Learning that you’re pregnant unexpectedly sure brings up a lot of emotions. You might be worried about how to tell your boyfriend you’re pregnant and thinking about adoption. You might be thinking about keeping your pregnancy a secret to him then keeping him in the dark about the adoption process. Today, we’re going to talk about why that’s not such a great idea.
When you’re making an adoption plan, it’s important to be honest with your baby’s father. But know that if you’re not comfortable with talking to him, Lifetime can help.
Some women worry that they won’t be able to choose adoption because of their baby’s father. Know that Lifetime can help you out, whatever your situation is. That includes if:
- You aren’t sure who your baby’s father is
- He’s in jail
- You don’t know where he lives or what his name is
- He isn’t open to the adoption
- You’re married, but not to the baby’s father
You might be wondering how in the world you’ll tell him you’re pregnant. It seems like life would be easier if you kept your adoption plans a secret from him. Well, here’s 4 reasons why it’s a good idea to be honest with your baby’s father:
1. Your Child Will Know Their Birth Father
As they grow up, your child will wonder about his or her birth father. By identifying him now, you’re providing your child with this vital info they’ll be asking for in the future.
2. Gives Your Child a Medical History
The more background info that’s known for your child’s medical history, the better. They’ll need this medical history info throughout their life; just think of how often you’re asked for yours at the doctor’s office! By being honest with him about your adoption plans, he’s then able to share his family’s medical history too, allowing your child to have a completed medical history.
3. Allows the Adoption to Happen
We know it’s not easy to tell him you’re pregnant and are making an adoption plan. But it’s way better than him learning he’s a dad years down the road! So, make sure to be honest with him now.
If you need help telling him you’re pregnant, Lifetime can help you find the words. Or, you can rely on us to inform him of your adoption plans.
Some birth mothers work with their baby’s father at picking the adoptive family. If you’d like to learn more about working with him throughout the adoption planning process, check out: “Adoption Truth: Guys Can Be Involved, Too.”
4. Helps the Adoption Go Smoothly
By revealing his identity, his rights are recognized during the adoption. This helps your adoption plan happen more easily. If you’d like to learn about his rights, here’s a quick link: Birth Fathers’ Adoption Legal Rights.