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Are You Ready to Adopt? Ask Yourself These 10 Questions

are you ready to adopt? here are 10 questions to ask!Are you truly ready to adopt? Before you contact any adoption professionals, really think about what your deepest wishes are for your family and for the child you hope to adopt.

Honesty is important because it’s your adoption professional’s task to understand your motivations so that they can effectively help you from the start. Your professional will then narrow down the preferences and relevant adoption situations and help you plan your adoption.

How do you know if you’re really ready to adopt a baby?

Here are 10 simple questions to ask yourself:

1. Why do you want to adopt?

2. How serious are you about adoption right now?

3. What is your ideal adoption situation?

4. Does your spouse want to adopt too?

5. Have you thought about how becoming a parent will change your life and are you willing to accept this responsibility?

6. Are you financially, socially and emotionally ready to adopt?

7. Will you love a child who comes into your family through adoption as much as you would a biological child?

8. If your child’s birth mother asked for photos, letters, and updates, would you honor her request?

9. Do you think you’d be a good parent, and why? If the answer is “no,” are you open to seeking assistance?

10. Do you and your spouse have the patience and time that’s needed to care for a child?

Don’t be offended when an adoption professional asks you investigative questions about your reasons for seeking adoption. They’re not trying to be nosey; they’re trying to help you find the best situation with as little time and stress as possible.

Plenty of preparation needs to be done for an adoption to be a success, and thoroughly understanding your needs is a large part of that. So, let your adoption professional help you, and you’ll be on your way to creating the family you have been dreaming of for a lifetime!

“How do I know my baby is going into a good home?”

get Lifetime's answer to the question '"How do I know my baby is going into a good home?'Question: “Right now, I’m 30 weeks pregnant, and I’m looking at adoptive families on your site. They all look friendly, and I like what they write, but how do I know my baby is going into a good home? How do I know the parents are good people?”

Answer: Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida is fully licensed and we do an in-depth screening of each of our adoptive families. That’s how we know that they’re financially secure and stable couples in a solid marriage. They’ve passed criminal background checks, have proven their income via tax records and payroll stubs, and have been declared healthy by doctor physicals.

Couples hoping to adopt also have to be asked lots of questions from a social worker, who visits their home to make sure it’s ready for a baby and to interview them. We do all of this so that you can be rest assured that the adoptive couples you see on our site are approved, screened, and questioned. They also attend adoption courses, so that they understand your need for future communication in what’s known as an “open adoption.”

How to Research Adoption Benefits

learn how you can afford to adopt a baby!The #1 reason couples aren’t able to adopt is that they can’t afford it. The reality is, there are tons of adoption benefits out there, you just need to know where to look! Today, we’re sharing how to get access to the adoption benefits your employer, insurance, or church offers.

If you’re on a budget, you might be surprised at the cost of domestic infant adoption. The good news is that there are many adoption loans and financing alternatives that you can take advantage of. It IS possible for you to afford to adopt a baby!

Below, we share how you can research any adoption benefits that are available through organizations you’re affiliated with, like your employer, insurance, or church.

Adoption Benefits Through Your Insurance Provider

Asking your insurance provider about your adoption might seem strange to you. But, an insurance organization called MediShare grants its members $4,600 to use on an adoption!

Hopeful adoptive couples are supported by MediShare; the company helps to defray their adoption fees. Members of MediShare can share in adoption costs up to $4,600 per adoption. For two separate adoptions, the max amount goes up to $9,200. You can learn more at MyChristianCare.org.

Adoption Benefits Through Your Employer

Nowadays, more and more companies are offering their employees a reimbursement to help out with adoption costs, as well as paid leave. To find out whether your employer allows adoption benefits, just ask your Human Resource Department.

If you find that they don’t provide adoption benefits, you might help them start such a program by contacting the Dave Thomas Foundation. This non-profit offers information to employers through their Adoption-Friendly Workplace program. This program’s purpose is to make adoption affordable for every hopeful adoptive parent who’s employed. For details, visit AdoptionFriendlyWorkplace.org or give them a call at 1-800-275-3832.

Adoption Benefits for Members of the Military

If you’re a member of the military, you have adoption financing resources that aren’t available anywhere else. Active-duty military couples qualify for up to $2,000 per child in adoption benefits. The benefit increases to $5,000 if you’re adopting a sibling group. Get the details at MilitaryFamily.org.

When is it Too Early or Too Late to do Adoption?

Lifetime has been asked many different questions about when’s the right time to make an adoption plan. The truth is, it’s never too late or too early to look into adoption for your baby! Here are some answers to common questions women ask when they’re thinking about adoption early in their pregnancy as well as late in their pregnancy:
 
“I’m not that far along in my pregnancy – when can I choose adoption?”
 
“I’m not that far along in my pregnancy – when can I choose adoption?”If you’ve just learned that you’re pregnant or aren’t that far along, know that you can start the adoption process now. Most women aren’t 100% sure adoption is right for their situation when they call Lifetime. You don’t have to be committed to adoption before you contact us.
 
Contacting Lifetime early in your pregnancy gives you more time to learn about the adoption process, get emotional and financial support, and search for the right adoptive family for your baby. Contacting us doesn’t force you to choose adoption: you have the right to change your mind at any time until the legal paperwork has gone through.
 
“My due date is coming up quickly! – when is it too late to find adoptive parents for my baby?”
 
“My due date is coming up quickly! – when is it too late to find adoptive parents for my baby?”Choosing adoption isn’t an easy decision to arrive at. Some women don’t contact Lifetime to learn about adoption until the final weeks or days of their pregnancy. We have women call us from the hospital in the beginning stages of labor, more often than you’d think! If your due date is near, you might be wondering, “Is it too late to give my baby up for adoption?”
 
It’s never too late to choose adoption. You can even make an adoption plan after trying to parent your baby. Lifetime can help you begin the adoption quickly if that’s what you’d like. Within a matter of hours, we can have the adoptive parents you select there at the hospital waiting room while you deliver.
 
No matter how far along you are, you’ll have the chance to review and get to know a pre-screened adoptive couple. They’re ready and excited to commit to you and your baby. In many cases, the adoptive parents can cover your medical, counseling, and living costs.
 

Learn more about how to get started with your modern adoption plan by calling or texting Lifetime at 1-800-923-6784 today!

“All of It-The Wait, The Worry-Will Be Worth It!”

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida loves to share stories from our adoptive couples who have been blessed by infant adoption! Here’s a sweet one from Tennessee adoptive couple Colby and Sarah:

Adoptive parents Sarah and Colby with their precious newborn son“Thank you so much for helping us on this journey! We couldn’t love Jack any more than we do! He’s the best baby we could have hoped for. Once you’re matched and you meet your child, it still takes you a little while to process all the things that had to fall into place to make this miracle happen.

Whether you get the call six months or six hours ahead of the match, you’ll never be prepared enough. And that’s okay. Because all of it—the wait, the worry, the late nights sitting up wondering if your family will ever be whole—will be worth it. I know this because of the thousand little moments that are ingrained in my memory forever because of this journey.

when can we name our adopted baby?I’ll never forget the call I got from my wife when we initially got matched. I’ll never, ever forget driving all night to meet my wife, who had flown ahead to be with our son, and cradling him in my arms for the first time at 4:30 in the morning. I’ve never been happier at that time in the morning. Those moments make every single struggle you’ve had to endure on this journey disappear in a blink. I promise.

I promise that you’ll look into your child’s eyes as you’re feeding them one night, or hear them say, “I love you” for the first time and this is all going to make sense!”

To see more photos and adoption stories, visit our “Recent Adoptions & Matches” page!
Are you hoping to adopt a baby? Call us at 1-877-383-6847 or email us to learn the steps needed to get started with a domestic infant adoption.

We Reveal the Truth About 5 Adoption Myths

learn the truth about these 5 adoption mythsToday, we’re sharing honest answers to 5 adoption myths about choosing adoption for your baby:

1. Adoption is selfish
This adoption myth is the biggest one out there! Really, adoption is about the least selfish choice that you can make for your child. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your baby. It means the opposite: you love them so much that you want them to have the life they deserve. When you don’t have the needed resources to care for a baby or aren’t ready to become a parent, choosing adoption for your baby is the most selfless thing you can do.

2. I’ll be giving my baby away to strangers
With a modern, open adoption, you have the power to choose your baby’s adoptive parents, and meet them to interview them too. You can pick a family who would raise your baby exactly the way that you wish. You also have the right to decide how much future contact with your child and family as you would like, whether it’s emails, letters, photos, or even visits.

3. I can’t do adoption without my parent’s approval
Some parents don’t understand modern adoption and how it works, so they might get angry and try to change your mind. The truth to this adoption myth is that no matter how young you are, no one can force you to a pregnancy choice, whether it’s parenting, adoption, or abortion. The law is on your side, and your parents typically don’t have rights to your baby. If your parents aren’t supportive, you might try writing down your adoption plan so they can see you’ve put a lot of thought into this.


4. If I use drugs or alcohol, no one will want to adopt my baby

Whatever your life situation is, there are adoptive families ready to provide your baby with a loving home. Lifetime is here to support and help you as you make an adoption plan, even if your baby has been exposed to drugs or alcohol. It’s important that you’re honest with us about any tobacco, drug, or alcohol use during your pregnancy. That way, your doctor is able to best take care of your health, and the health of your baby.

If you’re using drugs and are near your due date, your baby may test positive for drugs at birth. If these cases, the hospital must notify Child Protective Services, and your baby may be placed in foster care. By having an adoption plan in place, you’re able to choose where your baby will go, and the level of contact you want to have with your child as they grow up. So, if you think your baby may test positive for drugs at birth, call us at 1-800-923-6784 for help and info.

5. My baby is almost a year old! It’s too late to do adoption
It is never too late to choose adoption, and you can begin at any time. Maybe you’d thought about adoption and put it on hold. You can still go forward at any time. Even if you’ve been trying to make parenting work and are struggling, it’s not too late. You’re never making a bad choice for your child by loving them enough to give them the life you know they deserve, when you know you can’t provide it.

If you’re thinking of adoption, you can call Lifetime today to learn more: 1-800-923-6784. Contacting us doesn’t mean you HAVE to choose adoption. It just means you’re learning more about it.

Adoption Q&A: When Can We Name Our Baby?

when can we name our baby?Question: “When can we name our baby?”

Answer: Anytime really! You and your spouse can begin discussing it before you’re matched with a birth mother. You can talk about it during the match with your birth mother. Sometimes, the birth mother will already know or have an idea what she’d like to name her baby. So then you’d already have an idea of what she’s thinking about and if the name is important to her.

Some of the most beautiful adoption stories we’ve heard have been about the name. In these stories, the adoptive family has kept the desires of their child’s birth mother in mind, which definitely built and strengthened their open adoption relationship! Birth mothers have shared with Lifetime how touching it was to them when the family wanted to include her first name or middle name within the child’s name. It’s a way of honoring her and solidifying that commitment between the adoptive parents and the birth parents. It creates such a bond, and a beautiful story.

If you strongly dislike the name that the birth mother chose, you need to find out why it’s important to her. Listen as she tells you why this name is important. Have grace and give it some prayer. We encourage families to think about what’s really important. The name a child has doesn’t define who they are before they’re born. Don’t let the adoption fall apart just because of the name. Usually, there are compromises and ways to work around the name. If there isn’t, let your Adoption Coordinator know. She’ll try to work things out on your behalf.

While our office is closed today, Monday, September 4 for Labor Day, our 24-hour adoption line will be OPEN and AVAILABLE with Lifetime Staff to speak with birth mothers as well as any matched adoptive parents who may need to reach us urgently. That number is 1-800-923-6784.

Please keep your cell phone with you and on. Lifetime traditionally receives calls about urgent situations when other adoption professionals are not available because they are off enjoying the long weekend. If we need to reach you, we want to be sure that we can!

This Kentucky Couple Look Forward to Becoming First-time Parents!

Daniel and Samantha, a hopeful adoptive couple from Kentucky
Meet Daniel and Samantha, a dedicated, loving, and supportive couple from Kentucky…they’re so looking forward to being able to share their lives with a child as first-time parents! To Daniel and Samantha, adoption is a beautiful picture of what God did: He brought us into His family. They want to emulate that perfect picture of love. They’re excited to get to open their hearts and home for the amazing journey of parenthood!  If you want to stay in touch, Daniel and Samantha are open to letters, pictures, emails, and visits.
 
Daniel says about his wife, “My wife Samantha is always encouraging, supportive, and tries to make everyone she meets feel special through compliments and shows interest in their lives. She brightens every room she enters and loves to make people smile! Samantha has worked as a teacher for the past five years and loves positively impacting kids’ lives.
 
Samantha is going to be a great mother because she is so kind and nurturing. She has wanted to be a mother since she was a small child and can’t wait to share her love and start on this journey. Samantha is going to be the very best stay-at-home mom!”
 
And Samantha shares about her husband, “My husband Daniel works as the lead technician at a boat dealership. He loves to be outside, and he is so great at solving problems and fixing things! He constantly goes out of his way to value the people he loves. He is known for being so thoughtful to surprise me with flowers or a special date, to make time for us to be with our families, and to maintain our home and vehicles.
 
Daniel is going to be an excellent father. He loves to invest in others and will be an amazing role model who will be supportive and encouraging through the many stages of life.
 

Here’s Kentucky adoptive couple Daniel and Samantha’s video:

Kentucky Adoptive Couple Daniel and Samantha's Adoption Video from Lifetime Adoption on Vimeo.

You can find out more about hopeful adoptive couple Daniel and Samantha by visiting their adoption website. You may also view all adoptive family profiles here on AdoptionAgencyFlorida.com. If you see an adoptive family that you’re interested in, please give us a call at 1-877-383-6847.

“How Much Did You Pay for Her?”

what to say if someone asks "how much did you pay for her?"When you’ve adopted, you may face rude questions from people. One of these is “how much did you pay for her/him?” Here are some things to keep in mind if you’re ever asked a similar question:

Adoptive parents don’t pay for a baby. They pay to have work done so that they can adopt a baby. Fees that are charged an adopting couple are used to support the work of the agency.

Adoption involves the time and efforts of numerous peo­ple who give service to biological parents, would-be adoptive parents, and babies. Each step of the proce­dure involves the work of highly trained professionals.

Also, agencies and attorneys must keep up to date on the laws and regulations con­cerning adoptions. They must pay rent or mortgage for their facility as well as costs involved with keeping up that facility.

The fee that adoptive parents pay when they receive a baby pays bills incurred by the agency as well as sala­ries of caseworkers, secretaries, the director, and oth­ers. Some states have individually set limits on the amount that an agency can charge for its services, thus keeping the possibility of adoption within the financial reach of most Americans.

In the case of a private adoption, the law in most states requires that the adopting parents pay only for the prenatal care, for the physician’s services, and for the hospital bill. This is meant to defray the medical costs incurred by the woman giving birth.

“Is it Too Late to Choose Adoption for My Baby?”

Is it too late to choose adoption for my baby?Question: “When I was pregnant my family talked me out of considering adoption and promised to help me with my baby.

A year later they aren’t around and I’m really struggling. I think now they actually see why I was thinking about adoption before. Is it too late to do adoption?”

Answer: It’s never too late to choose adoption for your baby. Lifetime is here for you as you think about your choices, and we can give you info and resources. All of the info you share with us about your situation is kept totally confidential.

Contact Lifetime by texting or calling us at 1-800-923-6784. Let us answer your questions and get to know more about you and your situation. This allows us to help you create your own customized adoption plan that keeps your baby’s needs in mind.

You have lots of power in your adoption choices: you can choose your baby’s adoptive family and how much you’d like to stay in touch with them and with your child in the future. We encourage you to interview adoptive couples before picking one, to make sure they’re the right fit.

It’s never too late to choose adoption for a young child. You can work directly with us to create a plan that works best for you and your child. Lifetime will hook you up with free counseling as you think about adoption. If you’d like, we can also give you tips on how to share about your adoption decision with others in your life.

If you are thinking of adoption for a child you’re parenting, call today to learn more about adoption: 1-800-923-6784.
 
All calls are kept private, and our friendly and warm adoption coordinators are here to listen and help with your situation.