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How to Talk About Adoption With Your Baby’s Father

texting at nightLearning that you’re pregnant unexpectedly sure brings up a lot of emotions. You might be worried about how to tell your boyfriend you’re pregnant and thinking about adoption. You might be thinking about keeping your pregnancy a secret to him then keeping him in the dark about the adoption process. Today, we’re going to talk about why that’s not such a great idea.

When you’re making an adoption plan, it’s important to be honest with your baby’s father. But know that if you’re not comfortable with talking to him, Lifetime can help.

Some women worry that they won’t be able to choose adoption because of their baby’s father. Know that Lifetime can help you out, whatever your situation is. That includes if:

  • You aren’t sure who your baby’s father is
  • He’s in jail
  • You don’t know where he lives or what his name is
  • He isn’t open to the adoption
  • You’re married, but not to the baby’s father

You might be wondering how in the world you’ll tell him you’re pregnant. It seems like life would be easier if you kept your adoption plans a secret from him. Well, here’s 4 reasons why it’s a good idea to be honest with your baby’s father:

1. Your Child Will Know Their Birth Father

As they grow up, your child will wonder about his or her birth father. By identifying him now, you’re providing your child with this vital info they’ll be asking for in the future.

2. Gives Your Child a Medical History
The more background info that’s known for your child’s medical history, the better. They’ll need this medical history info throughout their life; just think of how often you’re asked for yours at the doctor’s office! By being honest with him about your adoption plans, he’s then able to share his family’s medical history too, allowing your child to have a completed medical history.

3. Allows the Adoption to Happen
We know it’s not easy to tell him you’re pregnant and are making an adoption plan. But it’s way better than him learning he’s a dad years down the road! So, make sure to be honest with him now.

If you need help telling him you’re pregnant, Lifetime can help you find the words. Or, you can rely on us to inform him of your adoption plans.

Some birth mothers work with their baby’s father at picking the adoptive family. If you’d like to learn more about working with him throughout the adoption planning process, check out: “Adoption Truth: Guys Can Be Involved, Too.”

4. Helps the Adoption Go Smoothly
By revealing his identity, his rights are recognized during the adoption. This helps your adoption plan happen more easily. If you’d like to learn about his rights, here’s a quick link: Birth Fathers’ Adoption Legal Rights.

Join Us Next Week for Silas and Dawn’s Adoption Story!

Adoption stories are some of the greatest, and most encouraging, resources for anyone hoping to adopt. The testimonies from people who have recently walked through the process to adopt provide helpful answers and tips. Adoption seems less complicated and overwhelming when you can hear from others who were once where you are today.

Hear Silas and Dawn's adoption storyJoin us for Silas and Dawn’s adoption story next Tuesday! You can sign up for this webinar using this link. We’re starting the New Year off with a sweet reminder that it only takes one birth mother to start a story that looks meant to be in hindsight.

The webinar will be held on Tuesday, January 23rd, at:
3:00 pm Pacific Time
4:00 pm Mountain Time
5:00 pm Central Time
6:00 pm Eastern Time

To secure your spot in next Tuesday’s webinar, just click on the following link: Register.GoToWebinar.com.

You can watch this adoption webinar online, over the phone, or by using the GoToWebinar app on your cell phone.

After you sign up for the webinar, we’ll email you instructions on how you can join in live. You’ll benefit from Silas and Dawn’s adoption story, no matter what stage you’re at in your adoption journey!

Young, Active Christian Couple in Colorado Excited to Be First-Time Parents Through Adoption!

Hello from Colorado! Jeff and Erin are so excited to become first-time parents and to share their love with your child! They’re excited and ready to start their family through adoption, and are open to letters, pictures, and visits with you!

They’ve made a cute slide show video to introduce themselves and share more about what they have to offer your child. Keep scrolling to learn more about this young and active Colorado couple!

hopeful adoptive couple Jeff and Erin from Colorado

They enjoy going out to eat and searching for fun, new restaurants in their little town. Jeff and Erin also like watching football; he’s a Bears fan, while she’s a Broncos fan. They’re excited to share a love of music, books, and adventure in the great outdoors with your child! Jeff owns an upholstery business, and Erin works as a Special Ed teacher. Jeff and Erin promise to provide your child with everything they need throughout their lives. They’ll provide a home filled with adventure, joy, and acceptance.

As Christians, Jeff and Erin promise to raise your child to know that they are loved by God. “We are excited to share the truths in God’s word and His ability to care for us. We want to teach your child how to be loving to others, to have confidence towards God in all things, and to enjoy all of life’s adventures!” say Jeff and Erin.

Here’s Colorado adoptive couple Jeff and Erin’s video:

Young, Active Christian Couple in Colorado Excited to Be First-Time Parents Through Adoption! from Lifetime Adoption on Vimeo.

You can find out more about hopeful adoptive couple Jeff and Erin by visiting their adoption website. You may also view all adoptive family profiles here on AdoptionAgencyFlorida.com. If you see an adoptive family that you’re interested in, please give us a call at 1-877-383-6847.

Chris and Carrie Were Blessed to Adopt a Baby Boy!

Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida loves to share stories from our adoptive couples who’ve been blessed to adopt a baby!

Here’s a sweet one from Kentucky adoptive couple Chris and Carrie. We think it beautifully portrays how open adoption can play out during the hospital birth experience! Pictured here are Carrie and Chris holding their bundle of joy, Colton.

Chris and Carrie were blessed to adopt a baby boy, Colton!

“Good Morning! Colton arrived at 10:53 pm, weighing six pounds 14 ounces and measuring 20 inches. Both he and his birth mother are doing well.

We are just overjoyed and so in love! The whole process was just absolutely amazing! Colton’s birth parents are angels. They allowed us to be present for the entire process. We were in the room for his birth and the four of us spent an hour and a half together before we went to separate rooms. Colton’s birth mother was able to hold him as well!”

To see more photos and adoption stories, visit our “Recent Adoptions & Matches” page!
Are you hoping to adopt a baby? Call us at 1-877-383-6847 or email us to learn the steps needed to get started with a domestic infant adoption.

7 Things to Know About Your Unplanned Pregnancy

positive pregnancy test? here's what you should know!Lots of us have been there: standing in line to pay for a pregnancy test. It doesn’t matter if the test is for a friend or a “friend,” it’s as if you can feel the panic in the air.

If you’ve just gotten a positive pregnancy test, you might be freaking out. Nothing in makes sense, and it’s like your stomach has fallen to your feet. You wake up the next few mornings with anxiety, realizing it wasn’t all a dream and you’re actually pregnant.

Here are 7 things to be aware of about your unplanned pregnancy:

1. It’s fine to be scared
The fact that you’re freaking out makes you human. It doesn’t matter if you’re 17, 27, or 37: an unplanned pregnancy is a shock. It’s also OK to be angry or sad. You might be sad for a version of your life that you’ll have to let go of. Know that no matter how you’re feeling, it’s okay. If you don’t allow yourself to feel these emotions now, they’ll eat you alive.

2. Nobody can tell you what to do
Lots of people might give you their opinions. But nobody can tell you how your decision will affect your life. No matter how many Google searches you do, it won’t predict your future. So try to cut through all the noise in your ears. Your heart knows which choice is best for you.

3. You’re not totally alone
Facing an unplanned pregnancy might make you feel alone, but that’s far from the truth. Nearly 50% of women in the U.S. will face an unplanned pregnancy by the time they’re 45 (source: the Guttmacher Institute). The reality is that there are tons of women who know how you feel because they’ve been there themselves.

4. Avoid using fear or anger to make a decision
While the emotions you’re feeling are real and OK, they might be getting in the way of your thinking. Once you’re calm, you’ll be best able to make a decision. Then, consider if the reason for your choice is love or fear.

5. Get a support system
This can be difficult to find, especially if you’re thinking about adoption. It will be an important part of moving forward. You might find a support system online if no one in your life has your back.

Lifetime has peer counselors that you can talk with. They’re women who’ve been where you are now and want to hear you out and give advice if you’re open to it. Just call us at 1-800-923-6784 if you’d like to talk or text with a birth mom.

6. You’re more than a statistic
Feeling ashamed, embarrassed, or even disappointed in yourself is normal. But we want you to know that you’re so much more than a just a statistic. An unplanned pregnancy doesn’t have to define you; it doesn’t make you stupid or irresponsible.

7. You can choose adoption anytime
You don’t have to make an adoption plan while you’re pregnant. Lifetime helps lots of women with adoption after their baby’s been born and when their child is a few years old. We’re not here to pressure you or rush you into a decision. Call Lifetime whenever you’re ready to learn more: 1-800-923-6784.

How to Get Closer to Your Resolution of Adopting a Baby in 2018

discover how you can adopt a baby in 2018!Every new year brings new potential and hope for the future. It also comes with the chance to commit to a New Year’s resolution. Do you hope to adopt a baby in 2018?

Starting your family through adoption is a resolution that’s not set to please other people or to gain attention. Becoming a parent through adoption is a life-changing event which will mark the start of a fresh chapter in your family.

Here are 5 ways to come closer to your resolution of adopting a baby in 2018!

1. Hear From Couples Who’ve Had Adoption Success
Your best resource to learn all you can about adoption is from a couple who’s adopted recently. Seek out the stories of experienced adoptive parents, and establish a conversation with them if you can. You might ask them for their advice, and about their adoption journey. After all, the more adoption stories you hear, the more viewpoints you’ll have to learn from. Follow adoption blogs, sign up for email newsletters, and join up with other couples also at the start of the adoption journey.

2. Continue Learning
Learn as much as you can about subjects like domestic adoption, open adoption, and modern adoption. There are a wealth of wonderful articles, books, and blogs out there. Check out the adoption stories featured on our “Recent Adoptions & Matches” page, which gets updated each day. You’ll also want to watch adoption webinars, available online for free at AdoptionWebinar.com.

3. Start to Finance Your Adoption
You don’t want to be scrambling for funds when the opportunity to adopt comes up. So, start getting all of your finances in order now by meeting with a financial planner. They can help you create a budget and get your finances straight. Look into adoption loans, grants, and fundraising, too.

4. Make Time for Adoption Each Week
Since most of us are very busy, we suggest that you set aside time each week to devote to learning more about adoption. By scheduling this time, you’re able to plan around things like appointments and work obligations.

5. Begin Your Adoption Profile
Even if you haven’t signed on with an adoption professional, you’re able to start working on your adoption profile. Consider taking quick photos of your day-to-day activities and favorite hobbies. And start considering what birth mothers will want to know about you: where you live, how long you’ve been married, what your jobs are, and why you’re hoping to adopt.

The Top 10 Blog Posts of 2017!

Lifetime adoptive couple Eric and Amanda with their daughter Mariella

Lifetime adoptive couple Eric and Amanda with their daughter Mariella

In 2017, Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida’s blog covered so many adoption topics, ranging from tips on how to handle the wait and guidance for getting ready to adopt to info about what modern adoption means and how to choose adoptive parents for your baby.

Here are the top 10 posts of 2017:

#10: We Reveal the Truth About 5 Adoption Myths
We shed light on five of the most widely believed myths surrounding the choice of adoption for your baby. Two of these five myths include that adoption is selfish, and that it means giving your baby away to strangers. Nothing could be farther from the truth: adoption is the most loving decision a woman can make. Also, with modern adoption today, you’re able to hand-pick the adoptive parents for your baby.

#9: 6 Smart Moves to Get Your Finances in Line for a Baby
We recommend that you get a hold of your finances during the adoption wait. That way, you’ll be able to enjoy the newborn days without worrying about money issues. This post shares 6 smart financial moves to make before your baby arrives.

#8: Why Choose Adoption?
This post seeks to answer the question: “why would I choose adoption for my baby?” In it, we provided a list of things to keep in mind if you’re thinking about adoption. We’re definitely not here to give you “reasons why you should choose adoption,” because only you know what’s best.

#7: 4 Terrific Tips on Listening to Birth Mothers
Many adoptive parents have said they were so nervous during the first phone call with a birth mother, that they ended up chattering on and on. This blog post shares a few easy tips on how to effectively listen to a birth mother, and begin to build a relationship!

#6: Wondering What It’s Like to Be Adopted?
If you’re thinking about adoption for your baby, you might be wondering what it’s like to be adopted. We interviewed Alexa, an 18-year-old adoptee for this blog post. She was excited to share her story because she’s so grateful to her birth mother for choosing adoption!

#5: How to Research Adoption Benefits
Sadly, the number one reason many don’t adopt is because they feel like they can’t afford it. There are so many of adoption benefits available if you know where to look! This blog post gives you info on how to learn about the adoption benefits your employer, insurance, or church offers.

#4: “My Baby’s Adoptive Mom is So Awesome!”
Lifetime is blessed to be able to share this birth mother’s Facebook post: “My baby’s adoptive mom is so awesome! [The adoptive parents] are the most amazing people I have ever had the pleasure of saying that I know…I could not feel more blessed to have found them!”

#3: Coping With Your Adoption Wait
Have you been wondering what you can do to get through your adoption wait? In this post, we shared action steps you can take in order to stay productive during your wait!

#2: How To Get The Counseling You Need During Your Adoption Planning
Choosing adoption for your baby is an emotional event, and every birth mother is going to experience the stages of grief in a different way. This posts shares how Lifetime is able to get you the counseling you need. We can refer you to a licensed third-party counselor or to a peer counselor, for free.

#1: How Long Does It Take to Adopt Twins?
This is a question that we get asked a lot here at Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida! Discover the answer to the question “On average, how long does it take to adopt twins through Lifetime Adoption Agency?”

What was your favorite blog post of the year? Are there any specific topics you’d like to see covered on Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida’s blog in 2018?

Christmas Blessings from Lifetime

When they saw the star, they were filled with joy.
-Matthew 2:10

Christmas Blessings from Lifetime!Merry Christmas, from all of us at Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida! We feel very blessed to be able to assist you as you move through your journey to adoption.

We hope that 2018 unveils the next step to actualizing your heart’s greatest desire, parenthood. Lifetime is praying for you during your adoption wait. We understand that the holidays can be difficult during this time of waiting.

Earlier this month, we provided tips here on our blog about how you can get through the holidays while you’re waiting. We encourage you to read this piece if you haven’t already: “Waiting to Adopt? Get Our Holiday Survival Tips.”

Lifetime knows that each of our adoptive parents experiences the holiday season differently. We extend our hearts to you and wish you a memorable time celebrating Christmas.

Remember this Christmas that God finishes what He begins; He is committed in guiding us to something GOOD. Focus on what He’s already done in your lives as you follow His lead throughout your adoption journey. Give thanks to God for what He’s doing as you wait.

While Lifetime will be closed on Christmas Day, Monday, December 25, our team will continue to answer our 24-hour Birth Mother Answer Line. Lifetime is always available to birth mothers, as well as matched families with critical updates at 1-800-923-6784.

From all of us at Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida, we wish you Christmas blessings of peace and joy! May the Lord give you prosperity and perspective in the New Year, as you move closer to learning how He’ll answer your prayers of adoption.

How Can Audible Help You Learn About Adoption?

Listen to Called to Adoption on AudibleSometimes, it’s overwhelming for hopeful adoptive parents to know where to start on their adoption journey. Lifetime fully believes education is key for anyone hoping to adopt! And a great way to start learning about Christian adoption is by reading Called to Adoption: A Christian’s Guide to Answering the Call. You can listen to this book on Audible at no cost!

Through the end of the year, Audible is running a great promotion. In it, they offer a three-month trial of Audible for only $4.95 per month. That’s a huge savings because their usual going rate is $14.95 a month! You’re able to use a credit each month towards any audiobook you’d like. The best part is, the book Called to Adoption is yours to keep, even if you cancel your Audible account! You’ll be able to continue learning about the many types of adoption, even if you end up deciding that Audible isn’t a good fit for you. Visit Audible.com to learn more about their promotion.

Called to Adoption is full of useful tips and heartwarming adoption stories! Read about adoptive couples’ journey to adopt their child, and what helped them along the way! It was co-written by adoption expert, adoptive mother, and Lifetime’s Founder, Mardie Caldwell. Any adoptive parent will find that Called to Adoption provides them with invaluable resources and tips. Get encouraged as you begin your adoption journey by listening to this book!

With Audible, you’re able to hear Called to Adoption from wherever you are. Learn about how modern, open adoption works during your work commute, at the gym, or while you’re making dinner!

Visit Audible.com to download your audio version of Called to Adoption today! Or, you can simply click on the book’s cover below:

Click to get Called to Adoption on Audible!

How To Get The Counseling You Need During Your Adoption Planning

There’s no doubt that creating an adoption plan for your baby is an emotional event. Every birth mother is going to experience the stages of grief differently. Know that it’s completely normal for you to wonder if this is the right decision, and to feel sad. Your emotions are normal and shouldn’t be discounted.

learn how to get no-cost counseling during your adoption planningWhat might help you is to talk to someone. Lifetime is happy to refer you to a licensed third-party counselor or to a peer counselor. Both types of counseling are provided to you free of charge. (By “peer counselor,” we mean a woman who’s gone through her own adoption planning and then placed her baby with adoptive parents.)

To help you process the grief you’re feeling, it’s important to take advantage of this free counseling. The counselor will help you cope with the grief, stress, and other emotions that come up during your adoption planning.

We’ll be up front: the process of grieving isn’t fun and it isn’t pretty. But working through these emotions now is the best way to get through this time in a healthy way. If you ignore how you’re feeling, it’ll just keep you from living a full, productive life.

You’re not alone with what you’re going through. There are millions of other women thinking about adoption and trying to process similar emotions. You’re able to talk to a licensed counselor AND a peer counselor right now and after your baby’s born.

With Lifetime, you’re able to speak honestly about the issues you’re facing as you get the help you need. Lifetime has a 24/7 adoption support phone number. If you’re more comfortable with texting, you can also use this number to text us.

Just give us a call or text us at 1-800-923-6784. We’re here to get you the help you need!