can call or text our 24-hour adoption answer line at 1-800-923-6784.

Why Choose Adoption?

what to consider if you're asking yourself 'why choose adoption?'No one but you can decide whether adoption is the best choice for you and your child. The adoption decision is completely yours to make. So, you’ll need to make sure you’ve thought about all your pregnancy options and their outcomes. When you’re asking yourself ‘why choose adoption?’ think about your baby’s future as well as yours.
 
Deciding to make an adoption plan is obviously not an easy choice. But in some circumstances, it’s what a woman comes to realize is the best option.
 
Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is here to give you info and resources on open adoption so that you’re fully educated on all your pregnancy choices. That way, you’re able to make an informed decision.
 
Here are some things you might want to keep in mind if you’re thinking about adoption:

  • What kind of home environment do I want my child to grow up with?
  • What are my future plans and goals?
  • What do I desire for my child’s future?
  • How will I handle child care once I go back to work?
  • Is financial stability something that’s important to me?

 
Every woman’s situation is different and unique, so we’re not here to make a list of “reasons why you should choose adoption.” There are so many factors in play during this difficult choice, along with so many emotions.
 

If you’d like info on open adoption, you can call or text our 24-hour adoption answer line at 1-800-923-6784.

What Can Adoptive Parents Offer My Child?

Hopeful adoptive parents Eric and AmandaIf you’ve decided that making an adoption plan is the best choice for you and your child, you might be wondering about the waiting adoptive parents on our website. What do they have to offer your child?

Here’s a list of just 10 of the many things that an adoptive family can offer your child through an open adoption:

1. Love

2. Stable home-life

3. Financial security

4. Emotionally ready & willing to be a parent

5. One or two parent home

6. Ability to provide sports, hobbies, music, etc.

7. Welcoming grandparents & other relatives

8. Quality medical, dental & eye care, and education

9. Vacations, opportunity to travel

10. Stay-at-home mom (if desired)

11. Knowledge that his or her birth parents cared enough to choose the best for their child’s life

The info in this post is from the short adoption book So I Was Thinking About Adoption. You can get a FREE e-book version of this book! Just click on the image below:

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Here’s Why I Chose Adoption…

Here's why I chose adoption for my baby...“I want to share my story of why I chose adoption for my baby…

My son was born two weeks before his official due date. I’d been thinking about adoption but didn’t have a plan in place. Then when he was born it was hard! I took him home, and my mom helped me out. But then, she had to go back to work. It was just me and my baby at home all day. I tried to offer my son more than I grew up with, but I didn’t have much to start with. So, what could I give my baby really? His needs were more important that my wants.
 
My friend told me about a place that did adoptions that were able to keep it private and confidential. I called Lifetime in the middle of the night when my baby was three weeks old. I told the woman who answered the phone at Lifetime that I needed to do adoption right away. Every day it was getting harder to have my baby here and know I was going to give him to someone else.
 
My coordinator at Lifetime was really cool about it and didn’t judge me. She emailed me a few adoptive family websites that matched up with what I was looking for. What really helped me was that my coordinator was super-easy to get in touch with. I’d just text her whenever I had a question. I shared with her that it was too hard to keep faking it. I needed to have an adoptive family by the end of the week. I found a couple that I liked a lot, and they were just perfect for my son.
 
I talked with the adoptive couple, Kevin and Amy, on the phone. They lived in Texas too, about two hours from me. They met with my son and I the next day, and I knew they were a really great couple. Kevin and Amy had a stable marriage and were financially secure: two major things I really wanted for my son. My coordinator at Lifetime sent me the adoption paperwork to sign. The paperwork for my baby’s father to sign was taken care of by the attorney, which was paid by the adoptive parents.
 
You might think you can’t do adoption, but a year later, I know it was the best thing I could do for my son. I’m getting my life together and have started taking classes at my local community college. My son is getting all the support and love he needs from two parents who were ready for a baby. I that hope my story about adoption can help someone else!”
 

Please feel free to call or text our 24-hour adoption answer line at 1-800-923-6784 and ask to speak to an adoption coordinator.