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Choosing an Adoptive Family for Your Baby

Did you know that you have lots of rights in modern adoption, like choosing an adoptive family for your baby?No matter how you got to our site, whether you Googled “how do I give up a baby” or “I want to put my baby up for adoption,” you’re definitely in the right place!

Lifetime is here to help by giving you resources on modern adoption plans. Adoption isn’t like it was decades ago when a pregnant woman was placed in a maternity home, then forced to place her baby.

Modern adoption is all about putting the power and choices in your hands. You have rights: in choosing an adoptive family for your baby, deciding how much you want to stay in contact with them in the future, and also how things will go down at the hospital when you deliver.

Since 1986, we’ve helped thousands of women find loving adoptive parents for their child. So, you can trust that Lifetime knows what we’re doing!

You can check out available adoptive families by viewing our Waiting Adoptive Families page. If you see an adoptive couple you’re interested in talking to, Lifetime can make that happen!

Just call us (anytime, day or night) at 1-800-923-6784. Let Lifetime connect you with our carefully-approved adoptive parents.

Maybe you’ve already had your baby, or you’ve been parenting, but it’s not working out. It’s never too late to make a modern adoption plan. Just call or text Lifetime anytime day or night, at 1-800-923-6784. We’ll get you adoption help and resources right away!

We’re So Grateful to Lifetime for Helping Us Become a Family!

new adoptive parents Jesse and AliciaLifetime Adoption Agency Florida is excited to congratulate adoptive parents Jesse and Alicia from Colorado! They were blessed to adopt a baby girl, Brynlee, just a few weeks ago!

The excited adoptive couple emailed us:

“This all feels like a dream! We are so in love with baby Brynlee. We can’t take our eyes off of her! She is perfect in every way, God truly had His hand in every part of our adoption journey. We’re grateful for all the time we were able to spend with Brynlee’s birth mom at the hospital. We will cherish those moments and share them with Brynlee as she grows up.

We’re so thankful to have found Lifetime. You all have been there every step of the way. I remember when we had our first call with Jen. We were nervous and unsure of what to expect, but she was so sweet and answered every question (I had a huge list) and by the end of the call Jesse and I knew instantly knew that Lifetime would help us become a family of three. Struggling with infertility for so long leaves you vulnerable and it is difficult to imagine that you may never become a parent. God led us to Lifetime because He knew this perfect little girl would be waiting for us and that everyone at Lifetime would be here every step of the way! Every phone call, every webinar, and every prayer helped us become stronger and prepared us for parenthood.

precious baby girl BrynleeNatalie,
Thank you so much for always being so responsive to my emails and phone calls and for always being available to talk. Anytime I was feeling anxious you were there for me. We talked, we laughed, and you reassured me that everything was looking good for us and that God has a plan and His timing is perfect. I’m so thankful for the sharing of our page and the prayers you have said for our family. I will forever be thankful for you and the kindness you have shown us.

Tiffany,
I appreciate you not only being here for us, but for being here for Vanessa as well. You were there to support her when she didn’t have much support from anyone. You made her feel comfortable and you took the time to teach her about open adoption. You made yourself available to us and answered our questions, even when we called you at 7am because we were too excited to sleep!

As I am sitting here, holding our daughter in my arms and typing through my happy tears, I just couldn’t wait to share our thanks and gratitude to everyone at Lifetime. Thank you all so much! We can’t wait to share pictures and updates with you as she grows!”

Are you dreaming of infant adoption? Let Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida help you! Call us today at 1-800-923-6784.

How to Rise Above the Top 7 Worries of First-Time Fathers

The night you were born, I ceased being my father’s boy and became my son’s father.
That night I began a new life.
-Henry Gregor Felsen

On behalf of everyone at Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida, we’d like to wish you a Happy Father’s Day!

If you’re about to become a dad for the first-time, chances are you’re feeling a little anxious. We’ve listed the top 7 things that first-time fathers worry about, and tips on how to rise above!

father and newborn baby daughter1. Will I love my baby once he comes home with us?
Many first-time dads ask themselves if they have the ability to love a tiny being who screams and makes a mess. But you’ll find that these self-doubts go away when you get involved in caring for your baby. Hands-on experience is a great way to strengthen the bond between you and your child.

2. What if my child doesn’t love me?
The truth is that your child will love you because they have a built-in capacity to form a relationship with you! You can encourage this natural ability by giving your baby tons of love and affection. In turn, your child will instinctively return the affection.

3. How will I ever learn how to care for a baby?

Washing, changing, and feeding a baby are like any other skills, in that you can learn them through training and practice. So long as you make up your mind to become competent in these baby care tasks, you’ll soon gain the ability.

4. What will happen with our relationship once we become parents?

No relationship can stay the same forever. You and your spouse are starting a new phase of your lives, and things won’t be the same as before. With any luck, they’ll be better! You’ll come to find that sharing in the upbringing of your new baby brings you even closer together than you were before.

5. What if I end up resenting our baby for all the attention she gets?
A few first-time dads feel jealous when they see the new baby in his mother’s arms. A twinge of envy is normal. You can tackle this stressor head-on by being honest with yourself and with your wife. Make an effort to set aside time for each other every day.

6. What will happen if I accidentally hurt the baby?
This is very unlikely to happen. Babies are a lot sturdier than you think. But it’s always wise to have safety issues at the front of your mind whenever you’re handling your baby. You can do this by making sure your baby is safe and secure wherever she is, and make sure to hold her firmly. Take extra care when lifting her out of the bath.

you've got this, daddy!7. Will I lose my identity and become a father instead of a person?
People around you will think of you as your baby’s father, and you’ll become completely immersed in baby-care issues. This becomes part of your life. Remember that you’ll continue to have other roles in life too, like husband, son, employee, and friend, so you won’t lose your identity.

You’ve got this, daddy!

What NOT to Say to Adoptive Families

how to handle rude adoption remarks and questionsWhen people ask rude questions and make remarks to adoptive families, they may be oblivious as to how they’re coming off. Maybe, they are just uninformed about how open adoption looks today. But that doesn’t mean their comments don’t sting. Today, we’re sharing witty answers to a few of the most shocking questions that adoptive families face:

“How could his ‘real parents’ give him up?”

For most birth parents, the reasons why they chose adoption are complex, from extreme poverty to a personal tragedy. And even if we know why our child’s birth family decided on adoption, we’re not going to just share with any random stranger out there. It’s a private and personal story, between my child’s birth family and my child. AND, my child has two sets of “real parents.” Calling their birth parents “real parents” implies that we’re something less.

“How much did she cost?”
The fact is, no baby joins a family for free. Just think about those big hospital bills! When we adopted, we also paid for services provided, except our “midwives” were adoption professionals, social workers, and adoption attorneys. So that was where all those adoption fees were for: for services provided, not for our baby.

“I’m sorry you weren’t able to have one ‘of your own’.”
Saying this assumes that adoption is a last-resort means of creating a family. This definitely isn’t the case! Our child is as much “our own” as any biological child.

Have you ever gotten a rude question like this? If so, how did you handle it? Share with our audience by leaving a comment below, please!

Adoption as a Solution to Unplanned Pregnancy

Adoption can be a great solution to an unplanned pregnancy...If you’re dealing with an unplanned pregnancy and don’t feel prepared to raise a child, adoption is a realistic alternative. Adoptions today are done very differently than in years past.
 
Today, in what’s called an “open adoption,” you’re empowered and respected. You have the right to choose the parents you want for your child. Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida will send you profiles made by the hopeful adoptive parents. In the profile, they share about their lives, careers, where they live, and other facts. We encourage you to interview your top three picks over the phone, and in person if possible.
 
You’ll get to know the adoptive family better throughout your pregnancy. The amount of contact you’d like to have after the adoption happens is talked about and agreed on. Some birth mothers like to stay in touch with the adoptive family and their child through email and social media sites like Facebook. Others choose to have in-person visits once a year. It’s all up to you!
 
When they first hear about adoption, some women say, “I could never give my baby up for adoption.” But open adoption today really isn’t about a decision to “give my baby away.” It’s about making a mature decision if you realize that you wouldn’t be able to give your child everything you want to.
 
Maybe now isn’t the right time to parent. That’s a hard realization to come to, and so we encourage you to take advantage of the counseling we make available. You can talk to a licensed third-party therapist, and you can talk to a birth mother: someone who’s been where you are now and ended up choosing adoption for her child.
 

If you’d like info on how to get started with open adoption, you can call or text our 24-hour adoption answer line at 1-800-923-6784.

Renewed Hope After a Failed International Adoption

Lifetime adoptive couple Jason and Rebecca have been blessed by domestic adoption!

Lifetime adoptive couple Jason and Rebecca have been blessed by domestic adoption!

Many countries have begun barring adoptions from happening. This has left many with a failed international adoption, as they are unable to move forward with their adoption plans. Not only that, but they are also unable to regain their adoption funds so that they can adopt elsewhere. Some adoptive couples were already working on the adoption of a specific child, and just waiting for the approval to travel home. This left many disappointed and devastated.

International adoption has always been a risk. It takes a strong heart and courage to forge ahead into unknown paths, with nothing but faith and a plan to bring their child home.

But there are other adoption options to think about, which you might never have considered. At Lifetime, we talk to thousands of women living in the US in unplanned pregnancies who are hoping that someone will be willing to adopt their baby.

Some adoptive couples are hesitant about domestic adoption because they’re frightened an open adoption plan means co-parenting. Also, they seem scared that the birth mother will come by to reclaim her baby. The reality is, most birth mothers in the U.S. seek families willing to at least share letters and photos after the adoption. Some are looking to have an in-person visit with the family, once a year for just a few hours at a location like a park. Due to fear, adoptive families miss out on these great adoption situations. It is possible for the birth mother to love her child, and yet wish to make an adoption plan. If an adoptive family is open to contact with a birth mother afterward, their wait time will be much shorter!

You may be wondering “why do we need to stay in contact if she doesn’t even want the child?” Most birth mothers want contact simply because they need that peace of mind, to know they made the right choice. In an open adoption, the adoptee never has to search for answers about their origins. And, with open domestic adoption, you’ll have your baby’s medical history and information.

Many times in an open domestic adoption, the family and the birth mother have been talking long before the baby is born, and they’ve developed a bond. They meet in the hospital for the birth of the child. They’re both excited about this new little life and want to make sure the baby is well-raised.

After the birth mother places her baby directly into the waiting arms of the family, most parents are completely in awe of the blessing the birth mother has given them. They’re amazed at the birth mother’s strength to willingly trust them with their new child. They’re overjoyed that they now have their baby in their arms!

There are lots of benefits to a domestic adoption over an international adoption. First off, there’s far less travel and expense involved. And, most domestic adoptions happen much quicker than international adoptions. The process in domestic adoption is streamlined because you’re working only with American laws and entities. In domestic adoption, most infants are born quite healthy with few medical complications. Finally, in domestic adoption, adoptive families have access to the medical records of the birth mother and the baby.

There are far fewer unknowns and uncertainty in domestic adoption. If you’ve been barred from an international adoption, or who have been told the wait will be many years, your hope can be renewed by exploring a domestic adoption.

If you have your specific questions about domestic adoption and would like to see if it’s right for you, please call Lifetime Adoption Agency Florida at 1-800-923-6784 or send us a message.

Why Is It Important to Write a Letter to Your Child?

In choosing to make an adoption plan for your child, you’ve definitely given them a lifelong gift. Writing your child a letter, where you share your feelings of love and hope, will become a beautiful and cherished gift only you can provide. Today, we’re going to share with you how you can write this letter.
 
Many birth parents say, “I feel like my child is going to hate me for placing them up for adoption!” So that you can release your child into the adoptive parent’s home with trust, faith, and love, think about writing a special letter directly to your child. It can help you at this time of difficult emotions and show your true loving feelings for her child.
 
Begin your letter by telling your child what your hopes are for their lives. This may be one of the main reasons you chose adoption. Write about how picky you were in choosing the adoptive family. This letter is a good place to explain to them that you didn’t make an adoption plan because you didn’t care about them. In fact, it’s just the opposite: you did adoption because you care so much that you wanted to give them more than you were able to.
 
Make sure to get copies of this letter for your memory books or box. Rereading these loving words you’ve written down can help you when you feel grief and heartache.
 
You can ask the adoptive parents to give this letter to your child at a specific time. Or, maybe you’d rather they pick a time they feel is best. Your letter will be a treasure for your child for many years to come: it’s your hope and love fully expressed.
 
Some birth mothers feel like they can’t write a letter like this. It’s hard to put words to what you feel in your heart. We encourage you to avoid letting your words and feelings to be unwritten. The stories and pictures the adoptive parents provide your child will pale in comparison to the genuine words you share, telling about your adoption decision.
 
Writing a letter that shares your hope is a beautiful way to leave a legacy for your child!

Are You Ready to Grow Your Family Through Adoption?

Is it time to grow your family through adoption?Have you been thinking about welcoming a second (or third) child into your home? For many, adoption is one of the biggest and most rewarding decisions of their lives. If you’re already a parent and would like to grow your family through adoption, there are questions to ask yourselves and factors to weigh in. Keep scrolling to discover how you can realize your dream and grow your family through adoption!

Here are some questions and concerns to keep in mind as you contemplate domestic infant adoption:

  • How will adoption affect our lives?
    Think about the areas of your lives that would be affected by a new addition. Factors to consider include time, finances, housing, scheduled commitments, and values.
  • Why do we want to adopt another child?
    There are lots of reasons why people want to parent again; some valid and some a bit questionable. Is it because you have a strong wish to parent another child? Maybe you have experience with parenting and feel confident about it. Does it feel as if there’s a missing piece in your family “puzzle”? These are all examples of good reasons to expand your family through adoption.

    However, you may wish to stop and think a little more if you want to adopt because your child wants a sibling, you want to make a difference to a “child in need,” or you believe that another child will fix your marriage.

We hope the questions and concerns we shared here are helpful as you think about whether or not to grow your family through adoption. Another child will definitely change your current family dynamic, so it’s wonderful you’re pondering your reasons for adopting.

As you think about this decision, we encourage you to seek out adoption books, blogs, and professionals that may be helpful. Recognize that the decision to adopt is ultimately a personal one. Take as much time as you need to make the best choice for you, your spouse, and your current child(ren).

Once you’re ready to start your adoption journey, you can message us or call us at 1-800-923-6784. We’ll help you begin the path towards domestic infant adoption!

Free E-book About Adoption

Click to request this free e-book about adoption The short book So I Was Thinking About Adoption gives you quick info as you consider whether adoption is the right choice for you and your child. You can download the e-book version for free! This e-book about adoption is packed with checklists, help, and advice as you consider each of your pregnancy choices. You just need to enter your email address!

So I Was Thinking About Adoption is:

* A handy pocket guide on how the adoption process works
* Full of useful and easy-to-understand info
* A good place to look for tips on how to tell your parents, friends, and the baby’s father that you’re pregnant and considering adoption
* Packed with resources you need if dealing with an unplanned pregnancy

Click here to request your free copy today! It will be emailed right to you. You can save it to look at later when you’re ready, or you can read it right now. You can read this e-book on your computer, tablet, or smartphone.

We understand you may have questions that might need answering now. We’re here to help with free caring, confidential 24/7 support.

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6 Smart Moves to Get Your Finances in Line for a Baby

get your money in line before you adopt!There’s no doubt that welcoming a baby into your home will affect your finances. There’s buying all the needed supplies, clothing, and bedding for a nursery, and then there’s the diapers, formula, toys, and child care. Add to that some costs that aren’t directly linked to the baby, but come into play such as increased life and disability insurance coverage.

Getting a hold of your finances right now, while you’re in the adoption wait, can help you enjoy your newborn without stressing out about money issues. Here are 6 smart moves to take before your baby arrives:

1. Check With Your Employer About Benefits

Ask your employer now which benefits are available to you, so you have an idea of how to budget. Parental leave is a necessary benefit, no matter if it’s paid or unpaid. There may be additional benefits you can take advantage of, like a health flexible spending account (FSA). Your employer may offer adoption-related benefits, so make sure to ask! Finally, you’ll want to research the life and disability insurance coverage your employer offers. Ask about the deadlines for buying increased coverage so you can plan ahead.

2. Pay Off Your Debt

Get out of any high-interest debt you’ve incurred, such as unpaid credit card balances. Once you start your family, finding money to dig yourselves out of debt might not be as easy as it was before.


3. Take a Look at Your Health Insurance

The costs for pregnancy and delivery vary a lot nationwide, depending on which doctor and hospital your birth mother will be seen at. Your insurance coverage will determine what your out-of-pocket medical costs for the birth mother’s pregnancy-related expenses will be. It’s smart to review the pregnancy and childbirth coverage included in your insurance now.

4. Start a “Rainy Day” Fund

Try to prepare now for the unexpected by routing 5% of your take-home pay into an emergency, “rainy day” fund. A good goal is to try and save the amount equal to three months’ of expenses into this fund. If you reach that target, continue to save 5% of your pay to cover unexpected costs like a car repair.

5. Consider Bonding Time

Per the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA), you’re able to take up to 12 weeks of unpaid leave after the adoption. Both you and your spouse can take time off of work to bond with your baby. But you want to start thinking now about how you’ll afford living three months (or more) without a second paycheck.

6. Learn Child Care Costs

Child care costs may take up a large portion of your monthly budget. If both you and your spouse work outside the home, talk about how that may change. Maybe one parent will stay home. If you do need child care, your employer and the IRS may offer some assistance. Ask your employer if they offer a flexible spending account for child care. On your taxes, you might be able to claim your child and child care in a tax credit. And let’s not forget about the Adoption Tax Credit! Use these tax savings on big expenses such as formula and diapers.